On the rare occassion I'm attracted to someone, the feeling fades quickly. Help!
Q. I don't feel anything towards men. Everytime I meet someone I think I'm attracted too, that slight feeling fizzles out quickly. I don't know why. I have never been more confused in my life. Someone could tell me they loved me and it wouldn't...
A. 20 June 2010: Thank you everyone for your advice.
I have had boyfriends before. I think this feeling started after one of them dumped me. I was hurt obviously, but I've long since gotten over it. He now has a new girlfriend and that no longer bothers me. This... (read in full...)
My friend died tragically, and I can't move on
Q. Someone please help me...I miss my best friend ever,she died in a tragic way,until now i can't move on still keep thinking of her...wishing that she's still alive until now,i keep on dreaming of her that she's crying,we both cried in my ...
A. 19 June 2010: I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure this is hard right now, but I assure you, it does get better.
It's not going to happen over-night, these things take time. But you WILL be able to cope with it.
The dreams I think are very normal unde... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him? He goes through girls like it's his job!
Q. Im 16 years old. Me and my boyfriend of 4 months broke up not too long ago. He moved 100 miles away and he doesnt have a way to come see me. He goes through other girls like its his job. We talk on the phone all the time, he says he still loves me ...
A. 19 June 2010: Listen to your friends. They have already given you the best advice. In my opinion, long-distance relationships generally don't work out. That and I wouldn't waste my time with this guy. If he loved you, he wouldn't be trying to make you jelous.
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Is my girlfriend pregnant?
Q. me and my girlfriends had sex about two weeks ago and ever since she hasnt being feeling good and she has been stressing out. i worn a condom and i did cum in the condom but as soon as i did i pulled out nad check it. there werent any hole or tears ...
A. 16 June 2010: Let me rub my head against the moniter..
If she is unsure she should either get a home pregnancy test or better yet, see a doctor. ... (read in full...)
He named his rifle after his ex!
Q. Well, my boyfriend is in the Army and is currently training out of state (AIT). Things have been a bit dull between us because of how busy he is, but we managed to keep the love alive. Anyway, I just recently got over an obsession after ...
A. 16 June 2010: Quiet-echo hit it right on the nose.... (read in full...)
Taken for granted?
Q. Hey everybody. The title says it all. I’m in a relationship with an amazing woman whom I love dearly with all my heart. And may be that’s why it hurts so much to realize that she is taking me for granted. It’s not anything major, but rather little ...
A. 16 June 2010: "I know she cares for me, but I guess she just knows that I’m there and doesn’t bother herself to put too much work in a relationship?"
Yep, pretty much.
I don't think she is intending for you to feel this way at all. You're putting in more ... (read in full...)
I'm a person, not a sex toy -- how do I find a guy who wants that?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm attractive, even though people say I am. I'm 17 and I've only had one boyfriend, we lasted for 3 months and nothing even happened, not even a kiss. I have braces, and people always make comments about how no one wants to kiss ...
A. 16 June 2010: "How easy is it for people to tell? Do people subconciously do things when they're nervous but it's really obvious to everyone else?"
To answer your question; people do in fact subconciously do things to show their discomfort. Little things l... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend twice should I tell him?
Q. I had cheated on my bf twice but not really had to boyfriends at once it was just a kissing thing that happens with two different guys in February and March.I was wondering if I should tell him or not. He's the love of my life I'm sure and I think ...
A. 14 June 2010: I agree with some of the above answers here. If you do love him, I would ruge you not to tell him. Clearing your conscience comes at a cost, and that cost is hurting the man you are with. Though is it impairative that you be honest and loyal to the ... (read in full...)
I'm a person, not a sex toy -- how do I find a guy who wants that?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm attractive, even though people say I am. I'm 17 and I've only had one boyfriend, we lasted for 3 months and nothing even happened, not even a kiss. I have braces, and people always make comments about how no one wants to kiss ...
A. 14 June 2010: As for looking for a man who isn't looking to use you for sex.
I think a lot of it right now for you is the age. At your age hormones are raging. A lot of guys are going to be immature as will a lot of girls. So don't take it to heart if a guy is... (read in full...)
I'm a person, not a sex toy -- how do I find a guy who wants that?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm attractive, even though people say I am. I'm 17 and I've only had one boyfriend, we lasted for 3 months and nothing even happened, not even a kiss. I have braces, and people always make comments about how no one wants to kiss ...
A. 14 June 2010: I know what you're feeling. I went through exactly what you're talking about. But just so you're not alone, I too have braces. I've always been self-concious of them, but to my suprise I havn't heard any guff. Men are still attracted to me and it ... (read in full...)
She's cheated on me at least 8X, doesn't want sex with me!
Q. I have a little problem i've been dating my lady for 25 years in that time she cheated on me at least 8 times that i can remember she would kick me out and have another man in my bed.I Feel that she's the only one for me and i can't get pass that i ...
A. 14 June 2010: You said you have 3 kids? I think it's time to move on. This relationship clearly isn't working for either of you. Breaking up is always hard but you will get though it and find someone else. You need to be with someone who is respectful of you... (read in full...)
Don't want to move with my parents -- can I get a new guardian?
Q. My parents are moving and want me to go. I really don't want to! is there a way I can pick my gaurdian or have some take over my gaurdianship. ...
A. 14 June 2010: Try working things out with your parents. Talk to them, or ask your grandparents to talk to them or help you talk to them. ... (read in full...)
Don't want to move with my parents -- can I get a new guardian?
Q. My parents are moving and want me to go. I really don't want to! is there a way I can pick my gaurdian or have some take over my gaurdianship. ...
A. 14 June 2010: Honey you're 16/17 years old. Moving is never fun. You'll leave the friends that you've made there but you will make new ones. Your life will not be over if you move. I highly recommend that you move with your parents. They would also miss... (read in full...)
I'm a person, not a sex toy -- how do I find a guy who wants that?
Q. I'm not sure if I'm attractive, even though people say I am. I'm 17 and I've only had one boyfriend, we lasted for 3 months and nothing even happened, not even a kiss. I have braces, and people always make comments about how no one wants to kiss ...
A. 14 June 2010: There is nothing wrong with having braces. It's how you carry yourself that is the most attractive. Confidence is very sexy. I always found that not looking for "him" at all had the best results. Carry on with your life, do the things that you ... (read in full...)
My friend's ex made a pass at me. Do I get involved or run away?
Q. My story is like this. Before this, i was in a college, i havev lot of friends there. Then, i moved to a better college, this college is where one of my friend (not my best friend but she is really nice) boyfriend’s college. My friends ask me to ...
A. 3 June 2010: I agree with YouWish. Personally, I would wait it out a bit, see how they turn out. Talk to the friend directly and tell her what's going on. Ask her if it would be okay for you to pursue this.
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He would date her if he was single! Should I be worried?
Q. hey everyone! my boyfriend of 5years told my best friend that if he was single he would totally date this girl let's call her X! and he asked my best frend if this X is single! should I be worried?? and my boyfriend and this X text each other.a...
A. 3 June 2010: You worry about him not trusting you? It should be the other way around.
I would definately confront him. I wouldn't be nasty or rude, but direct and to the point. ... (read in full...)
I am worried that my boobs don't look normal!
Q. Hey everyone! :) Ok I'm a 17 year old girl and I'm very self conscious especially sonce I'm over weight! My boobs are kinda bigger compared to my friends and I know it's cuz I'm fat! But my nipples are really wierd! I don't know what its call...
A. 3 June 2010: I agree, this is completely normal. There is nothing wrong with you. Everyone's body shape is different.
We are our harshest critic.
Hope that helped.
xx... (read in full...)
I want to ask my boyfriend about his ex but I don't know how to bring up the conversation
Q. Hey everyone! :) Ok so I want my boyfriend to be more open with me! He barely tells me anything! We just talk about our daily routines and updates on friends and family! The day before he was telling me how he had a fight with his fav. Aunt which...
A. 2 June 2010: As for talking about his ex-girlfriend, you might not get all the answers you want. It's in his past and he may not want to talk about it.
But if you want, I wouldnt start off talking about something in my own life. That may make it easier f... (read in full...)
Why is my ex using our old relationship to hurt his new girlfriend?
Q. got a serious situation. My ex has been stating to his girlfriend that he's been seeing me and that i've been writting to him. Which is completely false. I found this out because his girlfriend called my home to tell me. The problem is that the ex ...
A. 2 June 2010: This guy sounds like a nutcase. I agree with the above answer. Make sure you're husband knows all of this and cut all contact with your ex husband. ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend ready to hear the important details about my affair?
Q. Ok, so I cheated on my boyfriend 5 months ago and told him almost immediately, but left out details as he didn't want to know them. All he knows is that I cheated on him, we didn't have sex, and it was a one-time thing. The guy I cheated with lived ...
A. 26 March 2010: I wouldnt tell him at all. As bad as that may sound. But in relieving that burden you would only be hurting him. He has already been hurt by this. I would leave it alone.... (read in full...)
18, pregnant and so confused about what to do.
Q. hi. i have recently found out im 9 weeks pregnant and i am so terrified. i havent told anyone yet, not even my boyfriend who i have been with for a year. i am going to tell him when i feel ready, i dont believe in abortion but now im thinking of i...
A. 26 March 2010: You have a few options here. For one it's great that your parents would support you. At least you don't have to worry about that.
You say you don't want to have an abortion, you may not have to. You could also give it up for adoption. Like you... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have another abortion when my last was only in December 09?
Q. I recently went through an abortion in December of last year. The baby was my current boyfriend's. Well, I'm extremely worried that I could be pregnant again. I'm not 100% certian. I'll take a test in about a week. But I'm having similar symptoms as ...
A. 25 March 2010: You shouldn't bombard yourself with guilt, but a certain amount is healthy.
As for how to tell your parents, if it is nessesary, just be honest.
And while you're at the doctors, talk to him/her about other methods of contrepetion. Cl... (read in full...)
Why does my husband post perverted uotes on his blog for all to see?
Q. Why does my husband post perverted quotes from movies in his blog? Is he wanting to gain attention from a female friend on his buddy list? Everyone can read it including the people he works with since they are on his friends list. Is this normal? ...
A. 25 March 2010: Firstly, I would recommend that he take down the family photo for safety reasons.
Secondly, I suspect that this is not to gain the attention of a female "friend", but to gain the attention of his male friends. It could possibly be an ego thing. B... (read in full...)
Facebook concerns.
Q. *OP's own title* 1, I see more and more people installing something like ""who checked your profile""... That creeps me ,because I do like to check profile with innocent curiosity, but I dont want to look like a stalker because IM not.. Do you gu...
A. 25 March 2010: That's why they call it a social networking site. It's really a web-site that allows you to spy on other people. I too have seen and heard of the application to which you are referring. I wouldn't worry about that. If one does not want to have the... (read in full...)
I am scraed something is going wrong with my pregnancy
Q. Ok I think im going crazy. Im 15 weeks preg.... and I have pains. And im haveing cramp like pains. Some times if I move 2 quick its a sharp pain. It don't last long less then 3 sec... and also if I sneeze pee comes out. Also sometimes I feel like ...
A. 25 March 2010: This is really something you should consult your doctor about.... (read in full...)
This boy may like me or he just doesn't care.
Q. I'm a girl of 14 and I really like this boy in my school. He tells me he likes me as well but I get the idea that he's leading me on. My friends think he likes me but I'm still not sure. He even called me boring last night but will not tell me why! ...
A. 25 March 2010: This has been going on for months?
I would stop chasing him. You want him chasing you, not the other way around. If you keep doing this, he will see you as "too available". He can come and go as he pleases knowing that you will be there regardle... (read in full...)
I'm invisible to my own friends
Q. I don't know if I'm being paranoid but for the last several months I've felt like my friends don't even remember I exist. I guess it's partially my fault because I'm not very talkative most of the time, I'm not as clever and funny as them and unlike ...
A. 19 March 2010: I forgot to sign in when I posted this answer. ... (read in full...)
Is race REALLY still an issue for some people in regards to dating and relationships?
Q. I am writing about a controversial topic: race. My inquiry today is in regards to the fact that I find it disturbing that some people still think race is an issue in regards to dating and relationships in today's modern society. Let me expalin my ...
A. 19 March 2010: Yes their treatment was unfair, as was the treatment of many other cultures. But that does not warrant her behaviour. The fact is racisism still exsists and for a lot of people is a factor in regards to dating and/or relationships. I... (read in full...)
Am I being really superficial and selfish for feeling like this?
Q. Dear Cupid: I've been single for a long time, and I recently met a super sweet guy online. After talking on the phone for a few days, we met. He is very good looking but for one thing: his teeth. Most of them are rotten. He rarely smiles, ...
A. 19 March 2010: I think Fiercebad put it very well. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way.... (read in full...)
Waiting for the phone to ring...
Q. well i started talking to this guy 5 days back.. he said he likes me but we are gonna think about dating after we are done with our exams.i actually got too excited and started pressuring him with some questions about dating he got pissed yesterday ...
A. 19 March 2010: You are basing this on one night?
You need to give him some space. I can relate to this feeling, but he clearly needs time. He will come to you when he is ready.
Best of luck.... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to mend a broken heart?
Q. Can anyone tell me how to mend a broken heart. I'm totally in love with this fantastic guy. He had a deep obsession once for me, but on deciding to leave his partner (they also have 2 teenage kids) she gave him the biggest guilt trip and now he has ...
A. 19 March 2010: Time heals a broken heart.
He clearly has other engagements and responsibilites. Do not pressure him into getting back together. This isn't going to be what you want to hear. But you need to move on. ... (read in full...)
Pornographic Profiles on Social Sites
Q. My 47 year old boyfriend of 4 months has a Tagged profile. On his friends list he has several young sexy fake friends (ages 18 to 22) who are actually links to porn. He says he is not even aware that they are porn profiles until I point it out and ...
A. 19 March 2010: 1) I think it's good that you can honestly admit how it makes you feel.
However I do think you are over-reacting. Assuming it is just their profiles that he has added or accepted a request from, I don't think it's a problem. It could very well be ... (read in full...)
Do I ask her out?
Q. Alright so im starting to get feelings for my friend she's pretty cool. We hang out every now and then like we went to a few college football games this summer and a couple movies. And lately we've been talkin alot i think she might have some ...
A. 20 January 2010: Well, I'm sorry to hear that. There are plenty of girls out there. I wouldn't worry about it. ... (read in full...)
My friends say he is a creep and doesn't deserve me, but I still really love him! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost a year. We have been together for over 18 months. He chased me, professed his love and moved cities to be with me. I forced myself to love him and now he is making me very sad. He lost h...
A. 20 January 2010: First off..I can't believe I read all of that.
Secondly, to put it bluntly, you need to leave him be. These things DO infact happen. You can fall out of love with someone.
Constantly texting or calling him crying is only making him more ... (read in full...)
He said he loves me but has left me to go abroad with his ex. What do I do?
Q. I have been with my partner on and off for six years. I am now 37 and he is 48. It has at times been the most fantastic caring loving fun relationship with amazing connection and intensity, yet at other times he has treated me with no respect. ...
A. 20 January 2010: The best thing I can suggest is moving on. He clearly doesn't know what he wants right now. You deserve to be happy and feel secure in a relationship as does he.
So the only think I can really think of that would help you is moving on with you... (read in full...)
How do you break up with someone who says they will die without you?
Q. I'm bisexaul but I lean more towards females, I'm in a relationship that isn't working very well, my girlfriend has cheated on me multiple times and has once gotten pregnant, she told me it was rape. I really want to break up with her but I can't, b...
A. 20 January 2010: I think your current girlfriend is counting on your feeling that way. If you are not happy in this relationship, you should bite the bullet and break up with her. Then you could pursue your friend guilt-free. ... (read in full...)
Why don't any girls like me?
Q. I am a teenage boy in high school. I am pretty athletic and many guys compliment me daily about my physique. I also am dual enrolled in college level classes through my high school. Im not extremely outgoing but im not shy either. What I want to ...
A. 6 January 2010: Marder beat me to it. Exactly what I was going to say.... (read in full...)
Do I ask her out?
Q. Alright so im starting to get feelings for my friend she's pretty cool. We hang out every now and then like we went to a few college football games this summer and a couple movies. And lately we've been talkin alot i think she might have some ...
A. 6 January 2010: Why not? I think you might as well ask her out. What do you have to lose.... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to ask them to stop talking about past relationships?
Q. There is a man that I like very much. He lives far away and is at the moment to old for me but he is definitely a possibility for the future. The only problem is that while I am a virgin and I have never been in love or even kissed someone, he is ...
A. 6 January 2010: Under the normal circumstances, It is completely reasonably to ask one to stop talking about their past relationships. But in this case I think it would depend on your relationship status with this man. ... (read in full...)
Is there someone I can talk to about making friends?
Q. I think I have Social Anxiety Disorder...... I haven't made any friends in over 20 years. Sure I have "acquaintances", but no one I would consider "friend". I have always considered myself "shy". I have trouble talking to people I don't know. I'm ...
A. 6 January 2010: I can some-what relate to this feeling. Something that helps me is positive visualization. When you're laying in bed think about the day ahead. Think about how you want the day to go. Whether it is for a social event or just going on simple arrands. ... (read in full...)
Ex's friend messaged me on Face Book! What do you make of this?
Q. I was on facebook late one night, when one of my ex-boyfriend's friends messaged me. So we start talking. He tells me that he "always noticed me", and that he was "always attracted to me". The problem is that he was a bit drunk when he said thi...
A. 25 October 2009: Yeah, that does make more sense.
Thank you.... (read in full...)
Ex's friend messaged me on Face Book! What do you make of this?
Q. I was on facebook late one night, when one of my ex-boyfriend's friends messaged me. So we start talking. He tells me that he "always noticed me", and that he was "always attracted to me". The problem is that he was a bit drunk when he said thi...
A. 16 October 2009: Lol, I am aware of that saying actually, which is why I was asking.
I don't really know this guy too well. I only knew him at all because we hung out a few times with my boyfriend.
I feel kind of akward coming right out and asking him about it... (read in full...)
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