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writes:I have a little problem i've been dating my lady for 25 years in that time she cheated on me at least 8 times that i can remember she would kick me out and have another man in my bed.I Feel that she's the only one for me and i can't get pass that i know i can get other woman but i love her.It kills me to know that somebody else is running up in my lady.i am so hurt i thought this would never happen again. not to say that we have 3 kids.she sais she hates and don't love me.Every time i ask her for sex she screams at me.But all the guy's she screwd she went all out even giving them head she never did that for me please help!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (15 June 2010):
 Hi again, I wish things could be different for you. But it is necessary in life to love yourself in a healthy way so that we can love otheres the same. You should not allow yourself to be taken advantage of. It seems that you have made the decision to move on so don't change your mind. You don't have to move that far away, it's the mental
distance that you have to take care of. Move to the other side of town so that you are close enough to see your children but not that close physically. Get your emotional state under control and you will be fine. People go through divorces and are fine in time, let time take it but don't look back. Just provide for your children and I would make it all formal so that you are assured of being a part of their lives. Take care, understand that you have made the right decision. You will find true love in time and you will see the difference when someone cares about you and respects your feelings. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): when you leave you can fight for custody of your kids. You have a strong case. Your kids aren't in a stable environment and if they continue to see this they will do the same when they get older. You can do this. Its better for you and them
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 If it started before the kids, are you sure the they are actually your kids??? I strongly recommend you taking a paternity test! you don't want to be paying child support for another man's child!
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reader, dumn +, writes (14 June 2010):
dumn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you, everybody for being so nice with your answers i really didn't expect to get these kinds of answers.Yes this started before kids and i love them all i don't know what to do with out my family where would i go.I wanted to move far away from her because i can't stand to see another man with her but i have to see my kids.I know today my life will never be the same and this time i CAN'T and WON'T go back.I have so much love to offer in a relationship but it was all in vain.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (14 June 2010):
Hi there, Everybody else has said what needs to be said but you really don't want to hear it. So you have to ask yourself why are you accepting this in a relationship? When you are accepting what you are accepting you need to talk to a professional for help to reconnect with your self-respect. She has her own problems which you can't cure. But if you really want to change how you are being treated you need to get the heck out of dodge. Take care of the children but find yourself someone who respects you, or continue to be stepped on by her. You are chasing a ghost, she is who she is and not who you want her to be. Visit www.authspot.com/writers/quiet
+voice.8137 Look for Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts.
We all love people who are not good for us sometimes, but the pain they put us through if we stay is worse than the pain if we let them go. To save yourself you must learn this or else you will be tortured forever. Your life, your choice! Love yourself. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Spades +, writes (14 June 2010):
 You said you have 3 kids?I think it's time to move on. This relationship clearly isn't working for either of you.Breaking up is always hard but you will get though it and find someone else. You need to be with someone who is respectful of you and cares for you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 June 2010):
 I'm sorry she's done this, but once you hit the 2 mark of cheating most people would realize that she's going to continue to cheat and break your heart. At 8, I can safely say that unless she loses her ability to have sex, she will continue to cheat. She sounds like she's emotionally abusive to you as well, yelling at you for asking for sex and telling you she doesn't love you. I'd run, not walk away.
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reader, laetitia +, writes (14 June 2010):
How the heck did you manage to stay together for 25 years and make 3 kids??
When did all that cheating start - before or after you had your children? Why didn't you leave after the second time she cheated?
You need to re-evaluate your criteria for deciding who to love? Are you a masochist? If you are a masochist, then I understand how the torture is attracting you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): i have the same problem only i wasn't married or have kids. But my man did that to. Don't let her do that. you are a very strong person and you should demand respect for yourself because this relationship will continue to drag you down as a person. you shouldnt want sex from someone that doesnt want to give it to you because their is a woman out there who will never want to leave the bedroom as long as your in there. plus the sex will be 8X better. You just have to go out there and find her. There are more fish in you aquarium
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