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My boyfriend sometimes doesn't call me when he says he is going to.

Q.   Hi everyone. I was wondering what you would do in this situation?. My boyfriend sometimes doesn't call me when he says he is going to. This week, for instance, he said he would call on Monday, but he didn't, and he called on tuesday and he said ...

A.   6 May 2011: I agree more with ADDmireme. It's not hard to say, I've been really busy. I'm sorry I havn't been in touch, but I'll call you when I can. Let him come to you. Don't follow his lead.... (read in full...)

What should I do? Should I Forgive Him For Watching Porn?

Q.   I don't knoe what to do? I do feel weak and feel like going back to him, but this break ups always happen, but now i really need to think about it, i need help. Ever since we started out, he would leave me home and he would go drink with his f...

A.   28 April 2011: Personally, I don't see all the fuss about watching porn. It doesn't reflect your partners feelings or lack thereof for you. On the other hand this behaviour does seem a bit excessive. You SHOULDN'T be looking through the internet history on his c... (read in full...)

How do I get my boyfriend to open up to me?

Q.   ok, so i've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. and things are going great. i love him with all my heart, since way before we got together. but, hes gone through a lot in his past, like abuse, and he was made fun of by the kids his age ...

A.   28 April 2011: Leave him be. He knows that he can trust you. It's up to him. He'll open up when he's ready. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hurt me so bad! What's wrong with him?

Q.   my bf has treated me really bad and always tries to control me and makes me cry!.(btw i am 18 and he is 21) One night I told my boyfriend I was busy with alot of homework for school , and that he couldn't come over that night , but that he coul...

A.   28 April 2011: You have to stand up for yourself. How do you expect him to treat you with respect if you're not treating yourself as such. The more you you explain yourself, trying to get him to see things your way, the more you're negotiating. Don't wait for h... (read in full...)

What makes a man emotionally attached to a woman?

Q.   For the first time ever, I swallowed! Will this make a man appreciate you more? Not that I did it for that reason, but just wondering since I heard that if a female squirts she can become so attached to him. I did this because 1) I like givin my bf ...

A.   18 January 2011: What attaches a man to a women is the same thing that attaches a women to a man. We're not all that different. And we can't always put into words why we have feelings for one another. What it is exactly that we like about them. It could be how he ... (read in full...)

Why does he let me think we have a chance to make something happen and then nothing happens?

Q.   I've got a friend who is from a family that my own is very close to, we have grown up together. But I've seen this alot that people who grow up as close friends but aren't related tend to develop feeling for one another. I first recognised I had th...

A.   18 January 2011: Don't wait for him. I went through something very similar. This guy was my best friend and had been for years. On and off during those years he would express interest in me, yet send me mixed signals. I even confronted him about this. He said that ... (read in full...)

To do a threesome or not, and how do I handle knowing I'm not satisfying a desire for him if I don't?

Q.   My fiancee, has this fantasy. He had this kind of play with his "x" wife. (Hinze "X") she later had an affair which hurt him emotionally. My reaction to that was "Why, because she didn't involve you??" After 4 years and him knowing my thoughts about ...

A.   17 January 2011: If this was something you really wanted to do, you wouldn't hesitate upon doing it. With something like this, you shouldn't have to reason with yourself and/or him or provide any explanations. You don't feel comfortable doing this and he shouldn't ... (read in full...)

Is it possible not to like sex?

Q.   Is it possible not to like sex? I lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few months ago and we've done it somewhere between 10-20 times but I still don't like it. Sometimes it hurts a little but at other times it's just uncomfortable or I can't feel ...

A.   25 July 2010: This is normal. It takes time for your body to get used to it. You have no need for concern, you will eventually. Hope that helped. :)... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's dad died a while ago... how can I get him to talk?

Q.   My boyfriend's father committed suicide two years ago. I know the story of how and why.. but I want to know more about him. Like what he was like when he was around and their relationship. But I don't know how to get him to open up and talk about ...

A.   25 July 2010: If he doesn't want to talk about it, that's his choice. It is his past. It's still fresh and more than likely still upsets him. Just let him know that you are there if he needs someone to talk to and leave it at that. He may want to talk about it... (read in full...)

How do I deal with the jealousy after a breakup?

Q.   My boyfriend just broke up with me. He said because he's a bad person, and isn't 100% into the relationship and personally, don't think hes 100% into me. He started running around with other girls. Especially this one girl who is one of his only ...

A.   6 July 2010: Move on with your life. Of course it hurts, it would hurt anyone. The best thing you can do here is continue your life, keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy.... (read in full...)

Hi neediness is becoming too much!

Q.   my boyfriends always trying to make me feel bad when i dont give him attention, like call and text more or say romantic things. and I DO ! i make an effort, and one second he appreciates and the next he just says i dont do enough. its upsetting me ...

A.   5 July 2010: Get out of this relationship while you still can. This guy clearly has no regard for your personal space. You don't need to keep coddling and reassuring him. He has to get over his own insecurities.... (read in full...)

How do I prove my innocence?

Q.   How can i prove that i am 100% innocent and am telling the truth to my boyfriend? I stupidly lied to my boyfriend of almost 3 years in a panic because i thought that he would think there was something going on between someone else when there wasn't. ...

A.   23 June 2010: How old are you? You have already been honest with him, telling him what actually happend, you have people that can vouche for you..It's up to him at this point. You've done all you can do. If he is going to get all up in arms about some kid writ... (read in full...)

How do I stop period cramps?

Q.   Wot can one do to stop period cramps....

A.   23 June 2010: Masterbation. Within seconds after you finish they're gone. ... (read in full...)

Am I being used as a doormat? Is something going on?

Q.   I am 35 i have been in a rocky relatonship for almost 7 yrs,my partner has a 24 yr old son from previos relatioship and we have 2 little ones together. i recently suppected there maybe a interest in him with his ex as he had arranged to meet her one ...

A.   23 June 2010: What exactly are you concered about? Him texting his ex? Based on the information you've provided, I wouldn't be concerned. Although you mentioned something about him sending her dirty messages? If I had more information I could form... (read in full...)

Is she just using me for childcare, or is she going to have me back?

Q.   i have been with my partner for 12 years and have 3 kids she started seeing somone behind my back when i found out she kicked me out and moved him in. i want her back and she said she thinks she wants me back and asks me to come round every day when ...

A.   23 June 2010: Sounds like shes got in made right now. Boyfriend and free day care. Stop waiting on her to make up her mind. Make up yours. I think it's time to move on. Keep in contact with your children, but don't keep making yourself out to be a doormat.... (read in full...)

How do I stop being so dependent on my boyfriend?

Q.   Okay, so I am dating this guy. He's pretty darn amazing, I must say, but there is one problem... Everytime he is busy or is hanging out with his friends, I get upset and frustrated. I don't know if it's a jealousy thing, or what, but it sucks an...

A.   23 June 2010: When he's out with his friends and having a good time; why not you hang out with your friends and have a good time? What's keeping you from having your own life? Guaranteed you will feel a lot happier when you start doing things on your own. An... (read in full...)

I haven't had a serious relationship since I was fifteen and feel like I'm going to be this way forever.

Q.   hey, im getin fed up ov being alone. when i go out dont get me wrong i do "pull" bt it never leads to a realtionship. all my friends have no problems in getin one but i havent had a serious boyfriend since i was 15. i feel alone and feel as i am ...

A.   23 June 2010: I've seen this a lot, so I'm going to say to you what I said to them. You are not alone. People are attracted to us when we are happy and doing fun, intertesting things. Do things for yourself. Things that make you happy. Live you life, be you... (read in full...)

Boyfriend takes pictures of other girls! should I forgive him?

Q.   I found out that my boyfriend of over a year has been taking pictures of other women. Most recently while we were at the beach he took about 20 pictures of young women from all angles in their bikinis. I'm very upset over this but he says it will ...

A.   23 June 2010: He did this right in front of you?! Clearly has no regard for your bounderies or feelings. This normally wouldn't be something I would recommend you break up over, but it is extremely inappropriate. ... (read in full...)

Odd mildly lumped genital rash?

Q.   (OP's own title) I've had a rash round my vagina for quite sometime now, I went to the clinic about it and they diagnosed me with some mild form of thrush, gave me some tablets on a 2 week course and a cream, it seemed to subside but the red-...

A.   23 June 2010: Go to the doctors again! This is a medical question, not a relationship one. You might have had an allergic reaction to the medication.... (read in full...)

We like each other, but she acts strange, suggestions?

Q.   well i like this girl and she likes me too ..whenever we are together we both cant stop smiling or looking at each other but every time we don't see each other she is a totally completely different person so i don't know what to do ..should i stay ...

A.   22 June 2010: Don't ever fight for someone's attention. Just be yourself and let her come to you. ... (read in full...)

Crazy dream is bringing back feeling for my ex?

Q.   Last night I had a dream that my ex girlfreind was sleeping over (my mom doesnt let girls sleep over). She was sleeping on an air matress in my brothers room which was weird aswell. Her freind that I really liked was also sleeping over but on a ...

A.   22 June 2010: Nothing. Absolutely nothing. This is completely normal. I've dreamt about ex's myself. I've dreamt about a boyfriend I had two years ago. I have no feelings for him anymore, I'm completely over him, yet I wake up with a weird feeling. This... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's reason for breaking up doesn't make sense!

Q.   My girlfriend recently dumped me but I can't seem to understand why. Her reason was that when she was with me she was happy but when she was not she was really down. This seems really strange and sounds like she is not giving me an honest reason why ...

A.   22 June 2010: No one here knows what shes thinking. But to be honest, she isn't obligated to proved a reason for breaking up with you. There could be something going on in her life that she doesn't want to talk about but feels she cannot continue the ... (read in full...)

I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?

Q.   ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...

A.   22 June 2010: You know what, scratch what I wrote. I agree with what celia said. ... (read in full...)

Why can't my boyfriend see sex is not important?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8-9 months and we have sex occasionaly but my boyfriend is always horny but I have trouble getting wet. He thinks that I don't want to have sex with him but I really do. I just can't. When we do have sex it ...

A.   22 June 2010: Sex is very important in a relationship. It is what differentiates a relationship from a friendship. I believe sex is important to some men because they look at it as a form of bonding. Women are able to bond many other ways without looking ... (read in full...)

Can I bring back passion in my marriage or should I get divorced again?

Q.   I know people will think I'm crazy but there is my drama. I have been divorced for 5 years; I have been with my current BF for 6 years (see the connection). My BF and I have lived together for 3 years. I divorced my husband because he was always w...

A.   22 June 2010: There is nothing wrong with wanting passion in ones life. It is extremely common. I personally, would hold on for a bit longer. Try to work things out with your boyfriend. Maybe spicing up the sex life. Even if you have to initiate it, he might ge... (read in full...)

I keep explaining things over and over again but he just doesn't get it!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend has been going out for 2 months and things seems pretty good at the starting.But,few days ago,he's treats me totally different.He just ignore me,i tried to get things better by telling him the problem we're having.Ijust explained ...

A.   22 June 2010: Wait..your ex boyfriend still "touches" you? If this is the case, no wonder your boyfriend is jelous. The whole point of being in an exclusive relationship is the exclusivity. Being intimate with one person and that's it. So I don't blame your boy... (read in full...)

He puts me down but says he loves me!

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for little over 5 yrs. We have a baby it was perfect when we first started we've been on and off. We now have a baby he treats me really bad at times and puts me down yet says he loves me sooo much that I have to ...

A.   22 June 2010: He is saying he has anger issues as a disclaimer. He is informing you of this so that you know it's not him, it's his anger. It's not his fault.. No. This is HIS problem and something that HE has to fix. It is not up to you to put up with his bad ... (read in full...)

Divorcee, having a terrible time meeting a boyfriend. Please advise.

Q.   I am hitting rock bottom once again. After a brutal divorce, I am having a terrible time meeting a boyfriend, that is the right match for me,. I am sad as I try to do everything right. I take great care of myself, I am fit, have a great job and ...

A.   22 June 2010: I think the problem is that you're always "trying". You said you "tried" not looking but that didn't work, maybe you should take a step back, take a deep breath and figure out what it is YOU want. Going through a messy divorce is never fun and ... (read in full...)

Is there something going on here?

Q.   I have a long time female friend. We went through all through school together. We hadn't seen each other in over 30 years, until about 5 years ago. We meet for coffee once in a while. She's married, I'm separated. I asked her to set me up with her ...

A.   22 June 2010: Firstly, I would not queston her about this. It might just be that it slipped her mind. As you say shes thinking about leaving her husband, that would take up a lot of ones thinking. She has to plan out where she's going to go, if she has any kids ... (read in full...)

I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?

Q.   ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...

A.   22 June 2010: Whoa whoa.. You are bending over backwards for him. That is not healthy in any relationship. Not only are YOU bending over backwards, so are your FRIENDS. Under NO circumstances should you do something you are not comfortable with. In orde... (read in full...)

How do I attach a guy really deeply to me?

Q.   just wondering how can i attach a guy to me really deeply?...

A.   22 June 2010: You mean how to get someone to fall in love with you? You can't force that kind of thing. It has to happen naturally. Just live your life, be yourself, and you will find someone along the way.... (read in full...)

How do you get better at sex?

Q.   well me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and it was okay but he is kinda taller than me and kinda bigger than me and he is a good guy but my question is How do u make sex better the second time because i get horny around him and its hard ...

A.   21 June 2010: Contrary to popular belief, you can learn a lot from pornography. Don't believe everything you see mind you, but as far as positions, techniques, etc. There are also a lot of books or articles online that could be helpful. ... (read in full...)

I want so much more in life...

Q.   I'm 15 and I pretty much going through a LONG stage of depression. I don't get a long with my family including my annoying lil sister. They don't understand me and never will. They only have one mind set, they always think of the negative happening, ...

A.   21 June 2010: 15 wasn't a fun age for me either. But looking back on it now, it wasn't all my parents' fault. I was moody, unhappy, painfully shy, and felt sheltered from the world. That anger I often took out on them. You say you parents don't understand y... (read in full...)

A man is as loyal as his options? Opinions, please!

Q.   I have a question of opinion here. Do you guys believe that people are as loyal as their options allow them to be? Otherwise, in most cases, will someone leave the person they are with for a "better" catch? I personally believe that most people are ...

A.   21 June 2010: I've wondered this myself. I've definately heard a lot about people leaving their significant other to be with someone "better looking" or younger, but I also think it's possible that two people can care for each other and remain faithful... (read in full...)

How do you get better at sex?

Q.   well me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and it was okay but he is kinda taller than me and kinda bigger than me and he is a good guy but my question is How do u make sex better the second time because i get horny around him and its hard ...

A.   21 June 2010: Practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the better you will become. Don't be afraid to experiment. Learn what works for the both of you.... (read in full...)

Is he still a virgin?

Q.   So the other nite I had sex with a virgin...When we were doing it I felt kind of bad bcuz I wasnt a virgin. Knowing that I was taking his virginity was bad enough so I punkt out and stopped after while...So is he still a virgin?(if he didn't cum)...

A.   21 June 2010: If there was penetration, he is no longer a virgin, even if he didn't finish.... (read in full...)

Problems with oral sex

Q.   Help! I love my boyfriend very much and I love being intimate with him. There is, however, a hitch in the get-along. It really turns him on when I swallow, but honestly, I very much so don't like the taste. I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I'd ...

A.   20 June 2010: I agree with busy04! This actually does work. Try getting him to eat a few fruits like apples, peaches, etc. This helps to improve the taste. You might also consider using some sort of flavoured lubricant.... (read in full...)

How can I get this girl out of my mind for good???

Q.   I've known a gal since many year. We loved each other, but now I guess she doesn't love me any more... we had sex. I gave her everything I could possibly give. She is going to marry another guy.. I am so depressed. I meditated, tried everything but ...

A.   20 June 2010: It takes time to get over things like this. It's not going to happen over night. I would recommend cutting contact with her for a while to let yourself heal. Continue living your life. Talk to someone close to you if you can. Allow yourself... (read in full...)

I don't want to take her from my friend but if she likes me???

Q.   I went to a party the other day for my friend we decided to prank call people we ended up prank calling his girlfriend. At first we kinda pranked her then we just called her back and was being stupid but anyway after that i started talking to her i ...

A.   20 June 2010: I think that's hard to tell after 15 minutes. I wouldn't touch that one. She's already in a relationship with your friend. ... (read in full...)

On the rare occassion I'm attracted to someone, the feeling fades quickly. Help!

Q.   I don't feel anything towards men. Everytime I meet someone I think I'm attracted too, that slight feeling fizzles out quickly. I don't know why. I have never been more confused in my life. Someone could tell me they loved me and it wouldn't...

A.   20 June 2010: Thank you everyone for your advice. I have had boyfriends before. I think this feeling started after one of them dumped me. I was hurt obviously, but I've long since gotten over it. He now has a new girlfriend and that no longer bothers me. This... (read in full...)

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