How can I stop thinking of my friend romantically?
Q. Okay, soooo I'm attracted to my friend. Really attracted. I think about her all the time. She's gorgeous, funny, smart. I need some advice on how to NOT think about her as much as I do. I asked her out the other day to sushi and she said yes, we...
A. 18 April 2011: @silence_key
No, she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's casually seeing someone, but he's not her boyfriend. We talked about her situation and apparently he's doing whatever he wants with whoever, meanwhile she's only see him. Mostly because ... (read in full...)
How can I stop thinking of my friend romantically?
Q. Okay, soooo I'm attracted to my friend. Really attracted. I think about her all the time. She's gorgeous, funny, smart. I need some advice on how to NOT think about her as much as I do. I asked her out the other day to sushi and she said yes, we...
A. 18 April 2011: Haha! Well, I thought I did ask her out the other day when we went for sushi! However, I'm not sure that qualifies as a date, maybe she just thought we were hanging out or something, ya know? I was going to pay for her, but she wouldn't let me and ... (read in full...)
How do I make a move on my female friend?
Q. So I'm friends with this girl who is gorgeous, intelligent, witty, and just all around awesome. She's casually seeing someone, but they're not official. We've been friends for a couple of months and we always have a great time together and talk for ...
A. 16 April 2011: We went out for sushi dinner alone the other day. She's my friend, so obviously she'll say yes to going out with me, the problem is how do I take our relationship to a more intimate place without cornering her or scaring her away? IE kissing, etc? ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a girl and not sure if it's reciprocated?!?
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for the last 3 and a half years, which has not been particularly healthy in the last 6 months, about 3 months ago I started doing a show(theatre) with someone I've been friends with for a long time but kind of lost ...
A. 16 April 2011: From everything you've said it sounds like the feelings are reciprocated. you should just me more assertive and say "hey I like you, you know I like you. why don't me and you start seeing each other?" what's the worse that could happen? You get ... (read in full...)
How can I stop wanting to date my friend who's already in a relationship?
Q. I have this friend, we met about a month and a half ago maybe? She's smart, funny, gorgeous (one of her sisters is even a model) anyway, we talk all the time and always have fun when we hang out together and maybe its just the natural guy ...
A. 5 April 2011: I could do that, but I don't want to make things awkward between us or anything. So we just hang out a lot and have a good time. She told me that her sister and her friend love me, which is cool, lets me know if I ever wanted to make a move I'd prob ... (read in full...)
How can I be just friends with her, as she wants, when I'm in love with her?
Q. So I've been talking to this girl since Christmas and felt very strong about her, we became really close, she'd call me almost every day and we'd sometimes talk for hours, she'd often constantly joke about us getting married, which any guy would ...
A. 13 March 2011: Well, she also told me that she "feels like she's known me forever and that we're already bff's but in a diff kind of way in a male and female way like when a girl and guy talk."
I don't know about where you guys are from, but the definiti... (read in full...)
How can I be just friends with her, as she wants, when I'm in love with her?
Q. So I've been talking to this girl since Christmas and felt very strong about her, we became really close, she'd call me almost every day and we'd sometimes talk for hours, she'd often constantly joke about us getting married, which any guy would ...
A. 12 March 2011: Smart advice, Cerberus. Thanks for the knowledge, man. ... (read in full...)
How can I be just friends with her, as she wants, when I'm in love with her?
Q. So I've been talking to this girl since Christmas and felt very strong about her, we became really close, she'd call me almost every day and we'd sometimes talk for hours, she'd often constantly joke about us getting married, which any guy would ...
A. 12 March 2011: Cerberus, I was always feeling her romantically since the day we met so shifting your focus can sometimes be a difficult thing.
Also Cerberus when we had the talk she wasn't entirely firm on the we're NEVER going to be anything, but friends ... (read in full...)
How can I be just friends with her, as she wants, when I'm in love with her?
Q. So I've been talking to this girl since Christmas and felt very strong about her, we became really close, she'd call me almost every day and we'd sometimes talk for hours, she'd often constantly joke about us getting married, which any guy would ...
A. 12 March 2011: I agree with all of you, especially shawncaff. I just don't understand the reasoning of some of stuff she says or does.
She told me I'm handsome and even confided in me that her best friend, who doesn't like any man she meets, LOVES me, and thin... (read in full...)
Did I misread the signs? Is there anything I can do now?
Q. A couple of weeks ago I went to a friends bday party and met this really beautiful, funny, cool girl. We laughed and joked all night. Danced a little bit. It was one of those nights where you meet someone and go "Wow, I really like this person" ...
A. 2 March 2011: Wow, just coming right out and saying to a girl "hey, i like you" is the number 1 no-no in the man rule book. Girls sometimes become intimidated by such outright proclamations and don't always respond well.
and I don't think that she was just bei... (read in full...)
Help! Do I give up on the girl of my dreams or be there for her and hope she gives us a chance later on?
Q. Alright so I've been talking to this beautiful girl I met at my friends bday party for about a month now on the phone. We have awesome convos and sometimes we talk for hours on the phone. She always jokes about us getting married and tells me how ...
A. 26 January 2011: Justwondering13's story is amazing, it's uplifting without promising anything, except the one thing that gets all men through the days...hope. I've heard a similar story from one of my female friends. Her boyfriend started out as her friend and ... (read in full...)
Help! Do I give up on the girl of my dreams or be there for her and hope she gives us a chance later on?
Q. Alright so I've been talking to this beautiful girl I met at my friends bday party for about a month now on the phone. We have awesome convos and sometimes we talk for hours on the phone. She always jokes about us getting married and tells me how ...
A. 26 January 2011: It was her friend who never likes any guys whom she meets. Not her. ... (read in full...)
Haven't spoken to her in 2 days, is she ignoring me?
Q. So, I met this girl at a friends party and we've been talking regularly for about 3 weeks. The other day she told me that she -- "feels like she's known me forever and that we're already bff's but in a diff kind of way in a male and female way l...
A. 12 January 2011: She just got back to me, she broke her touch screen on her phone. So yeah, she's not mad at me at all, but she confided to me that she is stressed about bills and stuff. ... (read in full...)
Haven't spoken to her in 2 days, is she ignoring me?
Q. So, I met this girl at a friends party and we've been talking regularly for about 3 weeks. The other day she told me that she -- "feels like she's known me forever and that we're already bff's but in a diff kind of way in a male and female way l...
A. 12 January 2011: You misunderstood me, Marinnaaa. She never said anything about us getting married in Vegas. Her friend's birthday is coming up and she just suggested I tag along because it would be fun.
Even though we just met a few weeks ago, we were becoming... (read in full...)
Haven't spoken to her in 2 days, is she ignoring me?
Q. So, I met this girl at a friends party and we've been talking regularly for about 3 weeks. The other day she told me that she -- "feels like she's known me forever and that we're already bff's but in a diff kind of way in a male and female way l...
A. 11 January 2011: So its Tuesday now, I'm going to wait until Friday to see if she contacts me. If she doesn't by then I'll call her or something. ... (read in full...)
She's gorgeous. I don't want to mess this up, if I have any chance at all.
Q. Sooo, last night at my friend's birthday party I met one of the most beautiful girls in the world. We talked about relationships, music, etc and laughed a lot and we hugged like four or five times and at some points she even held my hand and kiss...
A. 3 January 2011: We've been talking on the phone almost everyday since I've met her. Which is cool because she actually calls me! I told her I'd cook her dinner when I come back and she seemed really excited about it. She's also told me that I'm handsome and the ... (read in full...)
She's gorgeous. I don't want to mess this up, if I have any chance at all.
Q. Sooo, last night at my friend's birthday party I met one of the most beautiful girls in the world. We talked about relationships, music, etc and laughed a lot and we hugged like four or five times and at some points she even held my hand and kiss...
A. 23 December 2010: I called her last night and we talked on the phone for two hours. I made her laugh a lot. I like to think thats a good sign. She also agreed that we should hang out when I get back. ... (read in full...)
She's gorgeous. I don't want to mess this up, if I have any chance at all.
Q. Sooo, last night at my friend's birthday party I met one of the most beautiful girls in the world. We talked about relationships, music, etc and laughed a lot and we hugged like four or five times and at some points she even held my hand and kiss...
A. 22 December 2010: Good advice guys. And to seeingstars her friend's comment wasn't directed towards me as her friend genuinely likes me too. She was just filling me in on her past dating history and pointed out a couple of as she described them "lame guys" trying to ... (read in full...)
Women are like bug zappers and men are flies.
Q. So, just got out of a year long relationship a couple of months and I'm suddenly remembering how annoying trying to date. I approach the steps as well as can be. I meet new women all the time and it always ends up the same. We laugh together and ...
A. 16 November 2010: You bring up some very interesting points, Cerberus
I don't really like clubbing or going to bars so I usually meet women in random places throughout my day, like in class, the mall, or at a car rental place or something. My friend whom I mentione... (read in full...)
Why do women sometimes not answer when you call or text them?
Q. Alright, this is beginning to annoy me. Alright, so I'm a good looking dude, funny, and I can sing really well too. I get girls phone numbers and then when you call them they don't answer? What is up with that? Why give someone your number then not ...
A. 3 November 2010: All good excuses, but I dont approach them as if I'm hitting on them or anything, its way more casual like they're a new friend, which of course you'd hope they're be. So its weird when you get someones number in a strictly platonic way and then ... (read in full...)
Do you think this woman is a transsexual ?
Q. I had intercourse with a woman last night who was subtly, but adamantly wanting to have sex with her anally. This really weired me out as I had never done that before. No matter what I did she always found a way to position herself so that I would ...
A. 27 October 2010: I didnt think her breasts felt real. I think the nipples were kinda off, but im not sure. The whole thing just felt kinda wrong. ... (read in full...)
Do you think this woman is a transsexual ?
Q. I had intercourse with a woman last night who was subtly, but adamantly wanting to have sex with her anally. This really weired me out as I had never done that before. No matter what I did she always found a way to position herself so that I would ...
A. 27 October 2010: This was kind of a one night deal, though I do have her number. I didn't get too good a look because it was dark in the room when we started becoming intimate, but I remember thinking that something was "off" about her vagina when I was going down ... (read in full...)
I'm angry my ex could treat me like a ghost after everything we've been through together?
Q. Just broke up with my Ex. Its been a week and a few days. We were on a break, but she made it permanent and now she's "dating" this guy she met at a bar 2 wks ago who lives in Australia. After we decided to take a break so she could work on he...
A. 15 October 2010: You guys have really given me some good advice. I want to thank you for helping me through this troubled time. I realize that we're not compatible, largely due to her own mental health and emotional issues, which I cannot change or rectify.
even ... (read in full...)
I'm angry my ex could treat me like a ghost after everything we've been through together?
Q. Just broke up with my Ex. Its been a week and a few days. We were on a break, but she made it permanent and now she's "dating" this guy she met at a bar 2 wks ago who lives in Australia. After we decided to take a break so she could work on he...
A. 14 October 2010: We were together almost a year, sexlessintheuk.
Hey, CindyCares. Thanks for the advice. Well, basically at a concert my ex lied to a 22 year old man when she was 16 and told him she was 18. She slept with this dude who she didnt even know and got ... (read in full...)
After we broke up my ex said we were best friends ... now she's disappeared completely! What changed?
Q. I've posted about this girl before, see my recent posts for more details, but something is still bothering me very much. Before we were on a "Break" but as of now we're officially broken up. She had a myriad of reasons why. She said I wasn't there ...
A. 14 October 2010: Well, my ex is dating a guy she met at a bar 2 wks ago who lives in australia. yeah, thats a rational decision. -_-
We have a class together and she doesn't even acknowledge my existence. After all we've been through together is that it? We're ju... (read in full...)
Why am I missing my ex who caused me so much pain?
Q. Hey Everyone, I was in a relationship with one guy for about 2 years. In the beginning everything was great, he treated me like a queen and we could be together for hours and never get bored. He was dealing with a lot at the time, and eventu...
A. 14 October 2010: Just broke up with my girlfriend last monday. She an alcoholic, has depression, used to be a cutter and I know first hand that she's a slut. She's in a new relationship now, with a guy she met 2 wks ago at a bar who lives in Australia. did I mention ... (read in full...)
Why is it so easy for girls and so hard for guys?
Q. Me and my GF have been on a break since july 22, but on Monday oct 4th it finally became official. She went from going to the movies with a dude we'll call him "Douche" to now being in a relationship with this guy whom we'll call "Jackass". Why is ...
A. 13 October 2010: I seriously doubt she's doing this to make come back as now she's in a relationship with a dude she met 2 wks ago at a bar who lives in Australia. Yes, Australia. Very weird. And apparently she was seeing this dude while we were on our "break" ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who thinks her erratic behavior is indicative of a deeper problem?
Q. My ex has a lot of serious issues, alcoholism, severe depression, her dad died a few months ago, and she used to be a cutter. After our breakup she confessed to me and only me that it made her want to cut herself again. she also ONLY told me she ...
A. 11 October 2010: I don't smoke weed and I would routinely try to take alcohol away from her on a regular basis or question why she needs so much. She said were not compatible, guess what she meant was that she wants someone who will enable her reckless behavior. ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who thinks her erratic behavior is indicative of a deeper problem?
Q. My ex has a lot of serious issues, alcoholism, severe depression, her dad died a few months ago, and she used to be a cutter. After our breakup she confessed to me and only me that it made her want to cut herself again. she also ONLY told me she ...
A. 11 October 2010: Yes, I'm starting to suspect she has something called "Complicated Grief" as she has many unresolved issues with her deceased father, he cheated on their mom and many of her siblings feel he was never there for them and they made her feel guilty for ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: I don't know if there was any abuse. I know her sister gave her, her first drink when she was like 10 or 12 maybe. I know she felt as if her father was never there as his job kept him away a lot, helping others so his children never felt they had ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Thank You, DenimandLace44, your words have really meant a lot to me. I'm reminded an incident that occurred on her birthday where she got extremely drunk, so much so that she could hardly stand and was still trying to drink. She was cursing at me ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 5 October 2010: This is actually my second real relationship. ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 5 October 2010: Oh not to mention we have a class together in college 2 days a week so I'm forced to see her on a bi-weekly basis! I've already erased her number from my phone and deleted her, her family members, and friends on facebook so I wouldn't have to see ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 5 October 2010: Where does the love go? I just keep reminiscing about all the good times we had together. I moved to a new city a year ago and met her after being here three months. She made this city beautiful for me. She was the best friend I could count on no ... (read in full...)
Is she blowing me off to start something with this other guy?
Q. I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me that she is and its really annoying me because our break wasn't supposed to be permanent just until she found a way to deal with her problems IE severe depression and alcoholism. She said we ...
A. 1 October 2010: You know what I don't understand? Is that how could someone be so cruel turning a cold shoulder to someone who has loved and shared so much with them for the better part of a year. I'm talking about rushing over to her house at 3am the night her dad ... (read in full...)
I became too dependent on my ex, and now we have broken up I am really lonely!
Q. After a really bad breakup 3 months ago, I'm now really really lonely. I made a huge mistake because I relied too much on my ex. I became friends with his friends and now I've got only a couple of friends. Most of my friends from school all went ...
A. 1 October 2010: OMG...i know exactly what you mean. I just broke up with my ex and its really hard for me because I've only lived in my new city a year and most of my close friends I know through her. Plus I met her 3 months after moving here. She was new too and ... (read in full...)
Her alcoholism and depression are making me sad and confused. What's her deal?
Q. Me and my ex broke up four months after her dad died. She told me she had severe depression. She also told me she's an alcoholic and used to be a cutter and that the day we split she really felt the old urges to cut herself again. Naturally this ...
A. 27 September 2010: I've been trying to hang out with her privately, like at her home so that I can look her in the eye and have a serious heart to heart type of conversation without anyone around, IE a crowded social setting or her friends around, but every time I try ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on her and move on or keep trying?
Q. I have a serious question. Me and my ex broke up four months after her dad died. She told me she had severe depression and she didn't ever wanna go back to that so she decided to go get help. She also told me that she's an alcoholic. She to...
A. 26 September 2010: Lately I've been trying to forget about her, but its hard she's the oldest and closest person to me in this new city. Only lived here a year. the majority of which was with her. sometimes I feel like I dont even know how to have fun without her. I ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on her and move on or keep trying?
Q. I have a serious question. Me and my ex broke up four months after her dad died. She told me she had severe depression and she didn't ever wanna go back to that so she decided to go get help. She also told me that she's an alcoholic. She to...
A. 20 September 2010: Thanks for the advice ,SeeingStars. Yeah you're right. I can't put my life on hold for her and I can't continue reaching out to her if she's going to slap my hand away albeit in a nice way, she's still refusing me. I think I'm going to move on, even ... (read in full...)
Can someone advise me on how to do it right please?
Q. I got this beautiful girls phone number friday night at a club. I called her saturday evening but she didnt answer, I would have left a message but her voice mail isn't set up. When should I call her again? and should I text or call? ...
A. 20 September 2010: I don't know it is possibly she hasn't received the text. She told me she's only been in this country six months and I have no idea what sort of phone she has so she may have not gotten it at all. Especially considering the fact that her voice mail ... (read in full...)
Can someone advise me on how to do it right please?
Q. I got this beautiful girls phone number friday night at a club. I called her saturday evening but she didnt answer, I would have left a message but her voice mail isn't set up. When should I call her again? and should I text or call? ...
A. 20 September 2010: I texted her and she didnt hit me back all day? Thinking about giving her a call tomorrow. ... (read in full...)
Can someone advise me on how to do it right please?
Q. I got this beautiful girls phone number friday night at a club. I called her saturday evening but she didnt answer, I would have left a message but her voice mail isn't set up. When should I call her again? and should I text or call? ...
A. 20 September 2010: yeah thats what I thought too. I just texted her. Thanks. ... (read in full...)
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