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writes:Okay, soooo I'm attracted to my friend. Really attracted. I think about her all the time. She's gorgeous, funny, smart. I need some advice on how to NOT think about her as much as I do. I asked her out the other day to sushi and she said yes, we talked for hours had a great time, I felt like it was a date, but looking back she probably thought that we were just hanging out. How do I control my passion for her? Reply to this Question
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reader, msnewbeginning +, writes (19 April 2011):
 People can't control emotions so if its from the heart you can't make it disappear. Be direct because beating around the bush will eventually get you hurt. She will just think you're being a great friend and let someone that comes along come in her life, and you will end up giving her advice on her new relationship.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 April 2011):
 I'm with chigirl, be direct. You see where indirect got you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 "Do you want to go on a date with me?"
It's pretty straight forward, but keeping it simple is the best way to go. Be brave, ask her in a direct way!
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reader, Solidus +, writes (18 April 2011):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question @silence_key
No, she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's casually seeing someone, but he's not her boyfriend. We talked about her situation and apparently he's doing whatever he wants with whoever, meanwhile she's only see him. Mostly because she doesn't want to be a slut or something.
Trying to get involved with a friend is always a tricky thing. I mean, how do you even approach it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): I agree dirtball, if you like your friend so much you should consider asking her out, or at least finding out how she feels about you.
Good luck
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reader, Solidus +, writes (18 April 2011):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha! Well, I thought I did ask her out the other day when we went for sushi! However, I'm not sure that qualifies as a date, maybe she just thought we were hanging out or something, ya know? I was going to pay for her, but she wouldn't let me and later on in the car she told me she doesn't let men pay for her because she feels they expect things in return.
Fair enough, but how do I ask her out subtly on a date-date without being so overt? I thought "I'd like to take you out for some sushi tonight" was pretty telling, thats not how i ask my other friends out.
any help here?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 April 2011):
If you have such chemistry, why not ask her out?
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reader, silence_key  +, writes (18 April 2011):
I don't understand why you feel you have to withold your feelings?
Does she have a boyfriend? Does she like somebody else?
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