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*olidus
writes:Me and my GF have been on a break since july 22, but on Monday oct 4th it finally became official. She went from going to the movies with a dude we'll call him "Douche" to now being in a relationship with this guy whom we'll call "Jackass". Why is it that its so easy for women to get new guys and so hard for us to find new girls or is it just me? She's been with, that I know of, two guys since me while I've been with no one and its not for lack of trying. Can somebody please tell me what the deal with that is?
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reader, Solidus +, writes (13 October 2010):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question I seriously doubt she's doing this to make come back as now she's in a relationship with a dude she met 2 wks ago at a bar who lives in Australia. Yes, Australia. Very weird. And apparently she was seeing this dude while we were on our "break" before it became permanent. So putting two and two together he's apparently the reason why she "didn't want to try" to fix our relationship because she was already in one, albeit impulsive, with kangaroo jack.
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reader, LolaBolla  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 You're not considering one thing-- that this woman could purposely be doing this to make you jealous.
Any girl can get any guy she wants if she sweet talks him-- and vice versa. It all depends on whether you're looking for a meaningful relationship or someone to decorate your arm with and to text when your bored.
If she was really hurt by the break up, she might be doing this out of revenge or so you'll come back to get her out of jealousy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): Nature makes guys the chasers and girls the chasees. A chaser who is struggling with a confidence/outlook problem will have a harder time than a chasee with a confidence/outlook problem. That's common sense.
But having an easier time getting dates is not the same thing as having an easier time finding another relationship worth having.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 You sound bitter. and Girls are repulsed by that. chances are she was too.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 That is not always so. Sometimes it is the other way around. Look at this entire site, both men and women struggle to move on whilst their lovers seem to breeze through different people as though they were devouring their way through chocolates. No gender is safe from the emotional pain, some people just manage and others feel it as though it were a deep gash in their heart. She may not have felt about you as strongly as you felt about her. It is that simple. But you can only move on.
I hope that helps.
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reader, cheannryl  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Ok dude,we girls when badly hurt..we just cry and cry then after that we feel better then accept the truth.time to move on.as easy as that.
Maybe learn to accept it k?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): Hey pal!
I think some women put off a vibe like "I'll take anyone" as long as I get attention. Chances are this woman is very insecure and given you havent found a lady YET, that just says youre def not like "douche" or "jackass". Instead, you may not be involved with lots of women cause they dont know what they want so they go and be with anyone. I bet youre confident, and women at that age are still "having fun" and making uber dumb mistakes bro. Keep your head up. Forget this brod and just relax. Women walk into ur life when u least expect them to. You'll stand out soon enough.
Kind Regards
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