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Really like this girl in my school but very shy!! how do I know if she's interested?
Q. I would like some female advice. I really like this girl in my year at school. We used to go out a couple of years ago for a few months but then stopped because everyone in the year found out. One of her friends asked me if i was still interested in ...
A. 11 May 2006: You will never know until you ask her! Just ask her can you talk to her alone and then just say that you really like her and see what she says...if you go away for the summer and don't do it you will regret it and will spend the summer with what ... (read in full...)
He keeps touching my panty... Will this lose me my virginity?
Q. Hi Dear, I never had sex with my boyfriend, but sometimes he's touching my panty with his hands or fingers, but he never enter it. So with touching panty, will my virginilty get finished? I know, it's stupid question, but still i'm asking. ...
A. 10 May 2006: You are not loosing your virginity by doing this but one thing eventually leads to another...you are obviously way too young for him to be touching your panties if you are asking this question. Mind yourself and if you have anymore questions please ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose him but am scared he will get fed up of waiting...
Q. im 16 and i havent done anythimk more than kiss at the moment.im with a guy, and we have been going out for about a month or so. i no that he really wants to go futher with the relationship and get more sexual, but i dont think im ready. when we g...
A. 10 May 2006: Hey listen don't do it til you feel its right...a month is definitely not long enough especially at 16 years of age. If he wants it he will wai til you are ready and if not then he isn't worth it...take my advise, rushing into it for him will be a ... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to compliment your man???
Q. Quick question but would love as many answers as possible, how do you give a guy a compliment without sounding girly or like you want something, whats a good "manly" compliment? I tried to say that i liked my bf's arms cos they were strong but his ...
A. 10 May 2006: Tell him that he is great in bed!!! (Hopefully he is)... (read in full...)
I would love to contact him, what should I do?
Q. Hi I told my boyfreind of 3 years I didnt want to see him anymore at weekend after a big arguement, I said some harsh things which I am sorry for now but he has been nothing but lovely. I feel I have made a big mistake and dont know what to do,he ha...
A. 10 May 2006: I think you need to tell him that you wanna talk...he should respect that after all you have been together for long enough. Talk to him, talk things through about the argument and tell him that you are sorry that you said those harsh things! Just ... (read in full...)
I want my ex's friend, should I go for it?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago im 19 n so was he, we were together 3 years loved each other so much but just didnt get on! any way his best friend who he has been friens with his whole life came on to me a few times but i didnt say nothing ...
A. 10 May 2006: Well if there is chemistry its a natural thing and it can't be helped, my advise would be to meet with this guy to talk. As your ex's friend he needs to go to his ex and say it to him and tell him that he really likes her and that he wants to take ... (read in full...)
He was always flirting, so I broke up with him, but now I want him back!
Q. to whom it may concern, ok i have been in a relationship for awhile. Well my boyfriend started flirting with other girls (not cheating) i got tierd of it and always lost my temper because of past relationships. To make it short we have broke up...
A. 10 May 2006: You need to remember the reason why the relationship went sour in the first place and try and remember what it felt like when he was flirting with other girls...you also need to be sure that it isn't gonna just be the same as it was before..
If yo... (read in full...)
Are these stain covered sheets an indicator of his cheating guilt?
Q. Hello, This may seem a little graphic--well not graphic but just related to sex and the messiness related to it. lol I go to my b/f's place and usually he is not there unless i am over(he stays with his mom and does things for her at her house...
A. 10 May 2006: Listen to be honest looking at the situation I would tell you not to worry, by the sounds of his room when you arrived there has been no other woman in there! I think he would have cleaned up a little, changed the sheets or at least made the bed if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always argues with me, but I don't want to lose him...what should I do?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for two years. And this quote from a song sums up our relationship "For everytime they we shared laughing there were two times that I cried". I really love being with him when he is being good. Hes fantas...
A. 9 May 2006: Listen your boyfriend needs to calm down or clear off...no wonder you are stressed with mood changes, he is playing games with you leaving you left wondering what you ahve done wrong and blaming yourself trying to figure out what you can do or what ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always argues with me, but I don't want to lose him...what should I do?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for two years. And this quote from a song sums up our relationship "For everytime they we shared laughing there were two times that I cried". I really love being with him when he is being good. Hes fantas...
A. 9 May 2006: Listen your boyfriend needs to calm down or clear off...no wonder you are stressed with mood changes, he is playing games with you leaving you left wondering what you ahve done wrong and blaming yourself trying to figure out what you can do or what ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always argues with me, but I don't want to lose him...what should I do?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for two years. And this quote from a song sums up our relationship "For everytime they we shared laughing there were two times that I cried". I really love being with him when he is being good. Hes fantas...
A. 9 May 2006: Listen your boyfriend needs to calm down or clear off...no wonder you are stressed with mood changes, he is playing games with you leaving you left wondering what you ahve done wrong and blaming yourself trying to figure out what you can do or what ... (read in full...)
It hurts me that my bf doesn't involve me in his life. His friends seem to take priority. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend's brother has a baby, and he is so excited and proud of his baby niece, the only way I get to see pictures is when I ask, but to his other friends he sends them constantly, and they're constantly saying how cute she is, and it hurts me ...
A. 9 May 2006: There is no point in seeing how this pans out...he may not even be aware that he is cutting you out like this. I completely understand why you are feeling like this and it is perfectly natural. You need to sit your guy down and tell him that you ... (read in full...)
He always threatens me with a break-up which he knows I don't want. What should I do?
Q. What does one do when they are in a loving relationship, but almost all the love is one sided, all the little special things happen because the one partner is the only one doing anything special. I'm in a relationship where I am doing all the wo...
A. 9 May 2006: Listen if you feel like that then as hard as it may be you need to break away from this guy...it will hurt for a while but there is no point in staying in a relationship where you are miserable. If he doesn't respect that you are having problems or ... (read in full...)
I may be pregnant. How much for an abortion.... And would I need to tell my mom?
Q. I'm 14 and the weekend just gone me and my boyfriend both had sex for the first time, Stupidly we didnt use a condom but he said he pulled out in time. We went to a clinic the next day and got an after morning pill, Its been 2 days and im late for ...
A. 9 May 2006: Listen before you start panicking if he pulled out and you got the morning after pill you may have just caught yourself but please DO NOT WAIT FOR A PERIOD THAT MAY NOT COME...you don't have to tell your mam if you don't want to...my advise would be ... (read in full...)
He's sending very flirty emails and is good at lying!!
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year has always had a lot of female friends and is very helpful if anyone (especially women) have any problems. I see this as flirting and get jealous which I can't help but now I have proof. He has been emailing/talking to a fem...
A. 9 May 2006: Firstly if you think that this guy is gonna luy to you then go...secondly if he is secretly being flirtatious with someone else he has an ego problem and this is how he boosts his! and thirdly if he gets angry when he confronts you, chances are he ... (read in full...)
I like a friend's sister, but don't think he'll approve, can I change his mind?
Q. I know this girl, she's really cute and nice and she likes me too. But there's a problem: she's my good friend's sister and I don't think he'll allow me to go out with her. What can I do to change his mind?...
A. 9 May 2006: You should sit your friend down and just say that you really like her and that you would like to ask her out, ask him would be comfortable with that! If he says No then its completely your perogative and if you decide its worth arguing with him over ... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating, I can't prove it, he says he wants to be with just me...what can I do?
Q. I am in desperate need of help. I have dealing with this guy for a year now. It has been straight sex between us two. He is known to a lot of being a gigolo, hoe, whatever you can think of. Just recently, he told me that I was his girl, but for ...
A. 9 May 2006: Listen take my advise, always trust your intincts...cause 99.9% of the time they are right!!! If you can't safely say that he feels the same way then go because you will never be confident about where you stand with him. Play it safe this time ... (read in full...)
My husband lost my trust and I've been talking to a male friend...what should I do?
Q. Hi guys I need some help here. I know most of you are going to judge me or call me names but this is my situation. I'm 23 years old and been married for 2 1/2 years and have no children. After one year of marriage we moved to another country from my ...
A. 8 May 2006: Look you need to decide who you want...you can't have both and by the sounds of it you have lost interest in your husband...if that is the case then just leave him if you are so unhappy that he has driven you into the arms of another man otherwise ... (read in full...)
My mother said she heard people in our bedroom when she came home. Should I believe her?
Q. My name is "Sue". i have been dating an older man, "Bob" for a year and a half. My mother recently moved in with us because of some money issues. She hates us dating, because he is older than i am. I love him more than anything and would trust him ...
A. 8 May 2006: I can't imagine that your partner would do that while your mother way staying...find her somewhere to live quick before she stirs up anymore nonsence...mothers only do what they think is best for you so don't be mad at her just tell her that you ... (read in full...)
He's told me to have sex with other men, what should I do?
Q. I am 24 and my husband is 27. Recently he has been telling me if I want sex, I should sleep with other men. I told him I don't want to cheat on him, and that he's suggesting cheating. However, he insists he has no sex drive at all, and says h...
A. 8 May 2006: The should I stay or should I go question is completely up to you...there is a serious problem if your husband has lost interest in you sexually and there is an even bigger problem. He shouldn't want taht...I think he may need to talk to a ... (read in full...)
Does this touching make us lesbians?
Q. I was staying over at my best friends house about 3 weeks ago nd we ended up kissin and touchin each other nd since then we both hav been taking it further every day. She slept at mine last night nd we ended up totally naked nd touching each other ...
A. 8 May 2006: It doesn't actually mean you are or you aren't...you both need to talk about this with eachother...don't label yourselves just yet....do you have feelings for her? ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair??
Q. I met a man at work when he came from an agency to cover shifts, we went for a drink after work and had a kiss in his car the only thing is he's married and wants us to have an affair. Should i because i don't want anyone full time and it would su...
A. 8 May 2006: If you aren't looking for anything serious now then find someone in the same situation as yourself....SINGLE...that poor woman, I feel so sorry for her! If you ever get married and your husband does this to you, I wonder if you would have the same ... (read in full...)
A mutual friend keeps calling round to discuss her sexual problems with my HUSBAND!
Q. Sorry but i don`t know what to do. A mutusal girlfriend is forever calli ng round to discuss her sexual problems withj my husband. The sexual tension is palpable and despite telli ng him i feel threatened he calls me paranoid. To get the agony over ...
A. 8 May 2006: You need to tell your husband that you aren't comfortable with the relationship he has with this "mutual friend"! He isn't respecting you or his marriage by behaving in this way especially when they have already kissed...he should't have any contact ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he'll cheat on me while he's away, but I keep worrying about it!
Q. im worried that when, next month, my boyfriend goes on holiday to spain, he will cheat on me, just because he will be far away and probaby thinks that i will never find out and that its fine. He doesnt come across that way but i have found that he ...
A. 8 May 2006: Your boyfriend shouldn't be talking with other girls in the way he has, its a type of emotional betrayal which is probably the reason you are feeling so insecure about his holiday. You need to sit him down and talk about your feelings and tell him ... (read in full...)
He's given me two STD's and narrowly missed prison for beating me... not sure what to do?
Q. im 19 and have been with my partner for almost 4 years we have a 2 year old daughter but since being with him he has givin me 2 stds in a result of cheating on me he has just narrowly missed a prison sentence for beating me badly its not the firs...
A. 8 May 2006: You need to get yourself some help...if not for yourself for your child.He doesn't deserve for you to lie for him in court when he has abused you the way he has...its not healthy for you or your child to be living in this situation, please get ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but I fancy another guy besides my boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. found out about 6 weeks ago that i was pregnant and my boyfriend and i are really happy about it and are keeping it. However i also recently started a new job and there is a guy here who is paying me a lot of attention and who i really fancy. He ...
A. 8 May 2006: Listen honey if there is one thing I know is that you need to make a decision...you need to decide if you want to be with your boyfriend and if you are happy with your boyfriend, if not? then leave him...you cannot stay in a relationship for a ... (read in full...)
We had sex....I think....do you think I could be prenant?
Q. I'm 13 years old. I've met a boy who I really like and is really special. The other day he came round and I think we had sex. His penis went just a tiny bit into my vagina, but only a tiny bit. It wasn't properly in and he didn't ejaculate. What are ...
A. 8 May 2006: Its probably unlikely that oyu are pregnant but I would definitely advise you to get it checked out just in case. You are defintely way too young to have sex,far too young but please if you are going to do it be safe, use a condom along with some ... (read in full...)
Really like my friends ex, What should I do??
Q. i have liked this lad for a while but he has been dating my mate they broke up n she still likes him sumtimes he says he loves me n he's so nyc we are good friends but sumtimes he says he likes her this happened before him n my mate dated to i want ...
A. 8 May 2006: Eh sounds like this lad is playing back and forward with you and your friend. I think you both should just tell him to sling his hook!
On the otherhand, you need to remind yourself of the good old saying that a guy never comes before a friend..... (read in full...)
I told my friend I liked a guy at school and she promised not to tell anyone... And now everyone knows!
Q. I admitted to a friend recently that i really like a guy at school but i made her swear not to tell anyone. However the day after everyone of my friends knew. I confronted her about it but she just denied it. Later, she came to my house after school ...
A. 8 May 2006: It sounds to me like your friend is a very selfish one! She obviously can't be trusted with a secret, she knows that you like this guy and she starts flirting with him? She's not a true mate if she does this to you! She is obviously jealous of you ... (read in full...)
Scared to take things further with my boyfriend incase I get pregnant!!
Q. Been seeing my boyfrind for about 5 weeks now, he has now began to try and iniciate sex with me. i turned him down and asked him to stop. but5 now when i speak with him on the phone he is realy on bout sex all the time! He even rang me and made...
A. 8 May 2006: Listen honey if you aren't ready then do not let yourself feel you have to do it. Tell him that you are not ready and if he has any respect for you he will wait. You don't even ha ve to tell him that you are still a virgin if you dont want to.
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Me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom but he pulled out, Is it still possible to get pregnant?
Q. recently me and my boyfriend were drunk and we startin kissin and it lead on further we have never had sex and i let him put it into me but he pulled away before he came to make sure there was no chance of me gettin pregnant as we had no condoms! i ...
A. 8 May 2006: You can of course get pregnant, it only takes one sperm out of millions honey! Get a pregnancy kit and keep me posted! ... (read in full...)
I like this guy, but I promised a friend to not see him again, what do I do?
Q. Recently I just made out with a friend. A lot of mutual friends call him up to party, but they don't really talk to him that much. I was the first one out of all my friends to get to know him and he turned out to be a really really great guy. We ...
A. 8 May 2006: Hey listen, its funny I have 2 friends in the exact same situation at the moment! You need to talk to your friend, explain that you really like this guy and that you want to see him again. It is your life, he deserves the benefit of the doubt...you ... (read in full...)
He has lied to me many times, what do I do about this?
Q. Ok, so, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 10 months. We knew each other in school (about 3 years ago), and when we were at school, he kept bragging to only me, about this girl who he was having cyber-sex with on msn. When we got ...
A. 5 May 2006: Please take my advise...violent and aggresive behaviour is unacceptable whether he has hit you or not...you should never feel afraid of your partner! I am in a relationship with a guy who I think is a liar and I still haven't left him, the silly ... (read in full...)
I'm going to the navy and I want her to know everything will be fine....
Q. Iv been dating my girlfriend for around 4mths now and im joining the royal navy july 9th. we're both really in love and it was fate. she now lives 2.5hrs away but we still see each other and very much in love. in the navy i get weekends off and can ...
A. 5 May 2006: Thinking positively about it is definitely a good start...you really need to make the effort to reassure her that you want to be with her and you want it to work...has she suggested anything that might make you feel like this or is this something ... (read in full...)
Why is it that when I'm content he suddenly changes?
Q. Hello, when I feel comfortable and happy in my relationship and my boyfriend does things that make me think he's the right guy for me, then he all of a sudden starts acting completely the opposite like taking ages to reply to my calls etc...why is ...
A. 5 May 2006: I think a lot of relationships work like this...usually when you don't understand eachother completely! Its like game playing, that change when you come content is him trying not to let you win the game! Its like the chase...he wins you then you win ... (read in full...)
Is his week long biking holiday going to be innocent?
Q. My b/f of a year is going to a bike rally in myrtle beach for a week in may. I am having a hard time trusting everything will be innocent. I spoke to him about my worries such as him drinking and making a mistake(cheating) and he says i have nothing ...
A. 5 May 2006: To be honest having looked at those pictures of course you would be feeling a little insecure but I think that there is more to it than just this weekend...you must have had some sort of similar feelings or distrust or worry before this.
You n... (read in full...)
Feel like my heart has been ripped out and thrown in a blender!
Q. I have split with my bloke for 3 wks now, last weekend he told me he missed me and asked him to keep ringing, then the next day we both go to the same party and he completely ignores me, the next i thing i know he's just got on another girl am i ...
A. 5 May 2006: Hey you need to be sure that you really love this guy or if it is lust! Sometimes it can be a little hard to tell the difference in a situation like this...he was telling you that he still loved you and was asking you to call and then when you ... (read in full...)
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