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Why am I so confused?

Q.   Okay, so I started talking to this guy Travis last year around february. He was in one of my classes and was really into me. We hung out on the weekends almost every night going to parties and stuff. We also studied together for class a lot. ...

A.   29 September 2010: the best thing to do is to follow your friends advice and talk to him and ask him. or you will get hurt somewhere along the line. sit him down... (read in full...)

Is it time to leave?

Q.   i have been with my current partner for 11 years. he refuses to get a job to help with the bills. If he gets any money he will spend it on drink. he is verbally abusive and on a few occasions in drink he has been physically abusive. i am at the end ...

A.   29 September 2010: sweetheart its time to leave him. the longer you stay with him the harder it will get. the fact that he both physically and verbally buses you is enough reason to leave. break free before its too late. and you need to report the physical abu... (read in full...)

Not sexually active but haven't had my period

Q.   ok so i need help or some information about this.i haven't had my period this month and i know i'm not pregnant because i'm a non-sexual active virgin any ways this has never happened to me usually it comes early but it hasn't came at all the last ...

A.   6 May 2010: dont worry about it, at your age your period may not be regular. or it may be due to stress, thats why its not coming... (read in full...)

Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?

Q.   Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...

A.   5 May 2010: WHAAT? he probably never seen a normal vagina. probably only seen the one s on porn movies and FYI those ladies go to see plastic surgeons to make look like that. any normal person knows those things come in different sizes and shapes and are all ... (read in full...)

He's thinking of leaving his g/f for me

Q.   My ex from about 4 -5 years ago and i have been texting quite a bit - even though his gf doesn't allow him to have any communication with any girls that arent family, on friday we met up just to say hi. We've both realised we still have feelings for ...

A.   5 May 2010: 1st thing you should ask yourself, is why did you break up in the 1st place. and are you really going to live with yourself knowing you broke up a couple. are you sure he s just not trying to find an excuse to break up with her? whether he leave... (read in full...)

I am 13 and a lot of other girls tell me I should have sex, but I don't want to!

Q.   im 13 years old and a lot of other girls are saying that i should have sex but i havent gone through puberty yet and i heard that dry sex reeeeeely hurts and i want to lose my virgenity when im married to the man of my dreams what sould i do?!...

A.   3 May 2010: dont do anything you dont feel comfortable with doing. i like you idea of waiting for the man of your dreams. do that. you are still wat too young to be considering sex. and its illegal you should really wait and dry sex is really really pai... (read in full...)

What can I do? I think my boyfriend is dying!

Q.   Ok. Well im seventeen and like most teenagers, i have a myspace. Well i met this boy and we began talking a whole lot. We got closer and closer each and every day. I really began to like him. He like acorss the country from me though but we were ...

A.   3 May 2010: there s nothing you can do but just be there for him. if you care for him just support him and help him whenver he needs the help. i really hope the best for both of you ... (read in full...)

Still having nightmares because of the abuse

Q.   when i was 14 (4 years ago) i was abused, and left alone..i was scared and i didnt know what i had done wrong.. i thought i could trust the boy. but i was wrong and stupid. he was 14 too.. i just didnt think things like that went through boys hea...

A.   3 May 2010: i m so sorry for what happened to you,. did you ever tell anyone about what happened to you i really think you need councilling for something like that. you need a professional to help you deal with this. hope you get help... (read in full...)

Why cant he just admit he likes me?

Q.   Men irritate me lol. So I've known this dude for a few years now. I'm not sure if I like him, but I kinda think he likes me. This one time he comes up and stands to the side of me. He just kept staring at me- i kept on waiting for him to stop and to ...

A.   29 April 2010: he just might be shy around you. ask him out for coffee or something and ask him about the strange behaviour he s been giving you. ... (read in full...)

Does watching gay porn mean I am a lesbian?

Q.   hi last night i had a dream i was having lesbian sex with a stunning blonde girl, and lately i have also been masturbating to lesbian porn. im a girl and have a boyfriend who i love been with him for years and im definatly sure of my sexualit...

A.   29 April 2010: nothing makes you gay unless you trully are gay. if you are sure you are not gay, then you are probably just curious of other ways of having sex. dont worry about it... (read in full...)

Is their brother-sister relationship abnormal?

Q.   Brother- Sister situation My boyfriend (27 years old)and his sister (24 years) have a relation that makes me very uncomfortable because- 1. They don't mind walking in to each other when one of them is actually using the bathroom like in the tub...

A.   29 April 2010: i have a brother and we are quite close. let me shed some light, siblings especially if they grew up really close, the boundaries blur. i do a lot of things with my brother that most people would see as unusual. we dont see each other as man... (read in full...)

My girlfriend got so jealous she threw an iron at my head. Should I dump her?

Q.   I have been dating someone for a year now and it has gotten to be very serious. I work the graveyard shift at a resturaunt and a few weeks ago I was very sick and didn't finish my shift. One of the waitresses is a very dear friend of mine liv...

A.   29 April 2010: she s violent. next time it will be a knife. i understand she may have been mad, but if you were in her shoes and you did the same thing she did to you, you would be in jail for domestic violence. ... (read in full...)

What do I do now that me and my ex are talking again?

Q.   Ok i really need some help here, me and my ex have been broken up since Oct. 09 its a lot more complicated then just breaking up but i'll get to the main point. We just recently after 6 months of not talking or seeing eachother have started at...

A.   29 April 2010: there s a reason you guys broke up in the first place. stop all communication with him, ex's can be tricky to deal with. you probably still have feelings for him. but are they enough to hurt your current boyfriend. thats just his ego talking.... (read in full...)

I can't move past the fact he slept with someone else while we were not together.

Q.   Hey guys, I posted a question about my issue here: I have discovered something else now and I'm hoping some of you can help me For those of you who don't want to read t...

A.   29 April 2010: he confessed to you about what happened. that means he felt guilty, that really shows he cares about you and wants to be honest and have no secrets. he even regrets it. i can understand the betrayal you feel, but he had just asked you out only for ... (read in full...)

I want to lose my virginity... so confused!

Q.   Hi,just wanted to get this out as i don't have anyone to talk to.I'm an almost 17 yr old girl and i'm beggining to feel as though i'm going to die alone.I've always told myself that this would never be something I'd worry about,but it's funny how ...

A.   21 April 2010: you should be proud that you still dont have a baby. you shuld have a baby when YOU are good and ready. wait. most of my friends and age mates have kids, i still dont have because i feel i cant afford having one. i was the last to loose my vir... (read in full...)

Is casual sex a bad idea?

Q.   Does anybody think casual sex is a bad idea? I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long there is contraception being used. What do other people think thank you x...

A.   20 April 2010: personally i have no problem with casual sex, but i do think you stil too young to think or engage in something like that. sex,whether casual or not is emotionally taxing, and you may not be emotionally ready. plus you have to think of what mi... (read in full...)

Should I tell my ex I still have feelings for him even though we split up 5 years ago?

Q.   should i tell my old flame that i still have feelings for him, though we broke up 5 years ago. and there has been others after him?...

A.   20 April 2010: he was not my first love, we broke up because i was sent to a boarding school and wouldnt come home for months at end. so i decided to end it as we were nt allowed to have cell-phones or visitors, so it became impossible to talk to the outside worl... (read in full...)

I want to lose my virginity... so confused!

Q.   Hi,just wanted to get this out as i don't have anyone to talk to.I'm an almost 17 yr old girl and i'm beggining to feel as though i'm going to die alone.I've always told myself that this would never be something I'd worry about,but it's funny how ...

A.   20 April 2010: whats the rush, why do you want to have sex, if you dont want a bf. you are still to young to think of havin sex with some random guy. you may end up feeling used or dirty after doing it, it will be your first time and it needs to be with some... (read in full...)

Why am I sleeping with my boyfriend's Dad?

Q.   Hi. I really need some advice here. I've gotten myself into a bad situation. I've been dating my boyfriend for awhile (we are both 18), and when I first met his parents there was a spark between his father and I. Now here we are six months later, ...

A.   20 April 2010: end the relationship with both your boyfriends, how would you feel if your boyfriend slept with your mum. its the same situation. his father is a pervert i know we find ourselves in weird situations, but think of what you are doing to your bf... (read in full...)

My boyfriend simply will not satisfy me in bed.

Q.   Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We have been reasonably happy except for in one regard: sex. He always wants a blowjob, but he never wants to go down on me or even manually stimulate me. He has only gone down on me 3-4 times ...

A.   20 April 2010: that is the most selfish person i have ever heard of, next time he wants you to go down on him, refuse. refuse to have sex with him when he wants it. i mean there s no point for you to have sex with him when he wont help you come. why shud he come... (read in full...)

Unprotected sex for last 3 I pregnant?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been having intercourse without proctection for the last 20days last week i started feeling sick randomly and everytime i get up i feel extremly dizzy makes me feel more sick and have a headache also i started smelling...

A.   20 April 2010: you might be pregnant, but you should go out and buy a pregnancy test kit. even after that you should see the doctor and s/he can test to see if you really are pregnant. if i may ask, why were you havin unprotected sex, at your age you should real... (read in full...)

Boyfriend told me he'd leave if I got pregnant, and I tested positive.

Q.   I am 15 and i done a pregnancy test this morning it was positive.My boyfriend said he would leave me if i ever was what should i do?...

A.   19 April 2010: go to the doctor, get checked for pregnancy and std's. from there if positive tell your parents and talk about the next step. leave that guy out of it. he s not worth it. its time to think about your possible baby and your health. nexy time... (read in full...)

I woke up to see my boyfriend feeling up my sister!

Q.   One nite me my boyfriend of six months and my step sister drank, I could feel something wrong, later that nite we went back to our house watched a movie n I fell asleep, then I woke up to find my my boyfriend feeling up my sister right over me, I ...

A.   19 April 2010: he s sorry for getting caught not for what he did. 1.he lied to you, point blank when you asked him. 2.he felt up your sister 3.your sister, thats perveted to the bone they say a sober man s thoughts are a drunk man s actions think about... (read in full...)

Snooping in fiancee's facebook account made me discover he cheated!

Q.   I recently did a bad thing and snooped in my fiance's facebook account. I read a message in there that said that he had sex with a girl whilst on a boys weekend away. This happened a week after we met (we'd only been on one date) and we weren't ...

A.   19 April 2010: he didnt cheat, but i m more concerned about your snooping. that was wrong and you violated his trust. i suggest you tell him about the snooping and apologise for it. if you are insecure about the relationship you should talk to him about it. te... (read in full...)

Should I call him? Or should I wait for him to take initiative again?

Q.   So I went on a date with a guy for the first time a day ago. We spent literally eight hours together having fun. He bought dinner etc. and he initiated the date to begin with, and I think it took him a lot of courage seeing as he's younger and we ...

A.   19 April 2010: pick up the phone and call him. tell him you had fun the other day and would like to do it again. give him a day you are free. he will jump at the oppotunity. he spent 8 hours with you, he couldnt have done that if he didnt like you. what have you ... (read in full...)

Can people change?

Q.   My husband had a 3 year affair with his niece who was 15 when it started. He was 30. He says she initiated it and that he was to far in to get out, he said she threatened him with suicide if he left her. He was raped by family members as a young ...

A.   19 April 2010: wether or not the niece seduced him is not an issue. he was the grown up and should have done the grown up thing. i m sorry that he was raped as a child and for that he needs serious councelling. you alone cannot help him. you have the safety of ... (read in full...)

In love with 22 year old teacher

Q.   hi, im a 15 year old girl and i really feel i have fallen for my 22 year old teacher. i make excuses for myself, make it okay in my mind since there is only a 7 year difference in age and that if i was 20 then he would be 27 and that isnt weird at ...

A.   19 April 2010: you are still too young, i know you think you are in love. but you are not. this teacher of yours probably sees you as a younger sister. plus he might get into trouble if he does anything with you. now think about this , do you want him to get him ... (read in full...)

How can I mend my broken heart?

Q.   hi, i hope someone can help me get over this as my heart is so so sore, about 35 years ago i fell in love with a guy we were getting married then something happened and we drifted apart 8 weeks later he was married, the night he got married he ...

A.   16 April 2010: so sorry to hear that.but lets face it, if he reall, reslly wanted to be with you, he would have started the divorce proceedings. i think he just wanted to experience what cud have been. and why did it take so long for him to figure it out, why ... (read in full...)

I love her but she's worried about what people would say

Q.   Hello everyone, am jus writing coz i really need sum advice and hope you can help me. I'm an 19 year old lad who recently has been seein a 34 year old woman for the past two months. I have known her for about three months and i first met her when i ...

A.   16 April 2010: you should understand her point of view. u r still a teenager. this just might be a phase for you, or it might be real. she doesnt know. and with her kids in the picture, she doent want to bring someone into their life who might leave after a couple ... (read in full...)

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