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Ready for exclusive relationship!

Q.   I have been seeing this guy for 3 mths and I'm ready for an exclusive relationship. I don't think he's seeing anyone else but I can't be sure. What do I do? I don't want to scare him off. Is it too soon to get to this level? I've been playing it ...

A.   9 March 2009: A sure fire way to find out if he wants to me exclusive is mention in a casual conversation that someone else is interested in you. It could be so subtle like " oh.. So and so said I look hot today in this outfit." Or " so and so asked if I wanted ... (read in full...)

Blowing on a girl's neck?

Q.   What does it mean when a guy makes kissy faces at a girl and blows on her neck and is always like copying her or making fun of her [in a funny way, not to piss her off kinda way]??...

A.   9 March 2009: Body language speaks a lot louder than words. If a person you are with mimics (copies) movements you are doing.. That means they are interested in you. For example.. If you touch your face, or take a drink from a cup and they do the same thing, they ... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to break your hymen before you have sex?

Q.   Hi, I was wondering if it was possible and also safe to break your hymen using something other than a dildo. Like, a hairbrush or something of that sort. I'm not planning on having sex any time soon, but I would like to break before I do have sex, ...

A.   9 March 2009: Why would you want to do that? For 1.. It's not very sanitary to be sticking things in ur vagina.. Other than intended items.. And for 2.. It would be logical to just wait until you choose to have sex. I'm sure it will hurt less than you think, and ... (read in full...)

What is it like to swallow semen?

Q.   What is swallowing like? I want to swallow my bf's semen but I'm kinda afraid because some people say they gag. What do they gag from? Do they gag from the taste? or the semen going in their mouth and down their throat? I have horrible gag ...

A.   9 March 2009: It's gross. I've only done it once or twice and It's horrible. It tastes like hot thick salty mucous. I've asked my BF if he cares that I don't swallow it, and he says no. He perfers to cum in my mouth as apposed to a handjob to finish him off, but ... (read in full...)

Should I be dating him before we have sex?

Q.   So me and and my ex have been talking about having sex and and all that stuff and and i love him very much so i know it would not be a mistake if i did it but i have one question should i be dating him before we do...

A.   9 February 2009: Men.. Or in your case boys, tend to tell girls that they "LOVE" them, simply because they know it will help them get in the panties. I think its a secret class that they pull them aside in highschool and teach them. And being so young and naive most ... (read in full...)

Dating violence

Q.   My boyfrend is very abusive. He constantly beats on me and leaves bruises everytime. Last time he busted open my face. He says he loves me and will protect me. I'm scared he might be putting me into a early grave. I tried to leave numerous times but ...

A.   12 January 2009:  Sad to say.. But I can completely understand ur situation. I met my husband in the 10th grade.. We've been together for 15 years. When I was about ur age, a year or so into our relationship, we had a huge arguement and he hit me. I was devistated. ... (read in full...)

Just come out and need help

Q.   Hi all this is going to sound very pathetic I recently realised I was gay after years of hiding it. I hardly have any friends and the ones I do have are straight I have told them I am gay but I don’t know were to start. I have not got the confiden...

A.   8 January 2009:  If your friends are not suportive of your lifestyle.. Find new friends. And the best place to go is to a gay lounge.. Not a dance club. A lounge is more relaxed, and your less likly to feel uncomfortable. Im sure that if you sit @ the bar order a ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is gay and will not admit it, how do I find balance?

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. He asked me to move in this last summer. One night I woke up and found him masturating to pictures of naked men. It turns out he has his own Webpage on this site called dudesnude.com. I have ...

A.   8 January 2009:  You definatly need to get out of this relationship. I've heard of some pretty unstable situations.. And this one is definatly top 10. Don't you have any family, or friends that can help? Im sure that if you explain the situation to anyone close to ... (read in full...)

It's like a glass splinter stuck in my heart... help?

Q.   I had this best girl friend she was so close to me she knew me better than anyone. As time went by I fell for her and I told her, I described every single little feeling I had for her, she said she only wanted my friendship, she likes me back but ...

A.   8 January 2009:  I know that friends don't date friends ex's. It is an unwritten law amongst women. It only creates issues between friends. You should avoid seeing her for awhile. That should make it easier. Also, you should accept the fact that the frienship u ... (read in full...)

My relationship seems to be going into meltdown at the moment.

Q.   Hi I wanted to get some advice because my relationship seems to be going into meltdown at the moment. My girlfriend and I have dated a for nearly 2 years over the last 3, (we broke up after a year and got back together again last year). The pro...

A.   8 January 2009: Wow.. I would really hate to say this, because you seem like a very nice guy, but it sounds like she doesn't want to be with you anymore. I know from personal experience that usually when a girl avoids a guy, we're postponing a break up. It sounds ... (read in full...)

When is the safest time of the month?

Q.   It will be my girlfriend's first time (not mine) and we don't want to use a condom to make it special. When would be the safest time of the month for us to do this (and I ejaculate inside her). I know no time is 100% safe but I know that it's much ...

A.   28 December 2008:  Using a condom is your best bet to avoid pregnancy, however according to statistics, a woman ovulates 14 days after the 1st day of her period. For example: if her period STARTS on the 1st of the month she will ovulate on the 14th.. And be fertile ... (read in full...)

Did he just want sex and is leading me on?

Q.   I fancied this man for ages and I think he liked me too. We always flirted when we saw each other out and sometimes kissed. But last week I got so drunk and stupidly went home with him and we had sex. In the morning he gave me his number, I didnt ...

A.   27 December 2008:  He's not leading you on.. It seems quite clear. You are a "booty call".. I don't know if you know of this term.. It is someone who is good to have sex with, but not date. He doesn't wanna really talk on the phone, or text, or go on dates.. He ... (read in full...)

Worried that my boyfriend will go off with my best friend if he has a 3some with me and her!!

Q.   I am 15 and me and my boyfriend are having sex reguly,we've been dating for 3 mounths now but the sex is getting boring and my boyfriend asked if we could have a treesome with my best friend, I am ok with having a treesome but I'm worried that he ...

A.   27 December 2008:  You are far too young to be bored with having sex with your bf. You are too young to be having sex period. Let alone bored. A threesome is a bad idea.. Your relationship is far too new to handle anything like that. Im almost positive it won't ... (read in full...)

Do I keep pursuing him?

Q.   Okay.. I've run into a situation that is totaly new to me. I noticed a guy @ work a few months ago, and I thought he was totally hot. However @ the time, I was seeing someone, so I played it cool. Friendly conversation on a few occasions, no ...

A.   27 December 2008:  Well.. I went to work and blew him off.. In a polite way. I sat away from him on our break, and he got up from his "group" to sit with me. So I guess he atleast likes me a little.. Right? I still can't figure him out. He flirts with me, and we ... (read in full...)

Has anyone else experienced a late period after the morning after pill?

Q.   About a month ago my boyfriend and I had sex and the condom split - so obviously I got the morning after pill. A few days after this I started "spotting", I went to the doctor and they said it was fine. But the other day we had sex, however this tim...

A.   27 December 2008:  The morning after pill is concidered an "emergency" contraception. Not birth control. It is for the rare occations that accidents happen. Your old enough to know that even though he didn't ejaculate inside of you.. There is a precumm that comes ... (read in full...)

How do I let him down gently?

Q.   So there is this guy that likes me, alot. but i just dont feel the same way about him. i just dont have the heart to tell him. he is so sweet, and really a cool friend. but honestly i dont see us having a relationship ever. he is the friend type of ...

A.   27 December 2008:  I understand that you don't want to hurt him. He sounds like a good guy, and boys are very fragile @ his age. I would say simply, without being to blunt, that you value your friendship and you don't want to take a chance of ruining it.... (read in full...)

Can men get pregnant?

Q.   I also have another question.. My dad told me to clean the inside part of my ''p-nis''. I cleaned it out, like he said. ( he wasn't watching by the way ) And then a few moments ( when i was cleaning it ) sperm came out. I was in the bath tub, the...

A.   27 December 2008:  Wow.. Can a man get pregnant if sperm gets in his butt??? Im sure Siegfred and Roy would have as many children as they do tigers! And the world would be far too over populated with hairdressers and interior decorators! So im gonna have to say ... (read in full...)

Guy has angel/devil behavior

Q.   Hi! I really need your help. I have been with this mas for 3.5 yrs. We have been broken up for few months. I keep calling. I just cannot make myself stop. One day he is nice. The next he is the devil. We had been talking again for about 3wks and he ...

A.   27 December 2008:  I can imagine how hurt and upset you must be.. Breakups are a tough situation.. Especially when you are the breakup-ee. I can tell you right away, that you should definatly NOT call him anymore. That is the worst thing you can do at this point. ... (read in full...)

Should the next move be up to me?

Q.   Hi there, A few months ago, a friend of mine introduced me to her male friend. She gave him my number a few weeks after this (she told me she was going to, not because I told her to) and a couple days later, I had a text message from him. We cha...

A.   27 December 2008:  By him pretty much inviting you out to his resturant, it seems he already made the next move. You didn't recipricate, so its possible he will think you are not interested. You should have called to thank him for the invatation, and explained that ... (read in full...)

Pregnant without sex?

Q.   Okay this may sound stupid, but I really need to know. Okay... my boyfriend and I have made an agreement to abstain from sex until marriage. We do how ever fool around. I am a virgin so it is very important to me that we don't have intercourse ...

A.   20 December 2008:  It all depends on what your idea of " fooling around" is.. I've got 2 babies by " just the tip" even if he doesn't go all the way, the semen can still get up there and ruin your life.... (read in full...)

B/f never initiates sex unless he's been drinking

Q.   Of course in the beginning things are always hot and heavy but lately my sex life has went to shit. I'm just looking for suggestions of how to boost back up his interest. I'm not looking for the typical "get naked and/or start rubbing up against ...

A.   19 December 2008:  He is probably cheating on you. I know that 99% of men are ready wherever, whenever. The other 1% are in a coma, or havn't filled their Viagra prescription. You should check your man. Let him know your on to his bs and will not hessitate to use ... (read in full...)

How can I please my boyfriend?

Q.   Well me and my boyfriend just had sex for the first time about two weeks ago. Well it was my first time but not his. at first it hurt hen he told me i could get on top. I'm not experienced at all and i dont really no how to ride him or even how to ...

A.   19 December 2008: I find that men usually like to start the day off with a blowjob. There's nothing like morning wood. He will be pleasently surprised, and it will take plastic surgery to remove his smile. If you do this on a regular basis, you can pretty much get ... (read in full...)

What kind of perfume do guys like?

Q.   It's time for me to buy some new perfume. What perfume or scent do guys like girls to wear? Especially guys in their teens through twenties....

A.   19 December 2008: Envy me.. By Gucci. It ROCKS.. Everytime I wear it I get sooo many compliments. Also Romance.. By Ralph Lauren... (read in full...)

He loves to look at me when we have sex, how can I stop being so self conscious?

Q.   Quick question - my boyfriend loves looking at my facial expressions while we're having sex (thus favours me on top, sitting up). However, I feel kind of self-conscious to have him see what I'm doing and then become very aware of how I look! D...

A.   18 December 2008:  It might surprise you that most women are self concious about themselves in one way or another. I guess that's where the saying " we are our own worst critics" probably stems from. I was self concious about my husband looking @ me during oral sex. ... (read in full...)

How to be comfortable with my boyfriend touching me.

Q.   I'm 15 and a virqin and I've never done a lot with a quy but kissinq. Me and my current boyfriend have been toqether for almost three months. I'm qetting really curious about sex and stuff and I'm slowly trying new thinqs. I just got into kissinq ...

A.   18 December 2008: The easiest way to become more comfortable with the situation, is to slow down. Your simply not ready for that. Don't let him pressure you to go further than what you are comfortable with. If he is a good guy.. He will wait. Your worth it. ... (read in full...)

Should I wait for him to grow up more?

Q.   what can i do he is 12 and im 15 i really like him and he likes me too he is friends with my ex and me and my ex broke up 1 month ago but i have liked him for about 4 months but the age is what is killing me and i dont know if i should wait about 6 ...

A.   16 December 2008:  Wow.. It seems like a lot of issues for such a young girl. Im sure you already know that statisticaly males mature at a much slower rate than females. I highly doubt he is mentaly or pysicaly mature enough to even compare to someone your age. I ... (read in full...)

I'm 7 months pregnant and he found someone else!

Q.   Ok.. Its been almost 3 weeks and my boyfriend told me he doesn't want to be with me. He dont know what he wants. We have one 2 1/2 old son and i'm 7 months pregnant with our 2nd. He pretty much kicked us to the curb. He has found someone else. Whom ...

A.   16 December 2008:  I can sympathize with your situation.. Not only are you in a very stressful situation, you are also very hormonal which is like a double whammy. Im sorry that you have to go through this, however I believe that if you keep allowing him to come and ... (read in full...)

Should I ask him to leave his wife of 37 years for me?

Q.   I'm in love with a married man. We've been seeing each other everyday now for the past 6months sex is great.how can I ask him to leave his wife of 37 yrs. No kids involved,but there is a grand child. How can his wife not expect something? ...

A.   16 December 2008: How can they have a grandchild if they have no kids? You might wanna ask him that.... (read in full...)

Went through a phase of listening to my mother masturbate... Help!

Q.   I'm really not sure exactly when it began but some time around 7th grade I became aware that my mother had a drawer full of sex toys and that she masturbated basically every night. I was very conflicted about this as I was both filled with disg...

A.   16 December 2008: I would have to say.. Get over it. A female masturbating is a very arousing situation for anyone. You are perfectly normal and your right.. If you tell her, it would definatly make her uncomfortable. There is no reason to tell her. There should be ... (read in full...)

Wow! I hate being a teen. Am I turning gay?

Q.   Wow, I hate being a teen! I'm 17 and well confused about my sexuality, more inclined to straight but I'm addicted to anal stimulation, oh boy, do I love it, SO normal I use the traditional german sausage and use it as a dick basically I get ...

A.   16 December 2008: Uh.. If ur serious, and I hope im not wasting my time by answering this.. Chances are you are gay. Not turning gay.. But gay. Its one thing to be aroused by anal stimulation, and its another to be so intrested in men and penises. To get off by ... (read in full...)

Is it the whole "chase" thing?

Q.   Hi Cupiters! Question for ya. Ok I really need a guy's point of view..but girls are welcomed to answer as well. I'm getting to know this guy..he seems cool so far. I can tell he's really into me. But is showing his conceited side now... I have...

A.   16 December 2008:  Im not sure how old you are.. But if under 20.. This may not apply to you. It sounds like he might want more attention from you. Maybe your not showing enough intrest in him. You have to realize that men have a short attention span.. If you don't ... (read in full...)

Vaginal sex!

Q.   What does vaginal sex with no clitoral stimulation feel like for a girl? Does it just feel like a massage or does it provide stimulation but just not sufficient enough to climax?...

A.   16 December 2008: Sex for females and sex for men are two totally different things. I find, and I may be only speaking for myself, that the more into a guy we are the more we enjoy the act itself. If we are totaly into him, we relax more and are more likly to have ... (read in full...)

How do I make myself attractive to my husband?

Q.   I don't know what to do. My husband (only been married 18 months) and I hit a rough patch. Basically since i met him ive had bulmia and serious eating issues. he has helped me through them and ive got loads better, im really proud of myself,(...

A.   14 December 2008: I can understand your situation. First of all.. You can wear all the sexy lengerie in the world, but it you are not comfortable with yourself.. As clearly you arnt, being as that you have an eating disorder.. You will not be sexy to him either. You ... (read in full...)

How should I ask a married woman out on a date?

Q.   Hi. I was just wondering what's the best way to ask a married woman at work out on a date. By just asking her whether she wants to go for a drink sounds too casual and disrespectful to me - especially since I've had working relations with her for ...

A.   14 December 2008: If she is married.. That's usually a sign that she is taken. And if you work together, especialy for such a long period of time.. You probably shouldn't go there. There are too many women out there that are available and as a wise man once told ... (read in full...)

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