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*andra78
writes: Okay.. I've run into a situation that is totaly new to me. I noticed a guy @ work a few months ago, and I thought he was totally hot. However @ the time, I was seeing someone, so I played it cool. Friendly conversation on a few occasions, no flirting. Now I am single.. (For about 2 months.. Not rebounding) and I made it known to him that I was, in fact, available. He seemed to show interest in me.. ie. Smiling @ me, "coincidently" being @ places he knows I would be, sitting with me when we have breaks together ect. But he hasn't made any real move to initiate anything between us. Im confused. Im used to men hitting on me (I know were not really supposed to use names.. But I'll say I work @ a place that is internationally known for their uniform.. Orange shorts and tanktops.. Sell a lot of chicken wings. Lol) so I am pretty sure im not unfortunate looking. But he hasn't even asked for my number. Now I find myself, going to sit with him on breaks to see if I can figure him out.. But I can't. I feel like I'm borderline "chasing" him. Not like in a "stalker" kinda way, but he has to know that I'm interested. I guess my question is.. Should I keep pursuing him? Or back off? Do men like a girl to chase them.. Or is it creepy? Like I said.. This is a totally new situation to me.. Please help!
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reader, sandra78 +, writes (27 December 2008):
sandra78 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well.. I went to work and blew him off.. In a polite way. I sat away from him on our break, and he got up from his "group" to sit with me. So I guess he atleast likes me a little.. Right? I still can't figure him out. He flirts with me, and we talk a lot, but he still hasn't asked me out! I think that maybe he is a little shy, but I've done everything but jump on him, to let him know that im into him. Im running out of ideas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Sounds like he either doesn't know if you're girlfriend material, or is single and not looking to be in a relationship.
Yout just need to know what he wants in a relationship and portray yourself as being that, flirt with him. Make him chase you from now on, make fun of him a little, and don't apologise, playfully push him, don't sit with him, sit with your girlfriends every now and then instead, sit with another guy sometimes, little things like that.
Get his number without asking for it as well, say you and some people from work "might be going out this weekend" and that you want to know: "is there some way we can get a hold of you when we get it worked out." Get his number, then don't call him, when you next see him just say it fell through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): back off and see what he does, if you back off you'll be giving him the chance to chase you ya know....
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