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writes:I fancied this man for ages and I think he liked me too. We always flirted when we saw each other out and sometimes kissed. But last week I got so drunk and stupidly went home with him and we had sex. In the morning he gave me his number, I didnt ask for it. A couple of days later I text him and got no reply. I phoned him a bit later on and he apologized and said he wasnt being ignorant but didnt exactly give me a reason why. He asked me to ring him the next day and he would come and meet me. Later on that same day, however, I saw a couple of his friends and they told me that he had told them all about our night together and he even apparently said I was the best girl he had ever slept with. Then a couple of my own friends told me he had gone up to them and asked where I was and stuff. So the next afternoon I didnt ring him as I was ill in bed. I did send him a text though and again he didnt reply. Im just a bit puzzled by his behaviour. OK he might of just used me for sex but why give me his number the next day and also ask me to meet up with him? Then if I text him he just completely ignores me. I know that really I shouldnt be bothering with him as he told people that we had sex and I find that quite disrespectful. I just wanna know why hes leading on me like this? And what should I do?
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reader, sandra78  +, writes (27 December 2008):
He's not leading you on.. It seems quite clear. You are a "booty call".. I don't know if you know of this term.. It is someone who is good to have sex with, but not date. He doesn't wanna really talk on the phone, or text, or go on dates.. He wants to call you when he wants to have sex with you. Now you should decide if your okay with that. if you are, then have fun.. Its tricky though.. You really can't have too strong feelings for him. Verrrry rarly do men marry "booty calls" good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Dear Poster
As difficult and as confusing as this maybe to you right now; keep your distance; don't make contact with him again; let him contact you; let him do the chasing;
I wish I could give you the answers, but it is not that simple; only he can do that and he might not; so for now, let us not speculate as to why he is acting this way. It is not always easy to understand guys and to try and assess them, but, give him rope; if he is really "into" you he will contact you; don't wait around the phone to hear from him; continue with your life; go out with your friends and let him make the contact and do the "chasing".
It it bad taste that he discussed what happened between you two with is friends; but lift your head high, you did nothing wrong; you did not cheat on anybody and are free to do as you wish; you do not have to justify to anybody; neither do you have to admit or acknowledge that it is true; should anybody be so insensitive to raise it in conversation, change the subject.
Give this guy a day or two but don't hang around waiting to hear from him forever; maybe he has personal issues and problems to take care of.
Be yourself and take good care of yourself. I wish there was a shortcut or an easy answer, but unfortunately this is life. I am sure if you keep your distance and become a little more mysterious, you will have the answers(good or bad) soon.
Best wishes, lots of SMILES to you and keep us posted.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 December 2008):
 He might not be leading you on, but perhaps does not really know how to deal with the matter.
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