Just discovered that my girlfriend cheated 18 months ago and I can't stop thinking about it!
Q. I am 21 and my girlfriend is 18. We have dated for almost 4 years and she just admitted to me that she cheated on me about 1 and a half years ago. I can't sleep at night and I am always thinking about it and getting frustrated about it. What should ...
A. 24 October 2005: Hello! Sorry to hear about your situation. A similar situation was posted up a few weeks ago, and I think this advice will help you too. :) I guess there are two things here. 1) do you want to stay with someone who has cheated on you and hurt you ... (read in full...)
Why would I come to "hate" my friend, if we started dating?
Q. I'd like some straight talking advice please! Sorry it's long... I met a man 2 years ago , we went on a date ended up kissing...but then since that date we've not really mentioned the kissing and have become really good friends. Recently he's bee...
A. 24 October 2005: you know what, you're lucky this guy is so honest!! he obviously does really value you as friend. He probably knows that he WOULD start acting like a c*nt to you, cos obviously that is what he has done in the past.
Also, I think it is important to b... (read in full...)
He's too big for me! Or maybe I'm too small for him..?
Q. I have recently started seeing the most amazing guy; however he has a pretty wide penis. It's a lot bigger than I'm used to. We tried to have sex the other night it didn't really fit properly and it was painful. I did not have this problem with my ...
A. 24 October 2005: Hi! I also have had this "problem". My first boyfriend had a very big penis. (infact, I have never had one like it since!!) Recently we got back together for a bit, and weirdly enough it was more painful than when we first went out!! I even had some ... (read in full...)
A different kind of porn problem: Where can I get porn for women?
Q. Im a female of 22 and recently split with my long term boyfriend. I don't want to go out and sleep with everyone so I'm really enjoying my marathon masturbation sessions. The problem is, where do I get hold of porn for females (mags)? Porn for men ...
A. 23 October 2005: Hi there, I know that you want some visual images of big cocks (in which I reckon get your hands on some gay magazines. They might have some men and men image sbut they are also guaranteed to have some big cock action!!)but how about trying erotic ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my boyfriend. If so, where?
Q. I need to know if I should have sex with my boyfriend. I'm 16; he is 18. If I should or decide to, where should we do it at? What do I do physically with him?...
A. 22 October 2005: ummm.... you sound totally not ready to have sex!! If you can't make the decision yourself then you shouldnt do it! I know this sounds real harsh but I think it's the truth. You dont want to have any regrets, so wait til it's gonna be special and ... (read in full...)
What kind of a Christmas present can I get my boyfriend?
Q. Heya, I know this may be a silly question but I was wondering what sort of Christmas present do you get a guy? I mean, me and my boyfriend are both 14 yrs old, and we love each other very much (yes I know, its only young love but this is for real) ...
A. 22 October 2005: Hey what about those kind of nick nacky things that guys love? Often funky/ designer stores sell cool stuff like mini tool sets (really funky, like all silver). Man, I can't think of other examples. Do you know what I'm talking about? Like gadgety ... (read in full...)
Since having the baby 7 years ago, I'm not interested in sex any more...
Q. Dear Cupid, after having a baby 7 years ago I have lost my feeling to have sex. I don't seem to want it anymore. I don't feel normal. Now me and my partner are arguing about it....
A. 22 October 2005: I was listening to the radio last week and a lady was talking about the same problem. She said that reading "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus" really really helped her.
I havent read the book but you could give it a try, it worked for ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated, then lied to me about it. I'm so angry and upset I can't sleep...
Q. Hello , I am 17 and in a very serious relationship but my girlfriend cheated on me a month and half ago when she went away for a weekend. She blames it on being "caught up in the moment". She has been lying to me about the facts and I finally ...
A. 22 October 2005: Hello! Sorry to hear about your situation. I guess there are two things here. 1) do you want to stay with someone who has cheated on you and hurt you and could do it again? and 2) if you do stay with her (which it sounds like you will because you ... (read in full...)
What kind of a Christmas present can I get my boyfriend?
Q. Heya, I know this may be a silly question but I was wondering what sort of Christmas present do you get a guy? I mean, me and my boyfriend are both 14 yrs old, and we love each other very much (yes I know, its only young love but this is for real) ...
A. 21 October 2005: get him something to do with something he's into. Man, it's hard though ay! but at the end of the day don't stress out too much cos if he likes you then he wont mind what he gets. I'm sure he'd appreciate anything that showed that you'd thought ... (read in full...)
Too embarrassed to admit I don't know what a "69" is...
Q. My boyfriend has said that he would really like to do "69" with me, but i dont know what it is and I feel too stupid to ask!...
A. 21 October 2005: PS and for all those who have seen Michael Winterbottom's latest film "9 Songs" you might be interested to know that the film is exactly 69 minutes long, which is probably not a coincidence considering the very sexual nature of the film! I think it ... (read in full...)
Too embarrassed to admit I don't know what a "69" is...
Q. My boyfriend has said that he would really like to do "69" with me, but i dont know what it is and I feel too stupid to ask!...
A. 21 October 2005: 69 refers to the sexual style where both of you are in a position where your heads/ mouths are at the other persons genitals (hence the term "69" which illurstrates the position). Essentially it is where the male is giving the female oral sex at the ... (read in full...)
Why does my relationship of 11 months feel wrong?
Q. Hi I love my bf a lot and he has done nothing wrong to me, but it just does not feel right we have been together about 11 months I im 23 he is 26. We get along fine but I have this feeling inside me that when I am with him it just feels wrong but I ...
A. 21 October 2005: If it feels wrong then why are you there? You should leave. Is it him that you feel "wrong" about? Maybe you could give us a bit more of an explanation of what you mean by "wrong". It's a bit vague! xx... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend doesn't know what he wants from our relationship...
Q. My ex boyfriend rung me yesterday and told me how he was really confused and wanted to meet up with me. I declined as I knew we'd end up in bed together and we'd wake up the next morning and he'd still not know what he wanted from me. He rung again ...
A. 21 October 2005: Yeah, kinda siunds like you should leave him be. Firstly tho- congrats on being so level headed! From what you say you are not putting yourself in a position of getting hurt/ used during this time, so well done! Lots of chicks (and probably me) ... (read in full...)
I've got so little pubic hair, I feel like a school boy!
Q. I have a slight problem in the pubic hair department-I hardly have any and im 23 years of age. I've just started my first sexual experience with a girl. When we got naked for the first time she thought that I had shaved them off and they were slowly ...
A. 20 October 2005: Some women do have preferences with male hair- be it chest ort pubic- but I'd say most don't care. Why should you be self conscious/ ashamed of how your body is? If I were you (and the chick brings it up again) I'd just say "this is how my body it" ... (read in full...)
I love him, but he only thinks to ring me when he wants to meet up!
Q. Hi, I am 19 years old and I've been in an on off relationship with this boy for 5 years. I love him to bits and I think he loves me too in his own way, but the problem is that after we meet up he doesn't ring or text until he feels like meeting up ...
A. 20 October 2005: You know what? I think you have to leave. It kinda sounds like you know that already, but you're not sure you can do it. Well you can! You're young!! Go play the field a bit and find someone who CAN communicate and who CAN make an effort. When you ... (read in full...)
My partner doesn't like sex around the time of my period. It makes me feel like I'm unloved!
Q. My partner and I have different views about having sex just before a period or just after. This makes me very nervous as my period is very hard to keep track of and he makes me feel dirty and unloved because of this. Sometimes I am at my highest ...
A. 17 October 2005: I was with a guy once who was the same. I suggested we have sex during my period and he was like "ew gross! I'd have to wear like two condomns!" But none of my friends have problems with it with their boys :(. But for some guys it is a thing. I say ... (read in full...)
Both virgins, both agreed to have sex. Now she says she can't...
Q. I have met this girl three months from now. We love each other so much. The problem is that we have are all virgins. We agreed to have sex but she always say we are going to do it and now she says she can't. What do I do? ...
A. 17 October 2005: Is she giving you a reason why not? Surely if you ask her and she tells you why then you are in a much better position to go forward from. Don't put any pressure on her, just say that you would like to know why she changed her mind and is there ... (read in full...)
Keeping tallies on sex and orgasm...
Q. I told my wife that 3 of my ex girlfriends would write down on a calender everytime we had sex. They would put a check mark if they got off. They would put a circle if they gave me a bj. My wife things that was weird and thinks no girls do that, ...
A. 17 October 2005: I've never heard anything like that before in my life! It does sound completely weird and pointless to me, but hey, whatever turns you on.... (read in full...)
Don't know if I'll ever get my ex back, now that I've slept with him...
Q. help! I am miserable. About three months ago I split with my boyfriend because we were both a bit overwhelmed with our situation of living together straight away because of unavoidable practical reasons. He broke it offf though saying we wwould '...
A. 17 October 2005: Wow, reading that was like reading something I could've written, and I'm sure a lot of other chicks out there identify with what you're going through. Sadly, there is nothing you can do and realisticly it is not gonna work out. Ex's are ex's for a ... (read in full...)
Am I too young?
Q. Do you think 13 is too young to have a boyfriend? ...
A. 16 October 2005: I was 19 when I had my first real boyfriend (and sex... which i hope you're not thinking of for ages!) and sometimes I even feel that was too young!
Have fun with boys as friends, that is important, but don't let anything happen til you're way olde... (read in full...)
Why do I keep comparing my looks to his ex's looks?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for nine months now. We have both been in previous relationships that have lasted more then a year. His was a while ago and he still sees his ex. I have seen pictures of her and I don't think that she's prettier ...
A. 15 October 2005: No Way! Don't even go there about his Ex!! For goodness sake, there are reasons that peoples ex's are peoples ex's and there are also big reasons whyyou don't go into your partners ex history!! If you have a strong self identity and confidence then ... (read in full...)
He took advantage of our arrangement by sleeping with another girl AND me...
Q. I dated my boyfriend a little over a year, but ended it because I didn't want to commit to him. Later, we decided to become "friends with benefits", if you get my drift. Then he started seeing another girl at the same time. I only recently ...
A. 15 October 2005: Probably the hardest part of this for you in realising that you have been taken for a ride. Something similar happened to me and it really hurt. You kinds can't help but have expectations, aye? I went to a party with my ex boy (we were both just ... (read in full...)
His ex keeps staring at me when we're at the gym. It makes me uncomfortable!
Q. I work out at the rec centre and the gym is right above the pool. There are huge windows so the people in the pool area are able to see the people working out in the gym, which is upstairs. The problem is that my ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend sw...
A. 15 October 2005: The big thing here is for you to keep your INTEGRITY! She is trying to assert her dominance/ scare you whatever. It may get to you, but don't let her see that. Just keep your head high and focussed on what you're doing. You could even smile back- ... (read in full...)
Can I reform my abusive and violent guy?
Q. I've been dating a man for 1 and a half. I love him dearly and he claims to do the same. However he is very abusive mentally and sometimes physically. I recently called the police and he is currently in jail for asulting me. He took no accou...
A. 15 October 2005: Get out!! I think you know that that's what you need to do. Now is a good chance while he is out of the way. Good luck.... (read in full...)
The guy at work has a girlfriend, but I think there's a mutual interest between us...
Q. There is this guy at work. He is one of those rare, nice looking, amazing personality guys. I have noticed lately that he looks at me differently. When I walk in a room, he is looking at me, when he walks past my desk, he stares, smiles or ...
A. 15 October 2005: If this guy is interested in you, then do you really want to be with him if he is obviously willing to cheat with you on his girlfriend? (unless he breaks up with her first?). I believe that nothing great or beautiful can be born out of hurting ... (read in full...)
I think I fancy the teacher. What's worse is she's female, like me!
Q. I'm only 13 and I feel really bad because I seem to fancy my teacher and she is a woman. I go to a girls' school and rumours fly fast so I don't dare say anything to my friends because I would feel extremely embarassed and I could be overheard. W...
A. 15 October 2005: Hi There, I went to a girls school too (although I don't know whether it makes a difference or not!) and I also had crushes on my teacher. Don't worry about! It's so easy to fall in love with some of your teachers. They are so charasmatic and ... (read in full...)
Why would God let me fall in love with a guy who's scared to talk to me?
Q. I've been trying to get this guy's attention for over 3 years, and at times I think he likes me, but other times I don't. I'm very confused on why God would let me fall in love with him. I know I have deep feelings here, because one, I've never fe...
A. 13 September 2005: maybe god doesnt exist sweetie? And if it does... maybe you have got to take a bit more responsibility for yourself. You and god are a team, you fell in love with this guy too, not just god.... (read in full...)
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