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writes: I have recently started seeing the most amazing guy; however he has a pretty wide penis. It's a lot bigger than I'm used to. We tried to have sex the other night it didn't really fit properly and it was painful. I did not have this problem with my previous boyfriend our sex life was fine. Is there anything I can do in order to make things better? I never thought I had a small vagina until now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Hi, I had a similar problem with my boyfriend when we first met but rest assured you'll be OK in time. It all just takes a little getting used to. A good partner makes all the difference. Our problem was not so much that Im small (which I am) but that he's really HUGE!. The main thing for me is learning to relax and let go. We use foreplay for awhile to help me relax and get my pussy to open up. I find that the more oral sex I get, the more I relax. His licking me to orgasm makes me much looser after I cum. Also, the sensation of his dick in my throat seems to effect my pussy in the best way. The deeper I take him down my throat the more I relax and open up too. Its been over a year now and I'm loving every inch of it. I've even learned to take it up the ass but for that we REALLY go slow. Still its a wonderful feeling to take him every way I can. I'm so in love and glad I met him. He's helped me every step of the way by being so kind and patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): this is funny reading all these responses - i had sex with a guy for the first time yesterday and could not believe i was too small for him - he is huge - that had never happened before - i even bled for a short while and amazingly enough today i started my period. thanks to everyone who posted encouraging solutions - i love sex and these suggestions sound way better than just clenching my teeth and bearing it like a brave girl - it will help him to knowing i am actually enjoying it and not hurting
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005): either way, it doesnt' sound fun. talk to him? maybe there's other ways to pleasure each other. try more foreplay: i know for a fact that i stretch out more when i get enough foreplay, and it doesnt hurt and my guy fits a lot better. other than that... not much you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): I was a bit tight when I first started to see my boyfriend, he is quite big. I had only had 2 other partners for a few months each time before him. When I did start sleeping with my boyfriend it was very painful for us both, but plenty of lube and taking it slow really helped, we were at like normal afer a few weeks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2005): After the third time your vagina will fit itself to the penis of your currnet mate. Don't woory
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reader, pops +, writes (24 October 2005):
The stress of having a new sex partners probably made you tighten up. Spend more time getting to know your new bf, and play with him. Laugh with him as you are engaging in foreplay before having intercourse. Do relaxation exercises, such as a long stretch, where you tighten all your muscles consciously, and hold your breathe for five to ten seconds, then relax, let out the air, and go limp. That will also relax your PC muscles if you remembered to tighten them when you went into the stretch. Once you are relaxed and loose, you should have no problem with the size of his cock.
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reader, not again +, writes (24 October 2005):
Hi! I also have had this "problem". My first boyfriend had a very big penis. (infact, I have never had one like it since!!) Recently we got back together for a bit, and weirdly enough it was more painful than when we first went out!! I even had some slight tearing. I was in the mood and all, but I think the main problem was that he had no idea how i was feeling (in terms of there being any pain or anything to worry about) so he was just going at it like normal. I think if I was to be in that situation again then the two things that I would do would be to use lubrication and also to experiment with different positions. Doggy style and chick on top was fine, it was more the missionary that hurt I think? Cant quite remember. Anyway, I hope it all works out for you. Oh, and of course... relax!! I know as much as you are relaxed and enjoying yourself, there can be a little trepidation when you know something that big (and posibly painful) is coming at you!! Catch 22. So yeah, relax, lube and positions and you should have no problems. good luck!!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (23 October 2005):
 You don't have a small vagina. A baby can fit it's way out of there one day so I think a willy will be ok! Just relax, the muscles clench when you're nervous or anxious. Also, make sure you're 'in the mood' enough before you start trying to have sex, the lubrication will help it fit in better.
I'm sure this will work out, things can be weird when you first get intimate with someone new. Don't let it bother you and jump stright back in there! And think yourself lucky, you've got half the girls reading this jealous wishing they could say their guys' thing was so huge!! Haha, good luck.
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reader, pope +, writes (23 October 2005):
Lift youre knees up to the air and close them together he puts his penis in and its dusnt go in to far so keep doin that untill u widen
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