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writes: I need to know if I should have sex with my boyfriend. I'm 16; he is 18. If I should or decide to, where should we do it at? What do I do physically with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, emoish_crayon +, writes (21 November 2005):
Hey
As a virgin myself i really don't have much advice i can give you judging on experiance but i think that as long as it feels right go for it, dont listen to the people going on about 'the one' as the only way your going to learn is from experiance, if it turns out that this guy isnt all that then you can move on but if you have sex and it all goes great then congrats he's oviously serious about you
take care xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): your best off doing the missionary position in a bed 1st. then try new things when your more confident.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): This is so simple. When you first meet, it should be romantic. So in bed would be best. Dim lights, candles, roses on the bed etc. Try chocolate, it's a very good thing to turn you on during sex! Find some aphrodisiacs like oysters. They work a treat! Set the room up with pinks and reds, lay back and enjoy a romantic evening for two!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2005): Whatever you decide to do...use a condom...its so easy when your nervous and inexperienced to be persuaded into not using one, and quite frankly if the guy doesn't want to use one tell him to get lost! i was so nervous on my first time that i got pursuaded into not using one and boy what a mistake that was...i caught not one but 2 std's off the guy (luckily curable with anti-biotics and other embarassing treatment) which was quite frankly disgusting. And you wouldn't have thought it, as he was good looking and charming..obviously just a complete slapper of a bloke.
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (23 October 2005):
 Please wait. I really think that since women mature sexually so much later that you will regret it if you do it too soon. It will not be all romance and fun as you might imagine and your heart will be that much more open to deep heart ache.
I have never met a woman who wished she had had sex sooner and all wished they had waited longer; usually much longer. Boys have the luxury of not "internalizing" sex. Most, if not all women, know it means so much more.
Just about all guys want to be serious with girls who use good judgement here. They want to screw and leave those who are too easy. Not fair, but for some reason, they see girls who jump to the sack as the "type" who usually do. That is often a deal breaker for them since they want "The One" to be special. Now, studies show that evey time a woman breaks up with a sex partner, she comes away wounded and is more and more prone to depression. The gift you have is special and you are the keeper. They must prove themselves and until you know for sure what you are looking for, you cannot be sure how you or he will react to such a huge change in the relationship.
Good luck. He'll give you the space you need if he is worth it. Please wait and you will be glad you did.
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reader, QOTU +, writes (23 October 2005):
 You are DEFINITELY not ready if you can't make the decision yourself. I'm sorry if that's insulting, but it's the truth - Sex is meant to be something special (it's often thought of just a way to feel good - very misleading), so wait for a time in your life when it feels just *right*. There's nothing better than doing it for the first time, at the right moment, with the person you care most about. (-_-" I /know/ it sounds gushy, but it's the total, full truth.)
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reader, lulu +, writes (22 October 2005):
i totally agree with 'not again'.if you cant decide then you dont want to. you will know when the time is right and you wont have any hesitations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2005): It's obvious that you're not ready. There is plenty time for you to be having sex when you are older and I think its better that you concerntrate on growing up!
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reader, not again +, writes (22 October 2005):
ummm.... you sound totally not ready to have sex!! If you can't make the decision yourself then you shouldnt do it! I know this sounds real harsh but I think it's the truth. You dont want to have any regrets, so wait til it's gonna be special and you KNOW you're ready. By all means keep playing around and getting more intimate, this way you will have more idea what to do "physically" with him.
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