Does thinking too much leave you paranoid ? How do I stop this over thinking all the time?
Q. dear cupid I am in my teens and am 16 years old and i seem to be worrying and thinking about things every single day and i dnt know how to stop, i sometimes cry with because of thinking to much, my main concern now is "does thinking too muc...
A. 8 December 2006: This will probably give me negative ratings, but people who are smarter, brilliant mines who tend to think more have more chances of having something mentally wrong with them. In my life, there has been many times where people studied so hard they ... (read in full...)
I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have sex with my good gal mate...is this normal?
Q. can a guy and a lass really just be mates?? im really good mates with this girl but i sometmes wonder what it woud be like to sleep with her. is this normal??...
A. 8 December 2006: of course it is, apparently its a fact that guys can't stop thinking about sex... or is it? i heard some weird fact that a guy thinks of sex an average of every 5-7 minutes during adolescence... (read in full...)
I get so shy around people i have feelings for - help!
Q. why do i get so shy around people i like!! and just make a fool or myself lol when i dont have feelings for someone im so much more open! its really annoys me! anything you can do to feel more comfortable around people you actualy have feelings for?...
A. 7 December 2006: a looooooooooooooot of people have this problem, including me, its just how you deal with it that matters.... (read in full...)
I sent him a loving poem and now since he's read it...he seems distracted. Did I do something wrong?
Q. a few nights ago me and my bf were talking online and i sent him a poem that i wrote for him it was very loving and i spent ages writing it. he read it and went silent for a while so i changed the subject and when we said bye to each other he said i ...
A. 7 December 2006: im surprised the only people responding are females, think about the possibility that you may have come on a little too strong? guys don't like girls that are clingy or anything like that, not that you are being that, but just another point of view ... (read in full...)
It's too big and just doesn't seem to fit... What can we do?!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been having trouble when it comes to having sex.It hasn't happened yet but this isn't for lack of trying.It's my first time and he has quite a big penis.Because of this it's too hard for him to insert his penis in me.My ...
A. 5 December 2006: masturbate... that will help... (read in full...)
My husband says I make him feel dirty and bad because he enjoys looking at porn
Q. Hello, I have the most wonderful man in my life. We have been together for over 5 years and we were just married in October of this year. We get along great and enjoy each other's company. There is nothing I can't say to him and he seems to feel...
A. 5 December 2006: i'm sorry to say this, i'll get negative ratings, but women are way too sensitive to the porn issue. listen to martini, it is just one of the things that annoy me.. they don't understand that we as men function differently... (read in full...)
I'm confident socially with friends but I am too nervous when asking a girl out!
Q. I'm 19, and I'll admit I'm fairly confident when talking to new people, and I don't cower down if someone has a go at me. Yet I'm always too nervous to ask a girl out. Is this normal?...
A. 5 December 2006: shanghai... hahaha... i too have my problems, when i know that a girl completely likes me and flirts heavily with me i still don't have the courage to ask her out cuz of doubts... and usually i wait until she makes it pretty darn obvious.. or until ... (read in full...)
How do u know when a teenage boy has an erection?
Q. hi how do u know when a teenage boy has an erection?...
A. 4 December 2006: ahaha funny answer martini. basically if they have this giant thing sticking up from below their pants at the crotch area. but make sure you distinguish an erection from a giant fold in the jeans, which is there a lot of the time... (read in full...)
Do guys like the first move to be by girls?
Q. I like this guy but he is going out with another girl off and on. I have become friendly with him and want to make more out of the relationship. Should I make a move? In general do guys like the first move to be by girls? How can I say what I want ...
A. 4 December 2006: HECK YEA THEY LIKE IT WHEN GIRLS MAKE THE FIRST MOVE! there are many reasons for that but i won't get into it here. make sure he's a nice guy though! i would suggest talking to him about food or movies, and if he's into movies, ask him if he's seen ... (read in full...)
She said she loves me and really fancies me---help..I don't know what to do??
Q. Help!! This girl fancied me at a mates party and she tried to call me all the time. She called me and said she loves me and that she fancies me, I don't know what to do. She smiles at me all the time and looks at me a lot. What's going ...
A. 4 December 2006: geez how harsh lol. basically she likes you, but shes coming on a bit too strong. up to you what you wanna do, if you like her too then tell her you like her too but tell her she's coming on a bit too strong.. with the i love you stuff. if you don't ... (read in full...)
We were dating, but now he has a new GF and says he hates me - I did nothing wrong!
Q. I was best friends with a guy for about a year until we started dating and we grew extremely close over the time that we were dating. He, however, had to move away due to the death of his mother and it became rare that I saw him. Hearing things from ...
A. 4 December 2006: sounds like it was just a front for his new gf, but i also think that he's been some rough emotional times and messes up people's feelings, it becomes confusing.... (read in full...)
She has given me unconditional love but there are parts about her I just don't like...
Q. If I have someone's unconditional love, should I be "blinded" by feelings ? To get a bit more into details, I'm in a relationship with a woman that trully loves me for who I am and I know she would just do anything for me. I do love her too,...
A. 4 December 2006: oh that's a tough one, i'm not sure what to make of it but i think you should realize that when you let these feelings of things you don't like stay there, it will grow.. it also seems you're not satisfied. hopefully more people will post advice but ... (read in full...)
He ejaculates when masturbating but when we have sex...what can we do?
Q. my boyfriend can only ejaculate when masturbating but never when we have sex im scared as we would really like to have children of our own one day an we are beginning to think this may never happen can you help!!...
A. 21 November 2006: have him masturbate enough to be at climax so he can do it into you very easily when he starts to have sex with you, it's almost inevitable. Also, consider yourself lucky, for if you wnat to have sex for enjoyment your bf will last a HELL OF A LONG ... (read in full...)
He claimed he was too drunk to remember our night of sex..then worries whether I'm on the pill or not! Think he likes me?.
Q. I spent the nite with a male who has been a friend of mine for two years. We had sex and he claims he was too drunk to remember it despite the fact that the very next day he freaked out and continually asked me if I was on the pil.Do you think he ...
A. 21 November 2006: i think if you reminded him what he did and he was really out of it, he might just be worried he got you pregnant. based on what you wrote it is entirely possible that he doesn't like you at all but just wants to make sure he doesn't get in trouble ... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't want to be intimate with me!
Q. I have a boyfriend who is 35. We have been together for 8 and a half months. I like to be intimite quite a bit but he doesnt, he says its because his tired or that i pressure him too much. He is also very insecure and blames me alot for cheating ...
A. 2 November 2006: there probably is a reason.. and a good one.. this person seems like a good guy. i mean come on, what guy would pass up free sex?? anyways.. i think he might be trying to be a gentlemen and not do it if you're a lot younger than him and he could get ... (read in full...)
My four friends had the same dream as me!
Q. Hi i keep on having this dream about me and my ex boyfriend having a baby boy. Now my lucky number is 7. I had this dream 8 times already. My other four friends also had the same exact dream on the same night and they described the child it was ...
A. 2 November 2006: means nothing. they are prolly playing a joke on you. although some interesting things happen, this just doesn't seem like the case.
i also dreamed that arnold shwarzenegger would terminate me if i didnt' vote for him... (read in full...)
I think my penis is too small and my erection may be abnormal - thoughts?
Q. I am a 16 year old male, nearly 17 and my voice has broken and i have a small amount of hair on my body. But i think that my penis is too small and my foreskin doesn't retract when i get an erection. Is this normal?...
A. 2 November 2006: if it is a tight foreskin problem, after a year or two of masturbation it should be normal.. it has happened to me, embarssing to admit it but i fixed it that way.. LOL! i was kinda scared at that time too... (read in full...)
I came to work hungover and this guy I liked, asked if I pulled someone else...does this mean he's interested in me?
Q. I really like this lad I work with but the trouble is I don't know if he feels the same. We've been working together for almost a year now and we have a laugh together and can talk for ages on the most random topics. He always seems to make time to ...
A. 30 October 2006: just talk to him ! nothing bad will happen!... (read in full...)
I don't want to put the pressure on him about me moving, so what should I do???
Q. Guys - I will try to keep this short. Any help is so much appreciated. So, I have posted before about my boyfriend who lives in Ireland. I live in the UK. WE have been together two years and the general consensus is that I will one day move to ...
A. 30 October 2006: i think that's a bit harsh (the last comment).. they both decided to lay off the pressure... (read in full...)
what is the best way of asking?
Q. I am going to a dance and if I end up dancing with a guy who is not that close to me now and want to go out with him or to talk to him again what is the best way of asking?...
A. 27 October 2006: thanks for your response to my post, my advice here is that if you find a guy that looks like he is interested in you... (you can tell if he has some interest).. find a time alone with him to ask if he wants to hang out sometime, easy as pie! As a ... (read in full...)
Girls and butterflies
Q. From my life experience there are two types of girls that I have liked: 1. I get butterflies in my stomach when I'm near them and I just don't know what to say because I'm so nervous... but I really relaly like them, and that feeling is something ...
A. 27 October 2006: thanks, advice helped a lot, expecially bellachic... (read in full...)
Are you single? Please reply here!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....
A. 23 October 2006: it would be an interesting addition... (read in full...)
I was away 6 months. Now I don't understand whether he wants me or not!
Q. Hi! I am a 22 year old girl and I have been single for over two years now. After lots of dating I finally started to hit it off with this cute, smart, and loving guy. I was very happy and excited. The problem was that I had to leave town to study ...
A. 14 August 2005: never wrote or called for 6 months? that's a long time. how come you never wrote or called to him? well yea it is suspicious that he didnt write or call to you though.. i think you should ask him hwat is going on, and whether he still likes you ... (read in full...)
My familiy's fears and anxieties are causing a rift between us...
Q. Hi, I am 23 yrs. old guy and am having problems with my relationship with my family. I come from a middle-class family and have been brought up in a very secure environment. As i have moved on with my life, my career is taking me away from my famil...
A. 14 August 2005: well i personally think you do need to explore life. i think they should support you but even though they're just trying to protect you they're overprotective. i think that you should do what you think will be best for you, to be on your own in life ... (read in full...)
I'm receiving threats to tell about my secret relationship...
Q. Hi I am 23 muslim girl from Leicester living with my parents. Nowadays I am recieving withheld number calls and threatening text messages. I had a relationship without my parents' acknowledgement. Now a guy knows. He has threatened to ki...
A. 14 August 2005: threatening to kidnap you? you really need help, this is serious. you need help definitely, i think you should do wahtever you think will be safer for you and what will be best for the future, police of parents, but once my friends played a prank on ... (read in full...)
Hate myself for cheating in my relationships! So how do I stop?
Q. I have a really bad reputation for cheating- I've cheated on pretty much every guy I've been with since I was about twelve. Usually it's just kisses but a couple of times I gave oral sex to guys who weren't my boyfriend, even when there was nothing ...
A. 14 August 2005: self-control.. just promise yourself to never do it again.. and everytime you have an urge to just remember your promise. i wonder what the reason for cheating all the time is. maybe you aren't completely satisfied with what you have already? ... (read in full...)
His ex was so much prettier, cooler and more interesting than me!
Q. I've been with this guy for about 2 years now but I can't seem to shift the overwhelming jealousy I have over him and his ex girlfriend. She's a lot prettier, cooler and more interesting than me. Recently my boyfriend and I went to a bar and she ...
A. 14 August 2005: personally i dont think he should have left you there all on your own :(.. but before that, hes with you because he likes you and who you are. he may not think his ex is prettier cooler and more interesting... (read in full...)
My friend said our bond was "sick". He's 90 and I'm his carer.
Q. I work as a carer for a 90 year old man in his home. We have, over time, formed a special bond and are in love. He wants to get married but I can't face telling my family as I recently confided in a friend who said the relationship was 'sick' and ...
A. 14 August 2005: In my opinion, i think you would feel a lot better in the future if you just think of him as a friend and not a lover. I bet that in the future, many years later, you will laugh at yourself. Trust me, you will want someone close to your age. there ... (read in full...)
The new guy and I have lots in common, but I still have feelings for the ex!
Q. OK, I went out with this guy for a week, then he told me he would rather be friends. I was upset, because I really like him and moved on. I met another guy, and we have so much in common! But I feel bad because although he hasn't officially asked me...
A. 14 August 2005: well, as a guy i think it might be that hes shy or afraid to tell you that he likes you again since hes the one that ended that one week you had. i once stopped seeing a girl and when i felt that i really liked her i was afraid to tell her... (read in full...)
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