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I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have sex with my good gal mate...is this normal?

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Question - (8 December 2006) 6 Answers - (Newest, 9 December 2006)
A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

can a guy and a lass really just be mates?? im really good mates with this girl but i sometmes wonder what it woud be like to sleep with her. is this normal??

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A female reader, bonym United Kingdom +, writes (9 December 2006):

bonym agony auntI think what you are experiencing is normal, but you need to control your desires thats all. I mean, I have this weird relationship with a male friend, he told me he is attracted to me, and yes he would like to sleep with me, but he says he can control how he feels and we can just be friends. It is weird being friends with someone who you know has feelings for you and deeo down I admit, I have feelings for him, but my scenario is different because I am with someone else.

The point I am making, is that a man and a woman can JUST BE FRIENDS, however if there are obvious sexual feelings, it can be hard to ignore them. Talk to her and see how she feels, you dont have to blurt it out, but try and see how she feels about you. xXx

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A female reader, AngelofLove United Kingdom +, writes (9 December 2006):

AngelofLove agony auntIt is normal to have feel atracted to your friend, but if it is only lust, best to leave it as platonic.

Unless you fall in love with her and she feels the same, not worth jeopardising your friendship.

xxx

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A male reader, Abacadaba United Kingdom +, writes (8 December 2006):

Abacadaba agony auntyep perfectly normal, be careful though, dont let your thoughts ruin your friendship, enjoy them by yourself :)

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A male reader, moomoomoo United States +, writes (8 December 2006):

moomoomoo agony auntof course it is, apparently its a fact that guys can't stop thinking about sex... or is it? i heard some weird fact that a guy thinks of sex an average of every 5-7 minutes during adolescence

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (8 December 2006):

eddie agony aunt

I think it's normal to have it cross your mind. I think it's much more common for men than women but in both cases it's a variation of "normal". Don't forget though, these are thoughts, and yours to enjoy. That doesn't mean she feels the same way. Sometimes the more you think about something, the more you read into it, and begin to see things that are not really there. In other words, you think about her, she's nice to you, not knowing your thoughts, you read this as interest on her part. That might not be true.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2006):

of course this is normal thats why there is no such thing as male and female being mates,one of you or both of you will always feel that sexual attraction sooner or later

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