My friend's fiancee wants to have sex with me
Q. Heyyy so I'm up here in California for the next couple of years and I've met TONS of people but here's the problem, my friends fiance wants me to have sex with her. I've known this guy for about a month now but she's VERY persuasive and insistent on ...
A. 9 June 2012: No matter how tempting it is, do not fool around with your friend's fiancé! How would you like if he would do the same to you? "she's not sure if she wants to be with this guy for the rest of her life..." That is already a very bad sign if one of ... (read in full...)
My friend is betraying my trust by telling my secrets to our other friends!
Q. Help!! One of My best friends keeps getting me to tell her secrets and then tells some of my other friends!! I feel like i can't trust her anymore but she is having a hard time right now (shes having counselling) and I don't want to talk to her ...
A. 9 June 2012: If you have some alone time with her, just mention that you would appreciate if she kept your secrets to herself because you value her friendship and thought you can trust her.
That being said, now you know that you cannot trust her with your sec... (read in full...)
My best friend walked in on b/f and I having sex and now its awkward
Q. My boyfriend and I were at home together last night and we both got really quite turned on and horny so ended up having sex on our sofa. I was going down on him- we were both naked and my best friend and my boss walked in on us. Just to clarify, my ...
A. 9 June 2012: Give it a few days before things go back to "normal", you will probably be laughing about this in the future. If anything, I would be more embarrassed about my boss walking in on me!... (read in full...)
I walked out of the room, came back and my friend was having sex with the guy that I like!
Q. so there was this boy who liked me and i felt the same way but we never really acted on it.so recently i invited him over to my place and we ended up sleeping together.so later my bestfriend came over and we were just chilling when i went to get ...
A. 9 June 2012: Rethink about how you value that guy and your "best friend". Being drunk is not an excuse for everything and this makes the guy even more of a scumbag for taking advantage of a girl who's not clear in her head. ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is secretly trying to get me pregnant!
Q. im 16 years old and me and my bf (17) have been dating for 5 months now and almost 2 months ago i lost my v card to him. and i think he is secretly trying to get me pregnant becouse he is always saying how bad he wants to be a dad and he doesnt want ...
A. 9 June 2012: Have a clear talk with your boyfriend and explicitly tell him you do not want any children at the moment or in the near future (if he loves you, he will understand). You can also tell him some reasons why you do not want to have children at such a ... (read in full...)
The ultimate "one-sided relationship
Q. I'm a 35 year old male and Financial consultant. My girlfriend is 25. We have a beautiful two year old daughter and have been dating and living together for the past three years. She traveled to NY three times since we began dating. Hasn't worked ...
A. 30 May 2012: She is taking you for granted and doesn't understand her chance. People like that usually only realize what a gem their partner is when it's too late, after their partner has no more patience left in only giving and giving and never receiving ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 3 days and b/f already wants sex
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating since the 26th of May and he is already ready to have sex. He told me he didn't want to have sex and then leave me. He never lied to me before and we we're the best of friends before this. What should I do? I ...
A. 30 May 2012: 3 days seems quite quick. If he's serious with you and cares how you feel then he will accept to be more patient. "He told me he didn't want to have sex and then leave me" - Saying words are very easy to do. Stand your ground. ... (read in full...)
He sent a text saying 'sweet dreams to the sexy one'. What would you make of this?
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend and i always txt each other good nite and it's usually cute and personal,but last nite he texts nite nite sweet dreams he always says those words first, but then he added, to the sexy one. Maybe i'm being silly but that t...
A. 30 May 2012: it's nothing bad, maybe he was just trying to do something different and more edgy then "cute". If this is the first time he does it, then i would say not to overthink it and let it go (it's just an sms after all and will sound very needy. it's not ... (read in full...)
My friend likes the guy I'm dating and told me not to get with him, so how do I tell her that we are together?
Q. Last month I ran into a guy I went to high school with that I have not seen in ten years. We exchanged phone numbers an have been seeing each other ever since. We have a lot in common and I have never been happier. My problem is that a week before I ...
A. 30 May 2012: Hi, this is a very tricky situation. I understand from your friend's point of view that she is acting jealous/possessive about this guy, however they had their chance (especially if this was ages ago) and this guy made it clear they are not ... (read in full...)
Do you just know when you have found the one?
Q. Hello, I think this is a question for people who have been in long term relationships that have lasted. How do you know when they are the one, or is their such a thing as the one or just someone special you having feelings for. i believe that t...
A. 30 May 2012: I would say that you know it's the One, when it feels "natural" and "right" to be with that person. You are yourself with that person and can picture the both of you on the long run and evolving in life together (wedding, children, retirement stage ... (read in full...)
Which guy should I choose? The one who is on and off with his ex? Or Mr nice guy?
Q. Hi, I really need advise for this relationship to come to conclusion.. I've met this guy for almost a year when he used to be with his ex, they were having problems during the time we met. We seemed "click" and we're happy when we're together. ...
A. 29 May 2012: Guy #2 sounds like a keeper, whilst Guy #1 just doesn't love you as much as you love him (as he can't put his ex behind).
However what if you go for neither? Guy #1 is still not over his ex and even if you speak highly of Guy #2 he's apparent... (read in full...)
My Indian family, my Pakistani ex gf who still lives at my place, my American girlfriend who's treated like an outsider and me...its a wreck!!
Q. I'm 21 years old, turning 22 this year. My girlfriend is 20, and turning 21 this year. We've been together for 3 years, and I want to ask her to marry me within the next week or so. Here's the problem. I'm Indian, and she's American. My p...
A. 29 May 2012: Moving out is the best option and will strengthen your relationship with your girlfriend. At least you will see less of the ex-gf too and your parents will take you less for granted.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be stuck with somebody?
Q. is it possible to be stuck with somebody? is my question to you guys. ive been with a guy for 5 yrs and we are going no where in life. im getting my life together on my own i just recently got my GED and im 3 classes shy away from getting my a...
A. 29 May 2012: You are certainly not stuck with him nor his family. Its up to you to make a decision of what you want in your life and how you want your future to turn out, but i understand this is a very difficult decision to take as you have been with your bf ... (read in full...)
He left me for a younger woman but he still expects me to be kind to him.
Q. my husband left me for a girl that is 24 years younger than him.when i found out i was crushed, i saw no problems in our marriage. we both worked long hours, spent time together when we had days off. i cooked, cleaned, did yard work, layed his ...
A. 29 May 2012: He is jumping from one long term relationship directly to another so is maybe afraid of the possibility that it doesn't work out between him and this girl. He is probably trying to keep you on the side in case like a security blanket and he maybe ... (read in full...)
Guys, should I leave my wife for a more attractive, younger woman?
Q. For the last year I've been having an affair with a woman who's ten years younger. We love each other very much. She's got everything I wish I would have found in someone, before I married my wife. She's beautiful and has a great body, my wife ...
A. 29 May 2012: It's obvious that your romantic feelings for your wife are gone and you aren't interested in trying to salvage your wedding.
Regardless of the situation with your lover, you should get a divorce because you clearly don't fill fulfilled with your... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but sometimes I wonder if I'm "too nice"
Q. This is a question primarily for the men, but I'm interested in hearing everyone's opinion... I haven't read it, but I've recently been contemplating reading the book, Why Men Love Bitches. I googled it and from what I gather, it basically talks ab...
A. 29 May 2012: Stay true to who you are and don't change your personality: a boyfriend should love you for who you are.
When referring to "bitchy", this is quite extreme/radical. Usually guys enjoy a partner who is assertive, confident and knows what she want... (read in full...)
He sent dirty texts to my bestfriend,should I give him another chance?
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 3 months split up 2days ago. The other day which was my 3yr old sisters bday my friend (used to be best friends but kinds drifted apart because shes been seeing married men). Was calling me sayin she has somthing to tell...
A. 28 May 2012: Especially do not blame yourself on the situation: your ex-boyfriend of only 3 months doesn't deserve you and if he looked into your cellphone to take one of your friends' number to then dirty call her, that doesnt seem solid for building a ... (read in full...)
I cant trust my bestfriend anymore, should I end our friendship?
Q. My bestfriend and I have been friends for about 7 years now.. I love her very much and I know that she loves me, but for the past year its been seeming like everything has become a competition with her. It drives me crazy because I feel like I can't ...
A. 28 May 2012: Maybe you can talk about it with your bff - mention that you feel like you are growing apart from each other. But maybe this "competition" she feels/creates could be fueled if you are always/often together and have a similar social life/knowing and ... (read in full...)
Should I give it a go with this friendship again?
Q. I don't know what to do, someone has popped back into my life and am I making a big, big mistake even replying back or should i leave it in the past and move on... I used to be best friends with this girl, we were close all throughout colle...
A. 28 May 2012: She already had her second chance and completely ruined it on your first outing so i don't think anything would change . It's also too easy for her to send a short message and think it's going to mend everything. Best is probably to ignore her ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that I like the guy she is dating?
Q. I'm a student and I've had a semi-relationship of about 9 months with a friend who I've known for almost 2 years. We were never actually official or even 'seeing' each other but we always went out got drunk and kissed and had sex a couple of times. ...
A. 28 May 2012: If you are certain that there is an opening with this guy to go steady then you should go talk to him so he can be aware of your feelings and how you are ready to be serious with him. It will then be up to him to make a decision.
However as you'v... (read in full...)
Friends are fighting over the same guy!
Q. Dear Cupid, My friends both like the same guy. Friend #1 is actually dating this guy. Friend #2 is heartbroken. They both hate each other. Personally I don't see why this guy is so great but they like him. Friend #1 is stressed out constant...
A. 28 May 2012: Friend #2 needs to get over it because: Friend #1 and the guy are officially together (and the guy has apparently made it clear to Friend #2 he doesnt like her). She is just creating drama (and you are getting sucked into it to the point that maybe ... (read in full...)
My friend told me that his girlfriend likes me, how should I handle this?
Q. Hi, I have a problem and wanted to ask for some advise since I don't know what to do. Today a good friend of mine which is also a classmate from a class I'm talking told me that things between him and his girlfriend have not been good and that they ...
A. 28 May 2012: It's a trap!
He probably has some jealousy issues with his girlfriend. If you have some contact with his girlfriend, don't do anything weird and keep your distance. Sounds like the drama lama is in town. ... (read in full...)
Ifeel like she expects us to take care of her baby!
Q. Hey everyone in need of some good and honest advice because im not really sure what to do or how to feel. So here goes... I have a 9 month old daughter and I have a friend with 4 kids being 6,5,2 and a 5 month old. Now she doesn't work and uses go...
A. 28 May 2012: She seems like the kind of person that uses people for her own ends. Stop giving her stuff because it's only re-enforcing her negative behaviour (e.g. you can say that you are still using X item). Have you ever gotten anything nice from her? ... (read in full...)
I'm terrible at reading women.....do you think she likes me?
Q. Hello all you agony aunts, when I'm writing this I'm just trying to figure this all out, and any words of advice or assurance or warning are deeply appreciated. So obviously, there's someone... I've had one class with her all year and sometimes sa...
A. 28 May 2012: Sounds like she does like you. Some small signs are if you have some physical contact (e.g. any excuse to be close to one another or you "accidentally" touch her hand/arm and she doesnt pull away or she even tries to do it to you too), lots of ... (read in full...)
Was he a jerk or do we just have very different personalities?
Q. Hello everyone, recently I had this really painful interaction with this guy and I just cannot make head or tail with it: I knew him since around a year, he asked me to go out a few times, but it was really never clear if on a real date or not, we ...
A. 28 May 2012: Don't feel guilty for this guy! He sounds like bad news and clearly doesn't have so much respect for you or your feelings (answering your text a few minutes before the appointment, and then yelling at you and calling you names) .. This guy has a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a born again Christian
Q. My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a " Born Again " Christian, I am Jewish and we both are not even remotely considering more children since we have already raised our chidren. Also relevant to this statement is my age at 6...
A. 20 April 2012: there are 2 ways of looking at it:
a) either you are so in love that you are ready to change religions to marry with her.
b) however, it can also be put that if she really loves you then religion wouldn't be an issue (i think that after a certai... (read in full...)
How can I stop these rumors my so called friends started?
Q. Hello,I'm 15 years old and i've been hanging with a group of mates a while now and the other day i was with two of them and some guy came behind me and pulled my pants down I pulled them back up and I was certain nobody saw. The two of my mates saw ...
A. 20 April 2012: now you know they are actually douches! maybe they spread that out because they are jealous of something else of you and this is maybe their way of undermining you by trying to make you feel inferior. try to forget about them and try to hang out ... (read in full...)
Did he over-react? Was he trying to guilt-trip me? He's 28
Q. I met this fella January this year, we went on a few dates, got "officially" together mid February time. Now, at times, he would become irritated if I would spend time with my brother and friends rather than with him, despite the fact that I saw him ...
A. 20 April 2012: Stay strong and don't bend to him! he is trying to control you again on an emotional level! Don't feel sorry for him for your own good and also his own. When he makes his threats/pity things, dont show that you care and try to avoid contact with ... (read in full...)
I like both these girls,but I don't know if either of them like me!
Q. Hey guys, I'm having girl problems at the moment. There are two girls in question here girl 1 and girl 2. Girl 1 I've liked for about 3 months now but because she lives about 30 miles from me we don't talk much, however I have heard stuff from her...
A. 5 November 2011: i think you need to get to know more both girls before making a decision. Get to know them more: common interests and activities, humour, personality match... maybe one of these girls will then appear as the one you want to go out with, but don't ... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend messaging his cousin so I sent messages to her from her account, he thinks I should forgive him and she is going to turn the whole family against me! What should I do?
Q. I've lived with my boyfriend for 7 months all together we've been dating for 13 months and things had been going great..we used to fight sometimes over little things but lately things had been very peaceful until we decided to visit his family in ...
A. 4 November 2011: This relationship between your bf and his cousin sounds really weird. i couldn't make out everything of the situation but im pretty sure i understood the main points. Even if checking out his personal messages crosses a line, at least you are aw... (read in full...)
Do we tell the parents of my son's girlfriend that we walked in on them having oral sex?
Q. My husband and I walked in on my 17 year old son performing oral sex on his girl friend who is 16. My husband and I disagree on what we should do. I think that we should call her parents and tell them what happened. My husband on the other hand said ...
A. 26 October 2011: from the moment that you've done your parent duty: educated your son on protected sex and making the right decisions in life, let him be! up to now he's not putting his girlfriend in danger/breaking the law so the parents of the girlfriend don't ... (read in full...)
My friends tell me he's dangerous
Q. dear cupid, i take guitar clases once a week, and i've been with this teacher for over a year. at first he seemed normal, but like he has become really weird now. He calls me stuff like princess and my love... he tells me he loves me and tha...
A. 26 October 2011: this is not a normal situation and not a normal way an adult / your teacher should behave ! like the other users are saying, let an adult know (your parents or another teacher) and change teacher / schedule for your guitar lessons . especially if he ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. Dear readers, I would like to hear your advice on my situation. To put it bluntly, I'm a 24 year old virgin male. I could try to look good and say that I've been waiting for that special someone, or I'd be honest and tell you that I've never had t...
A. 25 October 2011: You are obviously thinking that you don't want to go through with this bday "present" and even took the time to write about it so looks like a bad idea to go through with the whole thing. First of all: if you don't want to have sex with the pro... (read in full...)
He's cheated and given me an STD! How do I confront him?
Q. Hi everyone I have just found out my boyfriend of a year has been cheating on me and now I have a std I really loved him but now he has been cheating on me I know I have to break up with him how do I bring this up to him I know he has been cheating ...
A. 24 October 2011: you have a lot of courage ! tell him you are kicking him out of the flat and that on a side note he has a nice little STD (dont show any emotions and let him freakout) and see your friends right afterwards to help you emotionally ! ... (read in full...)
Flatmate has had chance after chance to pull her weight around the house, she is even affecting my partners health but still won't change! What can I do?
Q. My partner and I need some help with an unclean flatmate problem that has just gone too far. We don’t know what to do and need advice. The back-story is this. My partner and I have been together for over a year now, and we live in a flat with o...
A. 24 October 2011: i replied to your post because it really made me mad to read about how your housemate is acting - it seems that you and your girlfriend are caring and understanding people, and this housemate is very selfish and totally taking advantage of it as its ... (read in full...)
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