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writes:dear cupid, i take guitar clases once a week, and i've been with this teacher for over a year. at first he seemed normal, but like he has become really weird now. He calls me stuff like princess and my love... he tells me he loves me and that he wants to be my friend. he is seems to be really interested in my personal life and likes to kiss my head and stand behind me and talk into my ear. he is also constatly telling me i'm beautiful and i have a gorgeous body. he is a bit weird with other students but not as much as he is with me, he even "jokes" sometimes by saying that in 5 years we are going to get married. another thing that freaks me out is the way he can guess what im thinking. he is 23 years old and has a wife and a baby, but when i ask him about them he avoids the question.im 15 years old, and all my friends tell me he is dangerous and i should tell a grown up... the thing is that i sometimes like the attention and feel special, plus he has never proposed any sexual activity. what can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, mooh  +, writes (26 October 2011):
this is not a normal situation and not a normal way an adult / your teacher should behave ! like the other users are saying, let an adult know (your parents or another teacher) and change teacher / schedule for your guitar lessons . especially if he acts weird around other students (and your friends have noticed) he has probably been doing this to other girls too .
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Tell your parents.. he's wrong for what he's doing. He needs to be kept from children.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 October 2011):
 Tell your parents, get a new teacher. This one is a totaly CREEP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): Please tell your parents and find another teacher.
You do also have the right to ask him not to do or say these things that make you feel uncomfortable.
What's he's doing isn't okay, no matter how special it makes you feel. You're friends are right, he's dangerous.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Well thats what guys like that try to do, unfortunely they single you out from groups and do something call grooming.
They will make you feel special and try as hard as they can to make you feel different and good about yourself (its not unusal that you like the attention so don't worry) he may not of tryed to do annything yet but it will come with time, even though it doesnt seem like it and does just seem like he is being nice it is all part of a bigger plan.
Tell an adult or a teacher who works at the school storys like this normanally go very wrong he is dangerous and if he was to do anything it would change your life and you would be defenceless.
Tell someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): Tell an adult. DOnt wait til he does something bad. He could one day try to take advantage of you, or even rape you. He is dangerous and a predator. What he is doing now is called "conditioning".. He is basically trying to train you by being all sweet and nice so that you will do what he wants and so he can control you. This kind of attention is very bad and you need to get out of that situation and tell someone. What if he is doing the same or more with kids you dont know? He could be having sexual relations with children already. He seems experience with the way hes behaving.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Tell a grown up. And make sure your parents ask for their money back. You've encountered your first sexual predator--don't be fooled by his nice guy demeanor, you have a lot of growing up still to do.
Listen to your friends.
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