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22-25,
*redthefrog
writes:Help!! One of My best friends keeps getting me to tell her secrets and then tells some of my other friends!! I feel like i can't trust her anymore but she is having a hard time right now (shes having counselling) and I don't want to talk to her about it!! For example, the other day I told her a secret about starting my periods.......... Then yesterday I had some friends round and she kept trying to open the drawer where I keep my pads!!! This keeps happening so I don't know what to do!!
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reader, mooh  +, writes (9 June 2012):
If you have some alone time with her, just mention that you would appreciate if she kept your secrets to herself because you value her friendship and thought you can trust her.
That being said, now you know that you cannot trust her with your secrets. It's okay to tell a few personal things to people you judge close, but keep in mind that secrets are best kept to yourself.
In your friend's behavior: she is using your secrets to put you in an embarrassing situation and therefore get attention from other girls by making you look bad. That's what i call a bad friend that you can't trust.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 June 2012):
In my 44 years on this earth, I have found there is one, and only one, sure way to keep a secret.
Tell no one.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 June 2012):
 Stop telling her your secrets. She can not/ will not keep them and your trust in her is misplaced.
I would actually tell her when you two are alone, that you are sad that you can't trust her with secrets.
It sounds like deflection to me, by telling YOUR secrets she ensure that people are talking about YOU not her.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Stop telling her any secrets or at least stop telling her anything you don't want everybody else to know. Some people are terrible about keeping secrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012):
Hi,
Simply, do not tell her anything that you wouldnt want anyone else to know. If she is prying into your private life then just tell her you have no secrets to tell. She cannot force you into telling her things.
If you cannot trust her then simply keep her out of your business. Just be there for her as a friend and hang out with her and watch movies together, be good to one another but you do not have to tell anyone your personal business until they have earned your trust.
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reader, SOShelp +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Simple; don't tell her anything then she has nothing to say. It doesn't matter that she's going through a rough time. If she can't keep a secret then she's not worth telling them to.
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