My partner uses chat rooms and emails other women. Am I losing him??
Q. I have just discovered that my partner has been on the internet using chat rooms and also e-mails other woman. I asked him about it, he said he only did it for a bit of fun, and said he wouldn't do it anymore. He left his computer on and was logg...
A. 20 April 2006: I think anytime a partner is doing something that causes you to be distressed, then you should worry. If you have asked him to stop and he hasn't then there is probably more going on than he wants you to know. Emotional affairs are getting a lot ... (read in full...)
He stares at me and constantly teases me! Do you think he likes me?
Q. theres a guy i believe likes me, but i have yet to figure out if im right or not. i think he knows i like his friend, who has this specific nickname for me, but so did this guy. then he asked me which name i prefered, and when i said i didnt care, ...
A. 1 March 2006: It does sound like he is giving you a lot of attention, so that may mean that he likes you. Boys can be so hard to figure out, but if you think about grade school, it is often said that the boys that pick on you the most like you the best. Be ... (read in full...)
We never established a date and I don't know how she really feels about me...
Q. Hey all, Just to let you know where i'm coming from, i just broke up with my girlfriend of nearly two years, we've decided its for the best and we've moved on to other people. I'm pursuing a crush on a girl i just met about a month ago, and I...
A. 1 March 2006: First I think if popularity was a huge issue with her, she would not have even started talking to you. Usually people that care about that are very careful of who they associate with on any level, even if it is just in passing, so I think you are ... (read in full...)
I hate feeling like I have to compete with my boyfriend's 6-year-old daughter
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He has a 6 year old daughter that I seem to get jealous over. I feel really bad when I start feeling like that, I don't know what to do. I hate the idea of being second in his life, even tho...
A. 22 February 2006: This is just something you either have to accept and move on or you need to break up with your boyfriend. If you are feeling this strongly about it now, I can only imagine how you would feel if you were living with him when he had his daughter. ... (read in full...)
I fancy him and he asked me out. Then at school he denied it. What's going on?
Q. Here's the problem: Last night I told the guy I fancy I liked him over Yahoo and he finally asked me to go out with him :D Then today in school he totally dissed me, and my mate said to him "I heard you were going out with Manda. I think that's g...
A. 22 February 2006: Unfortunately, sometimes guys seem really great until you get to know them a little. This guy is doing you a real favor by showing you his true colors before you get in too deep with him. Don't beat yourself up about it, most guys just mature more ... (read in full...)
I was called a homewrecker by his ex..but she seems happier now that they've parted.
Q. This is not so much a question, but to let people know how to deal with a situation. A long while ago i wrote to you all asking advice. It was about being in love with my best friend, and although he was married, it was very un-happy. His wife thr...
A. 14 February 2006: I am glad to hear that in your situation everything worked out for the best, but not every situation turns out so well. The people that called you terrible things were probably speaking from some personal experience, either their own or the ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of stretch marks?
Q. Im expecting at the moment, and i have a one year old. So my stomache is coverd in stretch marks and its maing me feel really un sexy for my long term partner. I wanted to know if there is any women that have the same problem or is there anyone that ...
A. 8 February 2006: I have had three babies, and my stretch marks cover my stomach, upper thighs, butt, and boobs. They took a lot of time to get used to, I was very depressed about them at first, feeling very ugly and ashamed. But if you reall think about it, you ... (read in full...)
He gets drunk and can't remember kissing some girl..can I ever trust him again?
Q. im going out with fiance for five years we have a 3year old child. when he drinks hes a totally diferent person while out last week we had an argument and he drank so much he just wasnt the same person .he was up at the bar talking to a girl and the ...
A. 8 February 2006: If he doesn't do this kind of stuff while sober, the obvious answer is for him not to drink while out in public, and if he is really a completely different person, maybe he shouldn't drink at all. You were at the bar so it is not as if he was out ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me about this work colleague...should I be concerned?
Q. Hi. I'm a gay male in a long term relatonship of 3 years. We recently invited my partners work collegues over to our house for a house warming party. My partner has always been very open about who he works with and I 'knew of' everybody there,...
A. 8 February 2006: I do think it is a little odd that you "know of" everyone except this guy, it seems that he would have told you of him, as he has done with everyone else, especially since he has been there 18 mos. I wouldn't go as far as to say this is something ... (read in full...)
Why does he need to go on a sun-sex-and-clubbing holiday with his mate when he has a girlfriend?
Q. my boyfriend is going on holiday to magaluf in the summer as far as i know this is a holiday for clubbing,sex and more clubbing. although i trust him i dont trust the friend his going with. this might sound like a silly question but whys he going on ...
A. 8 February 2006: If I were you, I would definitely ask him what kind of holiday this will be. If it is as you think, then he would really have no reason to go because he has you. This issue really needs to be cleared up between you before he goes, you don't want ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he likes me...
Q. Hi, Im stuck in a situation, here goes...... Started my college course a good few months ago and i was really good friends with this guy, we chatted and texted all the time, sat beside each other and flirted on nites out and got close a few times - ...
A. 6 February 2006: Possibly, he is afraid that because you two had so much chemistry there will be a lot of pressure to have a perfect relationship, maybe he is scared that he will let you down or hurt you in some way. Rather than taking this as a rejection, try to ... (read in full...)
I've been with my guy for two years but he still acts like he's single!
Q. hi, have been with my b/f for 2 years now but sometimes i just dont think he takes our relationship seriously. i get the impression that sometimes my b/f thinks that he is single and goes around acting like he is single, for example their has been ...
A. 6 February 2006: It does sound like your guy may not be as in to the relationship as you are. If you have tried to talk him and have had little or no results, I would sugest giving it one more try. Try to make him understand exactly what his actions are doing to ... (read in full...)
I want her to leave her "really horrible" boyfriend for me, because he's just using her...
Q. I'm a girl and my best friend is a girl. She is bi-sexual but is in a relationship with some really horrible boy. Me and my other friends all know that he is just using her. She really likes me and has recently in the past has flirted with me a few ...
A. 5 February 2006: I know it is tough to watch a friend go through a really bad relationship, everyone knows they will get hurt except the person that really needs to know it. It is even harder to accept that though your intentions are good trying to break them up ... (read in full...)
I know I should be able to cope with being on my own, but I just start imagining things! Advice? Help?
Q. Hello, please help me. I am thirteen years old, old enough to be left alone in the house on my own. My parents leave me all the time, and I want them to so I can get used to being alone, but I never do because I get so scared. I don't want to ta...
A. 3 February 2006: It makes it hard to give advice when you have already decided that you don't want to hear that you should talk to your parents or that maybe you should wait to stay at home. So even though I know you don't want to hear it I am going to give you my ... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a guy wants to break up with you?
Q. What are some signs that a guy wants to break up with you? (What if he is scared to?) ...
A. 3 February 2006: I doubt someone would be afraid to break up with someone else, provided the person being broken up with is not violent in any way or a female wrestler or something. Maybe the boy doesn't know how to break up with the girl in which case he may try ... (read in full...)
My new husband has signed up on dating sites! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I have recently got married and my husband is away in another province working,anyway,I happen to remember his email password and I thought i would check to see if he is in to anything he should not be and I have found that he has sighned ...
A. 3 February 2006: The first thing that tells the there could be trouble is that you thought you needed to check his email in case he is in to anything he shouldn't be, usually people that trust their spouses don't feel the need to do that. I don't know if he has ... (read in full...)
Hate the fact that she's always talking to her ex. Is turnabout fair play?
Q. I am in a relationship for about 4 months now with a girl that got out of a 4 year relationship about 9 months before we started dating. I'm 22 and she is 20. She says she is over her ex but still talks to him and about him all the time on the ...
A. 3 February 2006: I think that by calling your ex's in front of her, you will be submitting to a very immature game of who can make the other one more jealous. She is less than a year out of a very long relationship and it sounds as though she is having problems ... (read in full...)
I really like my BF but i like the other guy, too.What should I do about this situation
Q. hey guys.As u all know i am 12 and in the sixth grade and i thought u guys could help me out with this problem i have. u see before me and my boyfriend hooked up a few months ago their was this boy in my homeroom that ...
A. 3 February 2006: I'm sorry Sweetie Pie, I guess I don't understand what you are looking for. Are you hoping that someone will tell you to dump your boyfriend and go for it? Or see both of them and then choose. I can't give you advice like that, all I can say is ... (read in full...)
My home pregnancy tests come back negative, but I have all these symptoms...
Q. Hiya, I really need some help. Lately my stomach has gotten bigger and bigger. I kept getting headaches of an evening and constant backache (I have never had either of these before). I need to go to the bathroom like all the time, I feel nauseous ...
A. 2 February 2006: Maybe the hormone levels in your blood just aren't high enough to tell on the tests yet. Obviously if you are sexually active and having all of those symptoms there is a chance that you are pregnant, but if I were you I would get to the doctor ... (read in full...)
Always had an attraction for a friend, but he's attached. Now his adult son seems interested. Dangerous territory?
Q. I've known this man since we were 12ish. He is 40, I am 34, always had a hot spot for each other. We have now begun working together in the office. Things got heated, although he is not single, and nothing has happened between us. Just recently...
A. 2 February 2006: The age difference is not that bad, he is of legal age, it is more the relationship with your co-worker/friend I would worry about. If your friend is in a position to fire you or make things hard on you at work, I would definitely stay away from ... (read in full...)
How do I get a break from a longtime relationship without feeling bad or regretting my choice?
Q. OK, I need advice.... I want to take a break from my one year relationship from my bf... But I don't know how without feeling bad about it or worse regretting. Any advice?...
A. 2 February 2006: I agree with the first reply, if you need a break do it now. The longer you wait to do this the worse it will get, you may start to feel trapped and resent your boyfriend for making you feel that way. I am sure you will feel bad about doing it, ... (read in full...)
Guy "B" is my sex guy. So how do I dump guy "A" while still remaining friends?
Q. Hi, I have a problem. I was going out with a guy (A), he cheated on me and me on him and i was going to finish it as i thought he'd never want to marry me. I met a guy off the internet (B), it was meant to be just for sex but we clicked instantly, ...
A. 2 February 2006: Sorry to say this, but I really don't see anyway that you can get out of this with out anyone getting hurt. If you want to be with guy "B", then do so and be as honest as possible with guy "A" about it since you will have to see him a lot because ... (read in full...)
I am so unhappy that I drink alcohol and cheat on him..why can't I just leave him? Help.
Q. I am 22years old and have been in a relationship now for over 6years but have been unhappy for years. Ive tried dropping hints, didnt work. I told him, he promised that he would change and make me happy, which worked for a week, then he went back to ...
A. 31 January 2006: Obviously your behaviour is self destructive. If leaving is really a hugr problem why not confess what you have done behind his back, he would probably not have a lot of trouble leaving you. I honestly do not believe that unhappiness is reason for ... (read in full...)
I really like my BF but i like the other guy, too.What should I do about this situation
Q. hey guys.As u all know i am 12 and in the sixth grade and i thought u guys could help me out with this problem i have. u see before me and my boyfriend hooked up a few months ago their was this boy in my homeroom that ...
A. 31 January 2006: You just have to figure out which one you like more. If you break up with your boyfriend for this guy then you better be sure because I doubt that your boyfriend would be willing to take you back if you realize you made a mistake. At your age I ... (read in full...)
We never really talked, but I'm thinking I should try to see him once more to check that I'm over him...
Q. ok, here's the background story to my question... Last semester in one of my classes I noticed a really cute guy. He seemed interested in me, he would glance over occasionally during class and we would make eye contact at the end of class. ...
A. 30 January 2006: Since there was never any actual relationship, I doubt that closure is really what your heart is looking for, I would say it's more the constant wondering of what could have been. I believe that seeing him again, you will still feel the attraction ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship but I'm confused because I feel a strong connection to another woman...
Q. I'm engaged and I am happy in my relationship, but I recently felt a strong connection with another woman. I think about her and email her alot but I am not sure how to deal with it. I am very confused and any suggestions would help....
A. 30 January 2006: Your question leaves a lot of important information out. Did you know this woman before your relationship with your fiance or did you meet her after? Is this a situation where you actually met through the internet? Any way you look at it, you are ... (read in full...)
He's on dating sites-he views porn and it's hurting me! He see nothing wrong with this-what should I do?
Q. My partner have had a difficult relationship recently. i found out he'd been looking at porn and going to dating sites. he lied when i confronted him. i thought i had finally got him to understand that he was hurting me because i think he may not ...
A. 30 January 2006: I am so sorry to say this, but you are losing your guy to the fantasy world he is creating on the internet. If you were to do further investigation you may even find some rather inapropriate conversations with other people, I say this because what ... (read in full...)
We're engaged to her but she's pregnant with her ex husband's baby.
Q. I am in a relationship where my fiance is pregnant with her ex husbands baby. I left town due to her lying to me about talking to him a 8 weeks ago. Now that he knows hes texting her and sending her pictures of himself back when they were married. ...
A. 30 January 2006: I am unsure if you knew about the pregnancy when you got into all this or not, I am assuming that you did because you are engaged. So the ex didn't know she was pregnant and since he found out he is trying to get her back. I guess you need to have ... (read in full...)
Is my mum trying to live vicariously through me?
Q. My mum is trying to control my life. She is always doubtful of me, and constantly reminds me that I should do more exercise. If I mention to her that I don't get told off in school for my short skirt, because my friend's is shorter, she immediately ...
A. 29 January 2006: It doesn't really sound like she is trying to live though you, I mean she is not forcing you to do sports that you don't like because she always wanted to do them or anything like that. It really just sounds like she is trying to guide you in the ... (read in full...)
I was his student, and now that training's over, I misss him! Do I get in touch?
Q. Do you follow your heart or your head? I am the student and he's the trainer, I'm older and have had training classes in his room which I paid for, during which time he would recive phone calls from other females they weren't business phone c...
A. 29 January 2006: I hate being the one to say this, but I have to tell you how I honestly see it. The situation that you were in was one where he probably felt he had to treat you a certaiin way or risk losing your business. That doesn't mean he didn't have ... (read in full...)
If my friend really has a brain tumour, wouldn't drinking cause complications?
Q. Hi, I have a female friend who claims to have a brain tumour; however last night she was getting completely off it. Can alcohol cause complications if you have a brain tumour? thanxs...
A. 29 January 2006: I am no doctor so I really don't know if that could cause problems, but in my opinion if had a brain tumor I would probably spend a lot of time getting sloshed. Look at it this way, something like that can really mess with your head (no pun ... (read in full...)
It's too late to go out with my sister's best friend. Is there anything I can do?
Q. Hi. I really like my sister's best friend and she would have gone out with me had she know I liked her, and now she has a boy friend. What do I do? Thanks...
A. 29 January 2006: I guess you are going to have to wait this one out. The fact that she did like you says that if the relationship she is in now doesn't work out then she will probably be open to having a relationship with you, provided that you are still single ... (read in full...)
Is his joking around, touching etc a sign he likes me? If it is, how do I respond?
Q. Hi, The problem is I am 19 and I have never had a boyfriend. It's not like I couldn't have had one; it's just I am realy picky about who I trust and I am nervous about the whole thing. Anyway... there are 2 or 3 guys on my college course I kno...
A. 29 January 2006: It sounds like he is probably interested in you, so if I were you I would just give him my phone number and ask him to call you if he wants to get together for a date or to hang out. That way even though you are making a move you are still leaving ... (read in full...)
Health prevents me doing as much work with the horse as I want to, but my friend thinks I'm just lazy!
Q. Hi there! This is a friend problem rather then bf. I have been sharing a horse with one of my friends. This is like my dream come true. I can't afford a horse so I give her £20 a week to cover bits and bobs. I have been helping her since Marc...
A. 29 January 2006: Owning any animal is kind of like having a child, one that doesn't mature past a certain point so will always rely on the care of their "parents". I suffer from migraine headaches and have 3 small children, when I have a migraine headache it is ... (read in full...)
Both guys said they love me and when I'm with one, I think of the other! What do I do?
Q. I have a huge problem. I am in love, or think I am, with these two guys. One is the sweetest guy I've ever met and I feel safe with him. The other well he's a bad boy. I've been on dates with both guys and they both said they loved me. When I am ...
A. 29 January 2006: Just to make sure I have this straight, you are seeing 2 guys at the same time, both of which have said they love you and other girls. I believe you may be in a bit of a pickle here, and should probably only trust them as much as they should be ... (read in full...)
Was he serious when he asked me out?
Q. Hi, Im in 10th grade and i have guy problem. There is this kid that i have had a crush on since 9th grade. The weriod thing is though is that his friend told me that he liked me. I didn't even know who the heck this guy was until i met him fac...
A. 28 January 2006: He could have been serious, it is hard to tell what is going on in the mind of a 10th grade boy! If you feel like you want to have a relationship with this boy, you rpobably need to smooth over the rejection he feels first. Next time you spot him ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my confused college guy, who is dealing with his ex?
Q. Hi .. I am a college student doing what I have to do .I met a nice guy on a college based website in Oct 05 and we have talked since then. We have both developed feelings and we have expressed them. Well.. I have . He expressed most of them. ...
A. 28 January 2006: Okay, this guy is stalling. He is holding out for his ex, if she was to say she wanted him back he would go to her and you would be but a memory. I honestly feel like when a guy likes you, they don't have "guilt" about making a move with you, they ... (read in full...)
He has no patience with me... I feel emotionally dead inside. Can we get the love back?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years, we have only lived together for 3 years. Over the las couple of years the passion seems to have gone out our relationship, he says he is still happy and that he loves me, but he doesnt seems to show it, ...
A. 28 January 2006: I know I reccomend his a lot but I can definitely see a need for some couples therapy here. Relationships are hard, as you know, and sometimes we get to a place that we can't seem to get out of on our own. With 10 years under your belt I doubt ... (read in full...)
Big crush on a girl, but how do I approach her?
Q. Yo fellas and gals! I'm fourteen/ fifteen and have the hugest crush on this one girl. How the hell am I meant to go out with her? I really like her and she laughs at 99% of the stuff I say, so how would I approach her? Thanks , A Welsh Guy :)...
A. 28 January 2006: If she laughs at things you say it sounds like you know your answer. Girls love a guy that can make them laugh, once you have her chuckling you know you have your foot in the door, now all you have to do is close the deal. Try the direct approach, ... (read in full...)
I'm fine with second-base and third-base, but my girlfriend says it's repulsive and I shouldn't do it!
Q. Hello! Me and my girlfriend have been with each other over 2 months, but she has a bit of an issue that she doesn't think she can get over. And that's that she doesn't want to have 2nd or 3rd base done to her, for the reason that she thinks it's ...
A. 28 January 2006: I know t it hard when you are so fine with something and your girl can't seem to get on board, but you will earn huge points by respecting her wishes. As she grows more comfortable with you, you will probably find that she will be more open to try ... (read in full...)
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