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writes:I have been attracted to my cousin for years now and have actually talked to her about it. She says i am a good looking guy and would date me in a heartbeat but since we are cousins we cant. She said she would think about sex but has never given me an answer but never said no either. I would love to be with her but not sure how to approach it from here. Any advice on this matter?
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reader, batman.needs.help +, writes (26 June 2015):
In my honest opinion you shouldn't. You have to think of the chance of a child. You also have to think is she truly the one I want. If your u.s.a its illegal so... You lr either gonna have to move or read the advice given and think about what you are doing. Ask your self this simple questions 1. How will the child come out and if you can live with that 2. What will your family think 3. Is she the right one 4. Is it legal 5. Can you deal with the conscious
I faced the sane problem I was attacked to get but I knew it was wrong but when I was around her I couldn't help it but I know now that it is wrong in my own opinion I hop this helped
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (21 July 2011):
 Depending on where you live in the US it may be illegal. You also have to consider the risk of pregnancy if you two decide to sleep together. Yes, contraceptives are great but can fail, which can lead to birth complications and health complications for the baby. If you two break up, you will still always be around each other. This sort of thing can be frowned upon in certain families and would not be fun to try and explain. I'm not trying to talk down your love and attraction at all, I'm just listing the consequences, though I'm sure you've thought of them already.
I would say it's safest to just let it go, but just be very very careful. This is a touchy situation legally, socially, and emotionally. Ask yourself: Is it worth the risk?
Good luck
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reader, j321 +, writes (15 July 2011):
As far as being legal or illegal it depends where you live. There are some states in the USA that allow it including the state of Maine. It is not just something for the south in the USA. Love is love and you should do what makes both of you happy. The family issue is something that could be a big hurdle, if she feels thst her family will fight it and she is close to them then maybe you should forget it. Talk to her further and she what she would feel about having a secret affair at first to see how it would work between the tow of you. Take it slow and do not rush anything. If you two fall in love it would be harder for her to say no.
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reader, Lolly_Poll  +, writes (15 July 2011):
It's not illegal at all. Or incest. It may be frowned upon by family members, but it's not wrong. You have to do what makes you happy. If you like her, go for it. Forget the cousin thing, and approach her as you would a normal girl :) x
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (14 July 2011):
yes i would stay away from her this is incest you are still family still related this is illegal i wouldnt do anything about this at all
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