My wife just can't break the habit of chatting and meeting people online...
Q. I have been married for just over 10 yrs to a wonderful super woman. She is my best friend, business partner, lover and mother of our two little children. I found out she was online chatting with some guys and girls and actually called some to ...
A. 22 September 2005: Speaking from experience, the internet can ruin your marriage. If she insist on talking online have her stick to females that she is talking to. She has a man in her life and most men on the internet are only looking for one thing. That's not ... (read in full...)
Our relationship seems to be fading... and fast! What should I do?
Q. The first few months or so of my relationship he used to phone or at least send sweet good night texts every day. This stopped and seemed as though we wouldn't talk unless it was me that called. We didn't have sex for about 3 weeks and he said that ...
A. 22 September 2005: Any relationship is sugar and spice when it is new. After a while they all settle down. You didn't say how old this man is or what kind of job he is holding. He could be stressed from the work, however, I don't see why he couldn't at least make a ... (read in full...)
This girl and I are practically best friends, but we've never met in person!
Q. I've known a girl for four years, but I've never met her! We met via a friend of mine. He was on the phone to her and I snatched the phone off him, whilst drunk. Four years later and we are practically best friends. We speak every day. We spend ho...
A. 22 September 2005: Talk to your friend. Ask her why does she think things will change if you two meet up. She may seem perfectly happy not to meet you because of her fear she has that something will change if she does meet with you.
It shouldn't matter if her real... (read in full...)
Would it be easier to break things off before he has to go?
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for nearly 4 weeks now. It was meant to be nothing too serious, but as time goes on my feelings for this guy are getting stronger. I think he likes me too, just by the way he is with me. But he's going away to work for the ...
A. 22 September 2005: Long distance relationships are almost impossible to make work. If you stay with him, you will be obligated to not date anybody else. As will he. You both will be wondering if the other one is dating someone else or not. It will be a strain on your ... (read in full...)
Reeling from my husband's announcement that he wants a divorce. Opinions?
Q. My spouse of nearly 7 years came to me on Labor Day and said that he was no longer happy with himself and that he wanted a Divorce. He has moved into his barracks so that he may have the time apart he asked for. He has said that he needs to find ...
A. 22 September 2005: I feel you need to move on and start making a life of your own. Your husband is not being entirely honest with you. I don't feel he is wanting the marriage to work and the best he will give you is friendship.
There is a good possibility that you... (read in full...)
We're only friends, but our finances and obligations are tangled together. Is it time to sort them out?
Q. I have friend and we have been become really close in the last 3 years. Like married, but not. He is gay and has always asked me for advice and we have even have accounts together and credit etc... He has moved now and we have not had the same ...
A. 22 September 2005: You do need to cancel any commitments that you two have together including taking his name off of your condo.
You two have different lives now and as you said "he has moved on and you two do not have the same relationship."
You need to look... (read in full...)
I can't help wondering if the "grass" would be "greener" with the other guy...
Q. I have been in a serious relationship with a great guy for a little over a year. He is great, by far the best boyfriend I have ever had. I can really see myself with him for the rest of my life. Ok, here is the question. I was "talking" to a guy be...
A. 22 September 2005: Did that last relationship happen to be a first love? If so that could be why you still have feelings for him. You always will have. We never forget or first love. They will always have a special place in our hearts.
You said it yourself this boy... (read in full...)
My chick-magnet boyfriend just loves the attention he gets from other girls...
Q. I've been dating my b/f for almost two years, but we had just made it official 7 months ago. He's a chick magnet, this I know. I fell in love with him the first time I ever saw him. He treats me great, but, to me, there is one problem. He LOVES ...
A. 21 September 2005: Relax, and take your rightful place beside him. He is your man. The girls may look and flirt and wish they could have him but at the end of the day he is still with you. Be proud you have such a good-looking man. ... (read in full...)
He hurts me and threatens more harm... but I can't just kick him out? Can I?
Q. I am 19 years old. I have been with my boyfriend two years next month. We had a "great" relationship at first, not really, at first I was blind. I had an apartment and he was staying with family friends. Short story, he moved in. Five months l...
A. 21 September 2005: Mercy girl, Bless your heart. You are going to have to get rid of him. Where he goes is not your problem as long as it is away from you. Make sure you stay where you will be safe until you know that he will not be bothering you.
You said he can't... (read in full...)
I'm almost overwhelmed by all the compliments and attention, but I'm worried about getting "physical"...
Q. Hey I'm a 16 yr old girl, and have a friend "Tim" who is also 16yrs old. When I started a new school, he was on my course. We met when we went on a trip with the school and he was helping me rockclimb. Ever since, he has picked on me senseless, ...
A. 21 September 2005: I think this guy likes you but you need to make sure it is not for the same reason your ex liked you.
If he really cares about how you feel talk to him and tell him you need him to slow down. He may be used to other types of girls that like boys... (read in full...)
We're taking time apart and now she wants to meet up again. Is she going to drop a bomb?
Q. Hi, Please, help! My girlfriend and I are on a break. It's been 8 weeks, but this is OK since I did the same a few years ago. I know she loves me, but she said at last conversation "I'm afraid if we get back together it'll be great and someth...
A. 21 September 2005: Your girlfriend is sending mixed signals no wonder you don't know what's up. You said in your last conversation with her, that she told you "I'm afraid if we get back together it'll be great and something will screw it up."
Along with the fact she ... (read in full...)
Still hanging on to a thread of hope the my ex-girlfriend will come back to me...
Q. I've asked questions on here before. The answers have been very helpful, but I'm sure you are all aware, things change. I told my ex girlfriend (who dumped me for someone else) that we couldn't be friends. At the time I said that to her, we were ...
A. 21 September 2005: If your ex loved you there is no way she could go to just ignoring your existance. You have a point where if you remain friends with her she might change her mind, but then again, she might not. Since she was dating another guy and then came and ... (read in full...)
My best girlfriend and her guilt-tripping has come between me and my man...
Q. HI there, please can someone help - I'm going crazy here. I wrote a while ago explaining that I moved to the US to be with a man who dumped me because I basically ignored what he wanted and moved into his house with no leaving date (we had agr...
A. 21 September 2005: You and your man got off on the wrong foot to begin with, however it seems since you have slowed things down and went on with your life he is wanting to be a part of it now. It is also clear that you want to be a part of his life. Take things slow ... (read in full...)
He says he needs space. OK, but how much space?
Q. My boyfriend told me he doesn't want to break up but needs some space. How long should I wait before I call him? Or see him? I want to respect him and give him time to work out his issues, but not give him permission to leaving me totally hanging ...
A. 21 September 2005: If your boyfriend is using the "needs some space" he is most likely just trying not to hurt you but he is wanting to move on. You should do the same. Go on with your life. Don't call him. Don't go to see him. The easiest way to make a boy want a ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my fella's attention again?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and some times I get the feeling that he is losing interest in me. How can I get the spark back into our relationship and make him notice me the way he used to? ...
A. 21 September 2005: Any relationship after awhile goes stale. Its up to us to keep it alive and exciting. Set back at least a day a week for you and your boyfriend to spend time together, just the two of you. Suprise him with a candlelight dinner or rent some movies, ... (read in full...)
My mate has moved away and I fancy his girl... Should I go for it?
Q. I like my best friend's crush, and I think she likes me. My friend has moved away and but he still talks to her on a regular basis. I know he likes a girl up where he lives, but he still likes the one here. My friends say I should go for her, but ...
A. 21 September 2005:
If you give it some time your friend will most likely forget about the girl there. Long distance relationships are almost impossible to make work. If you go for it now then you could destroy your friendship.
Stay friends with her. Spend some t... (read in full...)
Beer with his buddies is more important than time with me... Am I selfish to want to start over?
Q. I have been with my husband for about 10 years (8 married). I have a 16 yr old from before we met. I love him and we have never cheated on one another. I am not interested in any other man and he is not interested in another woman. I am however ...
A. 21 September 2005: The only way you will change your feelings is if he changes, and it may be to late for that. You are in no way being selfish wanting to fill your own needs. They should be filled and he should do his part in making sure that they are.
Marri... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a relationship, but she wavers and says she just wants "a friend"...
Q. I was seeing this girl Jane. She recently split with her Ex and we got together ( we originally met over net ) Anyway it was a somewhat rocky ride for 4 weeks because she was acting funny and stuff. I confronted her a number of times and basicall...
A. 20 September 2005: Pushing her into making a decision of either a relationship or nothing is not going to help things. Give this girl some time. It sounds like she is really interested in you. It is just she has a problem from her last relationship. Have you ever ... (read in full...)
Great guy... not-so-great sex! What about me?
Q. Hi...I have been with the same guy for a while now...a little over three years. I love him and want to marry him someday. We have talked about a future together and kids...the whole deal. My problem is in the bedroom. I have never met a guy ...
A. 20 September 2005: You need to talk to your man about sex like you do about everything else. Be open and honest. Alot of men don't know how to please a woman. They think if they just have sex with a woman she is satisfied too. Your man needs to be patient with you get ... (read in full...)
I'm apparently not "the one" my boyfriend is looking for, but he wants me to stick around anyway...
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 3 months. We met on the internet and hit it off straight away. We have loads in common and everything is fantastic. We both agree on this! But after 4 dates he told me I wasn't 'the one'. We carried on seeing e...
A. 20 September 2005: Sounds like you two have a great time together, however, he has made it clear (at least at this time) that he isn't interested in spending long term with you. If you continue with this either 2 things could happen. One he could change his mind, or ... (read in full...)
I'm married and a father. but I long to be with my lover...
Q. I am 25 and have been married to my wife for only 16 months. We have a wonderful baby daughter of 6 months. The problem is we don't have anything in common and don't share any interests. I don't feel in love with her anymore, and I suspect she feel...
A. 20 September 2005: 16 months ago you and your wife loved each other enough to get married. What happen? If it was a situation where you felt like you had to marry her I can see how the feelings could die so easily. Maybe it is the stress of having a child before you ... (read in full...)
I need to see the person I'm with, and my boyfriend doesn't seem to understand that!
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for a year....he had flown down to see me about a month after meeting and we had a good time so we decided to try this as I had never tried being in a long distance relationship. He had been open to ...
A. 20 September 2005: Long distance relationships are always hard even if both people are trying to make it work. In a relationship you have to compromise. Even if things stand in the way such as work. You should be able to be with the one that you care about and have ... (read in full...)
I knocked back most of my ex's sexual requests, but he wants us to meet again! Why?
Q. I recently met up with a very old flame, who I am trying not to think of as the love of my life. He wanted to show me his new house and we both knew where it would end up. However, his demands began with oral sex and got more extreme, and included ...
A. 20 September 2005: To have a repeat of what happened last time is why he wants to see you again. How dare he or anyone demand you have oral sex or anything else with them. That is not right.
This guy is only out for what he can get from you he does not have any... (read in full...)
Is that other girl his girlfriend? I can't tell!
Q. I have known a man for about 9 months and we have been getting on really well for the last 4 months. I only see him term time once a week and once over the summer. I saw him go out for dinner with as he said "a friend" who is a girl. I didn't s...
A. 20 September 2005: If he won't answer that question while he does answer other questions he is hiding something from you. Could he be married? That would explain why you didn't see body language. If you seen him go out to dinner with someone why didn't you go up and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems cooler to me. She's pulling away and sex is less frequent...
Q. Hi, ive been left slightly worried over the past few months by some antics of my girlfriend, i really want to ask her but ive already let her down as i looked at some of her personal stuff as i had questions on my mind that i couldnt get answers for ...
A. 19 September 2005: Yes you are right I would be tempted to snoop, but temptation is why Eve ate from the tree. If your girlfriend is looking for another man, there is not really anything you can do about it, snooping or not. Snooping will only let you find out alittle ... (read in full...)
When they realised how many lies I was telling, my friends all ditched me!
Q. I have made a big mistake. I used to lie about anything and everything to impresss my friends, and other times lies would just come out without me being able to stop myself from lying. I lie about big things, small things and usually also abo...
A. 19 September 2005: Most people will probably tell you to get some counciling, which would probably help, however opening a Bible and reading some passages from it about what God says about lying would help more.
The only thing you can do now is apologize to your ... (read in full...)
How can I get over the image of my girl snogging someone else?
Q. Hello everyone, I've never done this before, but I am having some problems that in my head are really big. I have been with my girlfriend for over two years and we have lived together for about a year and are quite serious. A couple of days a...
A. 18 September 2005: We all make mistakes. It will take time to forget but work on forgiving her for what she has done, for now.
I have been in the same situation. It took time, but I was able to get over it. Concentrate on making your relationship better, instead ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told her mum untruths about me, now her mum hates me!
Q. I'm going out with a girl and we have been together for 3years. The relationship hasn't been very easy as we both had issues but we sorted it out and were really happy, but it's her mum. She's trying to split us up as she doesn't like me as to her ...
A. 18 September 2005: People can only split you up if you let them, but sound like your girlfriend is doing a good enough job of splitting you two up to begin with. She needs to let her, you, and her mum all sit down in one room together and get some things straight.
... (read in full...)
Could my guy still be looking for dates from the site he met me on?
Q. Okay so here it is. About 3 months ago I was on a online dating website. I figured I would try it out. I created my profile and began my first search. The first profile that came up was a guy I used to know (not in a dating way) but through my ...
A. 14 September 2005: There is more going on than what he is leading you to believe. Take your time with him and try not to get to serious about him at least until you can find out what he is doing in the weeks he doesn't see you. You have already caught him in one lie ... (read in full...)
My girl didn't seem to care about me, until there was a chance I'd go out with someone else!
Q. I was recently seeing a girl for about 2 months. I went on holiday and when I came back she seemed different. After a lot of chasing on my part she said she didn't want to be with me. This was about a month ago now but the other weekend she found ...
A. 14 September 2005: No do not pursue. She is using the "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" and that's wrong. If you pursue this girl she will only serve to destroy what you could have had with this other girl then she will be done with you ... (read in full...)
Mum and my husband were having sex! I feel sick!
Q. I am 21 and my new husband is 23. We have been married for 2 weeks now. I came home from work one day to find my husband in bed with my mother kissing and having sex! I can't face either of them and feel sick to the stomach after finding out th...
A. 14 September 2005: Move out and move on with your life. Your mother is a sick woman and your husband isn't any better. Make you a life that doesn't include either of them. This wasn't a one time deception it went on for 2 years. I don't see getting over that easily. ... (read in full...)
Plenty of sex with my boyfriend, but no orgasms while we're at it. What's wrong?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I have never achieved an orgasm during sex. He has made me orgasm using his hands and usually after sex he will "finish me off". This is always nice but lately I've been feeling a bit turned off and fed ...
A. 14 September 2005:
If you are feeling pain during intercourse or getting bored with it then he is not doing something right.
Women have certain areas where there are pleasure spots. Does your boyfriend know how to reach them areas, or does he know where they are... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems cooler to me. She's pulling away and sex is less frequent...
Q. Hi, ive been left slightly worried over the past few months by some antics of my girlfriend, i really want to ask her but ive already let her down as i looked at some of her personal stuff as i had questions on my mind that i couldnt get answers for ...
A. 14 September 2005:
A good relationship stems from honesty and trust. If you plan to have a future with this girl then you should not snoop in her things. You need to talk to her and be honest and open about any doubts or bad feelings you have. You said she join... (read in full...)
How can I be friends again with my ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I need some advice. I want to be friends again with my ex because we had such good times together and I didn't want our relationship to end on bad terms but it did. I want to make things right again but I don't know how. Could you help...
A. 13 September 2005: First tell him how you feel and that you want to be friends. Both of you have to be able to let whatever problems you had be behind you and move on. Sometimes it takes time for people to heal from their wounds. This may be the case with you. Try ... (read in full...)
I was accused of cheating with a boy I was just texting as a friend!
Q. Hiya, I'm 13 years old. I have a problem I really badly need answering. Usually I have an answer to everything but this I don't have an answer to... This lad I was going out with for 2 months finished me a couple of weeks ago and I want to get back...
A. 13 September 2005: Trust is a big part of a good relationship. Your boyfriend should believe what you say, unless, he has a good reason not too. If he was disturbed by the fact you had a male friend he needs to talk to you about it. It's a big world and throughout ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm in love with someone?
Q. I have a huge dilemma. I am 16 years old. How do you know if you are in love with someone? And what do you do if you have a crush on someone a lot older than you? Please help me! ...
A. 9 September 2005: It is normal for a sixteen year old to have a crush on someone older. I don't know how much older this guy is than you but he needs to be close enough to your age to have things in common with you.
While its true girls mature faster then guys, it... (read in full...)
I can't believe that I let my lie get this far!
Q. Please help! I have a huge dilemma! I am at risk of getting caught in a huge lie I told to my boyfriend (we are in a serious relationship). Background: I suspected my boyfriend had cheated on me and found a possibly incriminating text messa...
A. 8 September 2005: Honesty is always the best policy. Looks can be deceiving. I agree with Delila, butter him up and let the truth fly. Tell him that you are sorry and if he really loves you then it can be worked out.
Make sure you got more evidence than a poss... (read in full...)
I trusted my boyfriend not to cheat. Now I'm not so sure and I'm miserable!
Q. I believed it was a very good relationship, but I wanted to him to propose and didn't feel he was sure enough to do so. I told him, I wasn't going to wait longer than 3 years and he promised me he would propose on our 3 year anniversary. This is my ...
A. 8 September 2005: Not getting engaged now is the best thing you can do right now anyway. He is not ready for the big commitment or he wouldn't be doing what he is doing. There is more to, what your boyfriend has confessed to. I think when she walked up when he was ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has stopped sending me affectionate texts...
Q. I have this girlfriend for less than a year. Intially we were very loving towards each other. Every morning we will wake each other up, call and check how each other is doing, as and when, message each other with those sweet heartening words. T...
A. 8 September 2005: Try a change of pace with her. Lay off the text messages and maybe send her some flowers, plan an romantic evening, or take her to do something you know she loves to do. Give her attention without making her feel smothered. The same thing all the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has lied all his life!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. We both love each other very much and I want to spend the rest of my life with him but his compulsive lying is ruining any chance of happiness together. He's told me that he's lied eversince he ...
A. 8 September 2005: He has taken the first step and acknowledged he has a problem. Perhaps some counciling would help him. If it is a habit then he needs to think of someway to break the habit. Maybe like when he starts to say something, take a deep breath and think is ... (read in full...)
We fought and I moved out to give our marriage a break. Did I do the right thing?
Q. My marriage is in trouble and I refuse to give up but it is time to take a break? For the last two weeks my husband and I of 4 years have been fighting non stop and if we're not fighting I am getting the cold shoulder. It all started because ...
A. 8 September 2005: Marriage is not easy. It is a constant compromise. Ofcourse there will be times he will make you mad and vice versa but is it really worth fighting over. Pick your batttles, sometimes its just easier to let it go.
You said it started because ... (read in full...)
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