We fought and I moved out to give our marriage a break. Did I do the right thing?
Q. My marriage is in trouble and I refuse to give up but it is time to take a break? For the last two weeks my husband and I of 4 years have been fighting non stop and if we're not fighting I am getting the cold shoulder. It all started because ...
A. 8 September 2005: Marriage is not easy. It is a constant compromise. Ofcourse there will be times he will make you mad and vice versa but is it really worth fighting over. Pick your batttles, sometimes its just easier to let it go.
You said it started because ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant to my boyfriend... In Thailand, this isn't allowed!
Q. Firstly I have to telll all of you that I am a Thai lady. Actually Thai lady can marry just only once and we cannot get pregnant before getting married. Whoever does that must be punished from the society, like gossiping etc. All of you may be ...
A. 8 September 2005: I am a American but I understand what you are going through. Please don't think about hurting yourself, there are other things you can do. You didn't say how old you are but perhaps you can go somewhere and have the baby and give it up for adoption. ... (read in full...)
A jealous friend is spreading terrible rumours and now everyone hates me!
Q. I have had a girlfriend for about 3 months now and everything is perfect! Communication, affection, whatever you can name is perfect. There is just one problem that isn't either of our faults, and that is her friend. Her friend got very jealous and ...
A. 7 September 2005: Tell your girlfriend true friends would not do that or believe that especially after being told by your girlfriend that it was not true. Do her so-called friends realize they are hurting her! Perhaps she should tell them. They may not care about you ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is in trouble, but I want to fix it. Can it be saved?
Q. My relationship with my girlfriend is going bad to the point we will most likely break up. I want to fix it, but she does not seem like she wants to. Can it still be fixed?...
A. 7 September 2005: If your relationship is going to a point where you will break up turn it into another direction. Talk to your girlfriend and see where things are going wrong. At least that way you will know which way to go, and if she is willing to even try. Lots ... (read in full...)
As soon as I told him about my feelings, he stopped talking to me!
Q. Me and this boy have been talking and as we were talking I started falling in love with him... Now this has been going on for 2-3 months and I finally told him. Now he doesnt want to talk to me anymore. What do I do?...
A. 7 September 2005: You didn't say if you two were dating or just talking as friends. Either way 2-3 months is not a long time. Sounds like he either got scared, or didn't want to go in that direction at all. You can try to talk to him and see what went wrong but if he ... (read in full...)
I want to be friends with my friends, but they seem to want to date me!
Q. hi, I am an 18 year old girl and mainly have male friends. I do prefer male company as I tend to argue with girls. I have been friends with a group of males for a few years now! However I dated one of them for 1 year, it did end well but he still ...
A. 7 September 2005: I understand what you mean about the male companionship, I was always the same, and I had the same problems as you when it came to my friends wanting to date me. You need to explain to your friends that you only want to be friends with them. Nothing ... (read in full...)
I broke if off for personal reasons... but suddenly people are saying nasty things about me...
Q. Dear Cupid, I just broke up with my boyfriend, and now everyone is saying how nasty I am. I didn't do anything wrong though. I even asked if we could still be friends because I don't want us to be enemies like my other ex-boyfriends (I didn't say ...
A. 7 September 2005: It's your life. You don't have to explain yourself to other people. You know the expression "Stick and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." As long as your ex-boyfriend understands I wouldn't worry about it. It's none of their ... (read in full...)
Since I'm back at uni, we hardly see each other. Will our relationship stand the distrance?
Q. I am going out with a really great guy and we are talking about moving in together and having babies and getting married in the future. But since I have gone back to college he has had more work hours and we hardly see each other, and it's getting ...
A. 7 September 2005: Any kind of long distance relationships are hard. Take it slow, you need to get through school before you get married and start having babies. If its meant to be it will be. Just keep the line of communication open, be honest and accept that you can ... (read in full...)
Am I imagining it, or is my boyfriend pulling back from us?
Q. I have been dating my new guy for about 5 months now. In the beginning, we both established that we weren't looking for serious things, and most likely it would be more of a "fling". However, we clicked and we clicked hard. After 1 month he had ...
A. 7 September 2005: Sounds like you two started moving really quick from the start. When a relationship goes that fast it often burns out real quick. You need to talk to your boyfriend and see if he wants to slow things down. From the sounds of it he might be getting ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, so his affection and caresses were totally out of the blue!
Q. Dear I came to know this guy in the office and one day he invited me for a dinner as he was leaving the country for some other country. And on that first night, we went to this indian restaurant. And he mentioned that he has a girlfriend, and ...
A. 7 September 2005: You have let this go way to far already. When he told you he had a girlfriend you should stopped it there. If you had a boyfriend would you want your boyfriend doing what he is doing to someone else. I am sure his girlfriend wouldn't approve either. ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid after my dream about my sometimes violent fiancee?
Q. i am about to get married and last night I had a dream that i was confronted by a woman who had sexual relations with my fiance recently. I know it is my subconscious going crazy but it has brought up issues from our lengthy relationship where many ...
A. 7 September 2005: No you are not being paranoid. I bet your subconscious mind is trying to tell you something your conscious mind does not want to accept. You said it yourself he is a expert lier and family and friends believe cheating is normal to him. Is it such a ... (read in full...)
Feeling like I should leave my marriage and go back to my first husband...
Q. I am a newlywed of one year and was divorced from my first husband 1 1/2 years ago. My ex and I were together for 13 years and married nine. We have 2 children together and have maintained a very close friendship. The problem is, even though I...
A. 7 September 2005: You got right out of one marriage into another one and that rarely works. You probably fell for your husband on the rebound. Now since ex is back the feelings you had for him are stirred up again. You didn't say but my guess would be your ex- ended ... (read in full...)
Should I give my fiance another chance?
Q. Almost two years ago I broke up with my fiance because of nonsense. Since then we haven't really spoken to each other and about a week ago he came to me and we got to talking. Now the feelings that I once had are returning and to make matters worse ...
A. 7 September 2005: Search your heart and think about it carefully before you make any moves. You could destroy something that could be great for just to find out what could have been. Things usually happen for a reason, even nonsense. How much do you have invested in ... (read in full...)
How can I be sure that this relationship will make it in the long term?
Q. Hi, I have been living with my partner N for three years. He is 24, I am 25. We both love each other very much, but since the beginning of our relationship I have been getting bouts of doubt about our future together. It happens every couple of ...
A. 7 September 2005: When it comes to true love there is no above or under. You are willing to accept the person just as they are. If you are 3 years with this man and feel this way maybe you need to think seriously about what would life be without him. If you don't ... (read in full...)
A friend of ours was secretly meeting up with my partner. Now I can't get over the betrayal!
Q. Please help - I really need an outsiders objective! I am 23 and have been with my boyfriend (29) for 5 years. We used to have a brilliant relationship - I used to feel so loved and safe and like nothing could come between us. How wrong was I!! ...
A. 7 September 2005: Your first mistake and your boyfriends was getting in a couple's realtionship when it goes bad, that will always lead to disaster one way or another. If put in that situation again just tell the couple that you and your boyfriend would prefer to ... (read in full...)
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