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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now, and things are going very well between us. She is attractive, and gets approached often by guys. This makes me a little jealous, but I've told her it doesn't bother me. I don't want to be clingy and overprotective, and so I just grin and bear it. One obvious case is a male friend of hers, who is attracted to her. While I can deal with this, whenever I'm around he completely ignores me and I'm sure has only contempt towards me. I don't think it's fair to ask my girlfriend to terminate her friendship with him just because he doesn't like me, but the way he acts towards me is making it difficult to accept him and not hold him in contempt as well.What can I do to curb my jealous feelings, both to guys to make a move on my girlfriend generally, and what should I do about her male friend I mentioned?
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reader, ManAfterChrist  +, writes (21 April 2010):
 I agree with both The Gentle Man and the second post, but I also want to add that you may want to talk to him about it, clear the air. You know as well as I do that men respect face-to-face encounters more than anything, so if you confront him and just politely ask if he has feelings for your gf (don't assume), and he says yes, politely ask him to just tone it down because it makes you slightly uncomfortable. No harsh language. If he says no, just apologize and say you are sorry for the misunderstanding, you must have misinterpreted some things. Even if he lied when he said no, he will most likely respect you a lot more for approaching him so honestly and respectfully, and he will tone it down just to respect you.Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2010): If he likes her, that is not likely to go away. You're right to be a little jealous, but if you're the one she's going home with at night, that's what really matters. I can guarantee you that he is way more jealous of you than you are of him.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (20 April 2010):
 You just need to trust your gf that she isnt interested in any of the general guys that approach her. Its just one of those things you need to deal with.
As for her male friend, does he have a gf ?
If not, perhaps you should drop a hint to your gf to help him get his own gf. Eventually their relationship will become more relaxed and he will not need to hold any contempt towards you.
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