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This site suggests writing something in this part that explains why you are qualified to help people. Well, I would say there are a few reasons. One, I was a Police Officer and was not the type to just show up on a call to do the bare minimum. Cops can wear many different hats, even on the same call or in the same situation so having to do this multi-role job gave me a unique perspective on life's good and bad situations.
Also, when I was growing up I was picked on for a time, mainly because of my weight...that is until I stopped taking it. You know boys will be boys, get into a fight or two and the picking stops. I know how dangerous it can be to fight nowadays, but you don't have to physically fight to fight. We have to fight for our self respect sometimes because there are sometimes when, even though we respect ourselves others still won't. This is unacceptable if YOU respect yourself and others around you but you do not get this respect in return. Anyhow, havving been picked on as a child allows me to sympathize with people going through this same ordeal.
My last qualification is this: in my early 20's I made some poor choices in my life and these choices not only affected me but they also affected my loved ones. Some of these choices put a wedge between my parents and me and this rift with my parents actually caused tension in the early part of my marriage. I have been blessed enough that this rift is about 95% recovered. So, in short, a diploma from the School of Hard Knocks.
My responses are often blunt and for that I do not apologize. If a question is asked it needs to be answered very honestly because you have to face whatever problem is there or it will not go away. |
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Pregnant and BF doesn't want the baby right now. What do I do?
Q. I am only 21 and at Uni Bf still has a year or so to go till he finishes. I have just found out im pregnant and wasnt sure whether to keep it but decided to. I thought It wouldnt be easy but possible. Bf has told me he doesnt want kids... not yet ...
A. 16 April 2011: I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you can find someone to take you. Do you have taxi service in your area? As for him, think about what has happened here, about what he has done. You know this is lower than whale shit, right? I hope you really ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and BF doesn't want the baby right now. What do I do?
Q. I am only 21 and at Uni Bf still has a year or so to go till he finishes. I have just found out im pregnant and wasnt sure whether to keep it but decided to. I thought It wouldnt be easy but possible. Bf has told me he doesnt want kids... not yet ...
A. 15 April 2011: Lookie here, if he apologized, is sincere, and really tries to validate this through his actions then sure, I'm all for giving him another chance. I believe that people are faced with situations that makes them feel helpless, hopeless, and afraid ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and BF doesn't want the baby right now. What do I do?
Q. I am only 21 and at Uni Bf still has a year or so to go till he finishes. I have just found out im pregnant and wasnt sure whether to keep it but decided to. I thought It wouldnt be easy but possible. Bf has told me he doesnt want kids... not yet ...
A. 14 April 2011: I'm sorry but I can't resist on this one. This BF of your's is, and please forgive me, a f***in' a**hole. He did not want to wrap up his peter AND he came inside of you, but it is your fault because you two are in this situation????? I know you ... (read in full...)
He is verbally abusive and very controlling, why??
Q. hi, im heather i jus turned 17 on monday. and ive been off and on with this guy who has jus turned 21 a few days before me since christmas. theres a few things that are really bothering me 7 i would jus likwe some insight on why hes treating me ...
A. 14 April 2011: heather17, I'm assuming your name is actually Heather so I will call you so. It's close enough to your screen name to do so. Listen to me, and listen good, please. I was a Police Officer for 3 years in the US so I have seen more than my fair ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant if semen does not go inside the vagina??
Q. If cum gets on the outside lips or around my vagina can it go up into my vagina without being touched? Or does it have to be physically inserted for it to get in and pregnancy to happen?...
A. 14 April 2011: I would say that the chances of this happening are slim to none, and slim is a VERY small number, indeed. I mean, I suppose it COULD go inside on its own...I think you have a better chance of winning the entire jackpot in the lottery then getting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a lover without the headaches
Q. suspect partner is cheating he says hes not put all the signs are there i am older than him and we have lived together for 12 yrs. then he moved to his own place and i have my own place but we were still seeing each other as a couple til last year ...
A. 14 April 2011: Well, perhaps he said this so you would leave. This way, he could justify to himself that it doesn't matter what he is doing because you left him? You see? I am not saying this is right because it's not. He should just tell you that he cannot be ... (read in full...)
I want to post phone my wedding due to the death of my father
Q. Hi everyone I was going to get married this May but my father just past a way and I'm not ready to get married right now because of my mother I know I can't stay forever but I feel bad just leaving her so soon..... How long should I post pone the ...
A. 14 April 2011: The Realist is real here...no reason not to postpone your wedding because a celebration would go against the grain right now...just don't make it too long. I'm sorry for the loss of your father. ... (read in full...)
Threesome gone terribly wrong...my husband is in love with her, my life is a mess and I'm pregnant with our 4th child!
Q. I feel like I'm at my wits end. I am so conflicted about what I should do that I am in a constant state of depression where it's almost debilitating. It all started about a year and a half ago. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we ...
A. 14 April 2011: Yes, I just wanted to say that my last answer was not me. I forgot lock my computer in my office and my co-workers saw the webpage and decided to play a joke on me...it wasn't very funny and I apologize for this. ... (read in full...)
Masturbation every night. Should I get help?
Q. Hello, I'm 16 and I masturbate every night. I was wondering if this is common or should I get some help? Please help...
A. 13 April 2011: Yeah dude, everyone on here is right. Nothing wrong with slappin' the salami; 99.9% of all males masturbate, the other .1% lie about it. ... (read in full...)
Should I run away from home and marry the boy I love?
Q. hi; i am 25 and dating a guy from past 1 yr , he is a diabetic type-1 from his childhood and fully insulin dependent twice a day. i want to marry him but my parents are refusing because of his diabetis and also because of intercaste marriage...
A. 13 April 2011: You know in many cultures where there are/were forced marriages, running away to get married and consumating that marriage before the famiy found out has always been a choice. However, Honeygirl is right; whatever you decide there will be ... (read in full...)
I'm too tight for my boyfriend to finger
Q. im a virgin. i want to my boyfriend to finger me but im so tight. he doesnt want to hurt me. help. :) thanks ...
A. 13 April 2011: Darlin', whisky and KY!... (read in full...)
What can I do? He's so jealous and questions me for ages if I do go out with friends.
Q. basically me and my boyfriend have been together for two years and a couple of months. I love him with all my heart and we've known each other for years. but he is so jealous of everything! He doesn't like my friends he doesn't like me going out...
A. 13 April 2011: Listen, I was a Police Officer for 3 years and this is my take on this guy. I see "potential abuser" all over this. Abusers all have the same MO and he fits this MO. He's jealous, he tries to keep you from your friends, and he doesn't want to go ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend refers to me as "someone" he doesn't make me feel special
Q. I have been dating this guy for the last 3 years. He is Danish with Master degree. a year ago, he started to refer to me as someone. I wanted to go home, he said do not go, I want someone to hold on to. For the last year he has been referr...
A. 13 April 2011: Classic player. If you want a good man then you need to drop this "zero" because he's worthless and he's using you. I'm sure you're a great girl with a lot to offer someone who deserves it; this guy "ain't" it. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still friends with a girl that loves him as well as me
Q. I am concerned about my boyfriend. He is friends with a girl he slept with once a number of years ago and she has confessed to him that she is in love with him but he continues o chat with her on a regular basis. I have just found out about her ...
A. 13 April 2011: Hell no you shouldn't trust him. Lookie here, if he hung up with you because he was tired but called her and talked with her for an hour then that is a red flag that something's amiss. Take it from a guy that made the mistake of playing that game ... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with my ex? She's confusing me. What is she doing?
Q. Me and my ex broke up and 3 weeks later she had another bf. The other day I was at the club and she was there with her bf. I noticed she spent no time with him at all...he was stood on the sidelines like a wallflower with his friend. She was ...
A. 13 April 2011: Yeah dude, I agree with sexlessintheuk; she was trying to get your attention. Basically it is like this, and pardon my being frank here. She was wanting to dance with you, for whatever reason, and this was evident by her trying to talk to you. ... (read in full...)
Her excuse for sleeping with my brother is that she thought it was me! Should I believe her?
Q. A few days ago my twin brother and I had our birthday party at our apartment. Our girlfriends were at the party with a few friends. We had quite a bit of different kind of liquor. Then I guess I passed out. In the morning, my brother's girlfriend ...
A. 12 April 2011: If you give her another chance and she wants it then she better do WHATEVER it takes to earn your trust. As for your bro, who cares if he is stronger? Kick him in the balls as hard as you can when his attention is distracted then kick him in the ... (read in full...)
She doesn't seem to making much effort to spend time with me
Q. So all year I have been looking forward to this baseball game against our school rivals, and I'm pretty excited to play, but just last week i injure my arm and I need to be out for a couple games. That's only the start, and where it connects...
A. 12 April 2011: I hate to sound like Yoda, but search your feelings and find the answer to this question, you will. ... (read in full...)
Torn between two men--who do I choose?
Q. I am a young lady, with fairly severe jealousy and self esteem issues. I have been dating and living with my boyfriend for 3 years. 2 of those years, we haven't been getting along. He was ignoring me, resorting to alcoholism and occasionally ...
A. 12 April 2011: Cupidus is right. I've seen several of her replies to posts; she hits the nail on the head every time. Couldn't have said it better. ... (read in full...)
I lied about being 13 and told him I'm 15; turns out he's 18 and he really likes me
Q. i really need anyones help i could get at the moment so any comments will do. i met this guy on the internet a few weeks ago,then the other day i asked for his age,turns out he's 18! so i told im 15,but really im 13! then we've been talking so much ...
A. 12 April 2011: Just imagine how selfish it would be of you if you two started having sex (it happens, quick, fast, and in a hurry and you don't want to stop after it starts) and he had no idea that you were 13. If he got caught, you're right, he would be ... (read in full...)
How do I rekindle our love?
Q. Me and my wife have had a serious falling out recently. we are seperated and argue quite often. for details on the falling out see my other questions. It has come extremely close to divorce several times. She is staying with a friend and says she ...
A. 12 April 2011: I would ask you, why do you smother her? Perhaps there is an issue within yourself that needs to be worked on. I would go to counseling; start off a few times alone then ask her to come with you. The counselor may be able to shed light on the ... (read in full...)
I am uncomfortable with BF's drug use. Need advise.
Q. Ive been back with my ex for 4 months were living together and im totally in love. i broke up with him 2 years ago coz of drugs and hes having a bit of trouble trying to forget how much hurt he went through but he only told me yesterday that he ...
A. 12 April 2011: He's not ready for you, and Lord help you women, you can't change a man. He has to do that from inside himself. In other words, because he wants to. I say take some time to yourself to get over this guy and find one that has his head on straight. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me not to be happy that my married lover had a baby with his wife?
Q. My lover just had another baby with his wife. I am very sad and disappointed about this. Is this normal? I love the guy so much and he loves me too. We have been together for two years and has been married for three years. I have always respected ...
A. 12 April 2011: "My lover just had another baby with his wife. I am very sad and disappointed about this." These are the first two sentences of your post and probably the most important. Strip away all emotion and read those two sentences again. Begging your ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my ex who has another girlfriend, and I'm only 14! Should I keep it or give it up for adoption?
Q. ok so, i was with my ex for a year and 2 months, he currently has a new gf because hes 'trying to get over me' we had sex a couple weeks ago (yea i know im such a horrible person letting him cheat on her like that, blah blah blah) but the condom ...
A. 11 April 2011: sexlessintheuk hit the nail on the head. ... (read in full...)
Just had a baby and not feeling too great about my body, and now I find out my boyfriend is watching porn! What should I do?
Q. I've just had a baby so am not really comfy with my body at the minute, but I've just recently found out that my boyfriend and my babies dad has been watching porn on the internet and Im not sure how to feel or what I should do about it?...
A. 11 April 2011: I say it depends on how long ago you had the baby and if your body is physically ready to resume having sex. If your body is physically ready and he still wants to look at porn I say that is a problem. However, if you haven't been cleared to start ... (read in full...)
He never pulls out before he ejacualtes and I don't want another child right now!
Q. My boyfriend always ejaculates in me, unless I tell him specicfically every time "pull out" And it can be that we have sex and I tell him to pull out, and he does then 5 min. later he is ready again, and if I don't tell him to pull out that time ...
A. 10 April 2011: I know it's an old posting but I can relate. I am married now but when I met my wife I was at a point in my life where it didn't matter to me what happened. I was "good" with whatever was thrown my way but I was incredibly attracted to my wife and ... (read in full...)
I stay married for my children, but am in a relationship with a divorcee.
Q. I stay married for the children's sake but but romance with my husband died after he cheated on me and am not sleeping with each other. I have just started a relationship with a divorcee who is much younger than me and who said he doesnt mind me ...
A. 10 April 2011: You know this is only going to end up in heartache. Just how many people have heartache over this depends on what you do. You should think about what is best for you and your children and do it. Once things are settled if you want this younger ... (read in full...)
How can my confusing situation with my ex be resolved? what can I do?
Q. Hey guys.. my ex and i had been together for around 1 year and 6 months. We broke up 3 weeks ago. She asked for it. I found out about some relationship repair programs and followed it. She started contacting me, telling me that she misses m...
A. 10 April 2011: This is the second answer in 15 minutes that I agree with Cupidus on. This one is better than the last. You got it goin' on Cupidus!... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my genuine insecurities? That I think he is going to cheat on my?
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend and I have been going out for just over 5 months and I'm his first serious girlfriend. I've asked him about his ex-girlfriends and he answers me honestly but the other night when I asked him when he and his last girlfriend ...
A. 10 April 2011: Cupidus is right; there's a bit of "no nonsense" advice. Also, if you know that he used to hook with other girls while having a girlfriend but he changed his mind about not wanting to have a long term relationship then I say it is likely worth ... (read in full...)
Threesome gone terribly wrong...my husband is in love with her, my life is a mess and I'm pregnant with our 4th child!
Q. I feel like I'm at my wits end. I am so conflicted about what I should do that I am in a constant state of depression where it's almost debilitating. It all started about a year and a half ago. My husband and I have been married for 15 years and we ...
A. 9 April 2011: If you want to get even let me know...... (read in full...)
Obsessed with my girlfriend's sexual history. Should I look at the hidden computer files?
Q. I have had problems with my girlfriend's sexual past before and sometimes I think I am getting over it. However, last night I was using her computer and I noticed that there were some hidden files that I could not access. Judging from the file names ...
A. 9 April 2011: I feel ya. I have asked about exGFs' pasts and have not liked some of the answers, but at the same time it turns me on. I say give her assurance that you won't overreact if you ask her anything else. ... (read in full...)
I think he said it was enough because I'm so inexperienced. Any advice?
Q. Im 15 and I've never really had a proper boyfriend so I'm quite inexperienced. Recently I've been on a couple of dates with this guy who is also 15 but a lot more experienced than me. So last night I was meeting this guy at his house before w...
A. 9 April 2011: Hrm...well, for one, those types of "things" take practice. Two, I believe that those types of "things" are mental and what I mean by that is, inexperience = anxiety. Anxiety = inhibitions. Less anxiety = less inhibitions which = more fun and ... (read in full...)
Fallen in love with "Best Bud" and he is leaving. Should I tell him?
Q. i think i am falling for my bestbud.. it's been 2 years.. i started to care more than i should.. i dont want to lose him.. he is showing he cares for me.. jokes that he loves me.. i know he loves someone.. its so hard when what he is showing is ...
A. 8 April 2011: "i think i am falling for my bestbud.." It's a good idea to be friends with someone you want to be serious with. "he is showing he cares for me.. jokes that he loves me.." He loves you too because there is truth in joking. He is probably ... (read in full...)
I am dating my supervisor. We are discrete. Should I stay at this job or move to another?
Q. Hello, I am in a weird situation here. I work as a nurse aide and my supervisor and I have been seeing each other for two weeks now. He is so sweet to me. He always tells me how pretty I am and brings me flowers. When we are at work we keep it ...
A. 8 April 2011: I'd say you should probably move. Some say that you should not get your money and your honey from the same place. I dated someone at work about 10 years ago and we were the talk of the place and everyone was up in our business. I guess it didn't ... (read in full...)
She's 30 years younger than me, should I not get involved?
Q. I met a woman on holiday who is 30 years younger than me. We both know this is not long term but we enjoyed ourselves. She wants to visit me in my home. My children are grown up and don't live at home. I am separated for 6 years. Is it best to ...
A. 8 April 2011: You stated that you both know that this thing is not long term. I say, that's awesome that at your age you can get a woman 30 years younger than you. You know how many guys your age wish for that? I am guesstimating how old you are but just ... (read in full...)
Why are women attracted to big penises?
Q. Granted I myself am not very well equipped, being at 4 inches long and 4 inches in girth. I don't understand what's so great about big penises and why girls seem so attracted to them. Some girls have told me that smaller penises aren't attractiv...
A. 7 April 2011: I have heard that if you feel like your equipment is not be big enough then master the entire art of sex, not just the thrusting. If you can do other things to a girl then you should be good. As for b****es making fun, to hell with them. ... (read in full...)
Do men really like large breasts, I am endowed and I am embarrassed about my chest, do men like them better than small breasts??
Q. one more question... do guys like girls with big boobs? i mean honestly because i have a set and sometimes i get slmost self concious about them....
A. 7 April 2011: You should not be embarassed about your rack. Men do like them. Personally, nothing in this entire world is sexier than a big set of natural breasts. They will sag in 20 years? I don't mind because they are natural. I LOVE this.
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People who are in a marriage with a 30-year age difference.....
Q. I'm really REALLY in love with a man 30 years to my senior, but I worry about our age difference. I have done so much internet research and found so many similar cases with a biiiiig age difference, but none of them really answered my question. ...
A. 7 April 2011: When I was 20 I had an intimate relationship with a woman that was 48. It only lasted a year but I think about this: if we were still together she would be 59 this summer and I am 30 now. I recently found out that she has heart problems and ... (read in full...)
Been cheating on wife with 3 girlfriends and 40 hookers
Q. Hi, I have been married 10 years to my wife who I love but she is very difficult to live with. I don't know if I am a nympho or what, but when she is not around I can masturbate up to 4 times a day. Also, when i have been away for work on many occ...
A. 6 April 2011: I don't think it is right what you are doing to your wife. However, is it normal for men to want to have sex with many different women? Yes. You should probably divorce your wife and just be a man-whore. Then no one can grudge you for you ... (read in full...)
Men, do you like to kiss the vulva during foreplay?
Q. Are there any men here that like to kiss the vulva during foreplay? If yes, you get a lot of pleasure out of it? When you do, do you give short quick pecks, or longer ones?...
A. 6 April 2011: If a man says he does not enjoy kissing the vulva then he has gone stark mad. I like to kiss the vulva any time, any place baby! Now that I have my initial response out, I want to say that I agree with Mr. Anonymous up there. His answer is gr... (read in full...)
Should I marry her while I still have this desire to be with men?
Q. I have a lovely girlfriend. We've been together for a few years. I want to married her and start a family soon, but there is a problem. Back when I was in my twenties, I made a very bad decision that landed me in prison for almost a decade. While I ...
A. 6 April 2011: This is a delicate question so please take no offense to my answer. First, if you want to overcome this maybe you should see a therapist. There's no telling what type and how much damage the ordeal in prison caused you. However, with your ... (read in full...)
I always get bored. It's happening again. Why and what should I do?
Q. I am 21 years old and i think of myself as a mature adult, i want to have that long term commitment with someone but my problem i have is that i become bored in a relationship very quickly. I am usually loud and very out going, and i enjoy the ...
A. 6 April 2011: You're 21. There's no reason to rush to be in a serious relationship. I think that is something that should just "happen." You cannot force that to just happen. Anyways, like I said, you're 21. Have fun and do you and don't pressure yourself to ... (read in full...)
Is this guy a player or am I just suspicious?
Q. I really need some help on this one, guys opinions too please. Im not 100% sure but I think I have guy who is a bit of a player or a flirt. He is older than me by 7 years. Met him over a social network site (you know the one). We live in the same ...
A. 6 April 2011: Well, it is possible that he is just afraid of getting too close but I don't think so. Once, I played the cheating game. I lived with one girl and dated another. This did not work out for very long. The other girl is now my wife and she wondered ... (read in full...)
I am desperately unhappy because I cant measure up to my boyfriend's ex and I just want to get out of this relationship so that I do not have to be compared to her...
Q. I am so so jealous of my partners ex. I dont know where to start but it just seems like she was better in every way. She was very good looking, she had a kid, guys were always hitting on her. She is now doing a great job that pays well and she is ...
A. 6 April 2011: "With me the relationship is just dull, he says its a lot of fun and he loves being with me and wants to get married! but I dont think that is true. I'm a really dull, boring individual with a dull boring life and I have never had sex, guys never ... (read in full...)
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