Married too young, regret it but am frightened to end it...
Q. ok so i got married 6 months ago, amazing wedding it was truly a fairy tale, long story short, : myself: extremely creative is fond of making things, clothes, bows, drawing - artistic, painting, animal fond, rock/metal music also girly music a...
A. 8 August 2010: "i love him but i want to turn back time, i want some one who spoils me, loves me takes care of me.."
Why cant you have that?
I understand your family paid alot for your wedding, but I can guarantee your parents would rather have wasted a si... (read in full...)
How do I convince my friend she is being so stupid to go out with a much older man?
Q. Okay so my friend met this guy on myspace who wants to "take her out." usually i wouldnt care so much only my friend is 13 and he is 27. she says "i dont care i need affection blah blah blah". I'm trying to convince her that she is being stupid but ...
A. 8 August 2010: Okay, she is 13 and he's 27.. thats more than twice her age. I take it this 'man' knows shes 13? If so, he's already broken the law. She's not at the legal age of having sex (16) and i highly doubt this guy just wants to take her for a walk in the ... (read in full...)
I am atrracted to my fiance's brother
Q. My fiance an I have been together for 4 years and we have planned to get married after I finish school, He's a wonderful guy and I do love him but he has completely cut romance out of the relationship. He blames work, tiredness, not being in a ...
A. 8 August 2010: Firsly, Open relationships are VERY tricky. Everybody is getting something and someone, BUT you two are a couple.. an engaged couple at that, planning on getting married! Marriage is monogamous, therefore if your having doubts about marrying your ... (read in full...)
Why is sex sacred to women after marriage when they were so promiscuous before.
Q. I don't understand this. Before she met me, my wife couldn't care less about who she slept with. She was a party girl and gave it up to pretty much anyone. Now that we are married its supposed to be this sacred bond that only she and I share? I do...
A. 7 August 2010: Everybody has sex. Whether its with 1-3 partners or over 20. Eventhough you haven't gotta sleep with dozens of guys to find 'Mr Right', If you never go there, you'll never know. I know marriage is alot more than just the sex, but if the sex isn't... (read in full...)
Should I let him have a choice between his girlfriend and me?
Q. Basically, what do i do now? I have known and been close friends with a guy for a year. We speak every day by text / phone and I see him a few times a week. We get on really well but there has always been the impression amongst people that we h...
A. 7 August 2010: Well your late friend is right, If you do have feelings for someone you have to tell them.. BUT you must make sure it's not going to make the situation alot more difficult. Is he in love with his girlfriend? Does he want to get out of the ... (read in full...)
I don't drink alcohol much...does that bother her?
Q. There is a girl that I like and would like to get into a relationship with. I don't drink alcohol much at all. At a wedding or a special dinner I will, but not regularly. This girl is not a huge drinker but she likes to drink socially. Do ...
A. 6 August 2010: You havent got to be dancing on the tables, spewing in the alley or a paraletic mess for a girl to take notice of you. So you dont drink.. Big deal. If anything, she will like it. She knows your not going to be an embarrasment, a flirt with other ... (read in full...)
Are my breasts too big for my age?
Q. im 14 and everyone says my breast a too big.. i have a small body frame.. and im 5 foot 2in... and my breast are almost 32e i dont like them at all and i've been dating guys older than me.. are they only dating me cuz my breasts?? can i make t...
A. 6 August 2010: Every girl's body is different sweetie. Some have small breasts, some have big, some are tall, some are short, and the list goes on. I had 34D boobs by the time I was 15 and hated them, Im now 21 and am a 36F. I hated them as a teenager, but as i ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him even though he wont wear condoms and I'm not on birth control?
Q. i've been with my bf for 1year. hes my first love and im his he's two years older than me.. we are both vigins.. and homecoming night b4 his big game.. i well lets just say i wanna have sex with him.. he gave me i ring and we are getting married ...
A. 5 August 2010: Child - Dependant for 18-21 Years Minimum
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STD - Disease that affects your lady parts.
Symptons Vary From - Itching, Burning, Scabs, Sore... (read in full...)
6 years later, he is very secretive and our sex life is lacking. Help!
Q. i have been with my partner for 6 years we have a lovely little boy together we both work full time. lately i have notice big changes in him like been very sneaky not leaving his phone down or when i walk in the room he hides it straight away we ...
A. 5 August 2010: Definetely. It's a big red alert when your not having sex, I understand you have a child, however young he may be, but it's usually the mother who loses her sex drive therefore I dont think this is the problem. It could be one of the following:
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How can I prove to her that I can be friendly and extroverted?
Q. Ok, in a nut shell, my girlfriend broke up with me and went to study abroad. On her return i went to her and told her how much i loved her and how i really felt. She had it in her mind that she was going to say no but now she is unsure. She still ...
A. 5 August 2010: You are definetely making this more complicated than it needs to be! It's not a first date, Your her ex, so she knows what you're like as a person. And you just said yourself 'She wants someone more outgoing and I am that person'. If she's already ... (read in full...)
Lies about her past........
Q. me and my girlfriend were talking about her past early in our relationship and she said she had anly slept with 2 other people only 7 times and only had oral once... i read her diary and it said she had slept with 3 guys and one guy was 7 times and ...
A. 5 August 2010: You've been married for 7 years and have 2 children. This is the 21st Century, not the biblical age. People have sex before marriage AND with different people. Who cares if shes slept with 3,4 or 20 men? 7,8 or 50+ times? Shes married to YOU now, ... (read in full...)
Wife wants an open relationship so that I will stray and she can walk away
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 5 August 2010: I have to agree with FatherlyAdvice, It sounds like shes already gone. Tell me exactly HOW an open relationship would work without feelings getting shattered? Would you like to see your wife getting sexy/close with another man? Would you like your ... (read in full...)
I'm confused, is he playing head games?
Q. My boyfriend(30) and I(25) have been together for almost a year now. We have been living together for the past 7 months. He seperated from his wife over a year ago and has just finalized his divorce at the beginning of summer. Yay! However, I have ...
A. 5 August 2010: I can understand why you are so confused. Living together is a BIG next step! Especially in a year of being together, but then each couple are different. The fact that he wanted to take things slow (obviously from just leaving a marriage) is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can get too rough in the bed sometimes...I need advice!
Q. Hey everyone, i've been dating my BF for almost 3 years now and we have a good, trusting relationship. Sex is satisfying for me, but he seems to want to be violent during sex. Now don't think i mean rough, because i don't mind a bit of rough now and ...
A. 3 August 2010: Many men like to be the 'dominator' and rough sex is very common, both men and women. Telling him to stop mid-sex can ruin the moment and this may make your man feel awkward. My advice is for the both of you to sit and chose a 'code word', a word ... (read in full...)
Sex toys for males?
Q. Hello everyone! I'm a 18 year old guy and I love masturbating. I'm not obsessed with it, I only do it 3-5 times a day, but it's not like I can't stop if I wanted to or that I'm doing it in public. I want to get a male sex toy, but I can't beca...
A. 3 August 2010: Theres plenty of things around the house that you can use whether you want something anal or cock ring alike. But homemade things aren't made for masturbating purposes, therefore its a good chance that something could break, snap or damage you. Not ... (read in full...)
What is important love or sex?
Q. [OP's own title] I love my bf so much and we have a blast together but when it comes down to sex he has a hard time satisfying me. He always ends up finishing before i do.What should i do?i dont want to leave him but like every woman i want to ...
A. 3 August 2010: Well everybody says 'Sex isnt everything' and its not, but its a BIG part of a relationship. You can be madly in love with somebody but if he's never giving you an orgasm, you're going to start to wonder who else can.
If it's him coming too earl... (read in full...)
Implant, problems with long periods, mood swings, anyone else have this situation??
Q. This is more a question my girlfriend should ask but since she doesn't post on forums I'll ask for her. She had a contraceptive implant put into her arm about 3 months ago, and the doctors told her at the time that either her periods would be...
A. 2 August 2010: I had the injection just over 2 years ago (which lasts 3 months) and i had a period for 2 months. When i went back for my next injection, they offered the implant, so i took this and only lasted a year with it. Luckily for me (and my boyfriend), My ... (read in full...)
Why is the man I had an affair with so moody with me? Did he ever love me?
Q. I worked with a guy for over 6 years. Our families became good friends birthday parties etc. I love his family very much he has such a great wife! After working 9 hours a day 5 sometimes 6 days a week, he and I developed our own strong friendship. ...
A. 1 August 2010: Firstly it's been 7 years and he hasn't left his wife for you? And you have a 'great' Husband who you haven't left for him? So what is the purpose of this affair?
Children have their own toys that they love and play with daily, but when they get... (read in full...)
The ex... can't get over her...
Q. My ex contacted me last week looking to see me again, then called me a few times afterwards, thats tues past and ive texed her a couple of times and she hasnt replied and i havent heard from her again. She told me about 2 weeks ago never to contact ...
A. 1 August 2010: If i was you, i'd delete her number so you can't text/ring her. If she contacts you, ignore her. You've already said she messed with your head, the whole pregnancy thing, lying to you and telling you she loves you. Why hang on to that? As the sayi... (read in full...)
Homesick...
Q. I feel a bit stupid for writing this but would like some advice. Over the past few months I keep getting homesick. I live at home and am used to always having people around. Whencwork sends me away for 1/2 nights or on a course for the day I ge...
A. 1 August 2010: Well you answered your own question hun, You're used to always having people around, plus your between 26-29 and living at home so you've never experienced 'being alone' to a certain extent. It's good that your experiencing being away from home in ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know??
Q. OP's own title: Ok so to it keep short...my husband has never really trusted me due to me cheating on him before we got married. We've been married 9yrs now and I have been faithful. Recently he told me that a source of his told him that I have ...
A. 1 August 2010: I agree with TimmD! You gotta let this man go now. Cheating as payback to your cheating can just cause a long lifetime of misery. What if you cheated again to get back at his cheating? Then he does it because you cheated again? This could go on for ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know??
Q. OP's own title: Ok so to it keep short...my husband has never really trusted me due to me cheating on him before we got married. We've been married 9yrs now and I have been faithful. Recently he told me that a source of his told him that I have ...
A. 28 July 2010: Come onnnnn, its been 9 Years!! You seem honest that you haven't cheated since before you got married and therefore thats 9 years +. As you claim you haven't cheated, that means your husband is either lying or his 'source' is.
It sounds more lik... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want to know the relationship history of the person you are dating?
Q. Mod Note: OP's own title: I would think that it is normal to want to know about the relationship history of the person you are dating. Especially as you are getting closer to them and more committed. Some folks seem to disagree with me...but I c...
A. 28 July 2010: Personally I think its important to know what has happened with their previous relationships etc as it gives an insight into what kind of person they are too i.e
Who ended it, Him or Her? Did anybody cheat? Were they married? Are children involved... (read in full...)
I was so wrong, How can I get him back?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend last week over something that I thought happened when I was drunk but didn't actually happen. Now I wish I could undo it, but he doesn't believe in getting back together. He thinks it never works out. He thinks that ...
A. 28 July 2010: I agree. Leave him be for a while. If he realises how much he loves you, he'll come back to you :)... (read in full...)
He's excited but I don't feel ready for this...
Q. im 17 n my boyfriend really wants to have a baby he says he wil be there for me and everything so we started having unprotected sex and ive missed my period and have been feeling sick so im reaaal scared now and dont know what to do. i told him and ...
A. 27 July 2010: You have just answered your own question sweet. 'You're not ready for this'. So why the hell are you doing it? To please your boyfriend? As the saying goes 'Sex wont make him love you and a baby wont make him stay'.
You are 17, and im guessing... (read in full...)
What should I do about his ex wife texting?
Q. hi i have been with my boyfreind now for seven months i have moved in with him we are both divored his ex wife keeps texing him but nwhen i ask him he denires it but i know i should not have looked atbhis phone but i did as its driving me mad and i ...
A. 27 July 2010: First of all you need to elaborate - What is the content of the texts? Are they general chat or more? Has he replied to them? He's entitled to his privacy i.e not having to show you everything he does, but keeping something private such as texting ... (read in full...)
He Says He Wants Space - Does He Want to See Other People? What Doesit Mean?
Q. My bf and i have been really good lately but he told me he would like some space. First of all, what does that mean? i mean does he want to see his friends more? hang out with other girls? im just so confused on what he means by space.. We dont...
A. 27 July 2010: You said he spends most of his time at your house? Are you the kind of couple that live in each other's pockets? Do you even see your friends anymore? Your boyfriend more than likely loves you, but you just wants some time to himself. it's not a bad ... (read in full...)
Blowjobs: is it weird that it's the only thing I wanna do?
Q. Hey y'all! I know this is going to sound weird. But I've had an oral fixation ever since I was young. I'd never given a blowjob until I had sex for the first time when I got to college. I was later given the nickname: BJ. I love to give more tha...
A. 27 July 2010: You're not weird, you're a man's dream!!!
If you love doing it... Do it! I can gurantee that no man is going to say no!... (read in full...)
His Ex Stalks Him on Facebook
Q. My boyfriend's ex is all over his Facebook page, and it's recently started to bother me, especially as his family (who are also on FB and I am very close to) have started commenting on it. They broke up over a year ago, he had 6 months being sin...
A. 27 July 2010: I agree with CaringGuy, shes hoping for a reaction. This is what happened with my boyfriend and his Ex. She would even stalk my facebook too. We both blocked her and therefore she couldnt even search our names to find our profiles. However, she then ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my wife's cousin.
Q. I've been married to my wonderful wife for 2 years now and everything has been great up until just over a week ago. My wife's cousin decided to come and visit us for a little over two weeks. When I first saw her I thought she was a moderately ...
A. 21 July 2010: I don't think you should tell your wife or her cousin to be honest. It's only feelings, nothing has actually happened. I think you should wait until she leaves and see how you feel. If she leaves for at least 2-3 weeks and you cant stop thinking ... (read in full...)
What does double penetration mean?
Q. "OP Own Title" what does double penetration mean? Does it mean to have sex with 2 guys or to have anal and vaginal sex at the same time using your finger or a vibrator? I'm a bit confused....
A. 21 July 2010: It basically means having anal and vaginal sex at the same time. This can be with two men, two toys or a man and a toy.... (read in full...)
Condoms! We don't use them, why do you have them?
Q. Serious problem! I've been in a relationship with my guyfriend for the last three years, and during this time we have never used condoms during intimacy. A couple of weeks ago, I discovered condoms in his nightstand, and he hurriedly rushed over ...
A. 18 July 2010: Sweetie your boyfriend is cheating on you. Men lie. If a man gets caught out, the first thing he does is lie. The fact that he's now changed his lie, shows that neither of them are true therefore hes covering something up. My boyfriend did the exact ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between my parents and my online boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid, Well, the situation is really complicated. I met this guy online 7 months ago and we started talking. He was a nice guy and we fell for each other and start a relationship. He lives a world apart, but we keep in touch by phone calls a...
A. 18 July 2010: Ok I can definetely relate to you and share my story! I met my boyfriend online 15months ago, I live in the UK and he lives in the USA. Hes in the military, so when i met him he was actually in Iraq. Anyways, we fell for each other and just like ... (read in full...)
PLEASE HELP - I'm jealous and I shouldn't be!
Q. My wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for 2. A year or so before we got married we broke up for 6 months and ended up getting back together. Everything was going well (leading up to the wedding) and then she told me th...
A. 15 July 2010: I totally understand your point here. Fair enough you split up, regardless of whose fault it was. And whatever you two did with other people in that time doesnt count as cheating, but because you've gotten back together now.. it can cause some ... (read in full...)
Why is he sending another woman text messages saying "hey beautiful"
Q. i have been living with my boyfriend for a year and lately he has been distant. Not ass affectionate and attentive as before. I just felt like something was off so i checked his text messages (up until now i have never felt a need to) and saw ...
A. 15 July 2010: I was in the exact same situation as you. My boyfriend was really secretive with his phone, so one night when he was asleep i went through it and what do i find? Girls sending him pictures of themselves, nothing provocative, but still. Texts saying ... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriends panties in my boyfriends drawer. I am shocked! What to do?
Q. Panties of ex gf in the drawer... Hey all, I found penties of ex girlfriend at my boyfriends drower...and I don't know what to do... The problem is that I found it in his bag, which was closed and contained other memorabilia from his ex girlfrien...
A. 13 July 2010: You should just be totally honest with him and ask him 'Do you still need all of this stuff?'.
The exact same thing happened to me after about 4 months of being with my current boyfriend. I had recently moved in and was cleaning our bedroom when... (read in full...)
Do other people know if someone has had sex the night before?
Q. I don't want to disgust anyone with this question, but I want to know what goes on inside other people's heads. My question is...Do people wonder if they see someone walking down the street whether or not that person had sex the night before? ...
A. 13 July 2010: For starters yes women do talk. If you have a girlfriend and you are intimate together, its like 90% she is going to talk about it to her girl friends, thats just how us women are. But secondly people dont know if you have had sex the night before ... (read in full...)
Is loving two people ok?
Q. My Ex fiance admits shes in love with a co worker and me. But she wants me to try and work to see if we can get back together after she ended our engagement, canceled our wedding and moved out because of this guy. She said now that she loves me ...
A. 13 July 2010: Of course your not being unrealistic. This girl is just being plain selfish. She either ends it with him and wants to make it work with you, or vice versa. But really you shouldn't give her the choice, As much as it'll hurt you, you need to walk ... (read in full...)
Would you be upset if your boyfriend's ex texted him?
Q. Would you be upset if your boyfreinds ex gf texted him? It doesnt matter how much, it could be the 1st time she texted him or the 10th would you be upset? Also how do you not get jelous easy? Cause im a very jelous person but i try not to show it to ...
A. 7 July 2010: I think you need to elaborate more of your story. What did she say? Did he text back? Just like CaringGuy said, it'd be nice for her to not text but you cant control that. If she's saying inappropriate things to your boyfriend such as 'Come and meet ... (read in full...)
How do I make a choice between two men?
Q. So I am currently in love with two different men. I live with my boyfriend of a year and a half. But i'm seeing another man behind his back. I've been seeing the other man for about 9 months. Prior to this he and i were together for a few months and ...
A. 26 June 2010: Firstly i'd like to say Thank You to the anonymous post below me! I'm going through the same thing and your words just made everything clear to me. "they stop doing the things that they did to get you." Brilliant! I've been with my boyfriend for a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend often makes cruel 'jokes' about me
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for two years. We occassionally have problems because he pokes fun at me and 'jokes' in very cruel ways. Two days ago he was making fun of me because of how 'ugly I look when having an orgasm.' This was the fourth t...
A. 26 June 2010: I know two wrongs dont make a right, but i say you get your own back. My boyfriend makes jokes with me but i know hes joking and i do it right back at him. But your boyfriend seems to be taking them way too far. You shouldnt have to put up with ... (read in full...)
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