Is this some sort of a game to keep me around?
Q. Hello I am in need of some help , because male behavior confuses me. The fellow I had been dating for almost 3 years had broke up , we recently started dating again not a realtionship but going out on dates . When we go out we have a great tim...
A. 13 September 2010: Just saw the followup, well it does changes things a bit but still I'd say you should do the good old "make him chase you" thing and see how it goes, or at least that's what I'd do...... (read in full...)
Is this some sort of a game to keep me around?
Q. Hello I am in need of some help , because male behavior confuses me. The fellow I had been dating for almost 3 years had broke up , we recently started dating again not a realtionship but going out on dates . When we go out we have a great tim...
A. 13 September 2010: CindyCares might have a point so if you like him, I'd advise you to try the following: no sex for a while, never call him 1st. The idea is that he comes to a situation where he has to be attentive all of the time cause he's not even sure if you care ... (read in full...)
How do I know if shes the right one for me?
Q. Im the type of guy who isn't in contact with alot of people. Its not something i wake up and try to accomplish. I tend to focus on things which dont seem important to most people. Being like this in my nature i dont come across many women, and when ...
A. 13 September 2010: Unfortunately you can never know in advance, but wouldn't in be silly to miss out on an opportunity to bhe with a girl you like and who likes you back, just because if it doesn't work out things might get awkward in the future? By the way it's not ... (read in full...)
He friended me on facebook but no contact since. Do I make contact?
Q. This guy in my church friended me on facebook recently. We've never talked but it looks like he's friended a number of other people at church as well. I accepted, somewhat out of curiousity and the assurance that he was already friends with people I ...
A. 13 September 2010: I think a good way to go would be by casually commenting on his latest status or pictures or leaving him a wall post, maybe even sending him a message saying something like "forgot to thank you for adding me:) How's it going?" (make sure to actually ... (read in full...)
19 Nearly 20 and still a virgin
Q. Im going to be 20 in 6 months or so and im still a virgin. And the thought of it (and still being a virgin at 19 for that matter) is absolutely killing me. I hate myself so much and i cant stop with feeling negative, even though i know thats just ...
A. 12 September 2010: You just seem so lethargic about everything that's going on I can't help but wondering why? I'm making an impression that you feel like your life is completely out of your hands and the only way of getting a hold of it is by ending it, which is ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend got some single guys number at the bar
Q. Is it ok for my girlfriend to get some single dudes phone number at a bar? My GF went out with her single girlfriend last night an they were approached by two single guys. Apparently, these guys sat there and hung out with them until close. My...
A. 12 September 2010: First thing that crossed my mind while I was reading this was that they probably exchanged numbers, seems like everything she said doesn't make much sense but still let's focus on the good points -she confessed pretty much everything that was goin... (read in full...)
I feel like boyfriend has sex with me like its a favor!
Q. I know for a fact that I am quite attractive and sexy. I love dressing up and showing myself off. I love wearing sexy lingerie and am not afraid to go all-out and adventurous in the bedroom (and OUTSIDE the bedroom). I'm not afraid to put on a wee ...
A. 12 September 2010: Maybe he's holding a grudge of some kind? I can imagine it would turn me off from a guy I'm dating no matter how attractive he is. Other things I can think of are: he's having some kind of problems, maybe even a health condition, that's affecting ... (read in full...)
Just found out I am pregnant, I was doing drugs and drinking and now I'm worried about the baby!
Q. i just found out i'm about 4 weeks pregnant. i got drunk last night and i have drank heavily another 2 times in the past four weeks. i also tried cocaine for the first time when i must have been 3 weeks pregnant. i had about 3 lines and i'm really ...
A. 12 September 2010: I totally agree with Jmtmj, just wait for a scan and being that it's only your 4th week of pregnancy I think you should be fine. If you do collect enough courage you could tell your doctor about it though, just to be on the safe side, I'm sure ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had to cut ties with a close family member?
Q. I have to cut all ties with my father. Basically, he is an emotional bully and because of him my whole life I have not had any confidence or self-esteem. Im 27 now and because of how he has made me feel, I am unable to deal with conflicts and ...
A. 12 September 2010: I stopped talking to my mum about an year ago so, even though our situation is a lot different of course, in a way I can relate. I'd say it will be hard for you at first but in time you'll get used to it, same as with everything in life. In your ... (read in full...)
I was aroused after being punished by my mom. Freaked out by my feelings!
Q. I'm embarassed and ashamed but I felt aroused after being smacked by my mom. I got in some trouble at school after being caught lying about why I'd been hadn't been at school. The associate principle gave me a note to take home to my folks. I...
A. 12 September 2010: Was laughing while I was reading your question but now I can give you an advice:
There are a LOT of different things that might arouse different people sexually and most of them were considered weird, shameful and dirty in "the old days", luckily ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for him but he treats me like his big brother
Q. I'm bi-curios and I love this guy who just treats me as his Big Brother, He still doesn't know that I have this feeling for him, what do I do? Please I need help....
A. 12 September 2010: You didn't reveal a lot of details so here are a few questions at the top of my head: You say he looks at you as his BIG brother, how much older are you? Is he gay/bi/bi-curious? Do you two ever flirt or is it a totally friendly relationship? ... (read in full...)
We got into a fight and now best friend doesn't want to be friends anymore
Q. Alright so I got into a fight with one of my best friends, and now he doesn't want to be friends anymore. The first time I tried saying sorry it was lame, I didn't really express my feelings. The didn't even look at me and when he finally said ...
A. 12 September 2010: Apparently this friendship means a lot to you so I'd advise you not to give it up that easily. You did talk to him once and got a negative response but I'm sure he knew your friend will tell you what he said when he told them you're awesome (he ... (read in full...)
Cursing...
Q. Would you allow your boyfriend to curse at you and call you a bitch during an argument? ...
A. 11 September 2010: I wouldn't mind him generally cursing but calling ME a bitch? No way, I mean he could but it would only cause a pointlessly long argument where we'd keep yelling and throwing names at each other, being that insults don't solve anything and can only ... (read in full...)
Wanting to sleep over at the boyfriend's house...
Q. I am 18 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years now, and before that we were best friends. He used to live across the street from me, so my parents know him well. I have never asked my mom if I can sleep over his house, ...
A. 11 September 2010: Yes I agree your mum overreacted to say the least plus she already knows you two are having sex for a while, not like she's letting you sleep over knowing you'll lost your virginity on the night. Not sure I understand what made her act the way she ... (read in full...)
Why won't he say 'I Love You'?
Q. My boyfriend won't say "I love you". We've been together almost 2 years now. He's 20 and I'm 18. We're even planning on moving in together next summer. When we started going out he just got out of a long relationship about a year ago. ...
A. 11 September 2010: Yes he most likely does, I mean everything you wrote points to that, what more proof do you need that the fact he's planning his future with you:) I think it's just hard for some people to say it, it's probably because of the way he was raised, ... (read in full...)
I feel too old to be uprooting my life!
Q. Hi, Thanks for reading this, hope you can help. Basically mine is two parts but related. The first is the fact that I am moving 260 miles away TODAY! and feeling awful/scared about it, I am 30 years old and live in a big city and I LOVE MY LIFE h...
A. 11 September 2010: I understand how you're feeling, honestly if I was you I would most likely cancel the trip BUT the brave thing to do is to go. Maybe because of the guy you've met, the fact that you're leaving the place where you've spent your whole life or you're ... (read in full...)
Pregnant from blow jobs?
Q. I'm wondering if you can get pregnante through blow jobs exetra.Is that possible ???...
A. 10 September 2010: NO but do you think you're really ready for having sex if you don't even know the basics like that???... (read in full...)
Should I let him be part of my child's life?
Q. Well a few months ago my boyfriend and I were living together, happy relationship, and we find out that we're having a baby. Everything seemed to be going good (or so I thought). Then when I was 5 months pregnant I find out he had been cheating on ...
A. 10 September 2010: If he "only" cheated you I would say he has the right to see his child but the moment he started choking a woman who was 6 months pregnant with his child he instantly lost every parenting rights he had - might not have been his intention but he ... (read in full...)
Magic Number - 5 too many?
Q. I told a close (male) friend of mine my magic number the other day (5). He seemed to think it was pretty high. I can account for these: 1. first time 2. 3 yr relationship 3. short relationship 4. 1 night stand 5. current relationship. I hav...
A. 10 September 2010: NO I certainly don't think so, some people just go through experiences faster than others, to some it takes hours and to some months before they're able to have sex with someone but people are all different which is exactly why the magic number can ... (read in full...)
How would people feel about a 40 and 19 year old being together?
Q. I need a bit of help here, im a 40 year old man and really like a 19 year old girl. A lot of you might think im only interested in her for one thing but im not although the sex would be great, theres more to it than that. How would people feel ...
A. 10 September 2010: Do you think she's mature enough for you to be in a relationship with and does she like you? If the answer to both is yes, why would you even care about what anyone else thinks about it. There will always be people who disapprove as well as those ... (read in full...)
I slept with him knowing he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi, i'm writing this as i feel lost and very confused. Me and a male friend went out for drinks and i ended up drinking a lot that evening, he was drinking also but didn't seem that drunk. We were walking home and he held my hand, i let him as i ...
A. 10 September 2010: Proud of you for making the decision to back down, yeah what you did can be perceived as morally wrong but everything you've done since has been nothing but morally right so I'd say you're cool:) Don't think it's your responsibility to tell his gf ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my former teacher?
Q. I am 19 years old, I graduated high school last year. There has always been a very strong attraction between a teacher at my school (30 years old) and me. My friends would always bug me about how he liked me, but I never told them that I was in ...
A. 10 September 2010: "there's mutual feelings and it's legal to have a relationship with him. Go for it, girl!" - couldn't agree more;)... (read in full...)
Is it fine for a guy to sleep over at his friend's house if we live together?
Q. My boyfriend moved in with me about a month ago after 9 months of dating. Three days ago, he told me that he was going to sleep over his best friend's house, whom I have known for about 6 months. His best friend, had been to our apartment a few ...
A. 10 September 2010: Yes of course it is fine, just put yourself in his shoes, would you feel it's ok that he's stopping you from doing something you like just because you moved in together and should it even change things. As long as he's not doing something you both ... (read in full...)
Should I shave my chest hair?
Q. Hey ladies, and gentlemen if you can provide good info, should I shave my body hair? Is that something that women like or not? I know I'm over generalizing here but I would like some insight onto this. I'm not insanely hairy, but I have the standard ...
A. 10 September 2010: If you ask me, shaved chest looks good only on guys with great (muscular and buffed) bodies - if yours isn't, chest hair might actually make you look more manly, or at least that's my opinion. Also if your skin is very pale, leaving the chest hair ... (read in full...)
Help! No longer sexually attracted to my chubby wife...
Q. So we all know that men are visual creatures. My problem is that I am just not that attracted to my wife anymore. We have been married 15 years. She is a pretty woman, but has slowly gained weight. She is maybe 40-50 lbs overweight, and weighs ...
A. 10 September 2010: Resisting the temptation to judge you, I'd say she deserves to know how you're feeling - it probably will hurt her at 1st but come to think of it she will probably realize you did give your best. Try to put it as sensitively as you can, avoiding to ... (read in full...)
I know I should just stay away, but I'm finding that very hard to do!
Q. I don't know what to do about this. One of my former students (we had a very close relationship) is now a teacher at the same school. I thought it would be awkward, because we haven't seen each other in a few years, but we fell right back into our ...
A. 10 September 2010: All I can say is I completely agree with both of the answers you already got.... (read in full...)
I keep having dreams about my ex and I don't want to!
Q. Hi I need help or advice. I been broken up with my babys dad for about 2 years. He has a new family now n I have a boyfriend sumwhat u can say.anyway I knew it would take time to forget my ex not completely cuz that's inpossible but at least my love ...
A. 10 September 2010: I feel for you, wish I could say it will stop soon but I don't know if it will and neither do you, all you can do is keep reminding yourself of why you broke up, making a list of all of the reasons even, and trying not to think about it too much. It ... (read in full...)
I'm not a cheater
Q. ok first off i am not a cheater i love my wife. now that thats out of the way my problem is this, for about a month ive been talkin to a girl on email dont know where she is from but we just would talk about lots of stuff. well woke up one morning ...
A. 10 September 2010: If you ask me your wife is majorly overreacting and you shouldn't encourage her unacceptable behaviour by stopping to talk to that other girl, showing her all of your other messages etc. As you probably already did, the only thing you should do is ... (read in full...)
He's 15, I'm 19, and I'm due to have his baby any day!
Q. okay its going to sound weird that im asking this question now being in the predicament were in...here goes im 19 (girl) and my boyfriend is only 15..the reason were together is because he lied about his age for a year and when his mom told me the ...
A. 10 September 2010: He lied to you so of course you are NOT to blame for falling for him before you found out how old (or should I say young) he actually is. I guess he could get emancipated or something and even get married but the question is do you think he's mature ... (read in full...)
Why has this happened to me?
Q. I have a very tragic life story. Please give me some consolation,that I'm not alone. In my whole life,I tried to do my best,but the chain of partly unexplained unfortunate events,the whole thing became a nightmare. None of the things ,what happened, ...
A. 10 September 2010: Without knowing all of the facts, I think I'm most likely right when I say that sometimes bad things like that simply happen and there's just no one to blame. Looking for an explanation or a reason you can't get is pointless and only causes you more ... (read in full...)
Is my friend's behaviour a bit rude (non-sexual rude, I mean!)?
Q. Just wondering if this would piss anyone else off? Two weeks ago, having moved into a new flat, I invited a good friend over for lunch to see it. An hour before she was due to arrive, she texted to say she was going to the gym with X and so wo...
A. 10 September 2010: I don't think you could qualify her behaviour as rude considering the fact that you never actually told her it bothers you before BUT by all means you have every right to ask her not to do it in the future, in a non judgmental and friendly manner of ... (read in full...)
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