I'm falling for my cousin...but he has a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. I slept with my first cousin about 3 weeks ago.. i then started to care for him very much and he the same. i dont know what to do bc we text eachother and talk everyday. it is becoming a long distance relationship, bc he lives 2 hours away. I do ...
A. 10 August 2009: I think you should consider the consequences of being with your first cousin. What will the rest of your family think? How will they react if the 2 of you are together at a FAMILY party?... (read in full...)
I need help in my decision to lose my virginity and have a baby!
Q. hey... im a 15 year old girl. and i jus wana no wat people think and if they have any advice.. ive been in a relationship with this boy for jus over a month. and i reli wana lose mi virginity and have a baby!! i no people are goin 2 say im ...
A. 10 August 2009: You already know what most people are going to say. And the fact you have the idea of "regret" already on your mind I think says you are not ready for something that's going to consume the next 18 years of your life.
That aside, a one-mont... (read in full...)
What's going on in my ex's head??
Q. Myself and my ex went for a meal last week. I thought it would be a good idea to see if i had still any feelings for her. As she told a friend of mine she was depressed i thought it would be a good idea to bring her to a park she loved, however ...
A. 10 August 2009: It seems to me she's looking for a friend and you were someone very close and special to her, that's why she wants to be friends.
I think either you know you want to get back together with an ex or you know you don't want to get back together... (read in full...)
I broke up with my girlfriend and we tried to be friends, but now she's distancing herself, what should I do?
Q. my ex gf used to be very caring ...and a big opportunist 2 talk to me ...she was damn crazy abt me and loved me from all her heart when we were going around ...then i dumped her because my feelings changed and we became friends ...she was obsessed ...
A. 10 August 2009: cgrlygo is right. You just wanted to be friends and she clearly wanted more. You avoided her and it seems she's finally gotten over you. Best to just let her be. ... (read in full...)
I know my girlfriend wasn't to blame, but I'm still really upset. Should I say something to her?
Q. My girlfriend recently went to a party and got really drunk. I wasn't there at the time because she decided it'd be best if I didn't join her because we've argued a bit recently, and I was fine with that. She knew all the people were there, none ...
A. 9 August 2009: It's not as if she got drunk and started making out with some guy before she came to her senses. I think she found herself in a situation she had no control over and wanted no part of. She was taken advantage of. I think you should be offering ... (read in full...)
Help me get over my baby daddy
Q. I am 24 years old with 2 little girls, a 3 yr old and a 7 month old. I was with my boyfriend for 15 months, I got pregnant right away. During a routine ultrasound, it was discovered that our baby will be born with spina bifida. That's when the spine ...
A. 8 August 2009: I can understand how hard it must be for you, particulary when you say he was your first true relationship. But don't think of yourself as a failure. You gave it your all and he was the one who couldn't handle it. He is the failure. I know it's ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend of almost 2 years has split with me. She says if it's meant to be, we'll be together some day. Is there still hope?
Q. My girlfriend of almost 2 years just broke up with me. She said that she loved me more like a brother than a boyfriend. She keeps saying that anything can happen and if we're meant to be together we'll be together. But she doesn't want to try to fix ...
A. 8 August 2009: I think she does sound impressionable. But she also sounds like maybe she's unsure of what she wants right now. I know how hard it can be to walk away, especially when emotions are involved and the other party doesn't want to try and fix whatever ... (read in full...)
Am I foolish in thinking we could rekindle what we once had?
Q. I have recently been talking to an ex-girlfriend for whom i have not seen or spoken too for many years,i guess she was ok at the time but unfortunately it did not work out between us due to my insecurities the thing is i am in a relationship with a ...
A. 7 August 2009: I know what it is to lose a great relationship because of insecurities. To me, it sounds like you have moved forward and are now the confident man you wish you were when you first knew your ex. Now that she has re-entered your life, because you ... (read in full...)
Help me get over my baby daddy
Q. I am 24 years old with 2 little girls, a 3 yr old and a 7 month old. I was with my boyfriend for 15 months, I got pregnant right away. During a routine ultrasound, it was discovered that our baby will be born with spina bifida. That's when the spine ...
A. 6 August 2009: You obviously saw something in him that maybe no one else saw. There's nothing wrong with that. We all have to follow our heart sometimes, even if our head is telling us otherwise. But from what you say nothing about him sounds like a mature ma... (read in full...)
How can I trust her now?
Q. Ok. My problem is.. When I first met my girlfriend she was seeing another guy. We worked together but seemed to connect really well. One day we made out in a private room at work. After that we started hanging out together and we would occ...
A. 6 August 2009: I knew a girl like this. She's unique, one of kind, someone who's so easy to connect with and be with, you don't want it to end. But she's also someone who needs human companionship (attention?), someone who doesn't want to be alone.
You h... (read in full...)
Why won't my heart listen to my head?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months over 2 months ago. He was never going to be the one for me and I knew this at the time. I relly liked spending time with him though and we got pretty close. Im having a hard time dealing with being apart from ...
A. 4 August 2009: Its easy to tell yourself something, but so much harder to act on it when your heart and emotions are involved. It will take time but you just have to deal with it one day at a time. Get out, meet others, have fun. You never know what's around ... (read in full...)
He's not the man I married.. or I just didn't know who I was marrying.
Q. OK Folks - this worked before, so I am hoping to hear some feedback and that I will be able to understand what happened in my marriage - I wrote June 26th - titled 'He was sweet before our marriage, now he is abusive' and received some great in...
A. 4 August 2009: I wish I could answer what happened but I don't know what to say. Perhaps he was simply putting his best foot forward to impress you but with marriage realized that was no longer necessary (as far as he was concerned). I don't know....
I wou... (read in full...)
I feel inferior compared to my girlfriend!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months and they've been wonderful, but I can't help but feel a little bit inferior. She is an amazing gymnast. She competes in meets all over America and I know she's gonna go on to be big. I just dont' see what ...
A. 3 August 2009: Whatever she does, in the end she is still a regular person. When you start putting her on a pedastal and feeling inferior, it is only a matter of time before things start going down hill (trust me on this). Your girlfriend wants to be with you ... (read in full...)
Shes twice my age! Does this matter?
Q. Shes twice my age! is this an issue? ive recently started seeing an older women shes 40 im 20 i never even really considered actualy dating someone older was all a fantasy but its become real. we been meeting and chatting for a few months and we ...
A. 3 August 2009: If you are happy with this woman there is nothing wrong with the age difference. But before you get too serious you should maybe talk about what you are both looking for. Best!... (read in full...)
While I was away my girlfriend shared a drunken kiss with someone... Should I take her back?
Q. Dear cupid I(27) have been dating and living with my girlfriend(21) for 2 years. I have a son from a previous relationship whom she appeared to love and care for him genuinely. She had been absolutely wonderful in our relationship and showed t...
A. 3 August 2009: You described it that she was drunk and kissed him before pulling away realizing what she did. Unless she's done something like this before, it's an isolated incident. Many of us have done things under the influence we would normally not have done ... (read in full...)
I've been avoiding sex because I'm afraid of being compared to her other 30 partner!
Q. I have a girlfriend and we have been official for just over a month now. I've known her for 3 years prior to getting involved with her. She is a lovely person, and I'm so glad we are together, but she recently confided in me that she has slept with ...
A. 2 August 2009: With all due respect I think you are really overthinking this. If the last guy was so perfect and exactly what your lady friend wanted, why would she have stopped seeing him? Does this mean that if the last guy was a multi-millionaire, you'd feel ... (read in full...)
We've had threesome and now my husband wants to try swinging! But I get upset at the thought of him wanting another woman. What should I do?
Q. My husband wants to swing I thought I could try this but I didn't do so well I got mad and had a fight with him. He wants a little fun in our marriage so I thought I could do this I don't know If I can do this without getting mad and arguing with ...
A. 1 August 2009: I had a friend who went through this. Her marriage was "falling apart" and she agreed to this to make her husband happy. Not only did she dislike it, but it made things worse as her husband grew jealous of the men she was with. If you are not ... (read in full...)
What's going on with this girl? She keeps letting me down at the last minute!
Q. I recently pursued a relationship with a girl I met in a college class. I initially requested to go to a movie and she replied that she was busy. A day after I asked, she initiated two conversations on facebook that lasted around an hour each. I ...
A. 1 August 2009: People get busy and her cancelling on you twice is not really out of the ordinary. It's not like she told you no and then you bumped into her in a bar an hour later.
She's "unofficially" seeing someone; it sounds like she might be looking ... (read in full...)
I've been avoiding sex because I'm afraid of being compared to her other 30 partner!
Q. I have a girlfriend and we have been official for just over a month now. I've known her for 3 years prior to getting involved with her. She is a lovely person, and I'm so glad we are together, but she recently confided in me that she has slept with ...
A. 1 August 2009: First of all consider that some women don't climax easily, no matter what you do or who they are with. Talk to her during sex to get an idea of what it is she likes. Second, I've been in a somewhat similar situation and I let it ruin what I h... (read in full...)
5 years later and I'm still crushing on her - Help
Q. Sorry for those that hate reading long questions but I feel that I need to do so in order for you to be able to accurately and seriously give me a proper answer that I NEED, you will need to know the full or relatively full properties of my ...
A. 31 July 2009: I would agree with the other responses. We can all think about the things we wished we did but didn't at the time. But the past is the past and all we can do is learn from it and move forward. I would say you could strike up a friendship with her ... (read in full...)
What can I do to speed the process up and get her back?
Q. im in need of a little help here. a little background for you, i dated this girl for nearly 4 years. she left me about two months ago to see other people and if we were meant to be together she says we will find our way back to each other. i love ...
A. 24 July 2009: If you're hoping to win your ex back the first thing you should do is cut back all contact with her. Give her space. She sounds like she doesn't know what she wants.
She knows how you feel about her. If she felt the same why would she want... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!
Q. My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...
A. 21 July 2009: Don't fall for that. You shouldn't have to do anything you do NOT want to do. If he was truly having a problem, he doesn't need you, he needs a doctor.
Dump this jerk. good luck... (read in full...)
My husband get angry, throws things and sometimes hits me, what should I do?
Q. hi there, ok my question is more of a long story that i need advice on my husband has this thing where i cant do anything right he will give me a list of things he wants done before he gets home and i will do my best to finish them but he never be...
A. 21 July 2009: Is your husband around at the moment? I know it's probably impossible to pick up and leave this second, but the longer your husband has to know about what's happening, the more of chance there is of him confronting you or refusing to let you take ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that she's slept with so many people. I value sex, and she has just been giving it away
Q. my girlfriend is 19 and so am i. She has had sex with seven different guys, including me, while i've only had sex with her. Ever since she told me about that, i haven't had the same respect for her and i feel like i cant see her the same way. a lot ...
A. 21 July 2009: Is your relationship open or exclusive? If the 2 of you are exclusive to each other, then you are dwelling on her past. The past is the past, you should be enjoying the present with her. We all view sex differently. But I would say if her... (read in full...)
My husband get angry, throws things and sometimes hits me, what should I do?
Q. hi there, ok my question is more of a long story that i need advice on my husband has this thing where i cant do anything right he will give me a list of things he wants done before he gets home and i will do my best to finish them but he never be...
A. 21 July 2009: What everyone else said....
I've heard and seen your story before. If it was just you, you would have to assess the situation for yourself. With kids, they are the priority and do you think it's a good environment your husband is providin... (read in full...)
I need the affection he doesn't give anymore!
Q. i'm really confused about my relationship at the moment and would just like advice on what i should do i've been with my boyfriend for 5 years on and off. currently we've been together for two years ina row but it's changed in some ways. he do...
A. 20 July 2009: Just my opinion but maybe you two need a break. You aren't getting out of the relationship what you need and it doesn't sound like he is either. You've been together for a long time but at your young age, maybe the two of you just need some time ... (read in full...)
She's way too pretty for me but I like her!
Q. last night i went to the cinema with my friends and and there was this girl who went with us and i ended up stareing at her more than the movie. i think that this girl is way to pretty to go out with me but i still like her has anyone got any ideas ...
A. 20 July 2009: What Baybee said. I'd also add she's just a person like the rest of us. Once you start elevating her above yourself for whatever reason (in this case how pretty she is), you're finished. Just enjoy her and any other girl for the people they are. ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to leave his wife for me?
Q. How can i get him to leave his wife for me? im 17 and hes 40 and really need ideas? he sees me whenever he can get away from his wife, and promises to take me shopping, and he calls me princess and beautiful, we have sex alot in his car, he has 2 ch...
A. 19 July 2009: Are you serious???
Read the other responses. Unless he's mentioned it, he's not going to leave his wife. And even if he does, how long do you think it will last? Only until he finds someone else he enjoys spending time with. ... (read in full...)
We haven't talked for a few days, should I be worried?
Q. So there is this guy that I really like. We've been talking almost every day for about a month. He came over the other day and we just hung out at my house. He says all these cute things how he wants to kiss me and cuddle with me and hangout more. I ...
A. 19 July 2009: Unless you think you have a reason to be worried, don't be. It's great to talk to someone special everyday. But he has a life just as I'm sure you do.
If as time goes on the two of you start talking less on a regular basis, then there might be... (read in full...)
Ex won't give back money he owes me! Is this his way of controlling me?
Q. My ex b/f is being a jerk. He has some money of mine. I called him for it many many times and he said no problem. But then he tires to be soo sweet and I don't get it back. I have been very nice about this but I am beginning to think that it is ...
A. 19 July 2009: Knowing this forces you to contact him, maybe that's why he is not repaying.
You have to make some decisions for yourself. How much is the amount? Can you afford to lose it? If it is a large amount, you could always take him to court. If you c... (read in full...)
Loneliness is a drag. Will I ever stop feeling like this?
Q. I am so desperately lonely that I just can't bear it anymore, and my heart is broken because I feel like my life is passing me by. I am in tears as I write this. I wish and wish I had someone to call or tlak to, but I feel like everyone has ...
A. 19 July 2009: I can understand your feelings of loneliness. You are not alone. I often have found myself there and it's a horrible place to be. But don't give up. You can't dwell on the past, only enjoy the present. One of the biggest lessons I've eve... (read in full...)
How do I get over her and move on with my life?
Q. My ex and I were together for 4 years, I had the best time in my life with her she was my everything, the only person i trusted completely without a doubt. 27/11/08 she text me while I was at work to say that she had been thinking about o...
A. 18 July 2009: I know how hard this must feel but in the end the past is the past and you can only move forward or sit still and continue to hurt for something you can't change. Who knows why this happened. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Maybe it was right for... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend worth it?
Q. I at the crossroads where I try to decide whether my girlfriend is marriage material. I have issues with her past and I don't know whether I get over it. She used to go to orgies and swingers parties with her ex-boyfriend and have threesomes with ...
A. 18 July 2009: It is up to you if you can get over something she did in the PAST before she met you. If you can and are happy with who she is, then I wish you the best. If you can NOT, then move on now.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he never loved her this way! Their emails say different...help!
Q. I have a huge problem. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 or so months now but he is so much older than me and has lived so much life before me. He never really wants to talk about his previous relationships, bad times he went through, or he never ...
A. 17 July 2009: This is his past. We all have pasts. Not to say he should not share it with you but he seems far more concerned with the present, with you. I think you should be too and just enjoy what you have. But if there is something you feel you need to ... (read in full...)
My ex slept with someone else while we were broken up, how can I forgive now that we're together?
Q. Hi all, well here is my problem, I have been recently seeing my ex..just meeting up in the day time and talking nothing physical. We have both decided to give the relationship another try after 4 months apart as we both never stopped loving o...
A. 12 July 2009: As you said, it happened when you two were broken up, not when you were together. The breakup hurt and I'm sure you wanted him to hurt the way you did, the way he said he did. But people deal with breakups different ways. Some like to be alone, ... (read in full...)
This is beyond crazy! I have developed a twitch. I have thrown up multiple times at work from the loads of anxiety! HELP!
Q. It was a coworkers last day today and our boss took us all out to lunch. I had to make sure that I sat next to all women because my boyfriend would otherwise be angry. I was on gchat with my blackberry the whole time in case he needed to check on ...
A. 12 July 2009: You realize something is wrong. Change it now!! Change one thing, change everything. Do what you can to find the happiness you knew. Most importantly, get out of this relationship now!... (read in full...)
Why can she do things with others but not with me?
Q. my wife recently got drunk at a party we went to and let another man touch her boobs and take them out of her bra. all this things she has never allowed me to do even when she has got drunk when she is just with me. the lust which i could see in her ...
A. 25 June 2009: I agree with Samii. I can tell you love your wife and want her to be happy. But it's not fair to give her happiness at your expense. If she's not a great communicator, well that's ok. Many people aren't. But the two of you need to talk NOW ... (read in full...)
It's driving me insane not hearing from her!
Q. So I met this great lady 1 year ago through work and we have been in touch every so often. Recently I have asked her a few times to see if she would go on a trip with me which she has done (to celebrate a new car) but she made it clear that she ...
A. 20 June 2009: While you may have had a connection at times, she clearly is keeping business and personal separate as she indicated. Don't try to push it in the direction you want. As you said you are already under her "control." I know what you mean. Exact... (read in full...)
Great boyfriend, but I feel like I don't deserve him
Q. I know this may sound stupid, but its how I feel. I feel like I dont deserve my bf. He is soooo great to me. He is unbelieveably amazing. Ive never had a bf like him before. All my ex bf abused me physically, emotionally and sexually. After a while, ...
A. 16 June 2009: Your boyfriend chooses to be with you, NOT someone else. Forget the past and enjoy what you have with him! Just remember, he may be the happiness you were hoping to have but he is still human. If you start romanticizing him or idealizing him, ... (read in full...)
I call my ex every time I get drunk to tell her I love her and miss her.
Q. Hi whenever I go partying with my friends and get drunk I call my now ex girlfriend from about 3 months ago to tell her I love her, and miss her. I don't want to do it. But everytime I drink I think of her and miss those times together. I dont know ...
A. 15 June 2009: If things are completely over, delete her number. More importantly, drink in moderation. (Believe me, I know.)... (read in full...)
I don't trust her when she goes out with her mates.
Q. Hello there, I'm currently in a relationship with this girl (for almost a year now.) She is really outgoing and a mostly a nice person. But she likes to go out a lot, with her 'girlfriends'. This bothers me somewhat, because all sorts of g...
A. 15 June 2009: What everyone else said. If you can't even talk to her about it that's the biggest problem in my mind. You obviously seem to care for her a great deal. From what you wrote though, I don't know if those feelings are reciprocal.
good luck
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