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writes:Dear cupidI(27) have been dating and living with my girlfriend(21) for 2 years. I have a son from a previous relationship whom she appeared to love and care for him genuinely. She had been absolutely wonderful in our relationship and showed true marriage material and have been discussing marriage regularly.Recently while I was on a hunting trip she went out with her friends. I found out She kissed a not so close friend of mine but said she pulled away when she realized what she was doing. She say she had a bit too much to drink and is remorsful but I don't know if I can trust her.I'm so hurt she did this to me and my son whom loves her like a mother.Should I take her back.
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reader, lionelhutz  +, writes (3 August 2009):
You described it that she was drunk and kissed him before pulling away realizing what she did. Unless she's done something like this before, it's an isolated incident. Many of us have done things under the influence we would normally not have done and regret them immediately. Though if she sees how much it has hurt you, she should look at her behavior when she drinks and perhaps address those issues.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (2 August 2009):
 When considering a relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has. One lie, one broken promise or a single neglected responsibiltiy may be a misunderstanding instead. Two may involve a serious mistake. But three lies says you're dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchipin of conscienceless behavior. Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can. Leaving, though it may be hard, will be easier now than later, and less costly. Do not give your money, your work, your secrets or your affection to a three-timer. Your valuable gifts will be wasted.
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