Haven't heard from LDR guy in 3 days
Q. Once again I need some help from My Agony Aunts. I'm in a LDR for 6 months now. It has its trials but I love my b/f enough to make us work. Now I have not heard from hi in three days now. No message, phonecall, emails nothing. What in the world is ...
A. 27 August 2010: Having been in a LDR, I know how you feel. But it could be anything; maybe he's been caught up with work, family matters, maybe there was a personal emergency. I'm guessing the two of you talk everyday, otherwise not hearing from him in three days ... (read in full...)
I want out but can't seem to be able to do it!
Q. I have always been a sheltered girl. My parents made sure i was highly protected, and would never let me do certain things when i was growing up. Because of this, i started to become anxious whenver going out or doing new things. My brothers also ...
A. 26 August 2010: I can only imagine how hard this is for you. But if you push the emotion aside, you are an adult. You have to start living your life, particularly if you feel you are not living it for yourself. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to pull ... (read in full...)
My mum hates my girlfriend, how can I sort this out?
Q. I am a 32 year old man recently i met a 21 year old lady on the net we been talking almost everyday on the internet she is in collage and is not that financially well off or as a prominant family as me but i love her to bits. We been taking things ...
A. 15 August 2010: With all do respect, you are a grown man! If you are close to your mom, I can understand wanting or hoping she'll like your girlfriend. But ultimately this is your relationship, your life, your choice. And if your girlfriend makes you happy, ... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to other men's wives.....
Q. I am addicted to other men's wives. I love sex, but honestly, only when it is with a married woman. There is just something so taboo about it. I have no boundaries, I've slept with co-worker's wives, , the neighbor's wife, two of my three brot...
A. 14 August 2010: Seek professional help. Nothing good will come from continuing this behavior, to say nothing of what might happen if your previous indiscretions are discovered.... (read in full...)
Does flirting with other guys equal cheating?
Q. Does flirting with other guys equal cheating? I've got a bf but I tend to sometimes flirt with other guys, no touching, nothing, just teasing them. Is this wrong and does this mean I'm cheating in any way? ...
A. 12 August 2010: I don't believe flirting equals cheating, but it definitely skirts a line that the person you are flirting with may take the wrong way.
How your boyfriend feels about it should also be strongly considered. If he is confident enough with you... (read in full...)
Hate myself for being a virgin at 19
Q. [OP original title] Well as the title says im a virgin at 19, never had a girlfriend and never even been kissed and i cant stand it. everywhere i go i see couples and all of my friends have had girlfriends and boyfriends a hundred times over, its ...
A. 8 August 2010: I can understand your feelings, what with seeing friends and others enjoying themselves with a partner. Of course it doesn't help we live in a society where the media overloads us with sexual imagery. But there is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, but my bf is 25, is it legal/wrong? Should I break up with him?
Q. [OP original title] I'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 25. I really liked him before we were going out and he liked me too, he even dumped his girlfriend because he says he can't be with her when he loves me. I love him too but I'm soo scared abou...
A. 8 August 2010: While there's nothing wrong with men who like to go for younger women (we've all seen middle age men who are always on the hunt for 20 year old girls), no matter how nice this guy may treat you something isn't right. No normal 25 year old guy goes ... (read in full...)
Help! I am befriending my lover's wife, should I stop??
Q. I am befriending my lovers WIFE....opinions? comments? ...
A. 2 August 2010: Does she know about you and her husband? I'm guessing not. Unless their marriage is over and they both know it, I don't see this ending well at all. It would be bad enough if she finds out her husband is having an affair, worse for her if she ... (read in full...)
Something new in our D/S play
Q. I am a 30 year old married woman. Point blank, my husband and I are in a D/s relationship with him being the top and he spanks me whenever I have done wrong. Recently, he was spanking me when I was laying naked on the bed. I began to wiggle ...
A. 2 July 2010: Sounds like he's interested in taking the play to new places. But if you are uncomfortable with it, talk to him about it. Otherwise he could get the wrong idea that you are into it when you actually may not be. ... (read in full...)
I want to forget her, but I've done everything I can think of. What should I do?
Q. About 5 months ago my gf at the time and I broke up. She initiated it but we both agreed it was what was best. It had been a long way coming. About a week later she starts dating one of her close friends, who I had been slightly jealous of because ...
A. 22 June 2010: Sorry to hear how hard it's been but I would say you've done everything correct in terms of trying to forget her and move on. The only thing I can say is keep at it! If you don't want to start dating any woman right now, that's fine. But you ... (read in full...)
I havent heard from my boyfriend in a week, what should I do?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for a year, its been a haerd year and i really do love him!! i have 3 children the youngest being 13!! he has a daughter of 11, who visits him every other weekend. for the last year i have gone to flat every weekend ...
A. 12 May 2010: You may love him but he is who he is and if he doesn't want to give you the effort you give him, I think it's best for you to move on. ... (read in full...)
I want to marry him but I am sick of him wanting to know everything about me! How should I deal with this?
Q. hey there friends.. i met a guy a month and half ago, but hes getting too far he want to know everything around me even they way my exes treated me, i told him i am not comfortable with it but he says its nothing big.. if my phone goes off he ...
A. 12 May 2010: One month isn't nearly enough time to know if you truly love someone and want to marry them. Furthermore, if he is making you unhappy, why are you staying with him? As time progresses, things will only get worse. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lied about her sexual past, what should I do?
Q. hey i dont know how to ask this but here goes ..... i have been with my girlfriend for some time and love every minute i am with her , i knew she has had sexual partners in the past one being her ex boyfriend and the other was a boy she was seeing a...
A. 12 May 2010: While I believe in honesty, much as some of the other responses have said, I would not dig or dwell on her past. Women aren't as "open" with that info as a guy might be. And as you're finding out, the more you know, they less you may wish you knew. ... (read in full...)
I messed up and now I am lost!
Q. *Op's own title* I was dating a girl for the last month , well when I say dating I mean we were hanging out on a regular basis talking alot we kissed, held hands when we were alone, things like that. I felt like I needed to know where things were ...
A. 27 April 2010: I know how you feel. I was in a similar spot and messed up as well, similar way, maybe even worse. While she talked to me, she wouldn't see me for four months. I finally thought it was over and then out of the blue she called and we eventually ... (read in full...)
His 3rd date rule is too fast for me.
Q. I recently got out of a relationship about a month ago. I started seeing someone new who I have amazing chemistry with. Problem is he's 27 and believes in the 3rd date rule, I told him no and I believe in having sex after I'm in a relationship with ...
A. 27 April 2010: It seems there's only one thing he's really interested in and looking for, hence his three date rule. If you are not ready, you are not ready. If he keeps badgering you about it, I think you should simply move on. ... (read in full...)
I love him, but his past is hurting me emotionally. Any advice?
Q. Hi, I'm hoping someone can give me some advice! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and am sure that I love him. He has told me that he loves me and we are very happy together. It is definitely the healthiest relationship I've ever been in ...
A. 22 March 2010: It's his past and you cannot change it anymore than he can change who you were before you met him. What matters is the present. He wants to be with you! Forget everything else.... (read in full...)
Hung out with my cousin and my boyfriend is pissed I didn't beg him to come.
Q. This may seem trivial but my boyfriend is making a massive deal about it. My cousin is here form overseas and i want to spend as much time as possible with her as i have not seen her for 6 years. i invited my boyfriend to go karting, ice ska...
A. 25 February 2010: So he's angry because you didn't offer to get him the dinner he was waiting for his mom to make?
Frankly I think you should move on to a relationship with a man, not an immature boy. And no, he has nothing to be angry about.... (read in full...)
Why do I miss her even if she has give me sooo much pain?
Q. Hey everyone..My relationship of 2 yrs with my gf(more like a fiance to me) ended 2 months back!She was my first and i wanted her to be last too!ive always wanted to be with just one girl for the rest of my life..but i broke up with her! Its a ...
A. 18 February 2010: I think you miss her because she was your first love and first loves are usually the hardest to get over. You gave her enough chances, probably more than she deserved. Yes, you had a moment of weakness, but just chalk it up to a learning ... (read in full...)
Torn between boyfriend and ex...
Q. I'm currently with my boyf for the last year and a half and I do love him, he's kind and thoughtful and secure. My ex from a few years ago is now back on the scene, we kept in touch in dribs and drabs but hadn't seen each other in years, but are d...
A. 17 February 2010: If you're questioning your current boyfriend, it sounds like he would make a good friend, but not the type of guy you want to spend your life with.
On the other hand, if you are going to see your ex, you need to see him with an open mind. I... (read in full...)
Hen nights/batchelor parties
Q. Ok, even though im not yet getting married because Im obviously too young right now. But I was wondering... Do the girls always go to male strip clubs and guys always go to girl strip clubs for the bachelor party or whatever? Cuz I always see that ...
A. 17 February 2010: Not always. Depends on the guys or gals. For example the last bachelor party I went to we just drank and shot pool.... (read in full...)
I am not coping with his past and the 3some he had!
Q. Years ago my partner had a threesome with his then wife and her female friend in their house, in their bed whilst their child was at her granny's. It was his wife who initiated the threesome, she took her friend back, etc. His wife has always been ...
A. 20 January 2010: How can sex with one woman be better than with two women? For most guys, it just can be. Guys like to fantasize about 2 girls, maybe because it's an ego thing, maybe because it's a visual thing and we're visual creatures. But that certainly ... (read in full...)
How do I let her go?
Q. I found a woman that I thought was the woman of my dreams. She seemed to fill every need I had as far as relationships go. She made me want to be a better person in all aspects of my life, personally, professionally, spiritually, etc. I was/ am ...
A. 19 January 2010: Unfortunately, that's just the way life works sometimes. All you can do is learn from it. Just remember to tell yourself, "what happened wasn't my fault", because it certainly wasn't your fault.
I know it's hard right now and I know you are hurt... (read in full...)
I am not coping with his past and the 3some he had!
Q. Years ago my partner had a threesome with his then wife and her female friend in their house, in their bed whilst their child was at her granny's. It was his wife who initiated the threesome, she took her friend back, etc. His wife has always been ...
A. 19 January 2010: I know it's easier said than done but I agree with the other responses; you should not let it bother you. It's in the past. If that was all your partner wanted, he'd likely still be with his then-wife. He obviously wants more out of life and ... (read in full...)
How do I let her go?
Q. I found a woman that I thought was the woman of my dreams. She seemed to fill every need I had as far as relationships go. She made me want to be a better person in all aspects of my life, personally, professionally, spiritually, etc. I was/ am ...
A. 19 January 2010: I feel for you. At least she was honest with you, but that certainly doesn't blunt the hurt. As much as you may not want to hear it, I think the best thing you can do is move on with your life and have as little contact as possible with her. ... (read in full...)
Glutton for punishment
Q. I have had an intimate relationship with an older guy for 3 years, mind you, he has a girlfriend. I kept thinking he would break up with her and be with me. Last week he told me he was getting married, that he wanted to stop seeing me, I said my ...
A. 19 January 2010: Honestly it sounds as if this guy never saw you for anything other than physical relations. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Is this a good time to make amends?
Q. Hi Guys Happy New Year to everyone! My problem is that I confessed feelings I had for a female friend of mine this year, and to cut a very long story short, we haven't spoke since I did so, and basically cut each other out of each others li...
A. 31 December 2009: I went through something similar with my best friend, I know how you feel.
To me, it depends on how the break occurred ( did you both mutually walk away or did she walk away?) and when it occurred. If it hasn't been too long and was mutual, ... (read in full...)
This jealousy is killing me!! Please help. Any advice!
Q. I have a real big jealousy problem about my ex. She split up with me about 4 months ago as she said she no longer wanted to be with me. It hurt me a lot and im still not totally over her. I've read all the advise and done the things to get ov...
A. 27 December 2009: Just keep doing what you're doing. A relationship that long, that meant that much to you is going to take time to get over.
You need to remember, she has chosen to go her way, you need to go yours. The more you dwell on your ex being with new... (read in full...)
I'm shattered. How do I handle her cheating and our breakup?
Q. well first of all im 23 i was with a girl who is 20 yrs old for around 2 years i fell in love with her and thought she did too,then she broke up with me around a week ago but we still comunicated because 2 yrs is a while to just cut off,and then she ...
A. 2 November 2009: If you gave her your best, which from reading your post sounds like you did, then I would say the reasons for her decision are hers alone. Don't think of it in terms of you making a mistake.
I think that if you were already broken up, then you... (read in full...)
Why do I feel a sense of rejection with her?
Q. Hi here's my problem -- I feel sick and upset even thinking about the fact that other men have slept with my girlfriend. She is 18 and I am 20. I fell deeply in love with her the day that I met her two years ago, but it took her 5 months to feel t...
A. 1 November 2009: Just remember this: you girlfriend wants to be with you, NOBODY else. We all have pasts. But in a relationship you should enjoy the present, not dwell on the past.
I think you are correct, perhaps this is on your mind because she is your fir... (read in full...)
Is sex before marriage okay?
Q. Is sex before marriage ok? I mean what happens if it's going to be a while before you find the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with??? ...
A. 1 November 2009: That is a personal question that everyone has to answer for themselves. No one can give you a right or wrong answer. Though if you are asking it in general way to gauge opinions, I personally don't believe there's anything wrong with it. ... (read in full...)
Can he be a virgin at 40 plus???
Q. I've known this guy just under a year- both in our early 40's- we met at work but dont work in same place. We have a few friends in common and others who arent. Since we met we have seen loads of each other - we now see each other every week or so, ...
A. 1 November 2009: Shy, unconfident, still lives at home....he could be a virgin....or maybe not. It sounds like he's interested in you and likes spending time with you. But to find the answers you are looking for you are going to have to be more direct or rather ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea for me to maybe send her a message on facebook?
Q. There was a girl at work that worked in another department. When I first saw her when she started at the company like a year ago I thought that maybe she fancied me and I fancy her and I caught her looking at me a lot at lunch. Time has gone on and ...
A. 31 October 2009: Definitely go for it. What the worse that can happen, she doesn't answer you? ... (read in full...)
Have I forever lost the love of my life?
Q. on friday nite i went to a friends house party where there was drinking involved. i was drinking and enjoying myself waiting for my boyfriend of 3 years to stop by and pick me up so that we could go home and have passionate sex. when he showed up he ...
A. 26 October 2009: Alcohol can create the best and worst of times. I know, I screwed up the relationship with the love of my life because of it and it was only after 4 long months she agreed to see me again.
I don't believe you've lost him but you have to show ... (read in full...)
Will he try to contact me again, out of the blue?
Q. I have just ended a affair with a guy of 4 years and its over. I am ok with it wish him dead just joking.. What do I do if this sob decides to try and play me again and contacts me out of the blue. It has happened before and I wonder if it will ...
A. 26 October 2009: If you don't want to be with him, tell him so. Otherwise just ignore him. Hopefully he'll get the message.... (read in full...)
He's younger and has a gf, but he won't stop hanging with me! What should I do?
Q. i am a 34 year old divorce mom to a 6 year old girl. a couple of months ago, I met a guy at a bar with my friends. Turns out we live down the street from each other and were hanging out often watching football games on sunday. ect.ect. We have a...
A. 23 October 2009: Unless you have personal concerns about it, I don't believe the age gap is a problem.
If you enjoy hanging out with him the way he says he does with you, I think you should both just enjoy the time you spend together. You seem to have a good fri... (read in full...)
I love her, and don't want to think about her past. Will these thoughts go away?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year now. We are very serious and talk about marriage. She told me that she was pretty promiscuous during the two to three years before we started dating when she was in the military. She even used the word ...
A. 11 October 2009: I imagine for most women today, admitting you are a "slut" isn't an easy thing particularly to an SO. If she was that honest, that really says something. It's always easier said than done to try and ignore something. But it's completely up to... (read in full...)
I'm so in love with my ex and she has blocked me on her phone for the 2nd time
Q. i need help. any advise? i am so crazy in love with my ex girlfriend it is sickening. we have been apart for about a month and a half now. i took the step and called her yesterday from a pay phone due to her blocking my cell phone number previously. ...
A. 14 August 2009: It sounds like she hasn't quite dealt with her feelings towards you. Nevertheless, she blocked you for a reason. It's hard to move on from someone who means so much to you and where emotions were involved. But if she doesn't want to talk to you ... (read in full...)
Do I have to be popular to be happy?
Q. well i amm 22 m and cant socialise...lately i have entered the world where there are people having $hit loads of friends around me and having a ball! but i am struggling with myself and my personality and just dont have it in me to become popular ...
A. 14 August 2009: You don't have to do anything you don't want to. All each of us needs to be happy is inside of us already. You just have to find it. Best!... (read in full...)
One of my ex-girlfriends keeps trying to get back with me because she thinks I took her virginity, but did I?
Q. One of my ex-girlfriends keeps trying to get back into my life because she keeps claiming that we are destined to be together because I took her virginity. But I really don't think that what I did with her really counted. Sure, we had all sorts of ...
A. 14 August 2009: I agree with baby duck. The real issue is she wants to get back into your life. If you don't want to, then tell her. ... (read in full...)
He said he used to pretend his ex wife was me in bed, what does that mean?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for a long time now. our relationship has been kind of complex. we dated when we were younger for several years. then it ended and he married someone else. through a series of events we got back together ...
A. 14 August 2009: It sounds like he never did get over you and often wished he was with you instead of her.... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my cousin...but he has a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. I slept with my first cousin about 3 weeks ago.. i then started to care for him very much and he the same. i dont know what to do bc we text eachother and talk everyday. it is becoming a long distance relationship, bc he lives 2 hours away. I do ...
A. 10 August 2009: I think you should consider the consequences of being with your first cousin. What will the rest of your family think? How will they react if the 2 of you are together at a FAMILY party?... (read in full...)
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