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writes:My ex b/f is being a jerk. He has some money of mine. I called him for it many many times and he said no problem. But then he tires to be soo sweet and I don't get it back. I have been very nice about this but I am beginning to think that it is not the issue of money since he has alot. I really feel like it is more than THAT. I feel that he is keeping it so I will have to stay in contact with him. I really don't get it if he does not want to give it back then just say so. No big deal. Should I just ask him one more time and then let it go? Is is just his way to be controlling and have a hold over me and not let me go? Because yes deep down I know he cares aout me but he has relationship fears as shown with me and others in his past. But this is ridiculous.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (19 July 2009):
Knowing this forces you to contact him, maybe that's why he is not repaying.
You have to make some decisions for yourself. How much is the amount? Can you afford to lose it? If it is a large amount, you could always take him to court. If you could stand to lose it and don't care/don't want to see him anymore, let it go Now. It will show him you don't need him or even the money. Maybe when he realizes this he'll repay it. If not, well at least you'll know what type of person he really is and he'll be out of your life. good luck!
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (19 July 2009):
 Hi there,
I would stop lending him money. The same has happened with me and some of my friends and if i know they are that way that is the end of me and them with money matters.
I would ask him one more time. Regardless of the amount he owes you, a deal is a deal. he should pay back the money if he is sincere. if it is a small amount then after asking the last time i am afraid you have to let it go otherwise you could take him to court.
All the best dearie and please re-evaluate your relationship and decide if you can put up this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): How much money does he owe you? You can take him to small claims court depending on them amount, and you are especially sure to win if you have a written agreement. Written agreements make some people mad, but if you get them to sign them, then when they start pulling this crap the ball is in your court. I made my husband sign a written agreement when he most of the money out of our joint account which was supposed to pay for a wedding and he used it to eat at different places and get himself out of jail. If you can't afford the courts, just ask him one more time, and then try to let it go. Don't get angry or hostile with him, because he can record you and play it in court.
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