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reader, lionelhutz  +, writes (27 April 2010):
It seems there's only one thing he's really interested in and looking for, hence his three date rule. If you are not ready, you are not ready. If he keeps badgering you about it, I think you should simply move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): What if he had told you he has a "first date rule"?
Too fast is too fast. If you're not ready to sleep with him yet then don't do it.
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reader, togtog  +, writes (27 April 2010):
Good sex involves more than one person.It isn't about what one person or the other wants - but about what both of them want.You don't want sex - and so there shouldn't be any sex taking place - and there should be no need for you to have to try to see into the future to work out if you might want sex with him in the future, either!Remind us again - what is it that you like about this guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): I have been out of the dating scene, for quite a while, but like the guys say there isn't a 3 date rule.
You tell this guy you don't have sex unless you are in a relationship and just like the magic fairy *piff paff puff* you're his girlfriend giving you what you want
........so he gets what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): I use the third date rule but I am flexible. However I am not interested in waiting for too long though. Sex is too important a part of a relationship for me and I assume your BF is the same.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Don't let him pressure you into sex: only do it if you are ready. The 3rd date rule isn't a rule at all. Don't worry about it.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (27 April 2010):
 There should NEVER be a time frame attached to when you have sex. The 3rd date rule is stupid and usually used by guys only looking for sex. Real men won't pressure a women no matter what.
Each relationship is different and some people take longer to get to know one another. Move at the speed YOU are comfortable with. If he can't handle it then you shouldn't be with him.
As a side note: A guy just looking for sex (aka: a player) will pressure a women for sex but they are extremely good at making the girl feel guilty for not wanting to. Keep that in mind....
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reader, yankit +, writes (27 April 2010):
It's your body and YOU make the rules! Third date rule my god I've never heard of anything so self-serving. Tell him your third date rule is he go do it by himself somewhere out in the backyard
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): Make him wait! If he won't wait, dump him. If he's worth it, he wouldn't be hounding you. You deserve someone who will get to know you before you jump into a sexual relationship. You should feel comfortable and ready.
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