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writes:This may seem trivial but my boyfriend is making a massive deal about it. My cousin is here form overseas and i want to spend as much time as possible with her as i have not seen her for 6 years. i invited my boyfriend to go karting, ice skating, to the local pub, all to which he said no.then i invited him to the movies at 7:15pm, it was 5pm and he lives 50 minutes away. he told me no i cant go because i won't make it in time.. i said you have two hours im sure you can make it, to which he said i have to wait till my mum makes dinner, i cant just have dinner any time you know..so im thinking well he must not want to go, i mean he is 24 cant he figure out dinner for himself? so i just said ok fine. now he is angry.. he says i should have suggested we go get dinner before hand. he wont let go of it, telling me im the worst gf in the world because of it. i mean he made it pretty clear he didnt want to come anywhere with my family.. so i wasnt about to beg him to come.. should he be angry?
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reader, goodguy11  +, writes (25 February 2010):
OMG!!! He was waiting for his mom to make him dinner so he couldn't go. I'm really sorry but (LMAO). I think you want a man and not a boy. He doesn't want to get involved with your family and he's getting angry with you in which you did absolutely nothing wrong. If you want something long term with him and then you best tell him he has to get along with your family and stop being dramatic over little things. Lay some ground rules for him because you just can't stick around with his immaturity. Tell him to man up or you're kicking him to the curve. Hope things work out. Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the feedback.. it is so annoying that he thinks i didnt want him to come, i asked him to do so much with us and he never wants to.. he does make everything into a drama.. it gets to me because i am a fairly easy going person, and he is far from.can a relationship ever last when one person wants to be easy going and the other is so analytical? i mean he will analyse the tiniest situation and make it a huge deal!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 February 2010):
Your boyfriend is clearly pathetic. At 24, he can make his own damn decisions. He has no right to be angry with you at all since you put all that effort in. He's an immature little boy who is too used to getting his own way when he wants it. If I were you, I'd think about whether you want to be with a guy who will take years to grow up. I think you can do better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): Hi huni .well firstly u do have the right to be angry with him .You have asked him several times to do so many things yet he has said NO. well to me it could be a bit of jealousy there but plz this is not ok at all . you want to spend time with the family so you do that .I would question tho if he was to be like this later on in your relationship.As that wouldn,t be a good thing for you him not going anywere with you or the family .I would say talk to him tell him this makes you feel very angry and you have to question it for the future as you love your family very much as you do him and you would be happy if he would just make the effort at least to try .And go from there .You do have a right to be angry him huni.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Sounds to me your boyfriend has a little growing up to do, especially if he has made it clear he doesnt want to be near your family, and also in light of the fact you have previously invited him to join you and your cousin in several activities already.
Ask him how important this is going to be in six months, 12 months, or 2 or 3 years .... if he feels this will still be impacting on him, then move on, he isnt worth wasting your time on.
He sounds like the sort who, when given a chance to have a little whinge end up turning it into a full blown dramatic opera.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): What gives him any right to be angry?He is being selfish and childish. You did a nice thing inviting him along to activities involving your cousin, and he wants to have you all to himself. He's not doing himself any favours in dissing your family.If its' bothering you tell him you included him into your plans, he decided not to go so thats' his problem.
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reader, susana +, writes (25 February 2010):
 He has no right to be angry, it's not like you didn't invite him. He needs to grow up.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (25 February 2010):
So he's angry because you didn't offer to get him the dinner he was waiting for his mom to make?
Frankly I think you should move on to a relationship with a man, not an immature boy. And no, he has nothing to be angry about.
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