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I am 20 years old.
I have a daughter who means everything to me.
I am also engaged to a wonderful man who completes me 100%
I love my life, Everything in it as well.
Good and the bad. I believe without the bad, How will we love the good?
(Even tho I would like to avoid the bad :P)
I try very hard to forgive those who judge me.
I don't like to be judge, So why judge others?
I believe in God. I know he is there somewhere looking down at us laughing.
I'm a HUGE fan of Charlaine Harris-Sookie Stachouse and of course True Blood. Yet who isn't? It's amazing! So much better than Twilight. No more glitter on the vampires. |
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I want her to love me... not say that I'm boring!!!
Q. Hi guys, right to cut a long story short, I was needy / clingy, she got mad, we nearly split, we sorted it out and now have sorted some "ground rules" no texting 100 times a day, no constantly telling her I love her, couple of days ago she says that ...
A. 16 August 2010: Oh my....
I am very sorry huni.
I wish there was more I could say to make you feel better... But there really is nothing.
Gosh... I am very sorry tho.
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Girlfriend still friends with Ex boyfriend
Q. So basically here is this weird situation. I have been together with this girl for 4 months. 6 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend because of his cheating and says that she has no feelings for him, would never sleep with him etc. Yet i notice ...
A. 4 August 2010: WOW. That sounds very nice for someone who cheated on her and they never want to deal with her again...
I think it is very wrong. He is crossing bound ires that should not be crossed. I'm sure you have tried to talk to her. Yet try to let her know... (read in full...)
I want her to love me... not say that I'm boring!!!
Q. Hi guys, right to cut a long story short, I was needy / clingy, she got mad, we nearly split, we sorted it out and now have sorted some "ground rules" no texting 100 times a day, no constantly telling her I love her, couple of days ago she says that ...
A. 4 August 2010: I agree with "Gettinginyourbizness"
What you said is very sweet. Just let her know that. :)... (read in full...)
Does this make me a homewrecker???
Q. I met my bf in college and he seemed like a very nice guy. We started talking a lot and we really liked each other. He asked me to be his gf and i said yes. But soon after i got a call from this girl telling me that he was married and that he has a ...
A. 4 August 2010: I would have to agree with the people below me.
He started his friendship/relationship with you on a lie.
You are not a homewrecker in any way. You really have no idea what is truth here. In my humble opinion he is lying to you, and his " soon to ... (read in full...)
His ex is still in his life and it's really getting to me.
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now; but his ex keeps popping into our lives every so often. Now usually i wouldn't hav a prob with this but the thing that ticks me off, is that she never pays attention to me wen I'm around!! she ...
A. 4 August 2010: Well, I give you props for putting up with it.
Now I would suggest trying to talk to them both.
First with him, Don't fight about it. Tell him of examples.
Even after the fact he talked to her and nothing has happened.
Then send her an email. Tr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's half sister is sexually attracted to him?
Q. Hello, I'll try to keep to keep the background story as detailed but short as possible (which isnt gonna work haha). I am from the UK and my boyfriend is German, we're both in our early 20s, met abroad and everything was perfect. When the time cam...
A. 21 July 2010: Wow... I agree with you.
I think you put up with it for to long.
Something is wrong with the women of his family.
You should just keep your foot down.
If he wants to see his mother and sister you should tell him stick up for us. Not just me but ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my wife's cousin.
Q. I've been married to my wonderful wife for 2 years now and everything has been great up until just over a week ago. My wife's cousin decided to come and visit us for a little over two weeks. When I first saw her I thought she was a moderately ...
A. 21 July 2010: Ouchy. I could just imagine how much that would hurt me if my partner did that. But I would rather hear the truth. It's not wrong of you to be attracted to someone else even with someone. It's wrong if you do something, While with that person. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if it's worth working this out...he slept with my "best friend" and she is pregnant with "his" child....
Q. Okay. So i've been with my boyfriend for 11 months now, and have recently found out he was sleeping with my ex best friend for a good six months of our relationship, on and off. The whole reason me and the girl fell out was because she was sleeping ...
A. 13 July 2010: Caring Guy said it all
I totally agree with everything he has said.
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How do I tell my girl how much this frustrates me? which it does... immensely without sounding like an ass?
Q. Hey, I have been in this relationship with my girl for several months now (long distance) it isn't often that we get to see each other (month or 2 ) I took a week of leave off of where I am to go see her, so we can see each other, have fun...et...
A. 13 July 2010: Surgery is a big thing. It is sweet you would like to be there for it. If it is a necessary thing then it had to be done. If it was a major thing, maybe the mother did it so you could be there for her.
Now if it is something that could have wai... (read in full...)
Is he committed to the relationship or not?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months. I just don't feel like he's committed to the relationship. I haven't met his parents, he has never given me a gift (he sent me a text message for my birthday), and he doesn't invite me to meet his ...
A. 9 July 2010: You know, I have to agree with Caring Guy. He did state a lot of points that I would have stated which saved me time on some that he has not.
I suggest you do this if you feel that you two can have more other than great convos. The convo's migh... (read in full...)
His ex wife doesn't want the child to know about me
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for two years now we recently just moved in and everything seems to be good.theres just something that im tryn to understand better.hes ex wife doesnt allow hem to see there daugther unless i am not around or ...
A. 30 June 2010: I think that Oreg has it wrong in some cases. I'm a young mother with a two year old daughter myself. I am very defensive when it comes to her father's girlfriends. It's not that we want to control their choices, just their choices on women. ... (read in full...)
I've lost so much respect for him because of his porn use
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating 1 year and a half, I love him but I've lost so much respect for him because of his porn use. I find his internet history full of porn videos, with titles like illegal teens, incest, and other disgusting things ...
A. 30 June 2010: Well, If you honestly feel that you are on the verge of it. I vote you should do it. Yes it seems harsh and hard for you. But maybe that's what he needs a dose of reality. Let him know this has come in between you two. If he truly loves you he wi... (read in full...)
Guys: What to you find physically attractive in a girl?
Q. I need male input, what makes porn women so ideal and attractive, and what can I do to achieve that? I want men to think I'm as attractive as I can be, and they seem to love porn, so I only added 1+1... Of course I want a guy to love me for my p...
A. 28 June 2010: I really like what Carl stated, I would try to work off that. I always wondered why my partner watched porn. Was i not good enough in bed? I'm great. Do I look to big/small/etc.? You look beautiful,your hot,your sexy. Then why do you do that? ... (read in full...)
How do I get my point accross and tell him that his porn watching is affecting our marriage?
Q. My husband is very addicted to porn. i have asked him over and over to stop, but he still wont. i have even threatened him with divorce and told him he would never be able to see his daughter. he still watches it. i feel like crap when he watches ...
A. 14 May 2010: I came on here with the same question.
It's like he didn't understand that I was getting hurt with him watching it.
One thing you need to try even if you did it before a million times, Talk to him. Try to get the point across one more time.
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How do I move past these thoughts of him and his ex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in the same group of friends since freshman year high school. We sorta drifted in and out over those years but were always in contact. He had a serious relationship for 2.5 years but they broke up. He's talked to a...
A. 12 May 2010: Honestly, I have the same issue. I feel in love with my Hubby(boyfriend@time), 7th grade. He was my first love,first kiss. I held onto the rest due to the fact he moved away if he stayed things might have been different. But sadly it was just a ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and a father
Q. I'm 15, and going to job corp with my gf. I got her pregnant and job corp allows pregnant woman to live there with benefits and I know i'm going for sure because well I love her, and she has my kid. I refuse whoever suggests to terminate the ...
A. 8 May 2010: Very young, I agree tho. No terminating the pregnancy. You have made your choice. No matter what be there for the child. You might say you love her now, but what about 5 years from now. Close your eyes do you see yourself with her 5 to 10 years from ... (read in full...)
How do I appear confident and sexy in bed?
Q. so im a virgin and im uncomfortable in some ways example: i dont like when he tells me to take his clothes off....because im a little shy...and i dont feel comfortable moaning....do guys like when a girl moans?? anyway i want to seem confident and ...
A. 8 May 2010: Well, He is right, Do not fake moan. Not just cause he will not like it but you won't in the future. Think about it. If you fake moan he will think he is doing a great job when he is truly not. Moan when it feels good for you. Cause if you don't ... (read in full...)
It took me about a year to see how really lazy my husband is! Is it worth saving?
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. I have tried several times and several ways to get my husband to understand that he needs to do more than just exist. I started by having a talk with him about how unhappy I was with how things were with us. He...
A. 7 May 2010: Well, I am shocked. You came across the matter like an adult and he took the childish way out. My husband use to be the same way. I worked all day came home and worked at the house. etc. I did not mind it for a bit. He was looking for a job and took ... (read in full...)
He says he needs to be with his friends but then texts me saying he's bored!
Q. every few weekends my boyfriend will go out clubbing/hang out with his friends and he will text me halfway through the night asking to see me and that he wants to hang with me. he tells me he needs to see his friends but why does he text me asking ...
A. 7 May 2010: I agree with Betty. I learned if you let their leash loosen, Give them their freedom they will come running back to you while they are out. (so to say). It's amazing to be honest. You should be happy for this he wants you, wants to be with you. Jus... (read in full...)
I can watch his every move on the computer and its killing me!
Q. I need some serious advice...I got into a serious relationship last year and then was cheated on and really hurt, and damaged...somewhere in the process of breaking up and then getting back together I installed keylogging software onto my his ...
A. 30 April 2010: First, and kinda selfishly (forgive me having a problem with mine.) What is it that you are using?
Okay. Second I believe you should leave him. Not only do you see the evidence but it's wrong. You are just hurting yourself more if you stay wit... (read in full...)
My Husband's ex wont go away!!
Q. Ive been with my husband for about 3 years. Ever since we got together his ex girlfriend had been in the picture. he had told me he blocked her from everything from emails to AIM's. Lat friday we were looking for house (well he was) and he kept ...
A. 30 April 2010: This is a hard situation.
It's wrong of him to swear on a child's life.
Very wrong.
You need to sit and think this over.
First do an approach that is reasonable.
I would call the cops, file harassment, or anything under the same reason. M... (read in full...)
How can I convince my mother to accept my boyfriend?
Q. I'm in an amazing relationship with my boyfriend of 5 months. He and I met in school once before, but lost touch until last December. My family is a traditional Southeast Asian family. I'm first generation Asian-American in our family. I'm very ...
A. 30 April 2010: Hmm, My family use to be the same way to my boyfriend(now husband). He is Persian and Irish wild mix but he is. Due to a family event with a Persian man with my sister and my aunt they judged him. He is the most amazing thing that has happen to me ... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in our relationship, is this letter appropriate to send?
Q. Dear all, Okay, where to start, been in relationship for 2 years, at first was the best, everything great and now she says spark has gone etc but whats to be with me, I still have that spark for her but really confused...anyway, I have written h...
A. 29 April 2010: Wow, I say send it.
I believe it is perfect.
Please let us know how this ends.... (read in full...)
Should I get out of this relationship?
Q. Hi all. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. In this time we loved each other -- I still do, and she does but there is problems, which I'll explain ahead -- and we even had a baby boy (4 months now). There is a lot going...
A. 29 April 2010: Thank you for responding. I am very proud of you on everything you have done :) I won't lie here in the US it's hard to find a job I've been looking for 3 years, my problem is I juggle school,work, being a mommy, and trying to have time for ... (read in full...)
Should I get out of this relationship?
Q. Hi all. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. In this time we loved each other -- I still do, and she does but there is problems, which I'll explain ahead -- and we even had a baby boy (4 months now). There is a lot going...
A. 28 April 2010: I really understand where you are coming from. I am a young mother I'm 19 years of age. I had my child when I was 17 years of age. Then man that is her father had a hard time adjusting to the life style still does. I left him for other reaso... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and a virgin and I want to have sex. If I don't wait for the right person, will I regret it?
Q. I'm 15 and still a virgin. All of my friends have had sex, i think im ready to but i really don't know what to do. i m not sure whether to wait for the right person or just go ahead and do it. if i don't wait for the right person will i regret it ...
A. 26 April 2010: To this day I regret it.
I wish I saved myself for someone who loved me.
For women, It's a gift to give away. You want it to be with someone you love and who will cherish it. Not just leave you after. It's a gift you can never give away after th... (read in full...)
I am 22 living at home and my mom is making my life hell!!
Q. Hi.. I am 22 living at home and my mom is making my life hell!!! I hate the fact that she is always picking on me for something even if it has nothing to do with me. If she wants something done and both me and my sister are in the house then ...
A. 25 April 2010: Well I would agree with marieclaire, I believe you should save up as much as you can and get the heck away from her. She is to cruel to live with. It's wrong when your mother is saying this about you.
Your a grown women, You choose who you want... (read in full...)
How do you know whether she's just being nice or if she really does like me?
Q. How do you know whether she's just being nice or if she really does like me? I started work somewhere new last october, never really spoke to this woman, well I call her a woman she divorced got two kids and I think is 40 and I'm 21, but anyway ...
A. 24 April 2010: I think she likes you, but I wouldn't jump to asking her that.
If you are interested in her you two should go out for a few drinks to talk. See if she want's you as a friend or something more.
To me it looks as if she is interested in you. Wome... (read in full...)
Should I make an other attempt to talk with him, should I do it in real life?
Q. Hey, I have a problem with the boy I like. I went to university and got new friends. He was one of them, he is studying the same thing I am. He never really caught my eye until one time my friend started talking to him and when I got his name I b...
A. 24 April 2010: Hmmm, Then I think it wold be best if you play his game.
You tried that's all that matters. Now it's up to him.
Just go on with your life if he tries to talk to you be nice and reply back but don't push convos on him. That's all I can really s... (read in full...)
My friends or my boyfriend? Please tell me the right thing to do!
Q. There is a guy i have known for 4 years. We recently started talking and we like each other very much. However, he is about 5 years older than me and has a criminal record. I have never had a boyfriend and i have only a few friends. I'm not sure why ...
A. 24 April 2010: The right thing is nothing I could tell you, You already know the right thing you stated it.
You shouldn't be going after this man, If your friends that you hold very close to you say do not do it. For whatever their reasons are I'm sure it's cau... (read in full...)
Should I make an other attempt to talk with him, should I do it in real life?
Q. Hey, I have a problem with the boy I like. I went to university and got new friends. He was one of them, he is studying the same thing I am. He never really caught my eye until one time my friend started talking to him and when I got his name I b...
A. 24 April 2010: I honestly would have to say he did this cause of how you acted. He might think what you pointed out jealous that you talk to others more than him, He just doesn't understand. I believe you should try to talk to him again... In real life. Step out ... (read in full...)
I think I moved her in prematurely... how can I get this spark back?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been living together for about 5 months now, and we've only been dating for 6. Her dad is a drunk so I decided to move her out of there to come stay with me... but now it's just like I'm not so interested any more, I love ...
A. 24 April 2010: I'm not for sure where the spark is needed so forgive me if I step out of line. First Be honest with her. I so way to soon to have her move in. Sweet your reasoning behind it, just to soon. You sadly get to know things about th... (read in full...)
I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?
Q. "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...
A. 24 April 2010: I would honestly have to agree with what YouWish has stated. Also a couple of other things pointed out.
You are young, Women do mature a lot faster than men. Try to give it some time before you move on to another female,(You might also want to try ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him rough sex hurts sometimes???
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a relationship of 3 years, we have sex very often, all the time he likes having rough sex and I don't know how to tell him that he hurts me sometimes without making him feel bad? What do I say?...
A. 23 April 2010: Personally, I understand where you come from, My boyfriend as sad to say can not get up unless it's painful or rough. I myself can handle this. Yet there are times where I can not do it when he want's too. The best thing I learned first was a safe ... (read in full...)
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