He said I'm loose but I've NEVER had sex with anyone else! How can this be?
Q. okay so last night me and my boyfriend we just laying there cuddling and talking and he told me i was loose..... and he was serious... he said its the most noticeable when hes on top which is one of my favourite positions.... hes the only guy ive ...
A. 14 February 2010: He's trying to gain power by making you feel uncomfortable. Don't let him rattle you, it was a really mean thing to say, and I'm sure he knows that. Let him know he can't talk to you that way, and that he hurt you. If you have a vindictive strea... (read in full...)
I don't feel special to him... Am I being childish?
Q. Well,I'm with a man who doesn't say "I love you too" when I say "I love you" because he feels he should say it when he wants to, and not because I feel like he should. He says he loves me, just very rarely. Now, it's Valentines Day and my man ...
A. 14 February 2010: You aren't being childish. You have a right to expect certain niceties when being in a relationship with someone. That means having them take notice (and do something) on your birthday and exchanging gifts on holidays. Also, (and I had to deal with ... (read in full...)
I want to feel like am 100% in love with him again and I don’t know how to do it.
Q. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year now. We have been through more than the average couple. I love him but I don’t know if I am in love with him anymore. I want to want to be with him so badly. I really care about him and I want to marry him ...
A. 12 February 2010: You say you have "been through a lot together", so I assume there has been drama. Maybe this is just what it feels like to be quiet together, and you aren't used to it. As far as not desiring him goes, maybe you should try to expand the ways that ... (read in full...)
Is this spotting, or was something hurt during sex? I'm starting to worry!
Q. Hi everyone, I need advice please. I'm 18 and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 2 months ago. Very soon after, I went for my first visit to the gynecologist. My tests turned out fine and I was put on birth control. I have had quite a f...
A. 12 February 2010: The pill does the same thing to me, I start spotting, and sometimes will bleed for a day or two, before I am supposed to have a period (sometimes as early as two weeks before). Your body is probably just adjusting to the medication. If this ... (read in full...)
He won't stop his flirting even though I have a boyfriend!
Q. Hey all, I have a question regarding a work situation and a guy. There is a guy at work, he is new to the job but is very confident and talkative. I thought at first it was great that someone near my age had joined, and that we could have a lau...
A. 12 February 2010: I would tell him ONCE that he has two choices: he can back off and leave you alone, or he can continue his pursuit and be reported to your superiors for sexual harassment. And after that if he says one more inappropriate thing, turn him in. He ... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to fight for the relationship before he gets too close to this new woman???
Q. Hi, my long term BF and I have been arguing a lot mostly because of his problems and we have been kind of on/off over the last year but I still love him. I saw him a couple of weeks ago then he suddenly told me he had seen a woman at work he liked ...
A. 12 February 2010: It has to be kind of shocking and hurtful to see him move on so quickly, and I can sympathize with the idea of trying to save the relationship, but what are you saving? It sounds like your relationship has really deteriorated, if you have split up ... (read in full...)
Age old situation - Boy likes girls, girl already got a BF
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advice and help on a situation I find myself in. I am very lucky in that I'm single and can enjoy eating out regularly; being a person of habit I got to certain places on certain days. Over the course of goin...
A. 12 February 2010: If you feel confident enough, give her your number, and tell her to use it if she finds herself single again in the near future. This way, the ball is in her court, and you aren't really over stepping boundaries, but you are letting her know you are ... (read in full...)
The ex factor - am I being jealous for no reason or should I confront him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year (but have been best friends for 5) and am very much in love and think we have the perfect relationship. We talk about being together forever, having kids etc and in 3 moths we are off travelling around ...
A. 12 February 2010: I'm glad you found the answers helpful!
If you are worrying about her next visit, talk to your boyfriend about that possibility (or rather eventuality). Tell him you noticed that she hasn't been over in a while, and let him know that while it... (read in full...)
He's married to my friend, but we're together and I'm jealous of the time they spend together.
Q. Hi there, Im really not sure anyone can help me but i need advice. I have been very hurt over the last 2 years by somebody who i work with. it is a very long story but to cut it short i fell deeply for a man i had known for three years. we would me...
A. 11 February 2010: Stop seeing him. Find someone else who is available.... (read in full...)
Pictures of couples make me feel so alone. What to do??
Q. I get jealous when I see pictures of couples (like on facebook)...I just realize I'm alone. :( I then get mad at the thought of thinking how this one girl played a bunch of games with me 5.5 years ago. I really haven't had a gf...I get angry and ...
A. 11 February 2010: I had a problem like this for a long time. I didn't like guys that liked me, and guys I liked didn't seem interested. I ended up first in a 2 year relationship with someone I didn't like, and then after in a 2 year relationship with someone who ... (read in full...)
The ex factor - am I being jealous for no reason or should I confront him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year (but have been best friends for 5) and am very much in love and think we have the perfect relationship. We talk about being together forever, having kids etc and in 3 moths we are off travelling around ...
A. 11 February 2010: It sounds like she is a bit of a needy person. Because of this, her relationship with your boyfriend, and his family, is probably extremely important to her, and it sounds like your boyfriend finds that kind of gratifying. Its appealing to be so ... (read in full...)
How do I make things better???
Q. Hi, I am in deep trouble I think. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months. I have been suspicious that he is pursuing other girls throughout this time. He is Arab Muslim and I am White Christian girl. He is 31 and I am 25. I know I ...
A. 10 February 2010: Well, you hurt him and you apologized. All you can do now is hope that he forgives you and gets over it. Don't beat yourself up so much, and don't keep apologizing. Being far away from someone is hard, you were understandably insecure and you did ... (read in full...)
My wife has more time in bed for her toys than she does for me
Q. I'm totally confused over whats going on - I normally sleep really well. I recently couldnt sleep and heard my wife orgasm harvesting (masterbating) - she had several orgasms it seemed at different times of the night. she would have an orgasm(s) ...
A. 10 February 2010: Don't allow her to lie to you. You are laying in bed next to her, catch her out. Tell her you aren't angry, that you just want to talk about it. In my opinion, excessive masturbation that leads to the exclusion of sex with your partner is wrong, and ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of my wife being lazy and doing nothing! I deserve better, don't I?
Q. Right, I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I have been married for 10 years (together with my wife for 13 years), all in all we've had a pretty good marriage so far and I was pretty content. Until our new neighbours moved in. Now...
A. 10 February 2010: What attracted you to your wife in the first place? Did she used to be more like this woman next door? Be very honest when you answer this question to yourself, because if your wife was never terribly ambitious or athletic, then its not really fair ... (read in full...)
My mum found condoms in my dad's bag and was in tears all night. Should I tell him!
Q. I'm so sad right now. A few hours ago, my mom spoke softly to me that she found out something about my dad. She found condoms in his bag yesterday. She told me that she cried the whole night. I don't think she confessed to my dad yet but soon..she ...
A. 10 February 2010: Its not your responsibility or even really your place to say anything to your dad. Let your parents work out their own problems. I can understand how you might feel like you should be doing something to help, but right now, the best thing you can do ... (read in full...)
Problem with long distance husband being committed to our marriage...
Q. I have been married for only a year and my relationship with my husband has always been long distance, due to my husband's job (he is an officer in the Military). The problem is that I don't feel that my husband is ready to commit to our marriage ...
A. 8 February 2010: I think these aren't problems that can really be solved or even worked on while he is away. In order for him to let go of the family he grew up in, he has to have a real chance to make a new family with you. That takes time, for habits to form, for ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so jealous and why am I so jealous with my boyfriend?
Q. Hello, I am sooooo jealous with my boyfriend, and I dont know why. I Have never been jealouse with any of my past boyfriends. I started being jealous with this boyfriend at the 5 month mark I'd say. We've been together for 9 years now. And I get so...
A. 8 February 2010: You need to find ways to reassure yourself, and try to dig deeper into what is really causing your feelings. Its probably not the fact that he has eyes, and happens to use them to look at things in front of him.
A temporary fix could be to try t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me about going to work...
Q. My boyfriend lied to me about going to work, he said he had work from 2 to 5 and lied about it instead i think he went to his friends house and played video games, he came over at 5 and stayed the rest of the night acting all affectionate so i knew ...
A. 7 February 2010: Let him know that you know. You have to confront him, or else it will weigh on you. Also, maybe you should think about the reason why he might have felt like he needed to lie about this. You probably need to know what made him lie, because it ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my 16 year old son getting his girlfriend pregnant?
Q. I am the mom of 3 sons ages 18, 16 and 13. I just found out that my 16 yr old son got his 16 yr old girlfriend pregnant. We have been very open about sex and had MANY safe sex talks. I knew that he had a girlfriend but didn't know that they were ...
A. 7 February 2010: Maybe it would help to remember that your son is not doing this TO you. You were probably the farthest thing from his mind while this was happening (as well you should be). He wasn't trying to hurt you or defy you, he was just making fairly ... (read in full...)
Should women make the first move?
Q. Should women make the first move? There is a guy I really like a lot. We are good friends, but I would love to have a deeper relationship with him. We are both shy, and although we flirt etc, nothing has ever happened. We are both single, and have...
A. 7 February 2010: It IS ok to make the first move, if you think can handle getting a less than desirable answer. In lieu of "making a move" though, perhaps you can do something more subtle. When you are talking or joking, touch his shoulder a little too long. Ask him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't get jealous?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't get jealous. Is this considered a good thing or a bad thing?...
A. 7 February 2010: Do you think he is reacting inappropriately in some situations? Like, he's being indifferent when he should show some possessiveness? Do you want him to be jealous? Is there perhaps an hidden meaning to his lack of jealousy, other than trust in you? ... (read in full...)
Should she have been more honest, and was she a virgin for me??
Q. I have been married for 2 years and have been together for 4 years in total. One year into the relationship we knew we were going to get married and started having sex with each other. We were both virgins, and it was special knowing she had saved ...
A. 7 February 2010: Have you gone into explicit details with her about every single sexual experience you have ever had? If so, I have to say I think that is a bad idea. No one wants those mental pictures. I don't think she "should" have been more honest, she wasn... (read in full...)
So couple of things, should I persist with her to give it ago or is she right and we should just stop before either of us gets to attached again?
Q. So I met a girl on the internet through online gaming, this was about 8 months ago. We chatted casually on and off till just before Christmas when we started talking a bit more and exchanged facebook details and stuff. We started to flirt more and ...
A. 5 February 2010: In my opinion, when a relationship is long-distance from the beginning, it is far too prone to being more fantasy than reality. You just miss out on so much, by not being able to physically be with the person. And then, if you do eventually live ... (read in full...)
I just wish she would try to understand ...
Q. hi. im 18 and im with a girl who i love very much, but have had some past and present issues that are just bothering me too the point of no return. im so jealous lately and here are the reasons why. first off..she left me and cheated on me the last ...
A. 4 February 2010: I really think people understand commitment and trust differently. Maybe you and this girl have very different ideas about what it is to be "faithful". Let her know you want her to stop texting him, that its really annoying you. She should stop, if ... (read in full...)
I really don't think he loves me...
Q. I have a boyfriend that I love so much, but I dont think he loves me the way I love him... the reason is because I call and text him almost every day but with him it's not like that. I asked him last month, why is he acting in such manner? He said ...
A. 4 February 2010: It will be hard, but stop texting him and calling him. And keep your eyes open for other boys who might like you, the way you like him. I think you are right when you said he doesn't love you like you love him. Maybe you should try to find someone ... (read in full...)
Do I have to be alone so that everybody else can be happy?
Q. hello. havnt quite done this before. so growing up I've had a couple girlfriends. nothing serious or anything. I havnt had a girlfriend in quite a long time. almost a couple years. I met a girl at my work. we are extremely close. she knows I have a ...
A. 4 February 2010: Since you have written that you are 18-21, I assume she is approximately the same age. And not married or engaged. "Intervening", as you put it, is normal and expected at your age. People are not necessarily supposed to marry their first serious ... (read in full...)
Boy, revenge is sweet...
Q. Hi, my wife recently cheated on me with a guy who lives in a small town about 10 miles away from me, anyway to cut a long story short I found everything out, confronted my wife and then I confronted the guy in question and gave him the mandotary ...
A. 4 February 2010: I understand the urge to spell it all out in detail, but you may want to try a more subtle approach. If it really is a small town, gossip usually spreads in these places like the plague. I'm sure if you show up at his work, say you are looking for ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to trust my husband seen as he is on dating websites saying he is looking for someone to cheat with!
Q. I am having problems with my husband. I have seen twice now that he has filled out profiles on dating websites. Once this summer and once last week. After filling the one out this summer, he never went back to it, but the other he has gone back to. ...
A. 3 February 2010: I just wanted to give you all a real update: I confronted him, and the profile was already deleted. He was sorry and I feel like we are closer now after talking about it. It was kind of as I suspected, he was just bored at work and those ads are ... (read in full...)
I told an engaged friend how I feel about her and now she does not want to talk to me.
Q. Friend of 2 and half years now, she moved to CA for pursuing PhD with her Boyfriend (Both American, they’ve been dating for 3 years before moving to CA). She became my close friend. I’ve been nice, kind and caring to her, always been there to ...
A. 3 February 2010: She probably feels its inappropriate to be friends with you considering how close she came to beginning a real boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with you. It sounds like, at one point, she did have feelings for you. Now that she is actually getting ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my bf's female text buddy over flirty messages?
Q. I have founds some texts on my bfs phone and to cut a long storey short from a female he apears to have met online or through a friend (as she doesnt know how he looks), although the conversation is flirty its not sex-chat, and its unclear weather ...
A. 3 February 2010: Why are you so afraid of it getting back to him? This kind of flirting is really inappropriate, even if its only flirting. Does your boyfriend know that you know at all? You should tell him.
About confronting the other woman... I wouldn't... (read in full...)
I waited 3 months for a dinner reservation in a top restaurant and my bf has just cancelled out. Is it ok to take another man to not miss out on the dining experience?
Q. A while back I booked a table at the supposedly best restaurant in the UK and it took me 3 months and a cancellation to get in. My b/f has known about it for weeks and how excited I am about it. Today he texts me to say that the mother of his child ...
A. 3 February 2010: I think you have a right to take whomever you want, and I think what your boyfriend did is rude and thoughtless. You're allowed to make demands and ask for time, and you should be able to rely on him occasionally despite the fact that he is a ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to revenge on an ex that has treated you so badly?
Q. What is the best revenge I could give my ex. For 3 years, he has treated me badly, dumped me, cheated and come back, I forgive him, still treat him so nice and he turns around, humilate me and treat me bad. What could be the best revenge I could do ...
A. 29 January 2010: Sleeping with his best friend would probably crush his spirit for a while.
But the whole living your life to the fullest and ignorning him idea is the smart way to go.... ... (read in full...)
He says he stayed with ex for his son. I don't understand why.
Q. Hi I need to know wether I am being a idiot or if its normal to feel how I do. My boyfriend has a son from a previous relationship and this situation is hard but we have a agreement regarding the visits. But my boyfriend has told me about the rel...
A. 23 January 2010: I think its not out of the question to believe that he tried to stay with her because of his son. Are you a mother yet? I think when you have a child, the love you have for them can spill onto other people as well, including the person who gave ... (read in full...)
My cousin is constantly seeking attention from me on facebook
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a tricky situation and need advice. My cousin who i was very close to moved to Chicago 6 years ago when she got married.We have always kept in touch. Now just before Christmas she joined facebook but she bombards ...
A. 23 January 2010: People are usually super enthusiastic when they first get facebook, then their interest dwindles over time. Maybe she will calm down as well, eventually. Until then, you could tell her you are bored with facebook and that you only log on once... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my stepson.
Q. I'm 38 years old and married to an older man - he's 50. It's his second marriage and he's got 2 kids from his previous marriage. Over the past few months my attraction to my stepson has grown tremendously. We flirt a lot to the point it could be ...
A. 23 January 2010: Put some distance between yourself and your stepson. Stop fantasizing about him. If you have a lot of sexual steam to let off, masturbate, don't cheat. Nineteen year old boys have absolutely no knowledge of the consequences of complicated sex, and ... (read in full...)
How do I choose between two men?
Q. I feel like my whole life depends on the decision I need to make and yet I'm completely unable to actually make it..... I'm 23 yrs old. I have a 2 yr old daughter. My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 16 except for about 8 months a...
A. 22 January 2010: Aww, I really feel for you. I think the idea of leaving your boyfriend and immediately jumping into another huge relationship (by moving in with this other guy) would make ANYONE freak out. Its an incredibly gigantic leap to make. Is there any way ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it hard to trust my husband seen as he is on dating websites saying he is looking for someone to cheat with!
Q. I am having problems with my husband. I have seen twice now that he has filled out profiles on dating websites. Once this summer and once last week. After filling the one out this summer, he never went back to it, but the other he has gone back to. ...
A. 21 January 2010: Thanks everyone for your replies, and I know you are right, and its going to make me crazy until I let him know that I KNOW he signed up. I think the difficult thing for me is that I am sure he never actually even emailed anyone from these sites. ... (read in full...)
I'm questioning the love of my boyfriend and I don't know why!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two wonderful years, and I couldnt imagine life without him. The only problem is, when he left to go to start some schooling I was lonely and made-out with another man, nothing more than that. I felt ...
A. 21 January 2010: Maybe this questioning is what actually led you to cheat in the first place. You shouldn't just ignore these thoughts completely, and it sounds like you can't if they keep coming up. Don't torture yourself or your boyfriend.
It could be guilt yo... (read in full...)
Should I finish with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He lives in Bulgaria and I am in the UK. We have always been planning for me to join him in Bulgaria and we decided once he had a steady job there and somewhere for us to ...
A. 21 January 2010: He doesn't want you there, if he did you wouldn't be asking this question. So don't go, and don't plan to go, and let him know that you're done foolishly waiting. ... (read in full...)
I'm planning on leaving my wife some day because I don't find her attractive. Does the problem lie with me or with her?
Q. Dear cupid, I have been married for more than twenty years now. I have children (two teenagers) and the youngest one is 17 now. The problem is I married my wife for ten different reasons and none of them is love. I don't like her, physically speak...
A. 21 January 2010: Do her a favor and leave now so she can have a chance to find someone who actually likes her. Help her with money and be fair in the divorce. You say you are confused, but you don't sound confused. Planning to leave her "someday" is wrong, and ... (read in full...)
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