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What is the best way to revenge on an ex that has treated you so badly?

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Question - (29 January 2010) 9 Answers - (Newest, 11 February 2010)
A female United States age 26-29, *weetheart1nonly writes:

What is the best revenge I could give my ex. For 3 years, he has treated me badly, dumped me, cheated and come back, I forgive him, still treat him so nice and he turns around, humilate me and treat me bad. What could be the best revenge I could do to him?

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (11 February 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntThere is a joke story about a woman's revenge.

She went for counseling and the counselor told her to love the man to the hilt and satisfy all his wants .

When the man fell for the trap , the woman abandoned him.

It was sweet revenge .

I don't think you should do that but to live a happy and successful life. To show him that you can even live happily without him.

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A female reader, shelynn Malaysia +, writes (10 February 2010):

I went through the same too.. 3 years, got cheated so many times, lied and he had affairs with so many gals i did forgive him all this while but the only thing that i got in return is humiliation.. i even lost my friend because of him.. well, the best revenge is to be silent.. sometimes remaining silence is the best way to heal our pain.. i know its difficult to go through all this but you have to.. ignore him.. this kind of guys should be left alone once they got cheated by any gals than they know our pains... be strong.. good luck

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A male reader, ReturningtheFavor United States +, writes (30 January 2010):

The best revenge is to move on and appear to be the happiest woman in the world. Show him and everyone else that you do not need him to be happy! If he thinks you have successfully moved on he will be crushed, especially if you ignore him!!

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A female reader, jc82 United States +, writes (29 January 2010):

jc82 agony auntSleeping with his best friend would probably crush his spirit for a while.

But the whole living your life to the fullest and ignorning him idea is the smart way to go....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010):

Disappear. Don't answer his calls, texts or emails. Don't let him know a thing about you, how you are doing or what you are doing. If you try to get revenge in any other way, you are showing him how much you care and in turn giving him more power over you. Pretend like he doesn't exist to you and soon he wont!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010):

Agree, living a great life w/o him is the BEST revenge...

Take ZERO notice of him... he's invisible...

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia + , writes (29 January 2010):

Aunty BimBim agony auntThe best revenge is your success, for him to see you succeed in your life without him, and without him influencing your life's decisions in any way.

Put him and all thoughts of him behind you, work out what you want from life for yourself and go get it.

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A female reader, sweetheart1nonly United States +, writes (29 January 2010):

sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks for your reply. Sometimes I think of just making myself better and live my life, sometimes I think of revenge.

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A female reader, Lexie88 Australia +, writes (29 January 2010):

Lexie88 agony auntGo and live your life and ignore him. You need to show him that he's worthless to you...and ignorance is the best way to do that. The best revenge is to show that he doesn't matter anymore, that you don't care.

If you spend your time trying to do something to him it still counts as time spent on him and he's not worth your time.

Move on, make a good life for yourself. Planning and scheming how to get back at him is just a waste of your've already spent three years on this guy...don't spend another day!

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