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writes:Well first off i'm a 16 year old girl in serious need of advice!I would normally go to my mom or dad for advicebut this time i cant.i feel like if i tell them ill disappoint themand thats exactly what i dont want.cuz like ever other normal parent out there my parents want me to marry a virgin.well if you havent figured it out already what i need advice on is that three little word that we all know as SEX!Last year i had a boyfriend and we went out for 8 months but broke up dueto problems we had.as any young girl would say "I thought he was the one"we were...Perfect...in my eyes of course.but as any young love all that started to fade.til this day i miss having a real relationship with him.after the break up everything was well akward i guess.we were both virgins at the timeand well we wanted to loose it to eachother but never had the chance to.then around March we started to talk again.and well we became close friends again like we were before.im gonna skip a bit ahead here and well go to June 20th...i lost my virginity that day with him.and we arent going out ='(is that wrong?did i make a big mistake?i need andvice on what to do next and i need it a.s.a.pright now he is on vacation and i want to talk to him about this when hegets back but idk what to sayso i need help......!!!!!!!!!!! PLZthank you to everyone who repliesill appreciate it =)
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (16 July 2009):
 Thanks for the follow up. It is always good to know we are being read.
Good luck with the discussion when your ex returns.
FA
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reader, Traviesa_7768 +, writes (16 July 2009):
Traviesa_7768 is verified as being by the original poster of the question THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH
your advice was right on in what i needed!
i really appreciate it
thank you so much!
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (15 July 2009):
I'm going to take a little different tack on this question. It seems as if you are asking how to tell him (you ex boyfriend / current lover)how you feel. The problem is you don't know how you feel or what you want.
By reading between the lines I have come to the conclusion (I may be wrong) That what you want is to have your boyfriend back. You want him to go out with you. You may want to continue to have sex with him. You may want a permanent relationship with him. You are probably afraid that he doesn't want any of that, and you have played your v-card to a guy who isn't interested in more than fun.
You may feel that you are entitled to your wishes because you gave your virginity to him. He may or may not feel the same way.
My advice is that you tell him what you want without trying to claim that it is due to you. You can't buy his love, even with that gift. He should be flattered that you chose him and still want him.
If I'm completely wrong and you just want him to be a friend
(with out benefits), then tell him how you feel. Also take your share of the blame for what happened an apologize to him for going to far, and making him think your relationship was going in that direction.
Solid long term relationships are built on trust, and communication, and mutual respect. There is no place for manipulation, or taking advantage,or force.
You are young. You have a lot of life ahead of you. This one event does not have to affect everything that is ahead of you.
FA
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Whats done is done.Don`t make a big deal of it.If you have feelings for this boy find out what he feels for you.If your interested let him know.Just tell him how you feel and ask him any questions you may have.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 July 2009):
 It is something you can't take back or do over. So really STOP beating yourself up. He is most likely the first guy you really loved or had strong feelings for so in that sense, is it so bad that HE was the one?
Next time you meet a guy remember how you feel now. Until you feel sure and ready to have sex, don't.
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reader, Traviesa_7768 +, writes (15 July 2009):
Traviesa_7768 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe reasoon why i did it is cuz deep down i still love himi dont regret loosing it to him...but i want to talk to him about thisbut idk how to tell him how i feel....
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