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I am just me, a person that has lived through unrequited love (more often than not).
A person that hasnt had it neither hard nor easy, I have had to work for what I have got but I havent had to claw my way out of poverty.
I am a pretty easy person to please I just ask for a little consideration, understanding and love.
A smile costs nothing yet it gives much.
I had a family berevement recently, I found it hard but I have came through it, I hope that it will be resolved in a satisfactory manner soon.
I have 2 parents and I think they have done a great job.
I love reading, I write too and draw.
I love the company of others as much as my own.
I have recently got married, and I am now mum to baby Donald things are amazing!
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Starting to get feelings for the guy I'm messing with!
Q. I have been messing with this guy for awhile know. When we started we both agreed thats all it would be. I expected him to call once in awhile and ask for me to come over and do are thing and leave. But its more than that. We hang out almost ...
A. 6 February 2007: I wouldnt just end it out of hand, speak to him tell him everything give him a few days to think then speak to im again and see if there is anything to work towards.
Do you really want it because you are coming across very negative?... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man at my son's school. Should I approach him? If so, how?
Q. There is a man at my son's school who I have become very attracted to (yes I am a single mum). I know this guy is single unfortunately due to losing his wife to cancer. I would like to pluck up the courage to speak to him and get to know him but ...
A. 6 February 2007: Please dont feel like this, there is some one out there for every one and he may not have been the right one for you.
But please dont shelve any thoughts of happiness because it will come to you one day
xxx... (read in full...)
Starting to get feelings for the guy I'm messing with!
Q. I have been messing with this guy for awhile know. When we started we both agreed thats all it would be. I expected him to call once in awhile and ask for me to come over and do are thing and leave. But its more than that. We hang out almost ...
A. 16 January 2007: Communication!! tell him how you feel, you are calmly talking about ending it to save yourself. What about actually telling him and letting him have a decision too? At least that way if he doesnt feel the same way you wont have lost anything because ... (read in full...)
My partner shows me no love or affection
Q. my partner does not show me any love or affection or tells me that i am important. this has been going on for around 18 months now and he knows how i feel but he tells me its alll in my head. i have asked if we can go to relationship coulcelling but ...
A. 16 January 2007: It sounds like hes been taking you for granted for a while now. What you need to do is make him see how much, what I would say is move out to a mates or your parents for a couple of weeks and see how he reacts, if he doesnt miss you or mend his ways ... (read in full...)
We're tired of the same old sex positions! How do we spice things up a bit?
Q. hi, me and my girlfriend have been going out for some while now but we have jus been using the same sex positions over and over again and frankly we are getting bored of them, the positions are, doggy, 69, missionary and spoons, please help us to ...
A. 16 January 2007: Hiya, you have the net, google the karma sutra there are plenty of ways to spice your sex life up in that delightful book, alternatively have a look at a few sites that are a little more liberal maybe you need to indulge in a few fantasies.... (read in full...)
Hurting and confused because my boyfriend broke up with me and is going to marry the mother of his child. Please help.
Q. Hi all please help me i am hurting and confused. My boyfriend broke up with me and he is planning to marry the mother of his child. Its totally over, but can you please help me with the coping mechanisms coz this is relly hurting me. I know i hav...
A. 16 January 2007: Different people deal with things differently.
I think you need to stop dwelling, decide that you arent going to be broken by this man and get angry, when you get angry channel it in to doing something productive, maybe a college course, a new hobb... (read in full...)
My gf got back with her ex, now I'm feeling lonely and used. Any advice on how to cope with this?
Q. This is the guy that posted a question a while back about his girlfriend stating that she wanted space and islolating herself from me and not knowing what to do, and I have to thank cd206 for all her help, but its official, we broke up, i found out ...
A. 16 January 2007: Hiya, all I can say is that not every one is the same, you cant tar every one with the same brush!
As for loneleness what aboput a few hobbies? why not take up a new interest such as learning a new language, joining book group, joining a pool team... (read in full...)
What is meant by multiple orgasm?
Q. What is meant by the term multiple orgasm? How can a guy cum multiple times? I thought it was just all at once? I'm a little confused...........
A. 16 January 2007: Yes men can have multiple orgasms!
A multiple orgasm is when you cum over and over again a few times at a time.
With men it is a dry orgasm, if a man strengthens his pc muscle (its the muscle that makes his penis "jump")
Its the same kind of exce... (read in full...)
I really like my female friend but don't know if she feels the same. I'm scared to ask her out, I don't want to loose her friendship
Q. Hi I have a female friend who I regard as a close friend. We met when we were in USA working at the same place on a student exchange program during summer 2006. (We are from the UK) We talked all the time about univeristy, movies etc.) We have no...
A. 16 January 2007: Just ease the conversations towards relationships, be honest with her.
Tell her about the fact that you havent really found any one that shared the same interests, that you havent really wanted to spend any time with as such.
Maybe arrange to meet ... (read in full...)
My dad hurt me in the past and I want my family to meet up with my instructor so we can put it behind us. Any advice?
Q. HI, this is kind of complicated and really long, but I was hoping someone could help me. Last Saturday I was at a youth confernece for my church in which I am a junior youth leader. I am 21 years old. I was enrolled in a seminar called "Helping ...
A. 16 January 2007: In the bible it says "Ask and ye shall recieve" ask this instructor if he would be interested in "coaching" you and your parents.
Explain to him that you havent spoken to your parents as of yet but you are hoping to broach them about the subj... (read in full...)
Age Of Innocence
Q. I am of quite a young age, and the thing is i avoid getting fingered. I have been fingered before, and i am willing to give them the favour (hand job/blow job) But for some reason, i avoid getting fingered. All of my friends, are the complete opp...
A. 14 January 2007: would you really want to?
when you meet some one you love then you wont even want to force yourself because it will come naturally.
Why do you want to grow up so soon?
If the answer is because all your friends are doing it well thats just not goo... (read in full...)
18 and single ...help!
Q. i need some help ppl..i feel so so down at the moment.im the only single 1 out of all my friends..Im 18, i know thats not very old.I have so much bad luck with men. They just dont seem 2 take me seriously. I want a bf so badly but nothing ever works ...
A. 14 January 2007: I am exactly the same as you!! I am now 30 and single, like my friends told me when I do get a feller he will be so lucky to have me, just as yours will be happy to have you.
My best friend said to me one day that you will never get what you want... (read in full...)
We used the 'pull out' method-could I be pregnant?
Q. Pregncy question, I had sex about 8 days before my december period. Although we used a condom the second time, the first time we did not have one, and used I guess what is called "pulling out". And now I am concerned about being pregnant. I got my ...
A. 14 January 2007: Go to a doctor, this is the only thing that will put your mind to rest.
yes it is possible as sperm is released in pre cum too so pulling out isnt an option.
get checked out i is the only way to be sure.... (read in full...)
Pur relationship is perfect except for one big flaw---he's married! What should I do?
Q. I have been 7 years with my boyfriend who is married but till today when I broach the subject of divorcing and marrying me, he still says he cannot now unless he is prepared his father's depression worsens plus he has parkinsons. Our relationship is ...
A. 14 January 2007: I am sorry it sounds like hes making excuses, how does his fathers illness determine who he should or shouldnt be married to?
he has his cake and is eating it at the moment. I have friends that have been the other woman and I always end up bein... (read in full...)
I really like my best friend's older brother! How do I deal with this..any advice?
Q. Dear Cupid, I think I might be starting to like this guy, who is one of my best friends' older brothers (he's sixteen and in the tenth grade, I'm fifteen and in the ninth grade, and she's about to turn fourteen and is in the eighth grade). W...
A. 14 January 2007: Hiya, maybe when you have him pick up the phone and shes not about start a conversation with him, you know he likes basket ball, try and find out what else he likes so you can talk about it when shes at the gym.
stuff like "did you see the bask... (read in full...)
I feel bad because I told him my true feelings and I didn't get any reaction back! What should I do now?
Q. hi, i have a huge problem, i kinda like this guy, who i think liked me, but before all of this i knew he liked someone else. But than he started calling me and stuff, and wanted to meet me, we meet, then we talked on the phone for about a week. It ...
A. 14 January 2007: i think he saw you as a friend, maybe a means to get closer to this girl, is she a friend? it sounds like hes shut himself off as he doenst either a)know how to act around you or b)hadnt taken this in to account and needs to decide how he feels for ... (read in full...)
Is it morally wrong for a teacher to wink at a female student (15-17)?
Q. is it morally wrong for a male teacher to wink at a female student age 15-17? I need to know because my gf is complaining about this teacher who does it to her and ONLY her....
A. 14 January 2007: No he shouldnt be winking at her, if she is concerned tell her to talk to a school councilor or a parent that she feels she can trust.
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I'm so bored with my fiancee! Am I really in love in with him? What do you think?
Q. I am engaged to my boyfriend of four years. We decided to get married in no less than a year and up until recently everything has been been ok. We have a good solid relationship but he hates to go out and even walking on the beach he finds boring. I ...
A. 14 January 2007: I think you need to communicate, you are moving in to the "comfortable" stage where things are a bit stale and you are taking each other for granted.
Discuss ways to spice up your sex lives, maybe explore fantasies you both have.
Indulge in a lit... (read in full...)
My bf and I have a business but we broke up. How do I cope now, that we work together?
Q. this ex of mine still wanting to have a business for a living with me inspite of our descision of breaking up for good, this is gonna be hard for me because i dont want to see him that much for i do still have a feelings for him,but he insisted that ...
A. 14 January 2007: I think the best thing for you would be to sell your half of the business either to him or to some one you both agree on, this is the only way you are going to get closure.
I couldnt say what he is thinking you will only find out if you ask him and ... (read in full...)
She's a bit wilder than me-I have traditional relationship values. Is it wrong of me to expect more from her?
Q. Im a 20 yr old guy and im in a relationships.i give my GF(also 20) a lot of advice/"maybe nagging" about things that i don't like...This sounds a weird Q to ask but am i acting like a 'nagging old loser'? for example when my GF went out for her...
A. 13 January 2007: I think that you should both be your own people, but in any relationship you both need a little give and take, compromise.
No I dont think she should be wearing skirts that short but that is from my point of view.
Sort skirts are nice if you have... (read in full...)
My gf moved in and we tried to blend our families. Then she moved out b/c her son wasn't happy. I feel very empty now. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years now. About six months ago we decided to move in together and try to blend our families. I have a 15 year old daughter who lives with me and two boys ages 13 and 9 who live with me on the ...
A. 13 January 2007: Sometimes we need things said to us that deep down in our heart of hearts we already know.
It helps us to focus, I am glad I managed to voice your feelings, and so help you towards working this out.
All you need to do is try to win the trust of... (read in full...)
My gf moved in and we tried to blend our families. Then she moved out b/c her son wasn't happy. I feel very empty now. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years now. About six months ago we decided to move in together and try to blend our families. I have a 15 year old daughter who lives with me and two boys ages 13 and 9 who live with me on the ...
A. 11 January 2007: Hello, I know it is a small comfort but atleast she hasnt walked out of your life full stop.
She still loves you but she has one child to your three.
It could be that as he has been brought up as an only child he is not used to the hustle and bust... (read in full...)
When will my sister stop telling me not to be moody? I haven't had a temper since I was a teen and she acts like I still do.
Q. Hi: I'm 32 yrs. single and currently living with my parents. An older sister of mine (34yrs.) who visits frequently sometimes makes innapropriate comments about my temper like she used to do when we lived toghether and when we were on school. This ...
A. 11 January 2007: Hiya, to me it sounds like she is jealous.
Yes she maybe married and living in her own home BUT she might feel that shes not reached as many goals as you.
Remember the saying the grass is always greener . . ?
well maybe she feels that she has miss... (read in full...)
I developed stretch marks from gaining weight and now I'm losing weight they are still there!
Q. Dear aunt Ive become really sad recently because of my body. When growing i developed a few stretch mark at the top of my legs, i was never down hearted about this because they wernt that visable. However, Earlier this year after a rough ...
A. 11 January 2007: Hiya, I too suffer from stretch marks I am how ever lucky as they have gone silver, There are a number of creams available such as e45 cream or cocoa nut oil.
I would say it is a case of trial and error to see what works for you.
I would suggest ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you're pregnant while on the pill?
Q. Hi. Does anyone know how to tell if ur pregnant while on the pill? Do you still get a period or will it stop? Thanks!...
A. 11 January 2007: A friend of mine was on the pill, she still bled and she didnt realise that she was pergnant till she gave birth.
BUT to be sure all I can suggest is to go to the docs, explain that you are on the pill and that yopu think you might be pregnant, I am... (read in full...)
He lives on the other side of the world. I want to emigrate to be with him. Is this a good idea?
Q. Heres a question for you the only guy I have ever really liked - I think he is my soulmate (if there is such a thing) lives on the other side of the world we usually see each other once a year either I go there or he comes here, but realistically ...
A. 9 January 2007: I think you should go for it!
If you know how he feels towards you and well lets face it you know how you feel for him then go for it.
You say you can get a job any where then i would say apply for a visa get your own place over there so you can ... (read in full...)
After 10 years he told me he loved me but doesn't know if he wants to be a couple after all this time!
Q. dear cupid,a very long story cut short!from the age of 16 i fell for a guy that for the past 16 years has been in my life apart from a gap of 18months when i had another relationship! my problem is weve both had children by other people and neither ...
A. 9 January 2007: Right take it easy, you have done the hard part you have found some one that loves you as much as you love him, he needs to get himself sorted and feel that he is independant and wont be putting any strain on your relationship.
He been honest with... (read in full...)
I neglected him, he left me and now I see my mistakes - how do I get him back?
Q. im having a real difficult time. My partner and i have been together for three years, and i neglected him as im not high in self confidence and was trying to find myself, i have always loved him and he has always stood by me, we argue alot but i ...
A. 9 January 2007: Just tell him what you have told us, with out sounding as if you are pleading.
Sit him down and tell him you want to hear how it was for him, you think you know, but now you are willing to listen.
You want to take his feelings in to consider... (read in full...)
He has different sized nipples and it's turning me off!
Q. My boyfriend has a really small nipple on one side and a huge one on the other. theres almost a 2 cm difference! its a major turn off what should i do?...
A. 9 January 2007: If you love him it shouldnt matter to you, It may be because he had a pearcing or it maybe natural.
I am sorry but odd sized nipples sounds like a really stupid reason to loose the person you love.
Maybe you arent in love with him and you are subc... (read in full...)
I like my best friends girl!
Q. Hey....Well I got a mega problem....I like my best friends girl friend and my best friend is like my own brother almost...And in the past he treated her badly and i have feelings for her but i don't know what to do becuz he is my best friend/bro... ...
A. 9 January 2007: I would say leave her be, if the relationship is going to fail then it will of its own accord. Dont let it be because of you because friendship is not worth loosing over a girl.
He is your best friend almost a brother, how would you feel if you spli... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man at my son's school. Should I approach him? If so, how?
Q. There is a man at my son's school who I have become very attracted to (yes I am a single mum). I know this guy is single unfortunately due to losing his wife to cancer. I would like to pluck up the courage to speak to him and get to know him but ...
A. 9 January 2007: hiya I think you shouldnt shelve any thoughts of being happy quite yet!
are your children friends? maybe you could arrange a party and invite his child to the party, sleep over, bowling party what ever you decide it to be, maybe get chatting to him ... (read in full...)
He can't come inside me... any ideas?
Q. I have recentley started seeing a new man, he is 33 and I am 36 everything is lovely except he is unable to cum inside me and always ends up masterbating to make himself cum. He says he thinks its nerves and tiredness and its not me. Any ideas am at ...
A. 9 January 2007: Hiya, firstly what he is saying could be true.
It might be down to him and not you,
I have few ideas for you.
I dont know if you have had any children but even if you havent some times the pelvic floor can get a little loose, if you practise you... (read in full...)
He loves being on the phone but should I call him!?
Q. i have a guy who always stays home, is always on the phone because being on the phone is his hobbie. He love the phone but he doesnt like to call people. should i call him everyday or does that mean he got mr under control because im always the one ...
A. 9 January 2007: Hmm how can he love being on the phone and not like to call people?
I think that you are doing all the running, if you would like more from him then you need to talk to him.
If we get down to basics you are paying for the phone calls it sounds l... (read in full...)
I try to make my wife happy... but she doesn't do the same for me!
Q. I'm at odds with my wife. I tell her my problems but she dismisses them. She says she will change things and sometimes promises to. She doesn't keep those promises and when I get upset about it, she refuses to take responsibility or apologize. I ...
A. 9 January 2007: I take it you have told your wife what you have just told us? Tell her that she makes you feel like she is dismissing your problems, that you would be happy to support her and in return you would like a little support too.
The best way to sort out ... (read in full...)
Could I make a claim for these dental troubles, do you think?
Q. I don't know if this is the right place too come but I need some advice. Over the past year or so, I have had numerous dental procedures that have not being delt with properly. I first had an affected tooth, and the root had too be taken out. My...
A. 9 January 2007: Hiya, there are plenty of adverts on telly that state "where theres a blame theres a claim" to be honest I think you do have a case I would recomend talking to a solicitor if you dont have one talk to your friends and see if they know any one.
I... (read in full...)
If I could change him, things would be great...
Q. My ex moved in w/ me 5 mos. ago so I could pay for school/living expenses. We don't have sex, but have fooled around twice since then. I know he loves me, but he's almost 20 yrs. older and acts like a kid. If I could change him things would be ...
A. 9 January 2007: yes most deffinately, you cant change any one that doesnt want to and that goes for any kind of situation.
I would get out there as soon as you can afford to so that you both have a chance to move on and regain your lives.
as it is you both wil... (read in full...)
I'm down! Is it because I don't know what to do with my future, career-wise?
Q. I keep getting negative thoughts and feeling slightly emotional, allthough I don't cry. It gets worse usually when it gets dark, and i feel no hope and have nothing too look forward too. I am happy around my girlfriend but not so much my family and ...
A. 9 January 2007: aaah I know this feeling well!
I am 30 years old stuck in a non job with no "useful" qualifications and I feel it mostly at night.
Your girlfriend should be your best friend as well as your partner if you cant talk through things with her who can ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have sex with my friend. Is this normal?
Q. My husband wants me to have sex with my girlfriend. Is He normal?...
A. 9 January 2007: it sounds like he wants to either watch or join in, its every mans fantasy to have two women.
when it arises most run in fear or freeze up, yes hes a red blooded male but you have to do some soul searching before you even consider it, is your rela... (read in full...)
She thinks the world revolves around her and her bf. She can't figure out why friends are avoiding her, though. Should I tell her the reason?
Q. i have this friend and she is pretty cool. she would tell me about her problems within herself and i helped her out. i got her a bf because i thought that's what she needed. then, a month later she starts to change. she's always bashing people about ...
A. 9 January 2007: Hiya, it seems like a heart to heart is way past due!!
you need to arange a night where you get some girly "bits" face masks, hair dye, bath bubbles and ban men for the night!
Have a peoper girly night state that men are banned and that its just... (read in full...)
My partner only seems to want sex to pleasure himself and not me! What can be done?
Q. My partner of nearly 2 years has spent the last 15 years simply having one night stands with girls he knows a little or has just met. He is faithful to me and I do trust him but the problems of his habits are still there for other reasons: He i...
A. 9 January 2007: Hiya, well I think you will need to take a little initive here, encouragement is always good! when he does something you like tell him its good.
Try a litle teasing, it will take a few weeks and you will need to be strong in this!
firstly you need... (read in full...)
My ex treated me badly, but I still love him. Now I'm fearful of him manipulating my feelings since he started contacting me again!
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles... I have a problem with my ex. After 2 months of no contact, my ex now wants to see me again. He has treated me badly in the past - dumped me by just not answering my calls etc....I was madly in love with him, and ...
A. 9 January 2007: Hiya, I have been here. He told me he loved me that he wanted me then he just treated me the same as he always did.
What I would say, because the question that always burned in my mind was did I ever do enough? did I try my hardest to make it work... (read in full...)
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