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writes:I have been messing with this guy for awhile know. When we started we both agreed thats all it would be. I expected him to call once in awhile and ask for me to come over and do are thing and leave. But its more than that. We hang out almost every weekend and during the week we talk everyday and sometimes twice a day. He tells me that someday we might be more than friends but right know hes not ready for that. I am starting to get feeling for him, know that we are spending more time together. I really enjoy being around him and don't want it to stop. But i don't want to endup getting hurt in the end. So should I just end it know? Reply to this Question
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reader, ingotblue  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 I wouldnt just end it out of hand, speak to him tell him everything give him a few days to think then speak to im again and see if there is anything to work towards.
Do you really want it because you are coming across very negative?
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reader, wammer20 +, writes (17 January 2007):
wammer20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the comments. They mean a lot. One more thing though. What does it mean when you can go to his house and not doing anything but talk. I think that there might be feeling for me there, but I think some of it has to do with his son's mom. She treated him like crap. I never have known a guy to just talk to any girl about his past like he does. So should I just ask him if there is going to be anything and if he says he don't know or not right now then just end it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Well, he has told you he's not ready for more, and its an open question as to whether he ever will be.
If you continue on with him and hope for more and it does not happen, either you will eventually tire of this and get fed up, or you will be very hurt.
He has the advantage of just getting sex with no emotional involvement. So, you MIGHT try letting him know your thoughts, even though he has already told you where he stands, OR just end it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Well, he has told you he's not ready for more, and its an open question as to whether he ever will be.
If you continue on with him and hope for more and it does not happen, either you will eventually tire of this and get fed up, or you will be very hurt.
He has the advantage of just getting sex with no emotional involvement. So, you MIGHT try letting him know your thoughts, even though he has already told you where he stands, OR just end it.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (16 January 2007):
 If you don't want to get hurt you need to end it now. He's told you that you can't be more than friends right now so you'll end up getting hurt if you keep going. However muc it's starting to feel and sound like a relationship he has assured you that it isn't and that has to be enough.
CD
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reader, NenaUnique  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 well he says that maybe someday you guys will be more then friends..and i think that the reason he said this is because he is not taking you seriously and he knows it. he is just taking you as a "friend with benefits" and he just cant see you as a girlfriend because all that he wants from you is "doing your thing,then leave" which i find that very ungirlish..and im 16!! well that doesnt matter but i live in the city and theres alot of that going on..and i see guys acting like he likes the girl sooooo much and then i go to another street there he is with another chick doing the same thing..you know why? "just to get his *thing*"
so if you need any more advice then private message me..
*Valeria*
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (16 January 2007):
Communication!! tell him how you feel, you are calmly talking about ending it to save yourself. What about actually telling him and letting him have a decision too? At least that way if he doesnt feel the same way you wont have lost anything because you were thinking of ending it any way
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