I'm mad about a girl who almost never replies to my messages!
Q. Went on a date with an amazing girl, first date went OK, she wanted to see me again, but two months later and at least two rain checks, she says she's not interested in seeing me again. Never did get to see her again. Almost a year later, iv b...
A. 2 October 2014: There is nothing more you can do. You can't make someone like you. Besides, there are plenty of other "amazingly beautiful" women out there. You don't need her. I think you're mistaking wanting her approval as still having feelings for her. She ... (read in full...)
Just thinking about her gets me excited ....
Q. I really fancy my neighbour and have been aroused by her for a long time now, she is single and is friendly to me. I've not asked her out but am falling in love with her, the problem is I get very stiff erections whenever I see her now and have eve...
A. 20 August 2014: Masturbating before trying to talk to her is a good suggestion. I would also try drinking a relaxing tea, or some form of meditation, if masturbation alone isn't enough to take the edge off. ... (read in full...)
Social priorities are just garbage now! Why have people become so messed up?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, forge here. I have realised that in society today, things between men and women are getting very ridiculous, and I want to know why. These are some points I think are good, and I'm sure someone out there will agree. This is ...
A. 20 August 2014: 1.) Guys don't get praised as much as you think for sleeping around. They get labeled as womanizers, dogs, and many other unflattering words. "Player" is not a compliment, either. That's saying a guy uses girls for sex. People also make assumptions ... (read in full...)
What can I do with this rather odd employee?
Q. Hello. I am a manager for a small store that has about 20 employees, most of whom are full-time. They tend to have consistent shifts/days, and most people have been there for 2-3 years so they are a pretty tight-knit group. I have hired some new ...
A. 20 August 2014: I think the best thing to do is find the main source, meaning the main person who is causing trouble. Have a talk with him/her, and say while you understand it made them uncomfortable to receive an invitation from the new person, there is no good ... (read in full...)
How do I accept that I am second best and that given the choice it appears he would prefer me to look differently?
Q. I know that other people have asked similar questions but I'm wanting some ideas on how to deal best with my insecurities around my boyfriends porn. All the women he looks at in potn look completely different to me . Like I mean there is no woman ...
A. 15 August 2014: Don't assume you're second best. If he's anything like me, what he likes to look at in porn and what he wants in real life are very different. I'm a straight woman who has a fetish that I like to watch other women perform. I have no sexual ... (read in full...)
I want to stop sexting!
Q. Im a 25 year old male and dating a woman we have been dating for almost 5 years and engaged for almost 2 I love her dearly and wouldnt trade her for anything but I have a problem with sexting I get caught doing it then I go good for about six months ...
A. 11 August 2014: It sounds like you're addicted to female attention. Try to figure out why that is. I'd be asking more than just why do I do this. I'd go into greater detail. Examples: Do you feel the need to get other girls to "confirm" what your girlfriend says ... (read in full...)
Is there a cure for obsessive jealous behavior other than therapy?
Q. Well im the same as all the people who think they are crazy with there obsessive and jelouse behavour when there partner sees sexy women is there an actual cure not therapy that doesnt work. Ive had my problem for 15 years it doesnt get better with ...
A. 11 August 2014: The others are right about physical beauty. It's only part of attraction. Now I'm not going to say I can relate to you as a woman in her 20s, but I do know MOST guys would lose interest in a girl if all she has in her favor is her looks. A girl can ... (read in full...)
At 26 is it wierd to count a 18 yr old as a friend?
Q. Now this maybe a over thinking question but just to check. I worked with a girl over the past year and well I didn’t think anything of it but we really got on well and seemed to have a laugh. Anyway now she has got another Job and we don’t...
A. 11 August 2014: I wouldn't over think this. A good friend is a good friend, regardless of their age or gender. It's not like you're talking to an underage girl, and you're not trying to date her anyway.... (read in full...)
Why am I so unlucky in love?
Q. I am 40 yr old single mum of a 7year old boy who I adore .I have a great job wonderful family and friends.I am on numerous dating sitessnd for the past 3.5 years have had several relationships/stroke flings. I always get caught up in the romance and ...
A. 10 August 2014: If you haven't already, take the initiative with guys. Meaning don't wait to receive messages, send a few of your own messages to guys who catch your eye on these sites. Some guys will appreciate this, and even be surprised by it.
You're right to... (read in full...)
I took him back when he cheated but I just cant trust him anymore.
Q. Dear cupid, you've indeed been of great help to me, and I do appreciate everything. Pls I need your advice on an issue bothering my heart. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend who loves me so much for 7yrs now(we've lived together for 2yrs ...
A. 25 July 2014: "Pls friends, what do I make of his statements?"
I wouldn't believe him. It's not worth the risk. He's cheated too many times to be trusted. It doesn't matter what he says. Some people are convincing liars. You're doing the right thing in packing ... (read in full...)
Should I confront her about why she deleted me from facebook?
Q. Small question.. Just finished college ive just noticed one of my friends from college has deleted me of Facebook, no idea why, we were quite good friends as far as I'm aware. I thought maybe it was because we had finished college and she felt she...
A. 24 July 2014: Do you post statuses about every detail of your life? Do you complain a lot? Do you post everything the Kardashians do? Do you have children, and if so, do you post a lot of pictures of them? Do you post attention seeking pictures? I don't even mean ... (read in full...)
I took him back when he cheated but I just cant trust him anymore.
Q. Dear cupid, you've indeed been of great help to me, and I do appreciate everything. Pls I need your advice on an issue bothering my heart. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend who loves me so much for 7yrs now(we've lived together for 2yrs ...
A. 24 July 2014: Yes, you should get out of this relationship. Do you not want peace of mind? Do you really want to live your life constantly wondering where he is and what he's doing? Besides, you already know. You're also putting your health at risk by being with ... (read in full...)
Does porn preference coincide with sex preference?
Q. My live in girlfriend of four years and I have a great relationship and a healthy sex life. I recently discovered that she is into porn. She forgot to close a tab on the browser and after seeing it I checked the history. She views a lot of intense, ...
A. 24 July 2014: To answer your title question, not always. I rarely view porn, only like twice a year because for whatever reason I have guilt after. I have one type in particular I watch, a fetish basically. I would NEVER want to try it with my boyfriend, and I ... (read in full...)
If you've had a platonic relationship between a woman and a man how did you manage to do it?
Q. I'm a 25 year old married woman who has trouble making friends. I don't relate to other women well, so I turn to men for friendship. It isn't a case of just having more in common with men, either. There is something I can't put my finger on bet...
A. 23 July 2014: Yes, some guys DO perceive friendliness from women as interest, especially with women they find attractive. Your "signals" are probably their wishful thinking. If you're truly not interested, your body language isn't going to say otherwise. If y... (read in full...)
Should I give up on love?
Q. A little background I was in a really bad abusive relationship about five years ago- not physical but very verbally abusive have my all and basically got nothing in return. I took some time a year or toe just cause I felt lost and was infatuated ...
A. 23 July 2014: First, I'd cut contact with the 34 year old. You don't find him attractive, and he doesn't want a relationship anyhow. If he keeps calling and texting, block his number. From now on, don't lower your standards so much. The fact you made excuses for ... (read in full...)
Why would someone block their profile after sending a message?
Q. I am on match.com ... I wrote someone a quick note whose profile looked interesting. He wrote back this real long letter that was quite pleasant but ended with the statement that he wasn't on the site on a daily basis .and gave me his e-mail ...
A. 23 July 2014: I think if you feel uncomfortable, you should probably just stick to messaging guys who don't act shady. It would make me uncomfortable too, because I think they wouldn't do it if unless they have something to hide. ... (read in full...)
Can alcohol really cause people to blackout?
Q. Hello I was wondering as people claim they had a blackout after drinking excessively and didn't know what happened, is it real or just a way to avoid embarrassment? I have actually never had a blackout or a moment even with extreme drinkin...
A. 23 July 2014: You may just have a strong tolerance level to alcohol. But yes, it's possible for people to black out, or have trouble remembering stuff the next day.
There are some people who lie about this to get out of facing the consequences of somethin... (read in full...)
Dating a month. So why is he saying he's afraid of being criticized by his friends if he loads a picture of me?
Q. He said it was because he was afraid of being critized with his friends. But i'm a pretty girl, and the friends he does upload (which are girls look similar to me. So I don't understand what the real problem is. We have been dating for a month, ...
A. 22 July 2014: My honest opinion? Don't date someone who is so concerned what other people think, that he can't make his own decisions. It's one thing to want approval from his friends. It's a complete other when he starts making (or not making) decisions based on ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get past the fact that she had so many partners before me?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a couple of months now after being friends for around a year. She's a really nice girl and couldn't do more for me, however I don't seem to be able to get over the fact she has such a large backlog of ex-partners. ...
A. 18 July 2014: The main issue here is that she's being a selfish lover. Discuss this issue with her first. Tell her you feel you go the extra mile to please her, but you yourself are feeling a bit unsatisfied. She may have been this way with other guys too, you ... (read in full...)
A question for men on women's weight?
Q. I would like some advice on something that came up in a previous question that has also been on my mind . I am a healthy weight woman according to the weight for height charts and yet at times when I have lost weight and become somewhat underwei...
A. 18 July 2014: I think a lot of guys like thin women who have curves. You can be a bit underweight and still have nice hips, boobs, and butt. Most guys don't like women so thin they have literally no curves at all, if that's what you mean.... (read in full...)
I told my porn-addicted fiance that if he looked at porn again, I'm done. I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and guess what?
Q. My now fiance had a porn addiction he was even looking at it at work. I basically told him if you do it again i'm done, this was over a year ago and i never caught him looking at it until now. I'm 37 weeks pregnant I looked at his phone history last ...
A. 17 July 2014: I would advise you to look at this from his point of view. It's likely he doesn't feel he is doing anything wrong by looking at porn. Maybe he just uses it as a way to make masturbation go faster, or he feels fantasizing about women in porn is ... (read in full...)
Tongue-tied around my crush
Q. So I want to start a conversation with a girl but I don't know how to start it. The problem is that I have a little bit of a crush on her and when I try to talk to her I just stare at her and its very weird. Please help me!...
A. 17 July 2014: Take a deep breath, and remind yourself she is only human, and has experienced the same thing talking to a guy she likes. It might even be you. You'll realize it's not nearly as weird as it seems. You could also try thinking of something unrela... (read in full...)
I can't get a Bf, but is it because I think boys judge girls on their looks?
Q. I had a crush on this boy for about a year, (he was 18) and we have been friends for about 4 years. I thought it was time for me to tell him how I feel, it took a lot of courage but eventually I asked him out. He said he'd get back to me.. He came ...
A. 17 July 2014: Don't let this experience hold you back. He couldn't think for himself, and was too concerned about what other people thought of him, rather than just living his own life. You can do better than that. You did the right thing by deleting his number. ... (read in full...)
Why do some men think porn stars are magical being?
Q. Why do some men think pornstars are magical beings? My ex and my first boyfriend were just like that. My ex said "a pornstar works in my office" in a voice as if he had achieved something. My first boyfriend used to call them by their names...
A. 17 July 2014: Hi, OP. I responded to your question already, (I was the female anon who said porn stars are appealing to men because they're up for anything). Anyhow, I'm sorry to hear about what you discovered on his Facebook. Just so you know, there are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends mother is jealous of me!
Q. My boyfriend's mother seems very jealous of me. Lately, she has been saying things that have really struck out as rude. I also have an old post from last year that kind of describes how over protective she is over her 24 year old son and our Than...
A. 17 July 2014: You're right, she is probably jealous because she feels she's no longer as important since you came along. It's not you personally, she would act this way toward any woman dating her son. So try not to let it get to you too much, because this is ... (read in full...)
They say I would have been rocked by a tree stump. Do they have a point?
Q. OK, I had sex with a new boyfriend recently. It was our first date and he took me to the highest heaven. My friends were not as impressed. They told me my reaction was based on circumstances and looks, ie it was my first time after 23 years of ...
A. 17 July 2014: They're saying you only think it's great by comparison to what you had before, but what do they know? YOU know it was great, and that's all that matters. It's probably best not to talk about your sex life with them anymore.
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Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl?
Q. Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl? They're doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome. What I mean by the same type of ...
A. 17 July 2014: Thank you, male anon, for sharing your thoughts. You're right, some girls see bad boys as a challenge. In my opinion, they're irritating and obnoxious, and I don't want to deal with the hassle. I have a partner who is what you described in a nice ... (read in full...)
Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl?
Q. Why do "nice" guys complain that girls never want them when what the problem REALLY is, is that they keep going for the same type of girl? They're doing the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome. What I mean by the same type of ...
A. 16 July 2014: Hi, it's the OP again. I decided to make an account, because I use this site enough I don't want to post anonymously anymore. Anyhow, that is probably true, Honeypie. They blame the girls because it makes them feel better about themselves, and ... (read in full...)
Preparing for a job interview and I'm very nervous. How do I go about it?
Q. I have an interview for a Youth Worker job tomorrow afternoon. I'm very nervous. I haven't had an interview for ages.It wasn't my idea to do this kind of work. The Jobcentre put me forward for it. I am a shy person, so I hope I would be ok working ...
A. 16 July 2014: No, never say you lack confidence. Always talk about your strengths FIRST at an interview. You can mention a weakness after that, but downplay it as much as possible. You should always have at least one question prepared. It doesn't sound good to ... (read in full...)
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