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writes:Im a 25 year old male and dating a woman we have been dating for almost 5 years and engaged for almost 2 I love her dearly and wouldnt trade her for anything but I have a problem with sexting I get caught doing it then I go good for about six months then something drives me back to it is there anything I can do to help me stop
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reader, ImissFuturama +, writes (11 August 2014):
 It sounds like you're addicted to female attention. Try to figure out why that is. I'd be asking more than just why do I do this. I'd go into greater detail. Examples: Do you feel the need to get other girls to "confirm" what your girlfriend says about you? Meaning, do you tend to feel unattractive a lot of the time, and your girlfriend's opinion alone can't convince you otherwise? Does the thought of only ever being intimate with one person for the rest of your life scare you? Are you afraid of being completely monogamous with your girlfriend because you think she won't do the same?
Once you figure out the exact reason, it will be easier to find a solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2014): Y aren't u sexting with your girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2014): Are you sexting another girl? Is it just about sexting or is it about the other girl?
If it's about the other girl, break off the relationship. Spend some time on your own to figure out what you want in life. Separate from your girlfriend at least long enough to see if you can keep your promises not to cheat.
If it's just about sexting, can you ask your girlfriend to join you? If she's the one you are sexting, then I don't see any problem. If not, see if she will do this with you. If not, could you go to anonymous chat rooms? I don't know your girlfriend, but personally, I would see sext-chatting in an anonymous chatroom to be just about the same as watching porn as long as there is ABSOLUTELY NO temptation to go out and meet these other people online. If you can trust yourself, I personally don't see any harm; however, if your girlfriend opposes it and refuses to participate, ask her to suggest an alternative outlet she would approve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2014): Ask her to do it with you?
If not think about which will be more important in 5 years, or even 1.
What will be more important? Being able to sext or having her in a year?
Because you will lose her if you keep doing it.
gonna take self control.
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