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writes:I really fancy my neighbour and have been aroused by her for a long time now, she is single and is friendly to me. I've not asked her out but am falling in love with her, the problem is I get very stiff erections whenever I see her now and have even had some wet dreams over her lately. I know I couldn't control myself if she even just kissed me.I want to ask her out but am really worried about getting over excited and cuming in my pants. This did happen to me before a few years ago. Can I stop getting too aroused?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2014): Update please OP, have you asked her out yet? How did it go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2014): I'm the person who posted about breathing. I came across this quite by chance:
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4386/A-Simple-Breathing-Exercise-to-Calm-Your-Mind-Body.html
Hope it helps! Go for it!
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reader, ImissFuturama  +, writes (20 August 2014):
 Masturbating before trying to talk to her is a good suggestion. I would also try drinking a relaxing tea, or some form of meditation, if masturbation alone isn't enough to take the edge off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2014): Have you ever tried deep breathing techniques? There's loads of information online about how to calm yourself down and yoga in particular has various types of breathing methods. It might help you to overcome your fears and ask her out without worrying about ejaculating. Do you see her around very often? If so just casually say fancy a coffee sometime? Or ask for her advice about something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2014): It must be so hard for men (pardon the pun), us women can at least hide it to some extent. I currently have the same problem, I totally fancy the guy across the way and I kind of get the feeling he likes me, but I get a bit tongue tied when I see him and there have been a couple of times where I had the chance to speak to him seeing him out and about, but because I feel this "rush" of excitement and desire, I've actually pretended not to see him. Last time I spoke to him I had to go home and calm myself down. Ahem. So if she likes you, it's possible she feels the same way too.
Try to relax and great idea to masturbate before you think you might see her, as suggested by Cerberus. But you know what, stop worrying too! How lovely to want someone that much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2014): Tactical wanks, OP. Just relieve yourself before any chance encounters with her.
When I was a teenager I had a similar issue, I think we all did, where in class with a hot teacher or hanging out with some cute friends I'd have to stay seated while I waited for my erection to dissipate. I learned that a quick tug in the school bathroom or at home before I left to hang out with people really did take the edge off.
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