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He says he's afraid of commitment with me, but will still have sex with me...

Q.   so i met this guy who is 28 years old. hes a great guy and has everything ive wanted in someone, well im only 20 so there is an eight year difference. everything was going great, he shows how much he cares for me but one day said maybe he wants to ...

A.   6 July 2008: It is obvious he doesn't know what he wants. He's still having sex with you while he waits to get a response from the other party..what does that tell you? Why put yourself in a situation where RED FLAGS are shown? He wants sex and you're g... (read in full...)

Please love me

Q.   I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience ...

A.   5 July 2008: That's pretty deep. I was once in a relationship where I was unhappy. But I guess I didn't want to be alone. The thing is...I love him. Till this day, I still love him but I know he's not right for us. He have given up his rights. I could se... (read in full...)

Can you have a relationship with someone from your past?

Q.   Can you have a future relationship with someone you dated in the past? Did not part on bad terms. They say it's just bad timing....

A.   5 July 2008: Of course you can have a future relationship with someone you dated from the past. It all depends how you both feel. You can't feel strongly about it and the other party doesn't. It's a mutual thing. Talk about it. ... (read in full...)

Am I in the wrong for not letting my daughter see her father?

Q.   My daughter's dad and I have been in and out of a relationship. He is getting ready to leave in June with his other two kids elsewhere to where he can hold a decent job without getting let go because of his attitude. To make a long story short...

A.   23 April 2008: Natasia: I never bring up the fact that her dad cares more for her other siblings than her. That's too hurtful. It's already obvious he does. When I bring up situations when my daughter acts out, he'll have so many negative things to say. Yo... (read in full...)

Am I in the wrong for not letting my daughter see her father?

Q.   My daughter's dad and I have been in and out of a relationship. He is getting ready to leave in June with his other two kids elsewhere to where he can hold a decent job without getting let go because of his attitude. To make a long story short...

A.   23 April 2008: Thank you all for your responses and advice. Natasia: My apologizes if I came off in a meanful way. It was never meant for any of that. When my daughter say," Daddy go bye bye?", I tell her Daddy will be gone for a long time. Then her resp... (read in full...)

Am I in the wrong for not letting my daughter see her father?

Q.   My daughter's dad and I have been in and out of a relationship. He is getting ready to leave in June with his other two kids elsewhere to where he can hold a decent job without getting let go because of his attitude. To make a long story short...

A.   21 April 2008: Thank you all for your responses and advice. Natasia: My daughter's dad, I say that because any guy can be a dad but it takes a MAN to be a father, is in and out of her life. When he gets mad at me because I don't my daughter around his frien... (read in full...)

Am I in the wrong for not letting my daughter see her father?

Q.   My daughter's dad and I have been in and out of a relationship. He is getting ready to leave in June with his other two kids elsewhere to where he can hold a decent job without getting let go because of his attitude. To make a long story short...

A.   20 April 2008: Astinson: Thank you very much for your response. I have the greatest blessing...my daughter. I could never ask for anything more. It's his loss. ... (read in full...)

What are her intentions? Please help!

Q.   I'm in the military and married my high school sweetheart whom I am more in love with today than I have ever been. We have been together about 7 years and married for almost 4 years. We both cheated when we were "kids" and just dating, but we have ...

A.   26 December 2007: Being married and in the military, doesn't mix. I've witness a lot of marriages and military relationships (boyfriend and girlfriend)go downhill. Other military marriages have an understanding to why he or she will gone for weeks, months even ... (read in full...)

Any advice on getting past something like this - an infidelity? How to forgive?

Q.   I'm 37 years old and I've been with my wife for 16 years. I just found out that she's had an affair with a person at her job… We seem to both want to work things out but I’m not sure I can put that behind me, at least not anytime soon… Any advice on ...

A.   23 December 2007: First of all, I am sorry to hear that. I've been in a relationship when infidelity occurred. I am still trying to get over it. Slowly but surely, it will vender over. Time is what it is. Your hurt will not just go away overnight. It w... (read in full...)

How can I sing with a sore throat? Any remedies?

Q.   Hi everybody. Slight change from the norm; I have a health related question. As some of you know, I'm in a rock band for my Music course in college. I have to give a performance this Thursday in front of all my fellow students and friends. It is a...

A.   16 December 2007: Have you every tried drinking tea with honey? I have a couple of friends who sings in a church choir and they drink a lot of tea with honey prior to their performance. They have sore throats occasionally. Try it sometime. ... (read in full...)

I just want to end the arguments and the whole bitterness between me and my ex but don't know how.

Q.   Ive decided that this will be the last question that I write on here as this rollercoaster is getting tiring. Just wanteed to know how to end the argumement with my ex who betrayed me. I thought I had forgiven my ex for cheating on me and leavin...

A.   15 December 2007: One more thing, FORGIVENESS will take time upon your part but without forgiveness you will live a bitter life. I have to learn how to forgive my daughter's dad but that doesn't stop me from trusting him, again. Honey, learn from it. Let him show ... (read in full...)

I just want to end the arguments and the whole bitterness between me and my ex but don't know how.

Q.   Ive decided that this will be the last question that I write on here as this rollercoaster is getting tiring. Just wanteed to know how to end the argumement with my ex who betrayed me. I thought I had forgiven my ex for cheating on me and leavin...

A.   15 December 2007: I know from personal experience, it's very hard. I've been through a situation that's similar to yours. Have you both thought about family counseling? Professional outside interference can always work if you let it. It takes two to make it ... (read in full...)

She leads me on and then says no. Why bother in the first place?

Q.   This year I became friends with a girl who attended the same school as me. She one day asked me for my MSN and we furthered out conversations on MSN. As time passed by she seemed to keep talking to me almost every second of the day. Then one night ...

A.   15 December 2007: It seems like she's playing mind games with you. She's loving you one minute then her actions tell you otherwise. It's all games. You're still young. Have fun with your friends. Don't waste your time on this girl. ... (read in full...)

How can I forget my ex if he always texts me and says pleasant things I want to hear?

Q.   I had just been broken up with my boyfriend last september, I want to move on and forget him.... but time pass, I so sure that I love him but not trying to get him back.... He always makes me special eventhough were not together anymore and he ...

A.   15 December 2007: Tell him to leave you alone, call block him, ignore his calls and text messages. I believe you know what to do but you don't want to do it. You still care about him. Go out with your friends. Spend time with family. Do something to pas... (read in full...)

She says she's going to leave her husband for me, but I'm not sure, neither me or her husband deserve this, should I say enough is enough?

Q.   i am having an affair with a married girl , i have tried to end it cause i love her but she cannot be with me . but she came right bk the next day saying she had made a mistake to let me go , and i am the only one she wants so i took her bk , and ...

A.   12 December 2007: First of all, you've already done wrong. You NEVER get close with someone who is married. NEVER!!! What makes you think she'll leave her husband for you? Just because she told you she will leave her husband doesn't mean she'll do it. If that ... (read in full...)

I need reassurance with my decision.

Q.   I've posted many times on here because I'm still struggling with breaking up with my ex. I felt that he disrespected me by asking me to smoke or drink over and over after I had said no many times. He also, made me feel guilty for wanting to stop ...

A.   10 December 2007: Why is he asking questions if you're cheating on him? If he's asking you that, he may be the one doing the cheating. We, women, know if there's something going on, there's something going on. At times, we do make it a big issue when they're ... (read in full...)

Can she go to a doctor and see if she's a virgin.

Q.   If a 5 year-old girl did anything sexual would she still be considered a virgin at the age of 17? For example if she were to go to the doctor to get checked to see if she was a virgin or not would the doctor say that she is a virgin or that she is ...

A.   10 December 2007: First of all, 5 years old? What in the world? Where were your parents?... (read in full...)

Does there come a time when you say "enough is enough"?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm 41 and I've only ever had close friendships. Well, that's not quite true as there has been the occasional intimate encounter (and I do mean "occasional"!). I'm told I'm attractive. I'm no oil painting I know, but women seem to lo...

A.   10 December 2007: It sucks when you're attract to those who are already taken. Unfortunately, it most cases, people think that's all right. They think it's more of a challenge however, it's wrong. They know it's wrong but they still go for it. Anyway, what if ... (read in full...)

Do we have hope

Q.   My ex boyfriend and I were together for nearly three years. We broke up a couple of months ago when I found out he'd lied and cheated- not once, but many times. But now I am thinking about giving him another chance- things were good in the last ...

A.   10 December 2007: There is hope for him however, that's entirely up to him if he wants to change his ways. TRUST is the key factor. I understand what you're going through because I've been through it myself with my daughter's Dad. In and out of a relation... (read in full...)

Can I forgive my cheating ex?

Q.   Is it possible to forgive a cheating boyfriend? I dont know what to do. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and we were friends for much longer. He is a kind hearted gentleman but the past 6 months something came over him. I am 22 and he is 25, he ...

A.   4 November 2007: Honey, the question is, can you trust him again? If you're having doubts about it, trust your instincts. Let me share something with you. My daughter's dad and I was suppose to get married, too. He cheated on me. I forgave him and he did it a... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity to this older guy?

Q.   Heya.For about a year now ive been seeing this guy and we get on really well and both really like each other. The only problem is he's 28 and im only 16. The age dosen't matter to me that much its just a few of my friends know and are really teasing ...

A.   4 November 2007: I am not familiar with the laws in Canada about the appropriate age for dating however, this guy is 28 and you are 16...is this illegal in Canada? You are still young, live your life. Your family haven't reported him as a sex offender? This ... (read in full...)

How does a person reclaim her dignity in a situation like this? He says I'm not mature enough to be friends with him after the break up...

Q.   Hope someone can help. My boyfriend and I split about three months ago. The reason was that he was seeing someone else on and off. I could not handle it. I had wanted to meet to clear the air but he did not want to. That mean't that much of the ...

A.   20 October 2007: If it barks like a dog, guess what, he's a DOG. It seems like you still have feelings for him. Don't push the issue of becoming friends. What dignity because you haven't lost any of it. You, girlie, just had to do what's right. Who wants to... (read in full...)

He gets defensive about the ex girlfriends that keep calling and that makes me more nervous! What should I do?

Q.   my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. But his ex girlfriends still call him, alot. I have asked him to stop talking to them, or at least tell me when he does. ( he had been hiding it and I found out through a friend) He gets ...

A.   20 October 2007: First of all, if they are his exes, he should keep it like that. It seems as if he talks to them more than he does to you. If he doesn't have a child by either of them, why does he continue to speak to them? He's definitely hiding somethin... (read in full...)

I hate my family life. What can I do?

Q.   I hate my family life im 13 and there are so many family problams I hate everyone in my family there so unfair and horrible. I want to leave home. I have a week off school for half term and i would rather go to school just to escape! What can I Do?...

A.   20 October 2007: Have you talked to a school counsler about how you feel? Do you have a close friend you can rely and trust? I am not sure what you're going thru but I truly feel for you. If you would like, just email me and we'll email more. ... (read in full...)

He keeps giving me mixed signals - what does he want?

Q.   im really confused. i really like this guy called **** from my part time job but hes giving me really mixed messages as to how he feels back. when everyone from work goes out for a few drinks hes really flirty with me, and if we go round someones ...

A.   8 October 2007: I think he does like you. It sucks he giving you mixed signals. The only way you will find out is if you ask him. ... (read in full...)

After our breakup he wants to meet.

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been on a break for about 10 days. We talked once online, he IM me first and it was short. I told him about my weekend and how much fun it was. I had lunch with his mom cause she was concerned about what was going on and we ...

A.   8 October 2007: Go talk to the boy. Why did you guys break up in the first place? It does sounds like he misses you a lot. What do you have to lose? Go meet up with him. Talking things out is always great.... (read in full...)

Girls at work are dissing me.

Q.   I have a work-related question. I am currently employed at a company where all they do is gossip and care what other people is doing. I am happily married with a 5 yr old son. I am a kind of person that doesn't like to hang around people ...

A.   7 October 2007: Jealousy, is what it is. They are envious of you. I fall in your shoes. I really don't care what people think especially females at work. If you know you're not doing anything wrong, whats it to it? The majority of my friends are guys in which ... (read in full...)

Should I tell the guy I just slept with I have genital warts?

Q.   i was treated for genital warts a few months ago and i recently slept with my ex should i tell him as i think they are comin back...

A.   3 July 2007: Why wouldn't you? Of you course, you should.... (read in full...)

My fiance and i have been together for a little over 2 years now and him and i fight often.

Q.   ??? My fiance and i have been together for a little over 2 years now and him and i fight often. I have 3 children from a previous marrige and things are getting really complicated, i'm so unhappy because he verbally abuses me. I can't stand the tone ...

A.   21 June 2007: Why does this sound so familiar. Honey, if you're unhappy, why stay in a relationship that'll make your situation more miserable? Especially, when you have three kids from a previous marriage? Do you have any children together? From experien... (read in full...)

Am I a fool for hoping? What is the best way to regain his trust?

Q.   I am posting again as I am still not doing so well. Thank you for your patience! The man I was seeing was fed up with the way I treated him and told me that he got out of my 'era'. Then he tells me that he wants to be a friend. Then I sho...

A.   17 June 2007: Once the trust is broken, it's hard to get it back, trust me on this one. What's the whole story?... (read in full...)

How can I stop this negative way of thinking, and start enjoying dating again?

Q.   I have a problem with starting relationships. I get chatted up and stuff, but I'm just not interested in case I get hurt (again!). How can I stop this negative way of thinking, and start enjoying dating again?...

A.   17 June 2007: I totally understand how you feel. It sucks but we have to take chances in life and starting a relationship is one of them. We are taking the chances of whether or not our heart is going to shatter to pieces. Just be alert. When "red flags" are ... (read in full...)

I have been seeing this man who is 21 and i am 14 and he is doing some stuff to me that i dont understand and i dont want him to do!!!

Q.   I have been seeing this man who is 21 and i am 14 and he is doing some stuff to me that i dont understand and i dont want him to do, 1st he said i like u will u meet me and because ive liked him for ages i meet him, and got in his car because i ...

A.   4 May 2007: What is wrong with this guy? How'd you even meet this guy? Please tell someone or even better, your parents. Someone needs to put this to an end. This is ridiculous. See a doctor and/or go to a clinic to check yourself. You don't know what ... (read in full...)

I fear I will never get over HIS ex...

Q.   There seem to be a lot of women who share this problem: the EX. I met my boyfriend and the relationship became intense right away and we completely fell in love with each other within a month. But soon after he left for a trip for several months. We ...

A.   4 May 2007: Why did they break up? I believe these men can't be alone. The feeling of having a woman around the house or on their side is letting them know there's someone there. I think they just need someone to take care of them or just the company ... (read in full...)

I have been having trouble finding her physically attractive. She's not terribly overweight, but she does have a fair stomach to her.

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been going out for over a year, and have been involved a fair bit longer, and I can quite see myself spending a good many years with her. Lately, however, I have been having trouble finding her physically attractive. She's ...

A.   4 May 2007: If you love her, why does her weight matter? Is she happy with herself? Try going on walks with her, or even better, working out together. Do some type of physical activitiy together other than intercourse. Try something different. But ... (read in full...)

I haven't met anyone for a while and feel my life is at a standstill.

Q.   Hey. I've been single for coming up to a year now. Its insane! I've had a few on off flings but nothing serious. It's annoying because the amount of times I go out clubbing every week and I also go to college, u would of thought i would have found ...

A.   4 May 2007: What's the rush in meeting someone? Enjoy it while you can. You're in college. ... (read in full...)

Could I have gotten pregnant the time I had unprotected sex?

Q.   i had unprotected sex with my fiance 2 days before my period was due but my period came a week late but it was quite clotty and usually im on time each month. now 2 weeks later im spotting could i have got pregnant that time i had unprotected sex? ...

A.   4 May 2007: Head to the clinic or a Gyno for the best results. I'm guessing you don't want your parents to know any of this, am I right? Unless, the pregnancy is a definite. Check yourself in at the clinic or your local doctor. ... (read in full...)

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