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Life is short, and it is important not to let it pass you by. If you are not happy, only you have the power to change that. I find it important that you continue to work towards your goals and not sacrafice who you are or who you plan to be for the interest of others. You are who you are and only you hold the power to be who you want to be.
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I can't masturbate unless I think of penis... and I'm male! Why is this?
Q. I am straight and male, but i cant masturbate unless I'm thinking about penis. Outside of masturbation, I love girls no guys at all, but when I maturbate that is all I think about. Why?...
A. 2 February 2011: I'm a female, and I love breasts! I'm happily married by the way, but when I have sex, I enjoy picturing them. Maybe it's more normal than we think???... (read in full...)
Losing virginity - later linked to health problems: is there truth in this ABC news article?
Q. I am a male in my 20's and I am beginning to wonder if I have made the best choices in life or if I would regret my decisions regarding sex in the near future. I had made the choice not to have sex until the right woman appears in my life for ...
A. 2 February 2011: Sounds like a ton of crap to me, but congrats for keeping your vow thus far! ... (read in full...)
How do people make up after arguments?
Q. How do people make up after arguments? My soon-to-be ex used to say that because I started most arguments (it is true), I should make up to him. He would refuse to give me any affection because I would not, in his words, deserve it for abusing him ...
A. 2 February 2011: I always like the policy that includes both parties apologizing for what was said/done wrong. I don't know how other people do it, but my husband is so freakin stubborn. I have to forcefully cry to get him to apologize to me, but I've always been ... (read in full...)
Should I break things off?
Q. Here is the thing. I met a girl who was interested in me before. She broke up with an a**hole who treats her like ****, but got her pregnant. Everything was great at first; I told her how I felt about her, she said she was in love with me too. I ...
A. 2 February 2011: I have a cousin who was in an abusive relationship, broke it off, and ended up back with him against her families wishes (he tried to kill her twice and didn't end up in prison because she wasn't willing to testify). Unfortunately, it's a cycle that ... (read in full...)
What should we do for our anniversary?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have a bf who i've been with for 4 months and its about to be 5 on a special day...VALENTINES DAY:) I have no idea what to do to celebrate Valentines Day and especially our 5 month anniversary. What should we do? Any ideas will help ...
A. 2 February 2011: You're the female, so I wouldn't do anything but receive what he gives--if anything. Unfortunately men don't think as well as women, and I often find myself reminding my husband of holidays, including Valentine's Day and my Birthday. Could you ... (read in full...)
Is she not interested in me anymore, or is it just her pregnancy hormones?
Q. Okay this girl and I have been in an online relationship (I know it's not a good idea) for three months, but we just met on Facebook and started talking. We became online friends, and we eventually started getting interested in each other. She even ...
A. 1 February 2011: Maybe she's not really pregnant in the first place. I'm not saying this is the case, but it is something you should consider. And the only reason I tell you this is because I had a cousin who played this trick on her boyfriend who was away at ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want his pregnant ex to know we're dating?
Q. I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for now almost a year. I knew about his ex girlfriend, and well we didn't really like each other since that time. I had to leave the town for couple of months and by the time I got back it turned out to be ...
A. 1 February 2011: Girl--RUN WHILE YOU STILL CAN! You are so young--way to young to throw yourself into a situation like this. If he cheated on you once, he will do it again!!! I agree with tennisstar88, he's fed you a line of bullshit and you ate it up--no questions ... (read in full...)
Do I live with my family to make them happy or live with my boyfriend?
Q. I am 20 years old. When I was 19, I met someone who was a little younger than me. Throughout our time together, we had our ups and downs, but eventualy ended up moving in together. The problem is that my family doesnt like him, and my grandfather ...
A. 1 February 2011: I understand where you are coming from. When I was dating my boyfriend, now husband, we contemplated moving in together. I never followed through with this until we got married though.
I come from a religous family who value the teaching... (read in full...)
Why would a guy move slower, sexually, with a girl?
Q. I'm 24F and I've been dating a 26M for a little over a month now and things are going great! We see each other a few times a week and we seem to be content with the amount of time we spend with each other since we both work and I go to school ful...
A. 1 February 2011: Beats me! My husband, then boyfriend, was like this too. It turns out he was just scared to move further than making out because he was my brothers best friend. The first time we had sex, I was the one who made the first move.
Maybe this que... (read in full...)
Could it be that he is just not that into me?
Q. Is this normal? My boyfriend and I have a semi-long distance relationship. He works out of town most of the time. We've been together for 3 years. Tonight in particular I'm awake and he's asleep right now. I haven't seen him in almost 3 wee...
A. 1 February 2011: My husband and I also have a distanced relationship because of work reasons. He travels a lot with his job and sees me occasionally. I am working on my Masters right now, so I decided to stay put while he comes and goes.
What I can say about yo... (read in full...)
How do I make a straight boy fall in love with me?
Q. I love a boy very much i cant spend even a single minute without seeing him. Bt till now i haven't talk with him and haven't tried .bt i didn't think that he will interested in me bt i want that he should talk with me. I want some tips that i should ...
A. 16 January 2011: Sorry man, there's really nothing you can do. Consider some counceling--that might help.... (read in full...)
Why can't we be more dirty and sexual?
Q. I can't tell my boyfriend that I'm horny or that I want him because he acts shocked and says I'm so rude or obcessed with sex. Is that normal? He says he has a low sex drive, but is it normal to not even want to discuss anything sexual, like ...
A. 16 January 2011: I don't know that that's a normal sex life, 1-2 times every 1-2 weeks. My husband and I are a lot more active than that. We have sex about 5 times a week after being together for 6 years. I agree with another post, that it's normal to have one ... (read in full...)
How do men feel about having sex on a woman's period?
Q. How do men feel about having sex while she's on her period? I know many may like to claim they don't care or say things like, "put a towel down and go to town," but sometimes I can help but wonder if it the bleeding doesn't gross them out. ...
A. 16 January 2011: I personally don't like it much becasue it becomes messy and makes me self-concious, but my husband loves it. He says that the extra fluid the blood creates makes him more aware of his heightened senses. Not sure if it's true, but he does finish a ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I can forgive him for losing it with his ex
Q. I'm seeing this guy. We were both planning on losing our virginity to each other. He recently told me that he " unintentionally " lost it to his exGirlfriend. Itold him that if he ever did that, iwould move on and forget about him, but ijust can't. ...
A. 16 January 2011: Losing your virginity is a HUGE deal. You should lose it to someone who hasn't already betrayed your trust. If he has done it once, he will do it again, so don't even waste your time. You are young, and should NOT feel pressured into having sex with ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle this long distance relationship
Q. So I recently moved to a town about 100 miles from where I used to live. I had been going out with my girlfriend from that town for 2 months before I left for the new town. I used to visit her, but between 2 jobs and school, it's hard to balance ...
A. 16 January 2011: Break it off because it doesn't sound like you're as invested in the relationship as much as she is. Being a young adult comes with responsibilities like breaking bad news to someone that you care for. I can't say this for sure, but I can speak ... (read in full...)
Tips on how to stop gagging during a blowjob and how to make it more enjoyable for the man?
Q. So i've been curious about this for a while and I would like to know if there are any tips to giving a blow job and not gagging during or gagging less. Ive tried not going down as far but its less enjoyable for him. I really would like to give my ...
A. 16 January 2011: I have a similar issue with my man not finishing before my jaw cramps up. AMAZING blow jobs are mainly for porn stars, so I wouldn't stress about it not being perfect. Try laying on the bed on your back with your head hanging down off the bed. Have ... (read in full...)
My life is with my husband, my heart is with his brother
Q. I dated this guy for 5 years and he was my first love, my first everything. He went into the service and we parted ways. i ended up marrying his brother and had three children. Now i am in the middle of a divorce, not an ugly one. My husband wants ...
A. 16 January 2011: Wow! Sounds like a messed up family relation between the brothers. I think your first mistake was to get with your husband while having been with his brother in the first place. Since that's the past, there's really no point in going any further. ... (read in full...)
Why does his new girlfriend hate me?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up 6 months ago and he got 2 new girlfriends when I still havent found one. But thats not the problem his newest one hates me I know because we all three (me,her and my ex) are in the same PE class. Him and I havent ...
A. 16 January 2011: Some girls are threatened by an interest of their boyfriends. Even though your boyfriend isn't interested in you that way any longer, there was ultimately something that attracted him to you. She might just be jealous of you, that you don't think he ... (read in full...)
I've been seeing her but she thinks she still has feelings for the ex! What do I do?
Q. I was recently seeing this girl for about 2 weeks i saw her about 3 times and we were really getting along well, she was always telling me how lovely i was and how i made her feel so happy, then she told me she still has feelings for her ex ...
A. 16 January 2011: Run away!!! This spells trouble for someone your age. If you are still wanting to be close to her, consider being her friend, but this can also make the situation messier. You're young--have fun!... (read in full...)
I dream about having a special girl in my life. How? I'm all out of ideas. And What can I do to make this happen?
Q. I've been single all my life and it's really starting to get to me. All of my friends are already married or in long term relationships leaving me as the only single guy in my social circle. I love hanging out with them but it always seems to ...
A. 15 January 2011: I personally don't think that anything is wrong. Don't try to live up to anyone else's standards by feeling single because everyone else you know is taken. Although often these feelings can't be helped, there is something that you can do to try to ... (read in full...)
After hacking into my husband's facebook account, my gut tells me not to trust him anymore
Q. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and he is a deployed contractor. Everything was going fine from what I can tell, but then I read one of his emails from his phone that he left behind asking if he "hooked up w/ the chick" ...
A. 15 January 2011: Thank you to all who have replied to my question. I am a mess of sorts at this moment, trying to hold on to both my marriage and my reality. Unfortunately with no definitive proof, I don't think that I would be able to leave him and live with the ... (read in full...)
Is there room for compromise?
Q. Just wondering if anyone can shed some light on this situation. I was with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we mutually decided it was time to part ways, due to lifestyle differences. I am still in school and work part time, and he is done school and ...
A. 15 January 2011: You're kind of a little vague by simply saying "he likes to party it up on the weekends." What does this mean? Does he drink to the point of unconciousness or does he flirt his way through dance clubs? Is he the type of guy who loves to throw home ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and am pregnant with his baby, but I miss sex with this other man!
Q. hi to all, i am in a relationship and am currently 4 months pregnant for my boyfriend, i cheated on my boyfriend with this guy before getting pregnant and i broke it off, he than came back and wanted us to continue but i told him i couldn't because ...
A. 15 January 2011: It doesn't sound like you are very committed to the father of your unborn child. This definately is a problem--for him. The issue is that you can NOT truely LOVE someone if you are thinking about someone else. You may feel attached because of the ... (read in full...)
Should we keep it as step bro and sis or do we explore what could be?
Q. ive recently become reacquainted w my "stepbrother" we havent seen each other in over 20 yrs. my mom married his dad and his dad adopted me and my sister. he has since past away. i didn't know my step brother growing up we only lived together about ...
A. 15 January 2011: You are NOT blood brother/sister, so technically there is nothing wrong with exploring things further. I believe it to be important to speak your concerns to eachother and understand eachothers feelings. If he too feels the same way, then there is ... (read in full...)
I am outnumbered in my own home with my mother-in-law living with us!
Q. Dear fellow readers. My predicament is as such, My wife and I own our own house, we have just had a son ( currently 9 months old) and my wife's mother lives with us. I do not wish for this to be happening much longer as it affecting our re...
A. 15 January 2011: I have seen a marriage end for this very reason. My advise to you is get her out of the house. I understand that this is not something that your wife would be happy with, but if she doesn't agree to this, it is possible that your marriage will not ... (read in full...)
Single mom with her son's best friend?
Q. Single mom with her sons friend? I'm a single 47 year old woman and I have an 18 year old son. I've been divorced for 5 years and haven't had sex since. My son has a very cute best friend who is also 18. They've been best friends for years. Every ti...
A. 15 January 2011: Your son should be more important than a good hook-up. It's simple. If you don't think that your son will approve of the relationship, then don't do it! ... (read in full...)
I'm really not that bad...why don't girls ever notice me???
Q. I am a pretty average guy, at least I think. I weigh about 84kg or 185lbs, and I'm about 6ft 1inch or 185cm tall. I've never been made fun of for being ugly or anything. I'm 21 and stay in pretty good shape by working out most days of the week. ...
A. 15 January 2011: First of all, nothing is wrong with you. Women don't stare at guys the way guys stare at women. We simply do not care for that sort of thing. Women tend to care for a deeper attraction, when a guy is compatible with their morals and career goals. If ... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 15 January 2011: What circumstances led you to be in two different countries? My husband is a contractor in the Middle East and goes days w/o signal, but he always finds a way to communicate. 2 weeks is way to long w/o some form of communication. If after 2 weeks of ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my foreign b/f
Q. SO im with my bf a year now n realized im pregnant oh but shit hes from brazil and we live in ireland and hes only on a student visa we had no plan 4 this and yes were happy just thing is were scared out of our wits were going to be separated we ...
A. 15 January 2011: This is a tough one. Unfortunately I don't have any experience in the customs of Ireland or Brazil, so I can't help you out much there. I do however know, that when you have sex, you are taking the risk of getting pregnant. If you are responsible ... (read in full...)
Don't want to hurt my brother but I want to get my sister in law into bed
Q. i need help for years i`ve had a sexual attraction to my sister in law and hurting my brother is the last thing i want to do but this sexual attraction is really strong i really want to get her in bed what should i do?...
A. 15 January 2011: Get some counceling or sex therapy, because from the sound of things, you are have been fixtated on a woman who is not available. If this has been going on for years, then you need help. Until then, stay clear of this woman--and your brother!... (read in full...)
Return to each other even though no attraction on one side?
Q. Hi I asked a similar question just recently but somehow I lost my real point in the earlier question. I wonder if two people break apart and they try to return to eachother. But one side says to the other one that person don't become turned on b...
A. 15 January 2011: Unfortunately, you can't have a relationship without attraction. ... (read in full...)
I haven't gotten my period yet! Is something wrong?
Q. Ok.I am now 13 turning 14 in march. i got boobs when i was about eleven and hair way before that, but i havnt got my period. im really worried about this because i know that EVERY girl in my class has got theirs. and when i say that, im not ...
A. 15 January 2011: I wouldn't worry so much until the doctor says to do so. Girls can get periods at ALL ages. I had a cousin who got hers at 8 years old and my mother got her at 16. In this day and age, it's at any adolsent age range.
I'm not sure what they wil... (read in full...)
I feel I don't deserve this award! Why?
Q. hey guys just need advice to put this in perspective. ive been told on tuesday i have to go to my work head office for an outstanding performance recognition award. apparently this is big as i was selected out of nearly 800 people. i work my ass...
A. 15 January 2011: I think you are just humble. This a great quality and in fact, earns the title of greatness!
Own the award girl! Take pride in your hard work and walk into the headquarters with your head held high! If a speach is warranted, say somethin... (read in full...)
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