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male
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30-35,
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writes:So I recently moved to a town about 100 miles from where I used to live. I had been going out with my girlfriend from that town for 2 months before I left for the new town. I used to visit her, but between 2 jobs and school, it's hard to balance things. Plus, i've basically got two lives in both towns, making it hard for me to balance things. I love this girl, but it feels like the long distance is tearing us apart. Visiting her has become more spread apart as well. I'm her first major boyfriend, and I know all of her parents and extended family, and I can't lie, I know they like me. She's head over heels for me, and if I break up with her, it'll absolutely crush her. Even thinking for one second that she's crying or crushed by something kills me. Not to mention the fact that I've started to talk to someone here in my new town who I think I'm starting to develop feelings for. Please, is there any advice on what I should do?
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reader, golddigger99 +, writes (16 January 2011):
 Break it off because it doesn't sound like you're as invested in the relationship as much as she is. Being a young adult comes with responsibilities like breaking bad news to someone that you care for. I can't say this for sure, but I can speak from experience that if you are developing feelings for someone other than your girlfriend and are considering breaking up because of the long distance thing, then you are NOT in love. Being in love means being able to put all things aside for that one person, whether it be with MAKING time for monthly visits or putting up with a long distance relationship--if you were in love you should be willing to do everything that you can to stay together. From your post, it only seems that you're worried about breaking her heart. My advice to you is stop stringing her along. If you truely care for her, you'll let her know what's going on sooner rather than later, and trust me--there is never a good time to do this. You are young and deserve a shot to play the field, but just don't forget that sometimes players need good friends too, and maybe this is more of a role for her that you might be comfortable with.
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