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I am in love with my brother's best friend

Q.   Ok so I really need advice!!!! My brother has been best friends with this one guy for like ever. His friend M. Has known me his entire life and I never thought of him as anything else but like a second brother. But my brother and his friend drifted ...

A.   11 August 2017: and I'm assuming he's 20-23? Boys at this age can mess girls about and that's could be why he's holding off so if you are going to pursue anything after you two have spoken about it... take is reallllyyyy slow. This could be your husband but you ... (read in full...)

I am in love with my brother's best friend

Q.   Ok so I really need advice!!!! My brother has been best friends with this one guy for like ever. His friend M. Has known me his entire life and I never thought of him as anything else but like a second brother. But my brother and his friend drifted ...

A.   11 August 2017: My mum married her brother's best friend. They've been married for 29 years. The advantages of marrying him are that there's likely to be a high level of respect and love that exists based on the relationship he already has with you. He's les... (read in full...)

Should I feel flattered by this older man?

Q.   I just started seeing a man who is 23 years older than me and I need tips and advice and insights into how a man that age is used to dating in comparison to how I'm used to dating. The truth is our dating experiences are definitely going to differ ...

A.   11 August 2017: Thank you for your responses. I was definitely overthinking the whole thing. I have asked him to not mention anything to his family as they know who me through work.It's all just weird for me. Thanks for your advice xxxxx... (read in full...)

Why does my wife lie about her sexual past? I overheard a convo she had with a friend. Should I tell her?

Q.   I have been married for many years my wife had a couple of sex partners before we met. She always said that when she was with the them that they didn't have a lot of sex which would not have bothered me if she did. My problem came up as we talked ...

A.   3 May 2017: There's a post from a few weeks ago about a woman who told her man he wasn't the biggest she had ever had. 6 years down the line he was still hurt by it... I'm sure your wife was just trying to avoid a similar situation. Don't talk to her abou... (read in full...)

I don't have alot of experience with dating but not sure if what is going on in our relationship is normal

Q.   I've met this girl and we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. Both of us have never been in a relationship before so it's all new to each other. Whenever I'm around her I feel as if everything is so easy, talking and life in gene...

A.   27 April 2017: How sweet. Give it some time. The way things are going are perfectly fine. Sex with a new partner can take some time to get used to and to find our rhythm as partners. In terms of not thinking about her as much days after seeing her, that's n... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't want kids but I do. My friends say that I should "trap" him. Is that my only option?

Q.   Me and my husband have been together 8 years now and married for 2. Everybody that knows us have always said we are the best couple they've ever met as we love each other A LOT and would do anything for one another. It really is the perfect ...

A.   21 April 2017: Girl.... You have one life to live. You have to do what serves you right. By not having a child you are putting his happiness first. Is his happiness more important than your happiness? Personally what I would do (because I want a child more tha... (read in full...)

Girlfriend doesn't make any real effort to lose weight despite wanting to

Q.   I've been in relationship with my girlfriend for about 7 months now. I liked her for her personality and character but her weight had always bothered me right from the start. She was actually slim just under 2 year back(she looked amazing) but gai...

A.   21 April 2017: She's not even fat, shes a healthy weight... :/. You're underweight. Maybe you're reflecting your own unhealthy ideas of body image onto her. She's not the problem here, you are. ... (read in full...)

My husband pays far too much attention to his brother's chesty girlfriend

Q.   My husbands younger brother has this girlfriend she's quite pretty and has a large chest and everyone loves her and all the rest of it bla bla bla. My husband openly stares at her in front of everybody it's like he doesn't even try to hide it even ...

A.   20 April 2017: Your husband is being an arse. Point blank period and he should NEVER put you down about your appearance especially in front of other people. However there is something that you have to take responsibility for here. Have you let yourself go? are... (read in full...)

I'm attractive but never approached by men. Do other women have this problem?

Q.   I am 22 and I am never approached by men. I live in America where men are notorious for approaching women. Yet, strangers tell me that I am beautiful/pretty. I talked to a guy and he assumed I had a bf, when I said no, he was in shock. He said I was ...

A.   20 April 2017: I don't think men approach women as much you might believe they do. The thing is we live in an era where men can approach women through social media without having to put themselves out there and risk public embarrassment. Men of older generations ... (read in full...)

Is he not interested in me? How can I get him to step up his game?

Q.   I'm interested in this guy but I don't think he is as interested in me. My gut instincts and his actions (to me) suggest that he doesn't reciprocate my enthusiasm. Back story: I'm in university and he used to go to my university two years ago bu...

A.   23 November 2013: you are right. I probably need to get more friends so I don't think about minor situations. I will withdraw my interest and see how he reacts :(... (read in full...)

I think my g/f is getting bored with me

Q.   Hey guys, so my gf of a month has just passed her driving test and now she's seems very off with me. I mean we can spend the day together and not have a real kiss at all, we have gone all the way so it's just really weird. She tries to get rid of me ...

A.   13 April 2013: Speak to her. She might want to break up with you but be finding it hard to tell you or it could be something else. Just speak to her... (read in full...)

Is it true that you don't lose weight during your period?

Q.   Maybe I'm being stupid believing this, but I've been eating very, very healthy and exercising a lot over the past week. And I was losing weight, but since I started my period 2 days ago i've noticed I have come to a stop and haven't changed in ...

A.   13 April 2013: Around the time of your period or if not when you are on your period you gain water weight. You could be 150lbs before your period, 155lbs (because of the gain in water weight) during your period and drop to 148lbs after your period meaning. which ... (read in full...)

Anyone have experience with an IUD?

Q.   Hey guys. I have a health concern but I'm not looking for medical advice per se, more whether others think it sounds serious or not. I have to tell this to someone because I don't have anyone else, and I'm scared :( I'm 20, and got a copper IUD...

A.   23 February 2013: I have one, I have the same concerns but I think we are fine especially judging from these comments. If you get really concerned go to your doctor. I also read something about our uterus moving or changing size slightly at different times of our... (read in full...)

Could this be my problem? Are some people just not relationship material?

Q.   Are some people just not relationship material? I have never had a girlfriend and i am tired of getting rejected. I am not physically attractive, charismatic nor book smart. I do not have money and i don't like going out to parties and i do...

A.   22 February 2013: Don't beat yourself up, maybe if you try to gain some confidence in yourself and love yourself you will begin to have better success with women. I think you should focus on working on your self esteem and learning what it means to love yourself firs... (read in full...)

She was his next Gf after he broke up with me. She and I have been talking. He has been violent with her too. Is it wrong to talk to her?

Q.   Ok, bear with me please, as this will be a long question, but i really need help. I broke up with my boyfriend two years agp. We were together for a year and a half. He was violent and jealous. But i went back to him several times during these tw...

A.   22 February 2013: I say if he calls you don't speak to him. If she calls you then try to help her get out of the relationship if that's what she needs. Try not to be too involved. I know you shouldn't meddle in peoples relationships but what happens if one day he t... (read in full...)

Should I reconsider or consider reconnecting with my ex again?

Q.   I've been on a constant cycle of emotions this past month and a half, it seemed that every time someone spoke about my ex, or when i talked about him, or of course just thinking about when we were together, all of this always made me feel upset or ...

A.   22 February 2013: Sounds like you are getting over him, which is a good thing. Let it happen, let gooo :)... (read in full...)

Are my intentions with my ex creepy?

Q.   I'm 17 and I was in a relationship with a dude for 5 months. It was amazing. I know I'm only 17, but it just clicked and we are basically the same. Other boys scare me, and other girls scare him. We are both awkward. We laugh about sex. We only met...

A.   22 February 2013: Yeah don't go to his house please. Tell him everything!!! and wait til after exams, don't go in expecting anything. Just explain. and yes like the other person said try to be less socially awkward.... (read in full...)

Are you supposed to feel a spark when you kiss your boyfriend/girlfriend?

Q.   when i kiss my boyfriend, there is no spark and am really confused because i believe that spark is true but i dont feel anything for my boyfriend no fireworks or chemistry between us. My question spark really true?...

A.   22 February 2013: LOOOL, maybe he is just a bad kisser, theres never sparks when you kiss a bad kisser... (read in full...)

Do I move on to a great job? Or to a guy I love, but who isn't right for me?

Q.   Hi all! I have a dilemma guys, Basically I have the option of moving down south of my country to a really good job or I have the opportunity to move up north of my country to an ok job but the guy I like lives there. That guy and I dated f...

A.   22 February 2013: If you know he's not right for you why would you move to be near him? Don't settle, you can find someone better suited for you. Put yourself first in this situation. Do what is best for YOU (move down south) ... (read in full...)

Is stress a reasonable excuse for my girlfriend to be distant and snappy?

Q.   Girls... If a girlfriend is acting kind of distant, seems to avoid deep or touchy subjects, etc. is it a reasonable excuse to say that she's highly stressed out about other things in life? And that because of that she needs you (the guy) to und...

A.   22 February 2013: Hmm... its a little tricky. Your girlfriend is being difficult by shutting you out but you may be her only way to escape the drama and stress of her life. You can't fix or change her behaviour you can only be the most loving boyfriend you ca... (read in full...)

Why does he keep on playing games?

Q.   Why does he keep playing games? I'm so upset:(? So I really like this quiet, cute shy guy. and I thought we were getting on really well. All the signs are there that he likes me. He made me a mix CD for valentine’s day. I thought that...

A.   22 February 2013: He could possibly be not that into you. Just be straight up with him, tell him he's being weird and you're not a teenager who is down for games so either he cuts it out or he can piss off and be serious about it too. It will be hard but you deserve ... (read in full...)

Could this be my problem? Are some people just not relationship material?

Q.   Are some people just not relationship material? I have never had a girlfriend and i am tired of getting rejected. I am not physically attractive, charismatic nor book smart. I do not have money and i don't like going out to parties and i do...

A.   22 February 2013: Your problem is that you don't think very highly of yourself so when you meet women you can't offer or show them what is good about you. I went through something similar and learned I must love myself before I can attract someone who will be good ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to date my best friend's sister?

Q.   Is this right to date my best friend sister.she is in my college and 4 years younger than me. I really like her and want to tell her that but i am scared.she is very beautiful and we are good friends.we have talked many times and i enjoy her ...

A.   22 February 2013: Yes, its perfectly fine, just be careful because if things go sour with her it could really affect your friendship. My dad married his best friends sister (my mum) and they have been married for 25years so yeah it could work :)... (read in full...)

I want to be more than his booty call!

Q.   i met a guy 4 months ago started texting wich quickly moved on to sexting and naked pictures met him 8 days after meeting him and had sex with him 10 minutes later ive met up with him a further 2 times but always on his terms. i really really like ...

A.   14 February 2013: Forget him. You are nothing more than a vagina to him. You have a vagina which means you possess one of men's biggest weaknesses. You have the power to get a man to treat you the way you want to be treated because you have a vagina. The ... (read in full...)

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