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Should I feel flattered by this older man?

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Question - (9 August 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 11 August 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I just started seeing a man who is 23 years older than me and I need tips and advice and insights into how a man that age is used to dating in comparison to how I'm used to dating. The truth is our dating experiences are definitely going to differ because dating is just different now, we have online dating and I reckon we are more sexually liberated...

How to 45-50 year olds date? What is a normal timeframe for things to happen in? Should I be flattered that after one date he wants to tell his family about me?! Or is this normal? Regardless I'm going to do what's natural to me but I need and want to know what I'm dealing with so I don't misinterpret things.

He's not only the first older man I've dated he's also the first white man I've dated.... any dating tips, advice etc will be great.

Please don't judge us, he's not a perv and I'm not a gold digger with daddy issues, we just have a lot of chemistry....

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A female reader, femmefemale  +, writes (11 August 2017):

Thank you for your responses. I was definitely overthinking the whole thing. I have asked him to not mention anything to his family as they know who me through work.It's all just weird for me.

Thanks for your advice xxxxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2017):

No stereotypical dating is applied here find common ground and go with it

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (11 August 2017):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntI'm sure you do have chemistry, but he was looking for a young woman, or he wouldn't have entertained the idea. Same goes for you. You barely know him, so don't rule out that the age gap may be an issue - you're at different stages of life and that will limit your compatibility long-term.

Also, telling his family after only one date is most definitely a red flag and not at all normal. Take things slowly and be careful. I'm sure you will anyway, but please always use condoms and stay on birth control - do not be reckless with any man, but especially one older who may try to convince you he knows best and will charm you off your feet.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (10 August 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntI am sure you are old enough and experienced enough to realize everyone is different and that there is no "normal" - regardless of age or colour.

The fact that he wants to tell his family about you after just one date would worry ME a lot (but not necessarily everyone else). This seems way too fast. Although, on the plus side, it could be seen as him having nothing to hide (like a wife or girlfriend).

My only advice would be to stop over-analysing what you have, just relax and enjoy. If it feels right, go with the flow. If it DOESN'T feel right. feel free to voice your concerns.

Good luck. I hope things work out for you.

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