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writes:I've met this girl and we've been seeing each other for a little over a month. Both of us have never been in a relationship before so it's all new to each other. Whenever I'm around her I feel as if everything is so easy, talking and life in general and she makes me very happy to the point I think I might be falling for her. When we haven't seen each other for a few days because of work temporary patterns for both of us I sort of dint think about her as much compared to say a day after seeing her and she's running through my mind all day. Is this normal? I feel as if this isn't how it should be, if I'm crazy for her then she should be on my mind the entire time. Whilst we text a bit I really try to keep the conversation not bronzing by asking meaningful questions. Now she's mentioned this before that I do it, not that it's a bad thing but just mentioned it. I don't know how to keep texts interesting so she doesn't get bored of me. How can I become more playful by text? Finally, when we met neither of us pushed to move forward sexually with each other. That only happened last weekend. She was a virgin so I was being supportive of how she felt before/during/after. She enjoyed it and I enjoyed sharing our bodies to each other. We spent the whole weekend together and each day had a bit of fun... thing is I didn't orgasm once and I found it hard to stay erect all the time. Now I'm not the most sexually active person in the world and was a late bloomer but I felt as if I had let her down by not orgasiming. I find her very very beautiful with a great personality and Drive but can't work out why I had these issues. I feel very comfortable around her so I don't think it could be that. Is this normal when you start doing things with someone new?Sorry for the long post, I'm a mess when it comes to relationships and girls! Thanks for all your advice.
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reader, newgia667  +, writes (29 April 2017):
 Seems like you really like this girl and she is special to you.. Don't over think things because often times thats how we mess up and complicate things. Practice makes perfect, don't be discouraged if you didn't 'orgasm', we don't really care… Sometimes certain foods we have been eating or certain foods and nutrients we haven't been eating can result in that as well. Don't over think it your doing a good job
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2017): If she's a virgin, I don't think she's going to put as much pressure on you as you may be placing on yourself. it's when you start overthinking that you will become self-conscious and awkward.
Don't worry about texting, and you will not always have the perfect conversation. Listen when she shares her thoughts and don't feel you always have to fill the air with rambling conversation. Be yourself. When you don't have a lot to say, be a good listener.
You're getting to know each other better, you've been intimate for the first time; but you can't enjoy things if you've got too much on your mind. Just relax.
Just keep in-mind that relationships grow and develop. None are perfect; and there is no lesson plan. You learn as you go, and most things just come natural.
Be kind, considerate, respectful, and not much can go wrong from there.
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reader, femmefemale  +, writes (27 April 2017):
How sweet.
Give it some time. The way things are going are perfectly fine. Sex with a new partner can take some time to get used to and to find our rhythm as partners.
In terms of not thinking about her as much days after seeing her, that's normal, it hasn't been long.
Your relationship sounds lovely. Just enjoy the ride and all the new and different things you are experiencing and talk to her about your concerns. The best person to discuss your relationship with is ALWAYS your partner.
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reader, Phil052 +, writes (27 April 2017):
 I think you just need to give it time. It was her first time ever and your first time together so it would be unlikely to be an earth shattering moment. You need more time to get to know each other, both as people and sexually. Relax and enjoy the ride!
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