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writes:I'm 17 and I was in a relationship with a dude for 5 months.It was amazing. I know I'm only 17, but it just clicked and we are basically the same. Other boys scare me, and other girls scare him. We are both awkward. We laugh about sex. We only met up about 20 times in the 5 months because my dad didn't like him; but we were still determined to be together and have so many memories in such a short expance of time.However, he had slept with 3 people before me as he's older (19) and I was a virgin. I did a really stupid thing and lied about not being a virgin. He bought it; but got myself into a pickle. I thought that because he's a guy, because he's 6 ft 1 and owns a bike; and because he dumped his posessive, clingy ex, I'll have to act cold and just be sexual. I was also trying to hide my virginity and not act like I was experiencing my first love. So I put on an act about half way through dating (3 months or so in) and would never start conversations; would always leave first; never said I loved him, said cuddling was cringey; initated sex; joked about being with him a year and how it wouldn't happen. He dumped me because he said things have changed and it was tearing him apart. It killed me, because I know if I had acted myself it would never have happened. I can't eat, sleep, I cry every night; I go to school and pretend I'm okay - but I know I messed up and just should have been myself.But this can't go on. Even if he doesn't take me back, I feel I need to explain the act/front I put on when I was with him and apologize. I have exams at the moment; but when they end (3 months time) I was thinking of turning up outside his house and just telling me how I feel, asking for a second chance; but if he says no, at least I've cleared my head. Is this really creepy though?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): Im 25 years old and have done a lot of dating, and had long term relationships, so Im experienced! I'll be blunt- this guy sounds like a loser and you need to move on! You said your relationship was 'amazing', but then go on to say about how you weren't yourself with him and that you couldn't connect emotionally because you didn't want to scare him off. It couldnt have been that amazing! He used you for sex, I'm sorry to say. Guys will do that. A guy who sees a girl without investing emotion and commitment to them is using them. It may feel like he is everything to you right now but you will look back and laugh at why you even gave the time of day to this guy. You will be okay! :)
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reader, femmefemale  +, writes (22 February 2013):
Yeah don't go to his house please. Tell him everything!!! and wait til after exams, don't go in expecting anything. Just explain. and yes like the other person said try to be less socially awkward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2013): I just wanted to say that I recently went through a similar relationship, where I was afraid of being too clingy and just came across as distant. He was the first guy I had sex with (I'm 22) and I acted like I didn't care even though I really did. Anyway, it all ended and we broke up after a year.I know not to do that next time but it was still really painful and hard for me, and I feel like if I had been honest from the beginning maybe it would have worked.My advice to you--it's worth it to talk to him, whether it's just for closure or to try it again. I wouldn't just show up though...you might catch him off guard, or worse, with another girl.
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