My husband just doesn't get it!
Q. my husband just wont get it. we got separated and just got back 2 years ago the reason being he used to hit me and had a drinking problem. all that is changed now he doesnt drink never has hit me or even raised his voice he chenged for that matter. ...
A. 23 January 2011: Wake up to reality girlie hes a wonderful husband with me is a fallacy you need to get outta your head now!
Firstly he was a drunkard and violent towards you, your physically and emotionally scarred still from this and the rest of his true col... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats his daughter like an adult friend
Q. I have been dating a great guy for a few years. He's been divorced for almost a decade and has a 13 years old daughter. He gets his daughter every weekend and cherishes the time he has with her. Since I've known him, I've felt like he treats h...
A. 23 January 2011: Overeaction and assumptions from Anonymous I question the reason why he'd take his 13yr old daughter with him lingerie shopping for you though and slightly question the
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**When they are alone (which is most of the time), they are often in... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my girlfriend show me the same courtesy that I show her?
Q. When my girlfriend knows im on a night out with my friends, I always give her a quick text just to let her know i'm back home safe because I know she worries about me. (we dont live together) Yet, when she goes out, she never texts to say she...
A. 23 January 2011: Maybe a over reaction it may not anonymous' comment is correct hope we're wrong but can't leave it out either its relieving to know when a loved one is home safe so why the answer the question with a question tactic from her sounds to me more like ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's ex and him talking all day
Q. My boyfriend and I live together (almost a year now). He has remained friends with some of his exes which I have no problem with, as I admit - I have maintained a friendship with one of my exes - mainly we discuss business as we were business ...
A. 23 January 2011: Eh it sounds like she's still trying to score brownie points with him and mum but then again I'm one of the few oddballs who doesnt believe in remaining friends with an ex their not a part of your life no more for a reason so why on earth hang onto ... (read in full...)
From Incredible Happiness to breaking up?
Q. Hello friends! So here's a little about my situation: I was dating this guy and we were amazing together. We communicated, we were in tune, we understood, we made each other explicitly happy. He's also a pretty transparent person - whatever em...
A. 23 January 2011: I highly doubt this young man will come back to you not because of the military issue but because your spiritualism and life views are different his religious your not just because he maybe allowed weakness of the flesh during the relationship with ... (read in full...)
I cant have children but would like to date a woman who has children so I can be a role model
Q. I'm 32 years old and recently divorced 11 months ago after a 3 year marriage. My ex left me after we were trying to have a child, she couldn't get pregnant and after numerous tests it came back that I'm sterile and unable to father a child, she ...
A. 23 January 2011: It is shallow and highly unrealistic for at the end of the day your just another joe who's walked into their mother's life and in my point of view have no grounds to tell the children what to do so yes in that respect your a third whirl trying to ... (read in full...)
I'm 15! shoudl I be depressed?
Q. Is there something wrong with me if im depressed? im 15. should i be feeling depressed. Im confused. help!?...
A. 23 January 2011: We all go through depression depending on various triggers and thoughts some of us more so as we get older talk to your parents about what is bothering you or siblings or your friends find what the cause and trigger is that is making you upset and ... (read in full...)
Is my bf just acting macho about popping my cherry and 'D' but he loves me for real?
Q. My bff's brother let me hear a cell message that the guy I've been going out with for the past nine months left a couple hours ago. He said man I ain't trying to miss the game but you know how it is I gotta play it with 'm' cuz homes is gonna pop ...
A. 23 January 2011: Could be jumping to conclusions but then again could also only be a mark for he just wants into your pants then what? You've been a virgin this long why give it up to some fool who's trying to brag save it for your husband who eventually marries you ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my ex-girlfriend to be single and get back together or not?
Q. I have a best friend for 4years practically all my high school life. We were very close back then but I just didn't court her with the fear that she might not be feeling the same thing for me. When we graduated from high school and go on our ...
A. 23 January 2011: I'm sorry but now is time for you to start growing up and acting like a man instead of a child and wake up to reality even if your financially unstable if this girl truly and I mean truly had genuine feelings for you the finance issues wouldn't be a ... (read in full...)
How to do like yourself more?
Q. I've always felt like a bit of an oddball. At school i used to be the one sat to the side, not talking much- not that i didn't want to, but the things i said either sounded really pointless or i would mentally kick myself for attempting to join the ...
A. 21 January 2011: It starts by accepting yourself for being you not every male either enjoys boozing up every night of the week in fact theres a few of us around who prefer a lady with intellect and who doesnt mind being at home for chat and a movie we grow out of ... (read in full...)
My family hates me and calls me a daughter of the devil
Q. My family hates me and i don't know what to do. My mother has ever said anything nice about me and that sounds like a lie but she said to my face that i am selfish lazy and wicked and that there was nothing good about me. My siblings don't like me ( ...
A. 21 January 2011: Running away is never a option of working a problem out for the long term. Aside from the parents view of laziness what is the underlying behaviour for the spiteful cruel comments to you? Have you behaved inappropriately for your parents to speak ... (read in full...)
My husband hates me
Q. My husband and I have been married for less then a year. I love my husband very much, but lately I feel as tho he hates me. It hurts so bad the way he treats me. He calls me names, threatens divorce all the time and tells me he doesn't care about us ...
A. 21 January 2011: Is there a cause for his change in attitude? You married young but then again I know people who married at 17 and are still strongly together.
Have a word with hubby see why he is treating you in this way and maybe suggest councelling to work thr... (read in full...)
I told my Boyfriend the truth about me being abused as a child,,,, and now things arent the same,,,,
Q. Hi, Im in a serious relationship with a wonderful partner who is very understanding and I love him very much. Recently though it seems our relationship was shaken and I am finding it very hard to deal with it. I was abused by my father as a...
A. 21 January 2011: Don't mean to remind you of hurtful memories of your past but your boyfriend maybe feels making love with you doesn't feel right or he maybe thinking it isnt pleasing you being intimate incase it brings bad memories back.
Maybe have a word wit... (read in full...)
What does this text my ex sent really mean?
Q. I just wanted to get a little insight on my ex's recent text. Here's a quick background: The ex and I were living/together for 6 years. He left me 4 months ago for another woman. I was/am heartbroken. I began NC about 2 months ago and have stu...
A. 19 January 2011: I'd change your number by sounds of things his either realised the grass wasn't greener with the other woman or he got dumped by the current fling and is now trying to grovel back into your lap either way he lost his chance to be with you when he ... (read in full...)
This girl is hitting on me and I need more time, what should I do?
Q. I don't know, to be honest I have no idea at all what I'm thinking. You see there was this girl hitting on me in the campus, she started with a little chit chat on facebook then advance to text messages from the number she got from my friend. ...
A. 18 January 2011: Least you have some brains about you, tell her you aren't ready to jump into the deep end until you've gotten to know her better tell her you want to take it slowly so you can she how she is as a person.... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?
Q. why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?? maybe because its not true or its true... we dated since 1998 and i want to know why we aren't married.. so i was reading 25 ways to know hes not that into you and he got almost all of them. i let him ...
A. 18 January 2011: seriously have you guys been full on together since 98? thats 12years of your love life wasted I tend to go by if he hasnt married you after 3 to 5yrs he isnt going to bother if your good enough to be lived with your good enough to be married to imo ... (read in full...)
I'm at my wits end about my husband's mate who comes to my place at 6pm and they play xbox till 7 am!!
Q. hey, im hoping someone will help me. me and my husband have a 1year old baby. my husband has lost alot of friends since we got together, mainly due to jealousy. He only has one mate now. They are quiet close and his mate *steve comes round every fr...
A. 18 January 2011: Sure your hubby isnt gay at all? Even with close friends those of us who are decent realise there is limits.its not normal for a male friend to ring a buddy at early hours of the morning constantly specially when theres a child that needs sleep and ... (read in full...)
I found out everything he told me about his finances is a lie!
Q. I was married in August, to a man I knew when I was a teenager...He is 21 years in the military, and I thought his word was solid... We have only lived together for a month and a half because he was sent on an 8 week mission shortly after the ...
A. 18 January 2011: Slim chances of the marriage working if he grows up mans up and starts managing his finances properly and stops being a habitual liar that should've sent red flags up on you with the lies.
Secondly I'd be questioning why is so badly in debt to ... (read in full...)
Addicts are great liars..I'm afraid my b/f is doing heavy drugs!
Q. I found out that my bf's best friend, the one i don't like, is doing drugs.. and it's not an easy drug, it's a heavy drug... It's speed.. Some of his other friends are sniffing too.. Now, my boyfriend has lied to me before, about pot.. But i ...
A. 16 January 2011: You say yourself dont want to be in a relationship with a guy who uses yet his crowd of friends are users birds of a feather stick together. If your not happy with his choice of friends and cant be honest leave I'm same as you in that mindset ... (read in full...)
I wish my fiance would lose 30 lbs and get his hair back so I'd find him more attractive!
Q. I have a bit of a complicated problem. I'm a 24 year old psychologist in-training (who apparently can't heed my own advice). My fiance is a 26 year-old unemployed high school teacher. I've been with my fiance for 4 years and 3 months (like 4 years, ...
A. 16 January 2011: His correct he accepts you for who you are and you need to do the same with him or stop wasting his time.
You need to wake up and realise what if's are a fools hope likewise with the grass is always greener on the otherside it isnt always y... (read in full...)
If you love someone would you ask them to move to another country?
Q. i normally stay off the net but a few weeks ago i had a question and it landed me on this site i asked my question got some good advice and felt better so i thought ok maybe i can help someone the way i've been helped so i started answering ...
A. 16 January 2011: Well good luck with it and be careful take a few friends out with you or make sure your going places with lots of people with him until you can see how he behaves first hand with you.... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in my marriage
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for advice. Im 28 and hes 46 been together for 6yrs... married 1yr. Not sure i wanted to get married. But he was pushing me. asking me everyday when we getting married. Then one day he says will you please just pick a day. So I ...
A. 16 January 2011: good for you leaving hopefully it gives you the space to focus in what you want and need and since you say your feelings havent chamged and you dont love him why would you want to go back into a loveless house? If you dont love him your better off ... (read in full...)
If you love someone would you ask them to move to another country?
Q. i normally stay off the net but a few weeks ago i had a question and it landed me on this site i asked my question got some good advice and felt better so i thought ok maybe i can help someone the way i've been helped so i started answering ...
A. 15 January 2011: LDR's are usually a waste of time. For starters his chatting personality is just that, a online persona. You have no real way of knowing if his emotions and all he talks about online, are genuine, unless he's prepared to make the effort to meet in ... (read in full...)
After hacking into my husband's facebook account, my gut tells me not to trust him anymore
Q. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and he is a deployed contractor. Everything was going fine from what I can tell, but then I read one of his emails from his phone that he left behind asking if he "hooked up w/ the chick" ...
A. 15 January 2011: You have every right to not trust this fool when he is being lulled into women whose only interest is the money in his wallet from those countries the lying and deceitful behaviour should be signs not to give this tool a child when he can't even ... (read in full...)
I dream about having a special girl in my life. How? I'm all out of ideas. And What can I do to make this happen?
Q. I've been single all my life and it's really starting to get to me. All of my friends are already married or in long term relationships leaving me as the only single guy in my social circle. I love hanging out with them but it always seems to ...
A. 14 January 2011: Personally I think allowing friends to hook you up is always a no no even though they do have good intentions. Relax be yourself go out to places when you can and mingle and chat with the ladies when your out eventually you'll find a girl close to ... (read in full...)
I need to relax but I'm not sure how to!
Q. Hey guys. Im a virgin, my boyfriend isnt though. I've been with my boyfriend now for 5 months and we have tried to have sex a few times now. But I always get him to stop because... It hurts ^^; He tells me it's because im too tense. I don't f...
A. 14 January 2011: First few times will hurt naturally being a virgin in time you get used to the feeling and start to enjoy it more. In terms of relaxation maybe try to focus on the singularity of you and the boyfriend together and not focus on the pain if it is ... (read in full...)
Should I have a one-night stand to get pregnant as I really want a baby!
Q. Hi cupids. Im 18 now and id prefer if i werent prejudged but when i was 14 i fell pregnant to an older man who was abusing me for 2 years 12-14. When i fell pregnant i spoke to a lovely lady nurse about what had been happening and she helped me ...
A. 14 January 2011: One night stand to get pregnant? No not ever. The risks of STI's far outweighs your poor view on pregnancy from a once night stand. Your young you have plenty of time to be a mother enjoy the time you have where you can go to a pub/club party/d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is immature and I always cave in and contact him after a fight
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little less than 2 years so here is the quickest timeline I can possibly do..... beginning: everything was cute, we would go on dates, things were good. about a month in, he starts becoming super insecure about m...
A. 13 January 2011: Insecurity and immaturity can be overcome and ignore the one im more worried about is your boyfriends violent tendencies when you sound like a shy quiet type of lass its not healthy to be in a relationship with a man who is so overly aggressive has ... (read in full...)
I was drunk and had a one night stand, how do I get him to forgive me?
Q. I've known this guy for a long time, we used to date when we were in junior high, but after that I lost contact with him, 12 years later I contact him and we start seeing each other, but it wasn't nothing serious, it was more like a "friends with ...
A. 13 January 2011: You don't his told you already his disappointed in your poor judgement dont incite the situation any more by pushing contact to apologise i agree with him though in all respects "I was drunk" is the lamest excuse for betrayal in the books.
It do... (read in full...)
Do you agree with this quote - 'Never leave the one you love for the one you like?'
Q. I do agree with that quote, but I'm having a bit of an issue. The one I love has told me [one moment] that he wants to marry me and maybe have a baby in our future. I was so excited to know that we had the same goals. We even discussed what ring he ...
A. 13 January 2011: [quote]Now the one that I like [a coworker] is somewhat of the opposite of my boyfriend.
He believes in marriage even though he's been cheated on by the mother of his daughter, he loves kids, he dances at parties [my bf refuses], and he's wil... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 2 weeks and now I feel we're growing apart!
Q. OK so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 weeks now and i feel we are moving apart and also when i asks him how doo i look he says fine ? i always compliment him but he never does to me he gives me hugs and kissed me on the check for a dare ...
A. 13 January 2011: It's not normal to worry over a 2week relationship and neither should you be worried likewise with saying you feel you're growing apart how can you possibly feel or see that from a 2weeks young relationship thats just irrational logic right there.
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I feel trapped in my marriage
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for advice. Im 28 and hes 46 been together for 6yrs... married 1yr. Not sure i wanted to get married. But he was pushing me. asking me everyday when we getting married. Then one day he says will you please just pick a day. So I ...
A. 13 January 2011: I doubt this has anything to do with his insecurity in some respects his very immature for his age but then again wisdom and maturity isnt something that always comes with age either it isn't normal behaviour for someone to expect their other half ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 12 January 2011: Im with angelDlite on this one at 30-35 it's about time you start manning up and being upfront to both ladies they aren't the only one in the equation and let them decide what they want to do instead of self pity and 'crying' over who's heart your ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in my marriage
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for advice. Im 28 and hes 46 been together for 6yrs... married 1yr. Not sure i wanted to get married. But he was pushing me. asking me everyday when we getting married. Then one day he says will you please just pick a day. So I ...
A. 12 January 2011: Sounds like his very controlling but i don't understand if you didn't want to be married in the first place why didnt you say so to him that you dont want to marry him?
If your not happy your not forced to stay in unhappy marriage unless his lock... (read in full...)
My crazy ex is ruining my life. What do I do?!
Q. I'm really lost here people and I don't know what else to do? I've had a few difficult years of late. My Dad was diagnosed terminally ill and as a result past away a few months ago. I was with a girl who literally changed over night. Wh...
A. 12 January 2011: I'm hoping you still don't have the flat with the nutjob anyway cut contact with the ex block her on networking sites get the new gf do the same and since she's already gone over the line by calling your new gf.
I'd strongly suggest seeing t... (read in full...)
I hate him and so do our teenagers! I'm only staying because of the toddlers.
Q. My husband and I have been together 17 years and had 4 children. We have 2 teenagers and 2 toddlers. Our first 15 years together were great years. The last 2 years have been pure missery. My husband did a complete 180 and is a totally different ...
A. 12 January 2011: Have you found out the real reason why his behaviour is like this its a little jumping the gun for filing a divorce have you spoken to hubby it could be a number of things thats eating him be it a mid life crisis in which case he needs help to get ... (read in full...)
Help with oral and vaginal sex!
Q. [Mod note: 2 questions by the same poster combined.] Q. Okay, me and my boyfriend have been dating a year. I'm in love with him he's the most amazing person I've ever meet and he has taking everything slow and not rushed me into anything it was 7 mo...
A. 12 January 2011: In terms of the birth control Im sure your GP could help you out if your not sure how mum will handle it but being a father of two daughters myself I think i'd be feeling better knowing that you're wanting to protect yourself and the BF by using ... (read in full...)
He says he likes me but I think this is some kind of joke!
Q. im in a dilemma, i have been emailing a guy via facbook, i don't know anything about him apart from that he recently was in a relationship with a girl i went to high school with, they broke up around new years. i am really attracted to him although...
A. 12 January 2011: If you know nothing about him it's hard to like him remember the anomnimity of the internet can be a dangerous tool in some respects if you don't know him very well it's probably better to leave it be a crush and find someone who you do know. Its ... (read in full...)
Mutual attraction with brother in law that never seems to go away.....
Q. I have been married for just 2 years and I am absolutely in love with my husband. He is the most important person in the world to me. He still turns me on, makes me laugh, spoils me, and looks at me like I am the only thing in the world. He has been ...
A. 12 January 2011: @The Pheonic
Mate re-read the post she has already cheated on her husband by allowing another man to stimulate her by hand.
Eitherway OP you need to stop living in denial that you love your husband for if you truly did you wouldn't have al... (read in full...)
My mother needs to stop making me look like a pathetic role model in my kids eyes.
Q. I'm not looking for pity but I feel like cow dunk.My mother's always putting her nose in my business but yesterday I couldn't take her insults anymore when she tried to make me out as a poor example of a mother to 4 kids. It started over dinner when ...
A. 10 January 2011: I can agree with your mother on the terms of adultery what example that is setting to your boys do you want them to grow up thinking it's ok to destroy happy homes? How'd you feel if your boys got married than had their wife have a affair on them ... (read in full...)
A bump inside my breast! Is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, Im a 16 yr old normal teen. I've recently started feeling my breast and noticed there was like a bump inside my breast. Whenever i put my finger on that certain area, i can feel the bump. Im super worried because i have no idea what it ...
A. 10 January 2011: Soundest advice is see your doctor have it checked.... (read in full...)
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